By poopsie78 Latest Reply 2014-04-23 18:10:36 -0500
Started 2014-04-21 22:05:24 -0500

I was doing "ok" last year but then my sister passed away… You would think this would have driven me more towards taking care of myself… NOPE… I want to get it back together… I feel so lonely… I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel… I don't know find myself being very important to change for… I don't like being this girl!!!

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jayabee52 2014-04-22 11:48:35 -0500 Report

Howdy Poopsie
Sorry to learn of your sister's passing.

The loss of a loved one is hard.

I know for I lost a beloved wife to death back in 07/2010

It is to be expected when one loses a loved one, one grieves, in fact if you did not grieve one would wonder about that person.

It is generally thought that there is 5 stages of grief: denial/isolation, anger. bargaining, depression, acceptance. These stages do not run in sequernce and may be all jumbled up within. You could read more about these stages of grief here ~ http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-l...

Often we let ourselves go as far as self care. So please be easy on yourself emotionally. We all grieve in different ways and at different rates. So to compare the grief someone else seems to be going through and what you are going through is not really possible.

However eventually one accepts the "New normal" for us and life goes on.

Praying for you to grieve well and find your new normal soon.

James Baker

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-04-22 05:32:22 -0500 Report

Loss of a loved one is hard on anyone. I know when I lost my mother it was very hard. I think of all the things I wish I had taken the time to do. Holidays are the hardest, she loved to fix big dinners. I think it was more so everyone could get together than is was for the eating. I know you will never forget your sister, I just hope you are able to find peace like I did. I now think of all the wonderful things she did and honor her memory.
Best Wishes

kimfing 2014-04-21 22:19:40 -0500 Report

Im gonna start off by saying, im sorry about the loss of your sister. That would send aynone in a tailspin especially if you were close.

The fact that you are here tells me you are in your way to recovery. We cannot take the place of your sister, but we are all here for you. You will never be alone.

Keep your head up

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