Fill in the Blank Friday: With diabetes, I get most stressed about ...

John Crowley
By John Crowley Latest Reply 2014-04-25 15:50:38 -0500
Started 2014-04-11 11:07:47 -0500

Welcome to the Friday before Tax Day! Hopefully the IRS was kind to you this year. Whether or not you received a refund this year, taxes are a definitely a source of stress. And as you know, stress can be a problem for people with diabetes. Some of the problems come because of stress hormones that mess with your blood sugar. Other problems come because when we're under stress, we tend to make less healthy choices (skipping exercise, eating fast food, etc.).

So for this week's Fill in the Blank Friday discussion, let's share the stressors that come into our lives from having diabetes. Please fill in the blank:

With diabetes, I get most stressed about …

50 replies

1lady4 2014-04-25 15:48:37 -0500 Report

With Diabetes I get most stressed about having to count Carbs and looking at food labels 24/7 . It feels like I am in school doing Math homework or Math work lol

DePizan 2014-04-16 16:28:20 -0500 Report

I lost my Job last week after almost 10 years .. there goes my insurance and with that my meds and any sort of healthy meals because lets face it. Most healthy meals cost a healthy amount. THAT is my stress ..

JSJB 2014-04-15 06:57:11 -0500 Report

What gets me stressed is when I follow my diet and do my exercise and think I have made some progress with my blood sugar reading, then I test and it did not change from the last reading or it went up. I do not have much self control and indulge in some foods that I shouldn't eat. Time to make changes.

Osiris Jones
Osiris Jones 2014-04-14 22:42:50 -0500 Report

I get stressed every time i think of my bs kit, so i do "what makes sense" (laugh!) with my injection/intake without the help of the bs kit. As you can imagine this compounds the stress when i find my numbers in orbit later. The real stress resides in the feeling that this downward spiral is inescapable.

JaredLahti 2014-04-14 22:14:36 -0500 Report

Fighting the urge to eat a big bowl of ice cream when I get that craving. Luckily those cravings have been fewer over the last year.

sugar(less) 2014-04-13 00:28:23 -0500 Report

I get stressed out when I think I'm doing great and my glucose test says different…back to the drawing board I guess. Right now it's trial and error since this is so new to me. My eyesight really stresses me out, I never know if I will be seeing clear or blurry when waking in the morning. Being the sole caregiver to my 82yr old Mom who has dementia and to my Dad who passed on 9/15/13 of Lewy Body Dementia…it's been over 6 months and it stresses me out that I still can not part with his belongings. Then searching for recipes and making the time to make them and to make sure I am eating at the same time daily. I guess we all have "stuff" that stresses us out..but we have to remember it could be so much worse. We have to make each day matter!!

Jeanette Terry
Jeanette Terry 2014-04-12 15:37:16 -0500 Report

With diabetes, I get most stressed out about eating healthy and having a mealtime routine. With small children it has become increasingly more difficult to eat at the same times every day and VERY hard to eat healthy well balanced meals. I am usually feeding a child food off of my plate so I don't know how much I actually end up eating or now with a picky toddler we eat a lot of simple easy to prepare foods that aren't the most nutritious for someone with diabetes because that is all that he will eat and I don't want to prepare to separate meals.

Almost every day I think to myself that I should be eating healthier, but at this stage in my life it just isn't plausible. You gotta do what you gotta do with a growing family.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-04-12 14:41:00 -0500 Report

Having diabetes is the only thing that is a stress for me. Sometimes I just get so sick of having to take pills, that I just want to scream (No More Pills). Then I go into see my doctor with a problem and guess what? He either prescribes more pills or increases the dosage of something I'm taking. Oh Well. I would rather take the pills than the alternative to not taking them. So I just say ( Over The Lips Through The Gums, Look Out Stomach Here It Comes) LOL

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-13 15:24:06 -0500 Report

Having diabetes doesn't stress me out. I know I have to take the medication so I just take it. My doctor does not prescribe anything without my approval and if I don't think I need the medication, I won't take it.

Shawn Grant
Shawn Grant 2014-04-12 08:11:20 -0500 Report

Food as in eating out or social situations stresses me out. The best way to control blood sugar is by what you eat. This means a lot of food prep and cooking. I enjoy this but at times I need a break. Eating out is the obvious break. However restaurants are high sugar, high carb places. Every meal at any restaurant is loaded with carbs. It took awhile to figure out what to order and all orders have to be modified and much of the time they get it wrong. I usually get a non-breaded meat, salad no dressing and non starchy veggies. I get tired of saying for the 9999999999999999999999999 times no freakin potatoes! No bread! No rice! and they still bring it to you. If they try hard and make it right I thank them.

Social situations involves foods and always foods a responsible diabetic can't eat. I always eat before gatherings. I may nibble on a few things I can eat but it is rare.

