Eating Out

By SamanthaB1 Latest Reply 2014-06-14 07:29:44 -0500
Started 2014-06-07 21:16:33 -0500

Ever have a day out with family like maybe shopping for a wedding or something and before being diabetic you could stop at a bakery and buy some favorite cupcake and whatever and never think twice. Yet now being diabetic you can barely find anything even to snack on unless you carry something with you. I wish they had like a diabetic bakery where maybe you could go and find a good snack but you would feel comfortable knowing the sugar was low and it was safe to eat. Just makes it hard people around you can buy anything and your standing there thinking maybe a glass of water or a fruit. I am just tired of even going out. Makes it hard and sorta depressing.

16 replies

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-11 08:25:12 -0500 Report

Where is it written that you can't have a sweet treat now and then? I have them whenever i want them because I always check my blood sugar first. I know if I am out shopping and going from place to place that a sweet treat isn't going to hurt me.

On Saturday mornings, I stop at a bakery for a cup of coffee and a pastry because I know the pastry will help me make it through my morning of doing errands. I have no problems with my blood sugar spiking because I know i am going to be doing more walking that day.

I do eat out but I make healthy choices. If I want desert with my meal I make more veggie and meat choices. If the meal comes with two sides, I opt for two veggies and omit the rolls and starches like potatoes, peas, corn, and rice. this means I can have a scoop of ice cream or slice of cake. It is all in the choices you make.

Pegsy 2014-06-10 08:17:02 -0500 Report

I'm getting to where I don't enjoy eating out with our regular group of friends anymore. One woman in particular has to comment on my food choices. Especially comparing what I eat with what my husband eats. I'll order the soup & salad, he will order the burger & fries. I remind her that I am diabetic and don't really have a choice. I wouldn't make a big deal of it at all if she would just mind her own business and not comment. Sheesh! The other woman has atrocious eating habits. She loves everything battered and fried. She often chooses where we eat, shooting down other people's suggestions. Then I find myself with extremely limited choices. I've started carrying food in my purse, just in case.

Type1Lou 2014-06-14 07:29:44 -0500 Report

Why not suggest that you rotate the restaurant choices among the group members on a set schedule? That way, no one person monopolizes the choices. One of my friends is allergic to anything in the onion family (that includes anything with onion powder, garlic, chives, leeks etc.) We try to accommodate her but it's not always easy and sometimes, all she can order is a plain garden salad without the onions or croutons and just oil and vinegar for dressing. Another friend I sew with once a month commented numerous times on the lunch I bring (an apple with 4 tbsps of all natural peanut butter) saying "Isn't that a lot of peanut butter and fat?" The sewing group all know I am diabetic since I test and bolus in front of them. I responded that I weigh the apple to determine how many carbs I'm eating and that the fat content is of no concern to me. I find it a satisfying lunch that works for me." She no longer comments. She's been on Weight Watchers to lose weight. I'm one of the thinnest in the group and she probably thought I was eating too many WW "points", but I find their diet more carb-heavy that I want to eat. We each make our own choices and decide what's best for us.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-11 09:31:19 -0500 Report

First of all why are you letting this woman intimidate you? My girlfriend use to do that when I was first diagnosed. We worked together and a group of us ate lunch together. One day she asked me are you suppose to eat that? I said to her in front of everyone at the table, "if you spent more time paying attention to what you are eating instead of what I am eating both of us could be enjoying lunch. Don't ever question what I am eating because I know what I am doing" She never said another word. When you let people make comments about what you are eating or doing and say nothing you are giving them permission to continue their behavior. She knows she is intimidating you and she knows you are not going to say one word to her about it so she is controlling your emotions. As long as you don't speak up for yourself this woman is going to do what she is doing. I would do it to you if I knew you would let me. She wants a reaction from you and until you tell her point blank to stop she is going to continue. In other words she owns you and she will continue to own you.

You do have a choice. You ate the Chinese food. You choose not to have a choice and that is called the "Woe is Me Syndrome". You got it into your head that you have no choices so you feel you don't. Why do you care what this woman eats, it is her body not yours. I swear if more people spent more time paying attention to their own eating habits they wouldn't have time to what others are eating.

Why are you reminding her that you are diabetic. I would have said it once and never again. This woman is probably mocking you and laughing herself silly. She does not care that you are diabetic she is making you a target for her amusement. This woman really isn't your friend or she would have stopped what she is doing.

