What Type Of Answers Would You Really Like to Hear?

By Latest Reply 2016-06-19 07:04:13 -0500
Started 2009-02-03 07:53:49 -0600

What type of answer would you like to hear for your questions?

Cushioned to soften the blow?

Direct, and to the point.

Or, an an accurate, no holds barred; discription of what to expect from people who relate well to your question?

Someone has been through (and Understands) most of what you have, or even all.

I do not understand how that last tag got there; I know I did not put it there, at least certainly not intentionally. I remembered ended with etc.

15 replies

2009-02-15 23:29:19 -0600 Report

I prefer the honest approach. And I prefer to be approached in the same manner.

If you stick your head in the sand, you are bound to suffocate.

2009-02-22 16:03:24 -0600 Report

I used to be so afraid of anything I had to hear that was a particular problem, health, etc. I woul avoid as much as possible in all cases.
Now; just tell me the truth.

Bluebutterfly 2009-02-04 05:02:09 -0600 Report

I like straight up ,don't sugar coat it for me. I like to know what is going on.

2009-02-06 05:36:24 -0600 Report

You know what? I used to want the truth cushioned, but after 2 years of waiting for an answer to my illness; and allllll… the doctor appts. I want the truth. Straight up!
I want to know how to handle the rest of my life, what to expect, etc.
And, hopefully, after seeing 3 specialist since the first of this year, Monday I may get an answer.

In the past two years, when I started to get ill, my quality of life has gone from "I can do everything,myself" to "I can do nothing,myself"
I am so tired of illness, doctors and tests and more and more of the same.
I want an answer. I want a solution.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-02-06 06:08:06 -0600 Report

I agree 100% with you Claudia. But do you realize some people aren't as strong as we are. They are looking for the sugar coating on their life. Some don't want to find out anything is wrong with them. But when they do and have a plan set for them they put it on the back burner and instead of improving their lives they can't understand what is wrong with them or what they should do for theirselves. If there were more people like us that want to be 2 steps ahead of our problems, I think alot of illness can get under control sooner…

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2009-02-06 21:53:59 -0600 Report

Claudia,I want it straight up and I want it now,I had something wrong for three years, and went through four hosp. stays each time they did the same tests that always came back neg.The last time they said it was all in my head, so made an appt. for me and within ten minutes He told me I had been suffering from Panic attacks, and He couldn't understand why in all this time someone in the emergency room or in my hosp stay had been alert enough to diagnose this.Even though on Meds now I am still having them, and have made my life, so that I can't seem to function ,other than a day or two in a week.now I find that if I want any information they tell me there is a lot of info on the web, but I guess that is the kind of medical treatment you get when on disability,Let me know what it is tell me how to treat it,and give me some information about it ,then I'll have a fighting chance,

daetura 2009-02-17 00:28:21 -0600 Report

same here. I don't like "pussy-footing" around when it comes to my health. I like to KNOW what is going on so I don't get any surprises that I"m not looking for.

2009-02-03 12:13:01 -0600 Report

I don't understand why someone put the tag "not helpful" there either. If they didn't think the discussion was helpful, why didn't they just rate the discussion. That is what it is there for. I would like to hear truthful answers, but not rude or hurtful. I want to hear if others have gone thru the same as I have, and what they did to improve things. I wouldn't be here if I didn't want some help, advice, and support.

sparkysmom 2009-02-03 11:56:52 -0600 Report

No holds barred by someone who has been there done that. Tell the truth Don't know how the double happened

GabbyPA 2009-02-03 09:18:20 -0600 Report

I want it straight. I try to be tactful when I share, but still straight. There are so many camps on what is "right" and what is "best"...it is hard to weed things out sometimes.

rbergman 2009-02-03 08:03:09 -0600 Report

Be direct and honest, its better to hurt someone's feelings with the truth than to sugar coat it or lie just to make them feel better, it will only come back to bite you in the ass in the end. I've been hurt by the truth but respected the people more for being honest then those that sugar coat it afraid to lose you as a friend if they are completely honest, but if they can't be completely honest, are they really your friend to begin with??

We may not really "know" each other and may never meet in person but we are friends on here so for me…BE HONEST AND DIRECT WITH ME :)

Hugs & Luv,

rbergman 2009-02-03 08:04:49 -0600 Report

P.S. I noticed one of your tags for this is "not helpful" I disagree, knowing how different people react to a situation or a comment is helpful!

2009-02-03 09:15:04 -0600 Report

Thanks for your response, and I do not know how that tag got there; I will have to see if I can correct it. I ended with the tag etc.