Caretaker/Diabetic Police/How do You Feel With This Label?

By Latest Reply 2009-01-11 12:56:58 -0600
Started 2009-01-11 08:18:25 -0600

I am a caretaker, and I have seen comments about the "Diabetic Police" I try very hard to not police my husband, but remain involved in his healthcare, and just kind of acknowledge gently when he feels he needs something to be brought to his awareness. I was not aware of the "Diabetic Police" before I read it on this site, and am thankful for that. But, I really have a problem with the "Police" word, we are diabetic helpers, caregivers. Even if not directly a caregiver, we are concerned so wouldn't it be better to relable us who fit this description with a little bit of a nicer name. Oh, I don't know , maybe the "Diabetic Support System?". I know it is silly but I am trying hard as I can to help him without ruling him, and feel so hurt when I see this label

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LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-11 08:28:29 -0600 Report

I think you're right, but I also think what that those the term probably refers to are those friends and family members who are NOT the at-home support team. It's one thing to be a spouse or a parent and be caring for and supporting someone; yet another to be an outsider and providing unwanted/unneeded advice, etc. I think most of those people mean well, but they often should just keep their mouths shut. "Support" is great, but most of us do not want to be "policed".

2009-01-11 12:56:58 -0600 Report

I agree.. I don't need someone telling me how to take care of myself. An experience I had that is in the 'police' category happened at work, I think I've mentioned this before here. A group of coworkers were having a get together and didn't invite me because they thought I couldn't eat what they would be having for treats. I was very hurt by this action. I finally told them that they hurt me and also told them that I can make choices for myself and don't need to be 'policed'. if you are truly trying to help someone and not control them then it's different but many relatives and friends take the control part and run with it.

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