I am new here

By daetura Latest Reply 2009-03-12 23:15:29 -0500
Started 2009-01-20 23:14:04 -0600

I just recently joined this group and I am liking what I am seeing. I am not used to maneuvaring around this site, but it is getting better.

I am 68 years old and am a retired nurse. I am insulin dependant type 2 diabetic. I also have neuropathy in my feet and legs and cannot seem to get motivated in gaining control. I have been steadily gaining weight and am discouraged because I cannot pull it together.

I have had two by-passes. The first one was a five bypass, three years later I had a double. I really do not want to go through that again. I died and came back. The experience was absolutely overwhelming.

My legs are weak and I have difficulty keeping a balance when I walk. If I fall I cannot get myself up, and that is mortifying to me. I go to a chiropractor every two weeks to keep the pain in my back and legs down. Lately I have tried walking with a cane which helps a little for balance. Very soon I am going to look into a scooter or a power chair.

I am good at giving other people advice but when it comes to myself… well, I could use some support. Trying not to get the "poor me's" because there are always others far worse off than yourself… thanks for listening to me.

39 replies

MeiMei 2009-03-12 23:15:29 -0500 Report

Welcome. As a retired nurse-midwife/nurse practitioner I know where you come from. Nurses are the proverbial mothers of the universe, always helping others, but when it comes to taking care of ourselves we are not so good at it. We are also good at telling others what to do or how to do it. I have to agree with all of the others here, one day at a time should do it. I have found that gabapentin (neurontin) has helped me somewhat with the neuropathy pain although some people have found Lyrica has helped, you might check with your doc to see if you can get an rx for one (gabapentin is cheaper) to start with and see how it works. By all means try not to fall (no need to break a hip in the process), a cane or a four point cane or even a walker will help with balance and still keep you moving on your legs which you will need for strength. Use the scooter for longer distances. Be careful in the shower-use a shower chair to prevent falls in the bathtub if you need to. If you do not have help or a caretaker you should look into some sort of electronic medic alert system such as Life Alert in case of falls or other medical emergencies.

2009-03-12 22:41:55 -0500 Report

Welcome, welcome, welcome!!! This site is chock fulla people with HUGE hearts, and are willing to help you with anything you need, and when you need to vent, talk about a HUGE shoulder to cry on!!! Without this site and it's kind-hearted folks, I would have checked out a few weeks ago, so PLEASE if you need to, go ahead and rely on someone here!

bigjrm45 2009-03-12 22:56:07 -0500 Report

welcome to this site,I feel more at home here than I do at my own home,Ifeel that every one here has something to give and to get every day we learn from each other, so welcome home

BeckyJ 2009-03-12 20:42:31 -0500 Report

Welcome to the site. I just wanted to let you know how great everyone here is. I've recently been having some problems with controlling my BG's and everyone has been so helpful and so supportive. You will find a lot of great info but more importantely a lot of love. Great to have ya onboard.

dyanne 2009-01-22 23:58:55 -0600 Report

Hello and welcome I hope you find what you need on this site. I know I have found it very helpful. It feels good to also know that maybe you can help someone else out there, if even in a small way. So what I want to tell you is I have trouble walking also. What I use if I get out is a walker . It is called the rollater. Whats great about it there is a seat on it so if you need to sit right away you can. without fear of falling. It also comes in large heavy duty with larger seat and also a basket to carry things in. I love mine and Insurance helped pay for it. I have also thought of a scooter but dont want to give up on walking yet… hope this helps.
good luck dyanne

2catty 2009-01-23 00:17:47 -0600 Report

Do you take Lyrica for neuropathy? If so that could be what's behind the weight gain. I was talking to a friend of mine who is T1 and is a fitness coach for beachbody and she said Lyrica and Lantus made her gain a lot of weight. She switched meds and lost it and went on to be a fitness coach. I also have a nurse friend with fibro. and took Lyrica and it made her gain alot of weight. Anyways, we already know each other. Your on my friends list, but nice to talk to ya again.

daetura 2009-01-23 00:23:19 -0600 Report

nope… not on Lyrica. That is a good point about Lantus. Without the lantus my BS are out of control.

daetura 2009-01-23 00:20:22 -0600 Report

so THAT is what a rollator is. Im wasn't sure. Maybe I will look into that instead for now. Like you, I don't want to give up on walking just yet. When I shop I use those carts, walk with a cane when I think I will need it, and that has been it. Like I said, once I fall, I absolutely cannot get up. It doesn't help that I have been gaining weight instead of losing it… oh well… one day at a time. Thank you for your input

dyanne 2009-01-23 02:00:46 -0600 Report

When I shop and I know its going to be a long one I use the scooters at the store. If I know it may not be too long and I can get in and out of the store easy I will use the walker. The basket makes it easy for holding a few smallish items.
You can put the brakes on when you need to sit… so you wont roll away !!!! lol. Let me know how it turns out for you.
Glad I could help some… We have time for full time scooters. Then I would get no exercise at all… I dont get much now as it is…
hugs dyanne

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Meridian - 26751 2009-01-22 06:15:11 -0600 Report

Thank you Frances for your candor and honesty. Sometimes we all get down and need a friendly shoulder to lean on. That is exactly where you find yourself. Diabetic Connect is where we all get that support. You are among others just like yourself. You are even allowed a "pity party" from time to time.

