Lost a friend

By shelbysbubbe Latest Reply 2014-04-30 04:12:57 -0500
Started 2014-04-23 20:19:25 -0500

I lost an acquaintance a couple of months ago. She (Susan)was 58 and had a heart attack. She was my banker. I would talk to her on occasion about my diabetes. I'm a type 2. I struggle at times. She was always nonchalant about her diabetes… I would stress over my A1C being over 7% and Sue would say "oh…mine is 11%" with no concern in her voice. Found out after her death she smoked, had fufu coffees every day, candy in her desk drawer, love her Margaritas and gin and tonic. When I went on insulin and told her how much better I was doing on it she told me I should try Victoza cause you will loose weight… That's what was important to her…BOTTOM LINE…take this seriously and learn from this story. I did and my numbers have been really good… Thanks for reading my long post

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saidy41 2014-04-30 04:12:57 -0500 Report

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wraithmb 2014-04-27 20:45:02 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It is always a tough thing to lose someone, much less losing someone that has chosen a lifestyle that accelerates the process. I too have been choosing the same lifestyle your friend had chosen. I am lucky enough that my endocrinologist is rather blunt when she makes a point. Being told not to worry about putting money into an RRSP because you likely aren't going to make it that long was just the kick I need. With that said, I do see your friends point - all work and no play… Luckily there have been a lot of advances in recent years. In my family there are still stories told at Easter and Christmas about how far we've come. My grandmother still tells us how she would boil the old glass syringes and ride the snowmobile to the mailbox on the farm to meet the mail truck for my mothers insulin. Now I can take my insulin while looking at the food on my plate, take my dose and dig in. Plugging my glucose meter into my iphone will let me download all the results, make notes, and email it all to my endocrinologist. There are even insulin pumps which deliver a steady dose of insulin around the clock, and allow you to dose for a meal when YOU decide to eat. It is my personal belief that we are not far off of an implantable device that will monitor blood sugar and dose insulin as needed. Our lives get easier as time goes by. All we need to do is wait… One day there will be a cure, and there won't be any more deaths like your friend's.

SkyCam 2014-04-27 20:02:07 -0500 Report

I can hear how upset you are over the loss of someone who was a part of your life (your banker). Your remarks also help to send a reminder for those who need it AND that includes positive thoughts of taking care of yourself as best you can.
I'm new here and still getting over the shock! Thoughts come to me - flashes. Like my diabetic Dad eating his morning biscuits with jam… spooning out the ice cream. At the time, he was so nonchalant, it actually made ME nonchalant. I had no idea what he was supposed to be doing. And obviously, he didnt want to do it.
Thanks for sharing and reminding us of both sides of this coin.

Type1Lou 2014-04-26 17:46:27 -0500 Report

The sad truth is that we cannot control what others do or don't do to take care of (or not) of their diabetes. (with the exception of Joyce's story about the neighbor whose mother hid her insulin.)

Liorascs 2014-04-26 14:52:25 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear of your loss, but a wake up call as well. I have been slacking in the exercise area of my life. My boyfriend and I just bought good bikes and I plan to increase my activity. My life depends on it.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-04-24 18:52:57 -0500 Report

Hi shelbysbubbe,

It's always especially sad when someone passes away and you can't help but wonder if their death could have been avoided had they taken better care of themselves. It's lesson for the rest of us.


jayabee52 2014-04-24 14:36:37 -0500 Report

Sorry to learn you lost a friend. What a shame she chose that lifestyle (or should I say death style), when she could have had a longer life. But we can only make choices for ourself.


dagger1234 2014-04-24 08:29:45 -0500 Report

How sad. I would say at first I did take care of my diabetes but now it's been going downhill. My bs levels are still normal but I haven't ate healthy in a while nor exercised. My family canceled the ymca so I need another means to workout.

tabby9146 2014-04-24 07:53:17 -0500 Report

This is so unfortunate. I am sorry about the loss of your friend. So often, there are so many who have that same attitude, I know quite a few around my community. I know this one lady, I feel so sorry for her, but she made many wrong choices when she was young, and did not try to take care of herself, for years, and now for years she has been in the hospital quite a bit, and she is having all kinds of problems related to diabetes. (not that, those who do take care won't end up with some problems but you know)