Another thing that stresses me is a lack of understanding as my choice to be a responsible diabetic. I live in the southeast and many have diabetes. Everyone knows more than one diabetic. Problem is most diabetics and people in general think it is ok to eat anything you want and as much as you want. 99.99% of diabetics here stick a funnel in their mouth and has a constant supply of cake, ice cream, potatoes and bread. So when I come along and someone ask why am I not eating the cake they made. I reply because I have diabetes. The next remark they say is my uncle john has diabetes and he eats all the cake he wants.

For once I would like to meet a responsible diabetic in person. Someone who understands my diet and exercise. I have not met anyone. I asked my DR. if he knew any support groups that had responsible diabetics. He laughed and said I am the only one he knows that takes the disease seriously. I am alone! That's my stress.

Caroltoo 2014-04-11 21:13:46 -0500 Report

Stress is both negative and positive, but the intensity of the stress is what runs my BGs up.

In order of intensity:
1. Death of my husband 10 days ago.
2. Caring for Wayne over 14 years of Alzheimer's and Lewy Body diseases.
3. Maintaining a stressful full time job, while dealing with being sole care giver.
4. Concerns about family members and friends emerging health issues.
5. Reordering my finances.
6. Staying healthy in general; dealing with an old back injury.
7. Diabetes and dealing with gluten intolerance are lifestyle changes I've made successfully and really are not near the top of my concerns.

These are all stressors which can exacerbate my Diabetes if I do not deal with them daily.

pandalays 2014-04-13 04:04:54 -0500 Report

Very sorry to hear your loss .however difficult it was to take of them still you can not bear the loss.
My prayers are with you.

Caroltoo 2014-04-13 09:19:26 -0500 Report

Thanks you, Geetha. I'm so sorry he is gone, but so glad he is now at peace and out of pain. Carol

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-04-12 14:45:12 -0500 Report

I am sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a loved one. I hope you are managing ok. Taking one day at a time helped me. All my best wishes for you.

Caroltoo 2014-04-12 17:33:57 -0500 Report

Thank you, Trudie Ann. I'm taking it easy, time off work, reorganizing my life, getting reacquainted with what I like to, and who I am when by myself.

robertoj 2014-04-11 21:44:37 -0500 Report

So sorry about your husband. Grief is the worst especially when you have so many other issues to deal with.

Caroltoo 2014-04-11 21:53:46 -0500 Report

Thank you, Roberto. I actually think I am doing well, all things considered, but I sure do miss him!

Since he had been ill for so long, the only real surprise was the rapid speed of the end. He was hospitalized over a month, came home on a Saturday with (supposedly) several months to live and was gone by Wednesday, 4 days later. Thankfully, it was a very peaceful passing.

My employer has been incredibly supportive. i took partial FMLA for 4+ weeks while he was hospitalized, then bereavement of 3 days, and now a couple weeks of vacation time. Wayne used to work for this company also. I really appreciate how they have responded with such understanding. I start back next week with part time for a while as I ease back into managing my girls group home.

Thanks again for your kind words.

robertoj 2014-04-11 22:04:06 -0500 Report

My boss was like family when my sister passed. He gave me two week paid leave when she was hospitalized and two more after. It's rare and I give him his props frequently.

granniesophie 2014-04-11 20:37:00 -0500 Report

Having Diabetes is so far down my list of stressors that it barely even rates! My stress comes from my life and everything I deal with. The biggest stressor outside of work is my Celiac Disease which has it's own foods to eat and the constant worry over whether something will make me very sick or not.

sherifawson 2014-04-13 01:40:41 -0500 Report

That would be tough. We were just talking about that this evening. My husband has gluten intolerance, dairy intolerance, and intolerance to things we are finding out one by one as they come up. I thank God the only thing I have to do is watch my carbs. Having to do both in one body would be very stressful.

lorene1212 2014-04-11 19:19:41 -0500 Report

high sugars can cause stress. Low ones too! Not knowing what or why you feel certain ways can and are stressing too!

parityanimal 2014-04-11 17:31:13 -0500 Report

Trying to create meals that are satisfying and fulfilling for my family as well as appropriate for me, so that I don't get stuck cooking two different meals all the time.

robertoj 2014-04-11 17:58:45 -0500 Report

I started out making two meals which worked well because I love left overs. Over time they ate my left overs when they were hungry. Now I only prepare separate meals when I crave things they don't like. Of course preparing two meals adds for already overworked wives and moms. All I do is cook.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-04-11 16:41:35 -0500 Report

WITH DIABETES I GET MOST STRESSED ABOUT trying to make my meal plan for the day and not sticking to it as the day progresses. Drives me nuts and I feel I let myself down.

robertoj 2014-04-11 16:15:20 -0500 Report

Having a great medical team only to lose my insurance plan. Finding a seemingly good plan only to find that there was only one provider and no specialists. Now I'm starting over trying to assemble a new team. Thank God for the ACA.

sherifawson 2014-04-11 14:38:52 -0500 Report

Well I have to admit I was stressed because I thought I would owe taxes but I am getting a refund! So now I can't seem to wait for the electronic transfer to my bank account.

