Second Chance

Debe Pendice
By Debe Pendice Latest Reply 2009-03-26 01:13:06 -0500
Started 2009-01-25 22:15:33 -0600

It was 2 years (January 16th) since I had my Kidney transplant. As I am sitting here wanting to celebrate my 2nd year of new life, I have not 1 but 2 friends fighting for their lives. My friend Chucky is rejecting his 2nd transplant and was 29 on Janusy 20th. Anthony will be 30 tommorow, and had a bleed in his head Thursday,and lapsed into a coma. He has now has opened his eyes but they don't know what the outcome will be. I just want everyone here to just think about this and start living while you can. Lets get healthy and stay that way. I am so happy for my new life. I am also so hard on myself because I have so many disibilities at this time. But I need to move on and enjoy what I have left.

19 replies

Helen Hunt
Helen Hunt 2009-03-26 01:13:06 -0500 Report

Debe…No matter how much we have on our plate, there is always a person with more. I thank God every day that he has given me a chance to wakeup and acknowledge my blessings…one more day to make a difference in someone elses life…I'm glad you have a second chance to cheer on your friends who are having bigger problems. I will pray for your friends who are so ill…Helen

jsd2005 2009-03-25 20:25:04 -0500 Report

What a wonderful insight and belief. You never know. Life throws some crazy punches. Enjoy what you can, while you can.

datzme 2009-03-22 08:32:24 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear about your friends and I will say a prayer for them. Thank you for reminding me that I need look at the wonders in life flowers and little things we take for granted. Thank you. Cindy

2009-03-22 07:45:42 -0500 Report

Debe, I am so sorry you are going through this. You definitely have my heart and many prayers. I will be thinking about you friend. Take care of yourself and all will be okay. Please let us know how you're doing. Many hugs! Angie

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-03-22 05:49:19 -0500 Report

I am adding an update. Anthony has been hospitalized yet a few more timmes dued to having seizures. As of today he has been in 1 week now dued to 6 seizures last Sunday. The bad thing about this admit is he doesn't have no memory. This is really scarey to me. Each and everytime he would remember, but this must of hit him harder this time. I am hoping for all your prayers. I too haven't been much here on this site. I am showing some signs of rejection. They are watching me carefully and I have been in and out of the hospital dued to high temperature and postive cultures. But as of now my counts are coming down and things are looking good.

Splender 2009-03-22 06:39:32 -0500 Report

Debe, I wanted to commend you on the way you are so caring about others. You are so active in the community—I always look forward to your messages and comments. YOU'RE DOING A GREAT JOB. Take care of yourself.

jsd2005 2009-03-21 21:49:57 -0500 Report

You just may have a lot of time left. Don't be so pessimistic.
Many Kidney transplants go very well. you could be one of those. good luck

2009-01-26 13:08:23 -0600 Report

Debe as we talked about last night you know that I'm always here for you if you need me. Hang in there kiddo..

Best wishes to Chucky and Anthony as they try to recover. I know you worry about them.


2009-01-31 07:39:05 -0600 Report

Debe, Have you any news on your friends?
I hope they are well, and of course, you know I worry about you.

Be well

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-31 08:07:38 -0600 Report

Thanks so much for asking. Chucky is home now, his blood counts are improving slightly, which is a good sign but not improving as well as his MD expected. He will return in 2 weeks for another biopsy. Anthony is now off the respirator and eyes are open. he is confused and don't look at you when you talk to him. They said when he had the surgery one of the memory veins were hit and that maybe causing him confusion and memory loss. They won't know until further down the line to see the outcome. They really don't know what other damage it cause yet. I know It is going to be a long road to recovery. Both these guys have been with me on my long road to recovery which I am still on. But you betcha, I will be there and help both through everything they must encounter, they're my dialysis buds. When you reach dialysis and at the clinic you see some of these people more then you see your family. They become your family…Debe

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-26 12:16:56 -0600 Report

Such an important reminder. Life is so precious, and sometimes we get so caught up in just doing the same things day in and day out that we take a lot for granted. None of us is promised tomorrow. Each day is a gift. We need to unwrap it each morning and make the most of each day with love, gratitude and appreciation. Each day holds new possibilities and new opportunities. Let's hope that it will be possible for your friends to improve quickly and make it through this difficult time. As always, you too are in my prayers. You are such an inspiration!


2009-01-26 11:12:37 -0600 Report

I'm glad to hear you are doing so well. I do, however, send my prayers and thoughts out to your friends.

sparkysmom 2009-01-26 10:13:44 -0600 Report

I would like to add my prayers for your friends. You have a great attitude. Thanks for the reminder

John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-01-26 09:49:19 -0600 Report

A very thoughtful and insightful post. Truly we all have the need to be reminded from time to time how precious life is.

I wish a full and speedy recovery to your friends. And continued celebration of life for you.

Take care.

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2009-01-26 09:06:41 -0600 Report

I am so happy for you Debe. It sounds like you have the right attitude of gratitude about yourself. A common problem for those who have survived a medical procedure like a kidney transplant is called survivor's guilt. It sounds like you may be on the verge of feeling more sorry for your friends than you are happy for yourself. Remember that God puts hurdles if front of all of us and we all must spend our own time, effort, attention, and resources on them, so we can learn what He wants us to learn from them. Feel happy for yourself and concern for your friends and we will all continue to pray for all of you.

2009-01-26 06:57:02 -0600 Report

I am so very sorry your friends, Chucky and Anthony are suffering. I will keep them in my prayers. It's wonderful that you are doing so great! Go ahead and celebrate and don't feel quilty. You had a fight on your hands and you have every reason to celebrate the success! I wish you many, many more years of health! Your friend, Angie

2009-01-26 05:34:35 -0600 Report

Debe; so sorry to hear about your friends. But please think of yourself as well; don't live in the past too long. Live in the future.

Avera 2009-01-25 22:22:01 -0600 Report


I'm very sorry to hear that your friends are having medical complications. I will keep them in my thoughts.

I'm happy that you are still doing fine and I agree that it is a celebration to have a new life. You being here has given me a new friend so I am also celebrating for that as well.


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