If I want a burger with a few fries, I will eat it. There is nothing wrong with eating a burger, you can omit the roll and have a few fries. I went to dinner with a large group of people. The dinner I chose was steak it came with a choice of fries or baked potato. I ordered the fries. When my dinner came I took some of the fries an put the large platter in the middle of the table and everyone enjoyed them.

You can go out and enjoy meals by making the right choices. You chose the soup and salad when you could have chosen the burger and fries and enjoyed the meal. What you did was wave a flag in this woman's face by choosing to all of a sudden be diabetic. Just like you chose to eat what you wanted at the Chinese Buffet you could have chosen what you really wanted when you had dinner with the friend. Shut the woman up and you won't have a problem with her any more.

Pegsy 2014-06-11 16:30:34 -0500 Report

Wow, Joyce. Thanks for all that advice!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-11 21:31:38 -0500 Report

Thanks. Please don't let this woman ruin your dining out experience. She isn't worth it. Go out pick what YOU want to eat because you want it. Then sit back an enjoy it. Tell that woman to bug off.

Pegsy 2014-06-12 06:21:13 -0500 Report

That's exactly what I did and will continue to do. Sometimes people just say the wrong thing. Even you and I.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-12 10:50:01 -0500 Report

Pegsy, when I first got into community work and through my work experience, I have noticed that people who are miserable are not happy unless everyone else around them are miserable. I also know that there are a lot of thin skinned adults who get upset when someone does not agree with them or feel they are being picked on and no matter what they say, people MUST agree with them. These are immature people. I don't have time for them. I say what I need to say and move on. I totally agree with you. everyone at one time or another says the wrong thing. It is nothing to get mad about because odds are the person really didn't mean to say it. Stay strong my friend.

jayabee52 2014-06-09 23:24:47 -0500 Report

Last night I was taken out by my son and dil. They knew that i really enjoyed the meals at Ruby Tuesdays since their sides are both diabetes and dialysis friendly. not like at other resturaunts.


wraithmb 2014-06-09 08:45:26 -0500 Report

I have the same problem with my family. They love sweet foods and always want to go out for ice cream. I have a salad, which is tough, but I get my "revenge". I do the cooking at home for the most part, so they're stuck with whole wheat bread, vegetables, and mostly sugar free foods. :-)

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-13 18:42:31 -0500 Report

As Lou said sugar free baked good are not sugar free. However, since I am T2 if friends go out for Ice Cream I am all for it. There is nothing that says I can't have a scoop of ice cream. I buy no sugar added ice cream. It doesn't have the calories as regular Ice Cream and I can't tell the difference. Since I have been sick, My meals consist of carbs and veggies to keep my blood sugar regulated. I make a shake with 1 cup whole milk (I won't drink any other kind) 3 scoops of regular ice cream, one bottle of Boost or Ensure and half a bottle of real root beer. My blood sugar has not gone past 100 since I started what I call my Miracle Liquid Diet.

Type1Lou 2014-06-08 12:34:43 -0500 Report

Sugar-free baked goods are not carb-free and will still raise your blood sugar more than you'd probably want. A dish of sugar-free ice cream might be a better-bet with somewhere around 13 grams of carb for 1/2 cup, depending on the flavor. Or, I will get an iced coffee and sweeten it with Splenda…it's like a mini-milkshake. Fresh fruit can be an option, if you pick lower carb fruit (e.g. berries) and avoid those prepared with sugar. I love to go out with friends and, if we'll be eating out at a chain restaurant, I'll check the nutritional info of their menu items (on-line or via app) before ordering…that way, I know what's safe. Last evening, my husband and I ate at Carrabba's. He had a Carnevale Pizza (82 grams of carb!) and I had their Johnny Rocco Salad with grilled shrimp and scallops and vinaigrette (only 19 grams of carb!). Yummy and low-carb, as long as I limited my bread to one slice. I'm eating healthier now and enjoying it…barely missing the doughnuts I used to eat for breakfast so very long ago…in fact now, they would probably make me gag.

haoleboy 2014-06-07 21:42:08 -0500 Report

Eating healthy is its own reward.
Thanks to several other health issues I am a bit of a health nut (some may say food police) … but if my presence and/or advocacy gets my friends and family to skip the cupcake, cookies or other crap foods in lieu of some fresh fruit or raw vegetables… then in my mind it is a victory.
I have a healthy diet … not a diabetic diet, one I strongly recommend others follow and have no issue pointing out to others the dangers of processed foods. Had someone done this for me years ago … perhaps I would not be in the position I find myself today.