As for stressors related to diabetes I am being treated for retinopathy. I have to admit that it took me a long time to get over being so angry did not want to be accountable. And while that's in the past I still have to live with the effects of it. What that attitude did to my eyes may still cost me. But my doc is great and it seems to be in control with no new incidences. Low BS = no eye hemorrhages.

I also have triggering in all my fingers, a thing my doctors say is common in people with diabetes. I have had 2 surgeries so far and still more to come to help my hands to not hurt doing even simple tasks. That is currently causing a lot of stress.

What other people say about me having diabetes used to really rile me up but I have learned with time to let it roll off my back. So high five to me about that!

GabbyPA 2014-04-11 12:37:53 -0500 Report

Spinning my wheels. It seems so often the things I try and am put on by my doctor have short lived effects. Somewhere there is a way I will have more consistent success...just have not found it yet.

pandalays 2014-04-11 12:14:27 -0500 Report

My stress point is for anything and everything people say" oh you being diabetic you should be careful "I know we should take care when we know we are diabetic .Its not diabetics alone don't get all ailments.once you are under good control of your diabetes chance are like any other non diabetic only.

Squirley 2014-04-11 11:52:43 -0500 Report

My stress point is not knowing what food
choices to pick that will help me make the right choice for my diabetes !

haoleboy 2014-04-11 11:52:03 -0500 Report

With diabetes, I get most stressed about …
… discussions on Diabetic Connect about stress because I know that "we" are about to be lectured that we are weak for letting diabetes cause stress. ;)


jayabee52 2014-04-11 11:29:14 -0500 Report

When I have inadvertently offended someone and cannot seem to make it right.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-04-12 14:58:56 -0500 Report

I understand. Sometimes I will say something with good intentions and someone will take it wrong. I come from southern old school and the way I talk and think is different from some people, and can be misunderstood. Sometimes no matter how I try to explain myself, I just seem to keep digging a deeper hole. That is when I just say ok, I'm sorry, I tried my best.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-13 15:21:51 -0500 Report

Trudie, my great aunt died when she was 95 years old. I don't care who you were, what your profession or how smart you thought you were, you always knew what she was thinking.

If you thought you looked good in a dress never ask her how you looked. If you are easily offended, she was not the person to talk to. You either loved her or hated her, there was no middle ground. She always said if you speak your mind people won't have to worry about what you were thinking.

One Sunday in church a woman was crying because someone told her the hat she had on was the worse looking hat they had seen. (It was). My aunt asked her why she was crying and she told her what was said about her hat. My aunt said that hat is ugly, take it off and stop crying. If you didn't wan anyone's opinion about your hat you should not have asked. You are suppose to be a grown woman act like one and stop getting mad cause someone said something to you that you don't like. She ask her if this was the first time her feelings had be hurt. The woman said no. My aunt said good because it won't be the last time someone hurts your feelings. Get over yourself and move on.

Tactfulness was not her strong point. Some of the people in the family who were overly sensitive were often offended by something she said to them. However, I don't care what time you came to her house, she offered a seat, a meal or something to drink. She gave us kids a fit but we always went to see her or call her. When she passed away, her funeral was standing room only. Many were family members. In a sense I am just like her. I was the timid one. She made me speak up for myself. I think people these days are too sensitive and expect people to sugarcoat things just so they won't have hurt feelings.

I think it is a southern thing. We let you know how we think. You may not like it but at least you know…LOL then we offer you something to eat and drink.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-11 12:05:59 -0500 Report

James as intelligent as you are, you should know that some people get offended if you look at them cross eyed. You can't always make it right. Don't stress over it. Let them deal with being offended because even in your efforts to make it right, they won't see it that way because they are too caught up with being offended. I don't even deal with that and i don't apologize unless I know I was wrong or didn't mean to say what I said. If people get offended because I said something to them that is on them. Being offended, angry or mad is like being constipated, in time it will pass. Besides, most intelligent people are open minded and are not easily offended.

camerashy 2014-04-11 11:27:24 -0500 Report

Being yelled at. It doesn't matter the subject. Diabetes doesn't stress me. It used to. I'm the type that rolls with the punches.

PRINCESS KIMBERLY 2014-04-11 11:17:10 -0500 Report

I can't make thing's right when they are wrong. I feel I need to help everyone who needs it, but when I can not fix it I get stressed out.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-11 12:01:53 -0500 Report

Kimberly I was sitting in a meeting not too long ago. A woman told another woman she was trying to help her because she likes to help everyone. The woman she was helping said, Did I ask you for your help? The response was no. Then go somewhere and mind your business and if and when I need your help I will ask you. The woman who was trying to help was offended and made an issue out of it. She didn't get it that unless someone ask for or wants your help, you can't simply help people. I just sat there and shook my head. You can't help people unless they want to be helped that is the first rule when doing any kind of outreach that requires helping people. You know they need help but unless they ask for it, there isn't a thing you can do but get your feelings hurt when you butt in trying to help. That alone can cause the "constant helper" to be stressed. I do not help anyone who does not ask for it.