Goddess 2009-01-22 06:27:54 -0600 Report

Welcome to the best site around.

firefightermom 2009-01-22 10:02:23 -0600 Report

WELCOME FRIEND!!! glad tp meet you. Excercise and staying motivated helps in all areas of our lives maybe you could try some sitting down excercises, I voluteer at our local nursing home and there are alot of things you can do to get your blood flowing from a sitting position. Could you go to the library and get a excercise book to help you out? or just sit down,lift your legs and raise your arms move them around some. It couldnt hurt.

daetura 2009-01-22 12:55:34 -0600 Report

I, like God, have a warped sense of humor lol. In my particular case, what I need to do is get off my butt and get away from this computer. (smile)

I try to find some humor in most things. Positive action attracts positive things, as well as negative actions attract negativity. try to keep that in mind always.

I wish I could be a bandaid for everyone. I know that just listening to someone helps a great deal… it doesn't cure but it makes things more bearable.

I am so glad I found this site.. thank you all

Bluebutterfly 2009-01-22 05:42:51 -0600 Report

We always welcome a new friend. I hope you get as much out of this site as I have,I really enjoy finding new friends and hearing their concerns and yes giving advise ever now and then, I just wanted to say welcome.

G Thomas
G Thomas 2009-01-21 23:23:25 -0600 Report

Hello and welcome to our diabetic arms. John said it well and best one day at a time and we are all here to offer the love and care you now need. So get ready for lots of love.

DiabetesDiva 2009-01-21 13:18:02 -0600 Report

Hi and welcome! I'm am sorry you have so many health challenges at such a young age. I'm a type 2 and on medication. My biggest challenge is my eating, which is driven by emotion. I'm doing much better with the help of a therapist & nutritionist. I've learned to stop and ask myself if I'm really hungry for food or something else. Hang in there.


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adriana - 29391 2009-01-21 13:41:27 -0600 Report

I am type 1 diabetes i am 16 years,and i have a 17 month old baby.now and i do need lots of hel been having lots of trouble controling my diabetes and it looks that you are doing great.i been having of trouble controling diabetes for 11years.

dj7110 2009-01-21 12:22:21 -0600 Report

I want to start out welcoming you to the group. I, also am a type 2, insulin dependant. Have neuropthy as well as back problems (DDD w/multiple hurniated discs) and rely on a scooter the majority of the time to get around. On better days do push myself to use the wheeled walker instead to give my legs some little exercise. Even though I can't feel much in my feet like I use to, need to push myself to keep circulation in legs & feet as much as possible. This is an awesome site loaded with lots of info and good freinds. Like you I also have some experiance in the medical field. Volenteered as an EMT for aprox 5 yrs back when my health was much better. I believe this makes it harder to accept help when your use to taking care of others than having someone take care of yourself. Do you find it this way also? David

daetura 2009-01-21 13:11:03 -0600 Report

yes I have to agree with you. Caring for others has always been my way of doing things. It is very hard to accept that now the shoe is on the other foot. I am trying so hard to maintain my indepenence and it is difficult. I cannot do housecleaning like I used to… not getting much help with it either. My hands get really shaky at times when I cannot even write my name, let alone write a letter. Thank God for the computer and my printer.

A few years ago I looked in the mirror and said to myself… good God, is that still me??? Guess we have all done that at one time or another.

Then I began to really notice the aging process, sometimes with a bit of wonderGod certainly didn't make any junk.. lol.

I give thanks every day for what I have, but sometimes I think God has a warped sense of humor.

You folks are really helpful and I want to thank you. Sometimes it helps just to know you are not alone

GabbyPA 2009-01-21 12:15:10 -0600 Report

Welcome to the community. I know you will love it here. There are all kinds of great discussions that can help you out. What I have found to help me keep motivation, or find it when I loose it, is to hold myself accountable with someone here. Edie has a great exercise and diet discussion where we share our ups and downs, numbers and meals. It holds me to be honest and to making sure I am choosing what is best...most of the time! LOL
Don't beat yourself up, just jump on in. Find something to be passionate about and the rest will come.

sparkysmom 2009-01-21 09:57:37 -0600 Report

Glad to meet you. Welcome to our group. I sometimes have balance problems too. I have a rollator and use it a lot.
I have back pain and arthritis that sometimes throws me off. You can find all kinds of info and even some fun stuff here.

shirleycc 2009-01-21 11:04:18 -0600 Report

Welcome aboard. I've only recently become active in the discussions and it sure has been a help to me. Just knowing there are others out there whose life is sometimes a challenge but who keeps their sense of self (and sense of humor) intact has been a real encouragement to me. Keep on keeping on.
John's right, one decision at a time, one good choice, leads you forward.
Oh, yes, I too see a chiropractor who has really helped me with some things.
Everyone doesn't have the same results, but having my body properly aligned keeps me in a good place.


