New Doctor

Just Joyce
By Just Joyce Latest Reply 2014-06-25 21:33:28 -0500
Started 2014-06-16 11:34:38 -0500

I met my new doctor today. He asked me why I changed doctors and I told him the doctor I saw a week ago was arrogant, I didn't feel she listened, she lacked personality and felt she had something to prove to me. What he said next was something no doctor has ever said to me before. He said he believes in being a team player and partner with his patients. He said if there is a treatment he wants for a patient, he will listen and we can come to common grounds. When he said "If you ever feel that I am not listening let me know, if you ever feel that I am not giving you the best care possible, let me know. We will discuss everything and if I feel that I want another doctor, to let him know and he will help me find one". I almost fell off the chair. No doctor had ever said that to me. I think we are going to work well together.

He was surprised and pleased that I could speak with him about my diabetes and my health care. He asked how I knew so much. I told him I was an Emergency Medical Technician for over 10 years and I self educate. He said he wished more patients would do that and communication was the best thing a patient and doctor can have. He said I was doing good with my liquid diet, however he wanted me to add more protein so now I have to go get protein shakes.

I always communicate with my doctor. Asking people if something is normal, how to take medications, problems with side effects, having problems maintaining our diabetes are discussions to have with the doctor. He/she knows your medical history and can best advise us.

Since I will be following up with the ENT for after surgery care, he told me he will see me in 3 months unless something else happens and to contact him right away. I really think I am going to like my new doctor. He is far better than the one I saw.

51 replies

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-06-21 15:41:52 -0500 Report

Hi Joyce,

Your doctor sounds like a real keep, at least at this point. I am curious as to how old he is. It seems to me that many younger doctors have been trained during the age of the Internet, and they are more comfortable with empowered, educated patients because of that. That is a sweeping generalization, of course.

It's always nice to see a doctor who appreciates educated patients and is willing to be a team player and not a dictator.

Looking forward to seeing how this goes.


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-21 16:09:07 -0500 Report

He is in his late 30's and has an iPhone. I think you are correct. Older doctors are not always up to date with technology. In fact he told me that I can check my imaged on line. My older doctor didn't tell me this. He also told me about medical apps particularly ICE (In Case of Emergency) which is the same as carrying an emergency contact card. He was glad I have it on my phone.

The younger ones especially the males are faster to jump all over technology than females. I have seen senior citizens sitting in coffee shops with tablets. Usually Moe men than women.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-06-25 21:31:53 -0500 Report

Joyce, thanks for following up. Very interesting. Yes, the younger doctors seem to be much more comfortable with technology and, often, more open to empowered patients. But it does seem that people are catching up with the technology across generations. And hospitals and clinics are adapting new technology and forcing the older doctors to become more tech savvy.

haoleboy 2014-06-21 15:54:19 -0500 Report

Interesting observation Gary. Now that you mention it the doctors I have had that were younger seemed much more receptive to my input than the older doctors I have had … who seem to want you just to shut up, listen and do as they say.
As you pointed out certainly a generalization but interesting

… hmm


Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-06-25 21:33:28 -0500 Report

Hi Steve, that has certainly been my experience. The younger doctors are receiving more training in how to be patient-centric, and less dictatorial. And they are accustomed to the idea of going on the Web and finding out everything you need to know. A very interesting evolution to me. Thanks for following up.

Pegsy 2014-06-17 21:06:41 -0500 Report

I sure wish I could find a doctor like that! You have inspired me to keep looking.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-21 16:14:29 -0500 Report

Pegsy, when it comes to your health, doing the best you can to take care of yourself including finding better doctors and health care should be inspiration enough on its own.

Maybe it is just me. I never need inspiration from anyone to accomplish anything. I just git er done.

Jeff82 2014-06-17 14:40:07 -0500 Report

Jjoyce agreed, what I meant to say was we need to monitor and watch our diabetes care, that is the most thing in terms of our condition, sorry for the miscommunication.
Yes, at the end of the day is the diabetic's choice to take care of themselves-taking their injections/pills/changing cannulas, but a doctor should be there if you need them at all times, for any of their patients.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-17 22:27:50 -0500 Report

I agree with you. However, the problem is the choices people make. I know that without self education, I probably would have problems. The advantage I have is the fact that I am a former EMT I know what to do for highs and lows. I have also taken a lot of patients to the hospital with diabetic complications. The worse being a man who weighed over 400 lbs. He had a very nasty attitude and from what the paramedics said he never took care of himself. We took him to 3 different hospitals because the first two had banned him. He never took care of himself. A week later he was dead when we got to his apartment. His mother said he walked out of the hospital and his blood sugar was in the 500's.

