Controlling eating

By darthvadah Latest Reply 2015-02-25 21:49:04 -0600
Started 2014-05-30 23:57:44 -0500

I have been diabetic (type 2) for a few years now. And for a long time I was doing so well… Lately I've started eating junk like cake and cookies and chips and ice cream (high sugar stuff) and I can't stop! I try my hardest but when I hang out with my friends we always eat badly. And I'm embarrassed to say no to them… I need help getting back to healthy eating… And portion control! any suggestions on what I can do?

14 replies

sweetslover 2015-02-25 21:49:04 -0600 Report

I do not want my friends to treat me differently, so I do not make a fuss over what they eat or what I cannot eat. They know I am diabetic and I order what I need to order. I just tell myself, "Would you like that piece of cake, or would you like to be able to walk and be healthy." My inner voice wins. Many times my example has had a positive influence on their choices, but I refuse to make them feel guilty for their choices. To me, it is like going to a party and choosing not to drink alcohol. I do not need that to have a good time. Yes, I would LOVE to have the sugary food, but I do not need it to have a good time. I try not to even have that first taste—I'm afraid one would lead to two, to three, etc.

RebDee 2015-02-24 09:40:14 -0600 Report

Do your friends know that you are Diabetic? If not, please tell them. If they don't care about you enough to try not to eat the sugary things in front of you, they are truly not your friends. I have found that most friends will be helpful and eat the sugary things when you are not there rather than eat them in front of you. That will help you to eat healthier. Perhaps they might need to eat healthier also, just so they lose weight, or rally around you.

lindajpc 2014-06-04 13:52:39 -0500 Report

I agree to tell your friends but then move on. I find if I stay on my routine, eat my snacks and the healthy ones at that, I can make better choices. I also plan ahead, so if I know my girls and I are going out to eat, we try to make it lunch and I plan my meal before I get there. I don't look at the menu. I've gone so far as to write it out and hand it to waitress, with instructions included. The other thing my friends and I are trying is getting together over doing a hobby we all love or like tonight we are all going to try aqua zumba. Be aware true friends want you healthy too. Those that would torture you over food are bullies not friends.

Glucerna 2014-06-04 13:58:20 -0500 Report

What a great idea to meet and do something fun and active instead of eating! I've heard of some companies who have walking meetings, where instead of sitting in a conference room everyone takes a walk and talks. ~Lynn @Glucerna

dianalee 2014-06-04 13:37:11 -0500 Report

Hi Darth. I too am finding myself in a slump. I have only be diabetic for 10 months, but this last A1C was up a full point, after being down 4.1 points from initial diagnosis three months ago. UGH! I have renewed my dieting efforts and started exercising (oh what a dirty word). I find that I eat more at work on snacky stuff since I sit at a desk all day, but trying to ween that out. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you find supportive friends to help you in your journey. ~Diana~

BethPA 2014-06-04 13:20:26 -0500 Report

Make sure your friends know you are diabetic and have to eat healthily. Eating appropriate food is part of your treatment; it's like medication for you. Eating the wrong things is like drinking alcohol; it will have side effects. Do it too much, and you'll have long-term irreversible effects.

Always have healthy food (especially fiber and protein) with you. For me, eating some fiber along with the "junk" lessens the effects but only if I eat the "junk" in small portions.

But don't deprive yourself of your favorites. Eat a few bites but stop. One way to do that is to use a small dish or bowl. You enjoy the first few bites the most.

Then change the subject and suggest you all go for a walk or something to get moving. That will stop the eating as well as work off some of the carbohydrates.