John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-01-21 09:41:49 -0600 Report

First of all, welcome!

And about staying motivated, I know it's a huge challenge. At my house, we have some motivation difficulties too. My son is 16. Remember how 16 feels? you feel invincible. And if you're diabetic, that feeling sometimes leads you to think that lots of other things are more important that taking care of your blood sugars.

Anyway, the thing I try to focus on is just making one good decision at a time. It is so overwhelming to try to think about everything you *have* to do over 3 months to improve your next A1c. But if you just take it one glucose test at a time, one healthy meal choice at a time, you can manage it. You don't have to make 3 months or a year's worth of healthy choices at once. Just make one good choice at a time. Do your best. Be gentle on yourself.

Best of luck.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-21 10:12:05 -0600 Report

Excellent point! The same with life in general - just one day at a time. Otherwise it can just be too much and we feel like quitting. Well said.

DJ 2009-01-22 06:57:45 -0600 Report

First…Welcome to the Site!! You will find a wealth of Information here,but most of all you will find WONDERFUL advice like John just gave here.."One thing at a time"..if I have learned nothing else I have learned this lesson,and it will keep you sane so to speak. I try to learn one new thing about this condition everyday and it has helped greatly to be a member of this site. I have learned first of all that we are NOT alone in this battle and that we will have good days and bad days but we don't have to do it alone.I too have type 2 and advanced Neuropathy,as well as Fibromyalgia and Arthritis..but all I take for the pain is OTC pain relievers as I am well aware of the drug dependancy that follows perscription pain relievers…but that is just my take on one issue. As suggested, "One day and challange at a time." and I sure hope you will find the support you need here with Us. WELCOME and Soft Hugs,*DJ

dj7110 2009-01-22 08:22:09 -0600 Report

I can vouch for the pain meds.. on Fentanayl patches for pain myself and when I have ran out in the past without getting new ones the withdraw symptoms are very close to a low sugar. Just have to take things one step mat a time. This reminds me of a movie. Kinda off topic here but in the movie titled "What About Bob" there was a book called baby steps. Highly recomend this movie for a good laugh. It's a hilarious comedy… David

highlandcitygirl 2009-01-21 08:33:25 -0600 Report

i am so glad you are here. i have pre-diabetes, rhuematic heart disease, and also suffer from polyneuropathy. i know a little of how you feel. you have support in this community! a lot of good people here.

2009-01-21 07:14:46 -0600 Report

I always say I totally agree with Diane (LadyDi) but she always has the right words. This is a wonderful place for people with diabetes and has helped me so much. We will help you anyway we can, just ask. Looks like you're doing great, you have a great discussion already! Take care and welcome again, Angie

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-21 06:43:05 -0600 Report

So many people here can identify with what you're going through and the challenges and frustrations you face. I feel sure you'll get the support and encouragement to help you along right here on DC. It's hard enough to deal with 1 health issue, but when you have multiple issues, it is particularly tough. It's very hard to stay focused and to get motivated at times - especially when you often are in pain or feel just plain rotten. I pray that things will improve for you, and that you will find the strength, courage and motivation you need to give it a new try each day. Welcome aboard!

Avera 2009-01-21 00:22:10 -0600 Report

Hello Lady!

It is nice to meet you and a big giant welcome to the site. It was an interesting read to find out about your struggles. I have been having the problem of the weight gain and neuropathy. I am also Type 2.

I tried going to a chiropractor for my pain and I did not get any relief at all. Is this really helping you? I finally just decided to go with the strongest pain pills I could get. I saw no use in suffering.

Again!!!!!! GREAT to meet you.


daetura 2009-01-21 00:25:06 -0600 Report

Hi Avera… yes it helps with the chiropractor because I often get sciatica, and this works like a preventative… but it really helps my back and legs. I take pain pills too when I can't stand it any more. I take percocets

sexyswamprat 2009-01-20 23:18:14 -0600 Report

Welcome to the family, happy to have you here.


Sanjeev 2009-01-22 01:01:30 -0600 Report

Hello, Friends I am too new here. I am very happy to join this forums and Lynda is very sweet girl. I like her.


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John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-01-22 10:07:10 -0600 Report

I'm not sure your intention in posting a link to a lemonade diet, but I cannot imagine that you intended to convince diabetics to go on an all-lemonade diet.

Not only is the health value of such a diet in question for any healthy individual, but also I cannot imagine the impossibility of a person with diabetes maintaining healthy blood sugars while only consuming lemonade.

Perhaps you'd like to elaborate?

2009-03-12 22:42:55 -0500 Report

giggle John, he can't be serious! Sorry, that tickled my funny bone!