I am always going to take care of myself. Thankfully, I don't have to test everyday. I know my doctor will be there if I need him but I am not one to call every time I have a problem. If my blood sugar gets low and I can't bring it up I will be on the phone.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-17 12:38:41 -0500 Report

Okay you guys he is my doctor and I am going to be greedy and keep him. Only if I can find a way to clone him will you get him…LOL

Jeff82 2014-06-16 22:52:03 -0500 Report

Only one thing matters at the end of the day Joyce- you taking control of your diabetes care. That starts though with your choice of doctors; if you can sleep at night knowing your doctor will be there for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you are on your way to the best possible control.

It sounds like you found a keeper in this new doctor here, it is tough to find a doctor with the communication skills you have found here, and he sounds like a genuine, caring doctor who has your best interests in sight.
It is great to see your newfound confidence in this doctor, I hope this doctor brings you the best possible care that you deserve.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-17 09:59:05 -0500 Report

Jeff, I took control of my diabetes the day after I was diagnosed. In fact being diabetic isn't the main focus in life. It is a part of my life which caused me to change my lifestyle. I look at it as a blessing because odds are I would never have changed bad eating habits and exercise was something other people did. In the 5 years since being diagnosed, I only went to the hospital once. I wouldn't have gone then had a police officer not knocked on my door bringing me information I needed for a meeting. He recognized my problem and insisted he take me to the hospital.

I don't need to know he is there for me 24/7 because I don't live like that. I need him to partner with me to help me keep in very good control of my diabetes.

I totally agree with you. It is very tough to find good doctor with great communication skills and who actually cares about the health and well being of their patients. I also think it also depends on where you live. I live in a city and I am 7 blocks from a large medical center that is a teaching hospital. I also have 3 hospitals within walking distance of my house.

In reading what you said I think one of the things we both may have recognized is that as diabetics we have to be responsible for our health and managing our diabetes. It is not the responsibility of the doctor to manage your diabetes for you and it certainly not the responsibility of family and friends.

We also have to factor in how important it is to communicate with your doctor. When I see people on this site saying they have a problem with their diabetes and asking what they should do, my first thought is why are you asking people who are not doctors medical questions about your medical problem. Call the doctor. They have your medical history and they are the only ones who should be giving medical advice. If you don't open a line of communication, your doctor will know you care about your health and will be glad to you are an active participant and they will then communicate with you. If the doctor doesn't communicate it is your responsibility as his patient to find out why. Thanks for your response and best of health to you.

simonizer77 2014-06-16 17:46:16 -0500 Report

Can you send a clone to SW New Mexico?!? I 'like' my doctor, but it's hard to get him to listen. We, as the patient, are the best judge sometimes!

HOGSTERHUNTER 2014-06-16 15:48:23 -0500 Report

Hmmmmm seems there is a hiccup with this chat program I clicked on funnygirl's comment to expand it, then it tells me the comment is By Just Joyce. Anyway I believe I'm chatting to funnygirl. What I'd advise if you don't add Maca powder to your Juice, I suggest you do, but not every day, add 1 table spoon of Maca powder for 3 or 4 days in a row, then skip for 2 or 3 days. It helps balance your metabolism and hormones. and gives a boost of energy. BUT BECAREFUL IT CAN BE OVERDOSED. Some people have thought to themselves, 'wow this Maca is great I'll have it everyday and double my dose' but they soon found that to be a mistake, as it actually had an opposite effect and drain them of energy and left them tired and drained. Peace, Love & Light

HeidiLynne 2014-06-16 16:17:58 -0500 Report

What is this stuff?? Mace or Macs??

HOGSTERHUNTER 2014-06-16 23:02:08 -0500 Report

I'm sorry HeidiLynne My typo it is Maca Powder I should proofread before I hit the Reply button. derived from the root vegetable Maca, It resemble a turnip or radish, it is native to the high Peruvian Andes Mountains it is the only plant that grows ot only above the tree line but also above the grass line it will also grow successfully at much power altitudes. You should be able to buy Maca Powder in any Health Store, just be sure it is pure Maca powder with no additives. This link will give some good information:-

HeidiLynne 2014-06-17 06:44:35 -0500 Report

Thank you so much, Hogseterhunter! I remember
What Macs is now! And you
Should see my spelling and

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:50:41 -0500 Report

Funnygirl is not a part of this discussion so she won't see it. Yes this system is doing a lot of hiccuping lately

GabbyPA 2014-06-16 15:36:02 -0500 Report

Sounds like a keeper. Does he have any friends?

