Often, When I Am Told I Can't Do Something, I want To Do It Even More

By Latest Reply 2009-01-20 09:40:32 -0600
Started 2009-01-11 08:10:08 -0600

How do you feel when someone says, you can't go out cause the weather is too bad, or you can't go to college cause we don't have the money, or you can't eat that because it is bad for You? I know If someone tells me I can't do something, I try my hardest to do the opposite without thinking of the consequences, just to prove them wrong. Not all suggestions apply to everyone just things I heard myself. But, Are they always wrong? How do you react when someone tells you "no", you can't do that?

9 replies

shannonlynn 2009-01-17 17:58:00 -0600 Report

I have to agree with you. I have a mind of my own, and will do what I want.
I usually give it a try anyway.

2009-01-19 16:33:02 -0600 Report

Well, I am in for a big medical challenge now, and do not even want to go any further.

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-19 17:08:30 -0600 Report

I don't like to hear that. You don't need any more to deal with. You'll be in my prayers.

Mustanggirl63 2009-01-20 02:17:37 -0600 Report

Hi I am new to this site. A good friend told me about it. I too was one that hated to hear the words "you can't" I was told during my undergrad degree that I could not pass the CLEP exam for Economics. That particular professor underestimated my ability I passed. Then I had a supervisor that thought my health would prevent me from completing my advanced standing masters program or that I would even be accepted into it. I graduated this december. Never underestimate yourself even when others do. I am now enrolled in an RN program for nursing. I guess I am an education junkie! Evelyn

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-20 06:25:56 -0600 Report

Another encouragng story that shows us we can usually do a lot more than what we or others might believe. The human spirit is strong, and there's nothing like a good challenge to really motivate us! Congratulations on your courage and determination and the successes you've seen! Wonderful!

2009-01-17 03:46:42 -0600 Report

I think I often do what I am told not to because I am ill, is because It is a challenge and constant fight to better yourself and break out of the "Sick" label.

I was not allowed on a bicycle until I was around sixteen, and was not allowed to learn to drive and get licensed until I was nineteen.

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-17 07:14:34 -0600 Report

I think a challenge is good for us and helps us achieve when we otherwise might not. To do it just to be obstinate, etc., would not be productive, but I think most of us see these type situations as motivation, which is great. I often think about children growing up in troubled, dysfunctional homes (alcholic parents, physical and mental abuse, etc.), and the fact that the adults they become is so influenced by that situation. For some the pattern just continues as they grow up or they give up and never try to better themselves, but for others it is incentive to get out of the situation and be certain that they never let that happen to their own families. The want to make sure that they don't perpetuate the bad experience. It's always great when we can turn a negative into a positive!

Richard157 2009-01-11 09:35:09 -0600 Report

In 1957 I wanted to go to college. I was 17 and two of my high school teachers said I should go. My parents said NO because I was diabetic. They refused to pay my tuition but they allowed me to live at home and they gave me free room and board. I went to college in my immediate area but against their wishes. Their saying NO inspired me more than ever to go. I had to prove to them and even more so to myself that I would be successful despite my very "brittle" diebetes control. That attitude made me work very hard to make good grades. I may have been a lazy student if I had not been diabetic.