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-24 09:43:04 -0500 Report

Tabby when I was in my late teens, we had a neighbor who I now know was a Type one diabetic. Her mother was just short of being insane. Her daughter was an adult with three kids. The daughter got really sick ended up in a diabetic coma recovered then had a mental break down. Her husband left her then died. She and the kids came back to live with her mother. Well her mother had very strange religious beliefs. She would take her insulin and hide it. Then tell her God would heal her of her diabetes. I had no idea what diabetes was all about back then but my mom and a neighbor did. The mother would cook a huge meal and then put the pots and pans in the closet and lock it so no one could eat. One Sunday afternoon. My mother saw the daughter sitting on the front steps and asked her what was wrong. She told my mother she was so hungry. My mom had cooked the big Sunday Dinner and fixed her a plate of food and took it to her. After she ate, she cried. My mom and a neighbor would take turns feeding her. The neighbor told the mother that if she did not give her daughter her insulin she would call the police. Her daughter was in and out of the ER because her mother would take her insulin. She finally was able to get disability and move to her own apartment. She did good until she had a fatal heart attack. I use to feel so sorry for her because many of the diabetic problems she had were caused because her mother would not let her eat properly and would take her medication.

tabby9146 2014-04-24 07:53:54 -0500 Report

this woman I am speaking of, drank quite a bit, smoked for many years, and ate whatever she wanted, in the quantities she wanted.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-25 11:12:49 -0500 Report

Tabby this is why I do not feel sorry for people who are diabetic and refuse to eat healthy. They do this to themselves and then are upset when their health fails and it is almost to late to save themselves.

kimfing 2014-04-23 22:51:22 -0500 Report

Scary stuff. This is exactly why i tke this very seriously. Almost too much so. Irritates me when someone says you can eat what you want just cover it. That may b true for some, but i am ultra sensitive and know what my triggers are and stay away from them

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-24 09:57:54 -0500 Report

Kim I am not saying this to make you feel bad or to put you down or offend you in any way. When I was first diagnosed, I was scared and I was overboard with being serious. An online friend whom I have never met, told us in a game room that her husband was borderline diabetic and his doctor told him to eat like a diabetic. They didn't know what to do. I got her personal email and sent her everything I had on my computer about diabetes. I then copied all of the information I had and mailed it to her. She was shocked that I had all this information. Her husband got on the phone and said if you take this so seriously do you have time for yourself and fun. I looked at all the information I had gathered or purchased or requested free. I looked at the stacks of books I had and I realized that he was correct. I got a plastic tub and packed it all away and I stopped being serious, I relaxed more and started enjoying life. That was the best thing I did but it took a year to do it and a question from a stranger to make me see the light. Please stop being so serious. Once you are in control you get to the monitoring stage. You still have to keep tabs on what you are eating, how much and monitor your blood sugar. Please take a day and treat yourself to something special and have some fun. You deserve it. Besides all of us ladies need a feel good day.

kimfing 2014-04-24 12:01:45 -0500 Report

Oh you didn't make me feel bad sort it came across that way. I did treat myself last night. Had in n out burger for dinner :-) only fast food that actually lowers my bs. Strange!

tabby9146 2014-04-25 07:45:41 -0500 Report

I try to eat whole wheat buns at times, but sometimes I have to eat the regular ones, I just eat one on my hamburger instead of two, seems strange but sometimes I do that. My hubby loves to grill them and I just make sure I have a small one, he makes the small patties for me, and I still eat them any time he wants to grill them, and sometimes I have a healthier side even if I am the only one eating that.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-25 11:11:07 -0500 Report

For some strange reason, whole wheat bread raises my blood sugar so I stopped eating it.

A small hamburger at my house is a meatball and we rarely have those. I am not food focused. I want to enjoy the meals

Last night we had a dinner meeting at an Italian Restaurant. I had checked out their menu on line. I was wondering what I was going to eat.

For appetizers, the host ordered an array which included, Peppers and Sausage that was delicious. I could not have the calamari because it was heavily breaded and then dipped in a batter and fried. the other was a shrimp, ham, lettuce, cheese onions, and black olives. I hate shrimp. For dinner, I ordered a Jr. Strip Steak which came with a choice of salad or fries. I ordered fries because the salad had nuts in it. People raved about the salad. I ended up eating two slices of italian bread and had Jack Daniels and Diet Coke. I was worried about the bread and fries but two hours later I tested and I was at 125 which is still in my good range. By the time I got home and went to bed, I was down to 118. I never eat bread and potatoes in the same meal.

