Do You Lie to Your Doctor(s)?

Richard157
By Richard157 Latest Reply 2009-02-14 20:58:47 -0600
Started 2009-02-12 20:20:22 -0600

Someone on another site today admitted he lies to his doctors. He says they are very judgemental when he admits he is not doing the right things to have good control. They even treat him like he doesn't care about getting that control. He has a new doctor now who is kind and understanding and does not downgrade him but he is still telling a few lies. He is ashamed of admitting his bad habits.

I have lied to some doctors in the past but that was a long time ago. Now I have a doctor (for 31 years now) who understands me so well and I do NOT lie to him. We have built a great trust and friendship. If I do something completely different and it is working he makes a note and approves. It might be unpleasant the first time we lie to a doctor but if he/she is a good doctor and not judgemental then we owe it to ourselves to be completely honest so we can build that relationship of mutual trust. That is the kind of doctor-patient relationship that we all need. It is up to us to plant the seed and watch a great relationship grow!!

OK, I will climb down from my soap box and hush now. If any of you are guilty of lying to your doctor(s) please think about this and do the right thing for the sake of your good health.

Richard


12 replies

Anonymous
Anonymous 2009-02-14 13:55:33 -0600 Report

I do not lie either because the numbers tell alot of what you are doing. I have many medical issues so I have to tell the truth to feel the best I can. If you lie then you are cheating yourself and run the risk of complications. Everyone slips up, so be honest and get back on track.

myleftfoot
myleftfoot 2009-02-14 03:55:42 -0600 Report

Hi.

I never lie to my doctor. When my a1c test comes back as 7.1 and the doctor tell me that's really good, I say BS, I just made myself have a no. of lows so that the high's even out over three months. Then I tell him about the bad things I've eaten since the said blood test, since it's the beginning of the three months again, and I've got three months to hide my sins. He then punches me in the arm.

rbergman
rbergman 2009-02-13 17:33:27 -0600 Report

I have omitted information, but I did not lie, when we were going through the first weight gain with Laura that started last March, they ran all sorts of blood tests in April that came back normal so they said she was just going through a growth spurt…as the months went by the weight gain was getting worse, 56lbs in 4 months, I couldn't get a doctor to retest her because they said it was just done in April and it would just come back normal again if they retested. The clinic we used changed PAC's and I took Laura in one day for her allergies, while there I mentioned I didn't like the weight gain and this new PAC agreed, she briefly thumbed through Laura's chart only looking for weights and then closed it and said she felt Laura needed blood tests done. I simply said "okay" and kept my mouth shut about her having tests done in April. August 30th they did the tests and it came back her Thyroid was completely out of whack, normal level being no higher than 4.0 and her level was 84.40…later I told her about the previous test and she too said that had I told her about it the day she ordered the tests she never would have ordered them…sometimes omission is a good thing, but I have never lied to a doctor.

myleftfoot
myleftfoot 2009-02-14 03:54:39 -0600 Report

Hi.

I never lie to my doctor. When my a1c test comes back as 7.1 and the doctor tell me that's really good, I say BS, I just made myself have a no. of lows so that the high's even out over three months. Then I tell him about the bad things I've eaten since the said blood test, since it's the beginning of the three months again, and I've got three months to hide my sins. He then punches me in the arm.

Melanie
Sorry, I put this in the wrong spot.

2009-02-13 17:02:35 -0600 Report

I try not to lie to the doctor but sometimes I don't tell him the 'whole' story on something related to diabetes. :) When it's other health issues I'm always honest because they can't help you if you don't tell them 'exactly' what's going on. With diabetes, not telling about a piece of cake or a spell of bad eating isn't hurting anyone and I know I did it and that I shouldn't so avoiding a lecture on that note is good for my mindset.. LOL I try not to though.

*Judy

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2009-02-13 09:59:09 -0600 Report

We do try to be completely honest with our doctor. However, I totally understand the temptation to lie. Our doctor has been pushing our son for a year to do more after-meal testing. I try to encourage my son between appointments to be diligent about after-meal testing. But he's a teenager and one who's very involved in school, in sports, and in our church. So he's always on the go and remembering to test two hours after meals can be very challenging.

So when the next doctor's appointment rolls around and I know that the doc is going to look at the numbers and once again give us the lecture about the importance of after-meal testing, I really want to come up with some good excuse about why it's so tough for us. I think a time or two in my mind I've even invented some pretty elaborate excuses (a.k.a. lies) ;-) But when it comes down to it, we do answer truthfully and take our lecture like "real men." And then we vow to do better.

Alecia
Alecia 2009-02-13 09:44:45 -0600 Report

HI! glad I found you guys! As for telling lies to my doctors… heck, I can't get them to listen. I have gone through major guilt trips prior to visits, but still wanted to tell the truth. To no avail, they adjust my insulin when I tell them I'm stressed and not eating right. Or one offered me precose to slow my digestion "since you won't keep your eating under control." But, didn't explain anything regarding how that made a difference with insulin as I have IDDM. I really want to get a handle on my own self. Which is why I'm here with you guys. Because I've yet to meet an insulin dependent diabetic who keeps a 5 or 6 on their A1c, though my doctors tell me indeed they are out there and more or less I'm the odd girl out. I'm sick of being chastised for being honest. And, I'm tired of being told the same old recitations about my eyes and feet and kidneys etc… I know these things. I'm asking for help. I just don't think any of my doctors know what to say outside of a written script. So, lies… no, no lies. Avoiding the doctor until I'm almost out of meds… yes!!!

Bluebutterfly
Bluebutterfly 2009-02-13 04:59:28 -0600 Report

I like my endo doctor,he is not judgemental. He always says if I have done something I should't have.How are we going to fix this? He knows I am human and I will mess up.

2009-02-12 20:49:31 -0600 Report

Part of the reason I 'water down' the truth is because my doctor still treats the numbers, not the person. We've been over this many times, yet still he seems to not realize that there are things that can affect my BG levels. He cuts me off when I try to tell him about stress I have, or if I have been ill. It frustrates me when he gives me 'the look', and makes me feel like I'm a horrible diabetic. I wish when they decided to be endocrinologists, they take a course in how to treat the numbers AND the patient!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2009-02-12 20:37:43 -0600 Report

I remember as a kid one time visiting the doctor and every question he asked me was a symptom I had, but I kept telling him no. I was in elementary school and it bothered me that he knew what was wrong with me like he had been watching me. I was just creeped out.

Now, I tell them the truth, ask lots of questions and try to be as assertive and involved as I can. I am pretty honest with how I feel too, so if you are pissing me off, I will say so. I am usually pretty diplomatic about it, but I will find a way to get my point across.

Now I see it this way. If I lie, I cannot get the help I need. If I lie, will never give the doctor the information he could use to help someone else. If I lie I only hurt myself...it isn't worth it.

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