But it's hard when everyone else is eating "junk" or things you can't eat.

elwojcik65 2014-06-01 17:21:12 -0500 Report

I have been having the same issue lately. I have been eating more junk in the last week then I have in a month. To get back on track, I started checking my BG more often. For me, seeing how good eating habits and regular exercise can lower those numbers is a motivator. So many people have no idea what the complications of being diabetic are. I am getting better about doing what's good for ME not everyone else. Time for some soul searching to figure out what worked before. I do so much of that lately to get myself back on track.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-06-01 16:43:24 -0500 Report

I know how hard it is especially at holidays. What helps me is to have a tiny small piece of grandmas cake ( just a sliver ) so I don't hurt her feelings and eat it real slow and enjoy every tiny bite. I still get those urges for lots, and lots of sweet treats. Sometimes it's almost like I see on tv when you see the junkies. Thankfully I love veggies and fruits almost as much if not more than sweet treats. So what I suggest is to savor every tiny, tiny bite of the small, small piece and look for the no sugar added and/or sugar free. Also talk to your doctor and/or dietician.

Glucerna 2014-05-31 11:55:39 -0500 Report

You're right it's difficult to eat differently than your friends. I'm wondering if something changed for you recently? How did you handle these situations previously when you weren't eating high sugar foods? ~Lynn @Glucerna

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-06-01 14:23:18 -0500 Report

I don't agree with that Lynn. Nothing is difficult unless you choose to make it difficult. Every one of us is responsible for what we put into our mouths. Eating with friends is no different.

Glucerna 2014-06-01 15:02:05 -0500 Report

I see your point Joyce. We both use the word 'difficult', and each person approaches challenges differently. What might be easy for me to do can be difficult for someone else. ~Lynn @Glucerna

wraithmb 2014-05-31 08:54:31 -0500 Report

I have the same problem with my wife and kids. They love going for ice cream and cookies and cake and all the other things that will eventually kill me. For years I took part, but recently I found the necessity in knocking it the heck off. My wife still asks if I want ice cream, and I still ask her if she likes having a husband :-). We all went for a treat one day, and my 6 year old had a salad so dad wouldn't feel left out (I got him an ice cream later on our way out, couldn't stand to see the little guy suffer while mom and little bro went nuts). But in doing that he learned a valuable lesson: it's tough being a diabetic. Now he is the one that tells mom that dad is going to have a diet coke instead of ice cream. I think you should do as James suggests, and tell your friends that it's been fun, but you can't eat like that anymore. If they ask why, then point them to a search for complications on DC. Stick to your guns on it. It is a tough thing to do. The payoff in the long term will be well worth it. Your real friends will start going places where there are things for you to eat too. You can also ask any of your favorite restaurants about diabetic friendly options. They still may not be "good" for you, but they are definitely better.

One suggestion to deal with "those" friends… The ones that rub a big slice of chocolate cake covered in chocolate syrup in your face… Kindly remind them that your salad, is NOT going straight to your thighs. It shut my wife up pretty quick :-). Fight fire with fire I say!

darthvadah 2014-05-31 12:43:21 -0500 Report

I was diabetic when I moved to a new town. I handled it fine in my other town because my friends that were there knew me and didn't take me out for junk… When I moved I told my friends I made that in diabetic and they didn't seem to care. I tried to explain what it was to them. But they didn't seem interested. the last half of this school year has been pretty stress full.. So maybe that's why it's gone down hill??? I'm not sure. I'm also a comfort food eater. I always munch even when I'm not hungry. If my favourite food is there… I'll eat it. I do eat lots of veggies and fruits. But pasta gets the best of me at times considering that's pretty much all my sister ever cooks… It's hard… I've been trying to loose weight as well and I know I could if I stopped eating so badly!

jayabee52 2014-05-31 00:34:16 -0500 Report

Howdy Darth
First of all, do your friends know you have T2? And if not why not?

Perhaps you need to stand up to your friends and tell them that because you have diabetes you can no longer eat as you did with them before. Your real friends will understand that because your health matters to you, this cannot continue.

What would be good for you to do is when you are by yourself to start eating the healthy and nutritious meals. Eat meat.and non starchy vegetables and berry fruits. If you have your tummy full of good stuff, you won't want the unhealthy stuff. You can tell your friends that you've just had a meal and you are too stuffed to eat anything else. (and then don't nibble! or they'll probably call you on it)

I pray this has been of some help to you

James Baker