Three of us are diabetics all under good control. A rather good looking young man was asked to join the meeting to meet us. He ordered the fettuccine a was sitting at our end of the table. Tabby that fresh pasta with fresh cheese and spinach looked delicious. We were drooling…lol. It was served on a platter. He asked if we wanted to share and one of the other diabetics said yeah you want to share something as delicious as that with 3 diabetics. He apologized and we told him to enjoy it for us. He ate all of it and said he had never had it made with fresh homemade pasta. Now I want some…lol

tabby9146 2014-04-24 07:56:34 -0500 Report

I am the same way. Fortunately for me, my body is "sensitive" my doctor once said, to going lower sometimes, so I "feel" it even when I am at great numbers, if I go down too fast, so it helps me stay on track, and sometimes get back on track if I temporarily get off. I will get light headed every now and then, if I have had too much of something at times when I shouldn't, and so I make sure I practice moderation and also, if I am eating a small piece of cake at a function or something, beforehand and I know it will be there, I just have something with protein and fiber in it before I go and I don't want to eat too much of it either, like yesterday, my daughter was inducted into the National Junior Honor Society, and I knew there would be cake there.

kimfing 2014-04-24 12:04:40 -0500 Report

The funny thing is i don't crave the sweets n junk like i used to. If and when i do, i have sf jello or a piece of sf chocolate. I still have some un fridge for over three months now :-)

tabby9146 2014-04-25 07:48:42 -0500 Report

I used to be like that, but have had major problems off and on for the past year or so especially. I just can't kick my cravings all the time, I have good days and not so good. I was watching Dr. Oz that I had taped, and on this show, part of it was kicking sugar for good. there is NO way I could do that. I can cut back for sure, but how can anyone have no sugar?? My family and I talked about this. It is in just about evrything. I am trying to incorporate more fruit, for the natural sugars, pairing with a protein or eating a protein before I eat the fruit. I was so afraid to eat fruit in the beginning.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-24 10:10:34 -0500 Report

Congrats to your daughter. I was inducted into the National Honor Society. I bet you are one proud mom.

I went to my cousins 74th Birthday party last Saturday and for dinner I ate two tablespoons of mashed potatoes and gravy. It was so good. I then went out on the dance floor and did the Cha Cha Slide. Took care of the carbs from that. I then had a slice of cake and hit the dance floor again. I could not have veggies because they had Almond Green Beans and I am allergic to nuts. Couldn't have salad because it was made with iceberg lettuce and that gives me really bad indigestion.

Tonight I am going to dinner at an Italian Restaurant. I did not choose the site. I looked at their menu on line. There was very little I could find that I can eat. I am going for the grilled chicken Alfredo. That is the only thing not in Tomato Sauce which I can't eat. I will skip desert. I should be alright. I will come home, change clothing and walk the dog.

Tell your daughter to keep up the good work and give her a hug for me.

tabby9146 2014-04-25 07:51:02 -0500 Report

thanks. That's great that you danced so much. that is always a good idea, to eat a little, and work it off some. I try to do that often. My daughter wants to go to an Italian restaurant for her celebration and of course, I think oh nooo in my head. I will have to make sure I look at the menu ahead of time surely most of those places are making some changes to some of their food, as more and more people are becoming more aware of what they eat. I know so many restaurants have made changes, but I am not sure about this one she wants to go to. Of course, the salad and lots of the soups are really good choices. I sure miss those bread sticks. When I am around those, I just have a pinch or two.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-23 20:42:23 -0500 Report

Shelby I was at a meeting last night at our police station. Our Sgt. knows I am diabetic but I am having problems with allergies. He asked if I was alright because he didn't want me to pass out. A community president asked why would I pass out and I told him I am diabetic. He said he just had an employee go out on disability because he is a Type 1 diabetic. He said the man ate Royal Farms Fried Chicken every day for lunch. Would stop at Burger King or McDonalds for Breakfast, then stop at Royal Farms for donuts and coffee. He kept king sized candy bars in his desk. He always drank large cups of regular soda. During his break he would walk to McDonalds and get a Big Mac twice a day. He said he never saw the man eat anything healthy. He said he was always taking insulin because the man said as long as he took insulin he could eat what he wanted. He came to work one day last month limping. By the end of the second week he came to work barely able to walk. It got to the point he fell and could not get up so an ambulance was called. He had to have surgery and his left foot was removed. He now has to have more of his left leg removed and possibly his right foot. He saw him last week and the guy told him he didn't think what his doctor said was true so he paid no attention to him. This guy graduated from college last year and this was his first job. He just turned 24 years old this past Monday..

tabby9146 2014-04-24 07:58:36 -0500 Report

wow! it is important to share stories like this, so others will learn, there are some all the time, who do not believe how serious this is. It is a sad story. thanks for sharing Joyce! We all need reminders, at least I do

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