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:41:17 -0500 Report

I think he should be cloned. Gabby I passed him on the way to the exam room. I had no idea what he looked like and he smiled and said good morning. He did the same when he entered the exam room. He was down to earth. Some doctors use medical lingo which the average person may not understand. He did then explained it. When I said I knew what he was talking about he was glad that I did. I am going to keep him for as long as possible.

Katiespace 2014-06-16 15:23:58 -0500 Report

It's always nice to know and feel that your Dr. cares about you, it makes you feel like a human. It's to bad all Dr. Didn't feel that way. You are very lucky to of found someone like that. I am waiting to see an arthritis Dr. I hope he's nice. Good luck in all you do:)

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:30:08 -0500 Report

Nobody ever makes me feel less than a human. I won't ever give anyone that much control or my permission. In life you are treated the way you allow yourself to be treated by others.

Really good doctors are hard to find these days. This one is a keeper for now. I hope you find a great arthritis doctor.

haoleboy 2014-06-16 15:15:53 -0500 Report

is he taking new patients? Or is Sacramento to Baltimore too long of a drive?

haoleboy 2014-06-16 15:17:42 -0500 Report

I'd like to replace my doctor that told me … if you want better care, get better insurance … hand to god that is what she said.

haoleboy 2014-06-16 19:54:53 -0500 Report

for the record … I dropped an F bomb and was informed that I could be kicked out for using such language … later she apologized and I ended up getting exactly what I was asking for.
I would change Doctors in a heart beat however I can't do that until January 2015 … and I would have to change networks which would mean finding a new neurologist, orthopedist and therapist.
Isn't this a great system?
The price is right though and I am thankful to have any coverage.


Jeff82 2014-06-17 08:28:30 -0500 Report

Steve, that may not be the case;!despite changing networks, are these doctors still accepting the new insurance/ participants in the new network you are going to have? You can also check on your current network's webpage to find participating specialists that you need with your insurance carrier.
(Not that you haven't that thought of these things already, I hope this may have helped in some way.) -Jeff

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:22:17 -0500 Report

OMG!!!! She would have been in tears by the time I got finished with her. She really rode a broom to work that day.

jigsaw 2014-06-16 15:51:44 -0500 Report

Yep! And when it was time for her to leave, I would definitely help her with the broom! Team work my dear lady, and what a team we'd make!!! LOL!

jigsaw 2014-06-16 14:58:55 -0500 Report

That's great! If a doctor doesn't listen, I walk! As of now, all my doctors have large ears. It appears that you found a listener, and I'm happy for you. That is definitely a large part of the battle.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:02:24 -0500 Report

I agree. He asked questions and listened to my responses. He even called the ENT's office to ask if they really needed new blood work since my blood work was a week old. The doctor wanted them because they would be too old for his liking when the surgery rolled around.

Type1Lou 2014-06-16 12:00:57 -0500 Report

How lucky for you Joyce! He sounds like a diabetic's dream doctor!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 12:10:03 -0500 Report

I agree. He read the notes because everything is computerized. He asked questions the other doctor didn't ask. The other one could have told me I wasn't getting enough protein. She knew I was losing weight. When he checked my weight from the ER, my visit there and the ENT and today. He noticed that I had lost 20 lbs four pounds was lost between Friday morning and this morning. I am very pleased.

HeidiLynne 2014-06-16 11:50:31 -0500 Report

Wow! Who is this doctor?? A blessing!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 11:58:14 -0500 Report

He needs to be cloned. He listened to my questions. When I told him I was using Ensure and Boost he told me it did not have enough protein so he recommended I eat something higher in protein because that would cure the hunger.

HeidiLynne 2014-06-16 15:07:14 -0500 Report

Good! I like him already!!

HeidiLynne 2014-06-16 15:14:57 -0500 Report

How much protien do you
need now? I have been using 100% whey protein
Which has 20 grams of protein and tastes great! You can buy it at GNC.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-16 15:20:50 -0500 Report

I was drinking 14 he wants me to have at least 20. I don't ever use protein shakes to replace meals because that really is not healthy eating. I am only doing this because chewing food is excruciatingly painful. After surgery I will use up what I have but never again. I prefer a healthy meal and that does not inclue shakes. I am going to get some Muscle Milk to add to the Boost. Used all the Ensure. That should last me through this week will get more for next week.