Finding the Right Doctor

Just Joyce
By Just Joyce Latest Reply 2014-07-03 13:10:22 -0500
Started 2014-06-30 13:33:15 -0500

I lucked into finding the best two doctors in the State. My ENT doctor was at the hospital every day, 3 times a day from the day I had my surgery until the day I was discharged. He even helped my nurse with changing my bed while I was in it and tucked me in. Upon discharging me, he gave me his beeper number.

Today my Primary Care Physician called to check to see how the surgery went and how I was doing with recovery. I was absolutely shocked that he would call. We discussed how I was doing and was concerned that I had to go to the ER yesterday. He also fixed a medication problem for me.

I know that people have problems with doctors. I have had doctors I would not let treat my dog. However, it is up to each person to be his or her own advocate. I have heard all kinds of complaints about doctors.

-I don't know why my doctor gave me this medicine? Did you ask the doctor what the medication was for and why you need it? The answer is usually NO
-I have a problem with my back and the doctor doesn't treat it. Did you tell the doctor you have a problem with your back? Again the answer is NO
-This medication gives me heartburn, headaches, upset stomach. Did you tell the doctor about these problems you are having with your medication? Yet again the answer is NO

Favorite one from my neighbor who is an out of control T2. My doctor changed my dosage and the higher does is making me sick should I call him and tell him. My response was Nope why would you call your doctor and tell him the medicine is making you sick, call your plumber and see what he says. She told me I get on her nerves and went in the house and called her doctor. Turned out the Pharmacist gave her the incorrect dose.

You doctor will better serve you if you communicated with him or her. They don't know you can't afford expensive out of pocket medications, that you have side effects from medications, that you have other medical problems, that you are not happy with the treatment you receive unless you speak up. They cannot read your mind and they can't diagnose something if they don't know they have it.

If you are not sure about the treatment, ask for a second opinion if possible. Research your health problem on a reliable website such as WebMD or the Mayo Clinic or the National Institute of Health. Write down questions and ask them. Become an informed patient. Don't base your treatments on those of your family and friends or something you read in a blog.

Your doctor isn't a Cyborg, your doctor is a human being who has the same problems as everyone else. They have bills, family, friends, go out and have fun. They can be egotistical and arrogant and they will treat you in a manner you allow yourself to be treated. If you let them know you don't like their attitude most will change and respect your for saying something.

It isn't always easy to find a new doctor and some insurance companies won't let you change. I visited and read the reviews on my doctors and found they were great with very high ratings. The one who I got rid of was very low rated and nothing nice was said about her. The best thing to do is find a way to work with the doctor and maybe you can turn things around.

20 replies

Pegsy 2014-06-30 19:17:26 -0500 Report

Oh, and about this…
"-I don't know why my doctor gave me this medicine? Did you ask the doctor what the medication was for and why you need it? The answer is usually NO"

It shocks me how many people I hear this from. They just take and to do whatever their doctor says, no questions asked. Unbelievable!

GabbyPA 2014-07-03 09:56:45 -0500 Report

Here is what bugs me more. I asked my doctor why I was supposed to take lisinopril because I didn't have high blood pressure. Her reply was "because". Good grief, was she my mom? Really, because. It got expanded to "because it's a medicine all diabetics are on". My own research found out why, but she was not helpful at all.

Pegsy 2014-07-03 12:44:37 -0500 Report

It is my understanding that lisinopril is for high blood pressure. But I don't have high blood pressure. My doctor still wants me on it because she says it is to protect my kidneys. What did your own research tell you?

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-03 13:10:22 -0500 Report

I am on it now because I have developed high blood pressure. The doctor told me the same thing. It protects the kidneys. I have to do some research.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-03 11:09:47 -0500 Report

If a doctor said that to me, I think my shoe would have flown across the room and tagged the side of her head. My mother would say "Because I said so" LOL I think that is in every mothers vocabulary.

Pegsy 2014-07-03 12:46:32 -0500 Report

"Because I said so" was definitely in my mother's vocabulary and I made a point of it not being in mine. I wasn't looking to be boss I was looking for them to learn and become independently responsible. Just my 2 cents worth. So off topic here, LOL.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-01 13:43:59 -0500 Report

Pegsy, the problem is people view doctors as authority figures and older people were raised to respect authority. This is why a lot of older adults don't question doctors.

Next on the list are people who will take advice from everyone but their doctors which is dangerous.

This is followed by people who who simply don't use common sense. Why wouldn't you call your doctor if you have a problem?

I hate people who complain about something with their health to everyone. when you ask them if they contacted their doctor they say no. Complaining to me is a waste of time. Your doctor is the one to hear the complaints.

Pegsy 2014-06-30 19:15:58 -0500 Report

Thanks for posting the website. I am going to use the info there to find an endocrinologist. While my doctor is a good one and I like her, she isn't specialized in diabetes and I would like a more specialized opinion. This website is going to be very helpful.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-01 13:46:25 -0500 Report

My doctor isn't specialized in diabetes either but I don't need him to be. He can handle diabetic problems and will refer me to a doctor who can help. I am the one who needs to be specialized so I can communicate effectively with him.

I saw add for the website on TV and checked it out. Glad to share it if it will help someone.

funnygirl98 2014-06-30 19:06:29 -0500 Report

I agree with both of u … it's very important to have a good dr. for good health. I'm so happy for u Joyce that u finally found a dr. that is willing to work with you instead of against you.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-01 13:47:23 -0500 Report

I don't do well with people who work against me. I take my toys, climb out of the play pen and go home. This is my health and the doctor has very little choice but to work with me.

neverlowbg 2014-06-30 16:45:53 -0500 Report

Are closest hospital is 30 minutes away if you call an ambulance out were we live in the country you drive yourself or go care flight but for primary care we still have house call dr and clinic in town never a wait though as not many people abuse the system around here you only go to dr for check ups and real emergencies but are dr are very good those of us diabetics there are four in are area we drive an hour to endo office

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-02 13:28:25 -0500 Report

The problem with living in the middle of nowhere and depending on life flight is that during severe weather, the helicopter doesn't fly. Maryland grounds their Medivac copters during really bad weather. Their helicopters are also used to fight crime. We had a guy run his bosses truck into the woods. We got there in the ambulance. We really needed a helicopter but because we were in the middle of a severe thunder storm we could not get one so we had to take him by ground. We gave the trauma unit a 25 minute ETA. When we got to the city limits it had not stormed at all and with lights and sirens and a police escort we got to the trauma unit in 8 minutes. There is nothing worse then performing CPR in the back of a rocking ambulance going 50 mph. Luckily our patient survived. Some doctors here in the city will do home visits depending on the patients medical condition.

simonizer77 2014-06-30 13:43:41 -0500 Report

Joyce, so very happy for you! Having the right doctor is SO important to good health. Where I am in N.M. we have WAY to many to choose from and yet many get dreadful reviews. All the good ones, pack up and move to bigger cities.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-30 14:45:56 -0500 Report

I refuse to live in small towns. I have 3 hospitals in my area. One is a Medical School. John's Hopkins us about 4 miles from me yet we have health disparities in the city. People won't use them and use the E'S like doctor's offices. The get top care without a primary care doctor.

simonizer77 2014-06-30 15:29:47 -0500 Report

That's what's crazy. Las Cruces is the 2nd biggest city in New Mexico and 2 hospitals with good reps. I manage, and thanks to sites like you mentioned it really helps!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-01 13:57:52 -0500 Report

James is correct. Baltimore City is actually the Biggest Small City on the East Coast.

Baltimore was the birth place of Trauma Centers. R. Adams Crowley built the first Trauma Center in the nation and it is 7 blocks from my house.

Our Police Commander for my district and I learned that we have the highest density of people living in one small area of our city than any other city in the nation.

I live 7 blocks from the University of Maryland Medical System. They have the School of Medicine, Pharmacy, Dental, and Law Schools on its campus along with the Medical Examiner and the Shock Trauma Center. The just built a Biomedical Park.

We also have two stadiums and now a casino all in the city limits. We have an Inner Harbor, a Science Center and the National Aquarium. People from all over the world come here for education, medical care or just to visit the Harbor.

We have people from all incomes living here and we are a friendly city. If we could get rid of the crime and get homes rehabilitated we would almost be perfect.

jayabee52 2014-06-30 18:33:22 -0500 Report

Las Cruxes may be a big town for New Mex but compared to Baltimore and evirons (DC) area there's really no comparison