Hey All!

By Young1s Latest Reply 2014-04-08 15:05:47 -0500
Started 2014-04-05 09:47:54 -0500

Okay, my profile page is still acting stupid. Come on DC, fix this already.

Good news though. I finally talked my hubby into quitting smoking. Just one step closer to quitting drinking. We had a serious talk last night. Was happy about that for sure. I think he's finally ready, he's just scared of the change. I will guide him through it though.

27 replies

Young1s 2014-04-07 20:41:46 -0500 Report

Better news fam, hubby says he's ready to quit drinking now. I believe he's being honest about this but I know how difficult it's gonna be for him. Pray for us as we try to overcome.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-06 21:50:41 -0500 Report

Young it is good you talked to him. However, you can't talk anyone into stop drinking, smoking or losing weight unless this is what the person wants to do for himself. It is like ordering a person to go to rehab. They will go, do what they have to do, get out and continue to drink or do drugs. They go because someone sent them. They have to go because this is what they want to do. There are alcoholics and drug addicts who have found themselves facing a judge. Many will ask for rehab to avoid jail time. They go as a means of getting out of jail however, they have no intention of discontinuing their addictive ways.

He can say he is doing it for you or for his family, however, he may start again because it wasn't what HE wanted to do. The first thing he has to do is admit to himself that he has a drinking problem. A lot of people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol do not respond to treatment because they have not taken the first step of admittance and then seeking help. You can be supportive but unless you have been a recovering alcoholic, you can't guide him. He has to admit the problem, speak to his doctor because his body will have to detox and he has to go to AA to get help and support from the members there. He has a long road ahead of him and you have to be supportive. I wish the very best for the both of you.

Young1s 2014-04-07 07:20:27 -0500 Report

All of this is true Joyce, but my man is different. He's ready now.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-04-07 13:11:50 -0500 Report

Is he ready because you want him to be or is he ready for himself? You know I am here for you. He is going to make it Young as long as he wants to. He has to be stronger now than he has ever had to be in life.

I just got back from a memorial for a friend who died. He said he grew up with a loving family but he drank and drugged and one night on his way home he got stabbed. He ended up with a Trach. This man was a good person who had issues he couldn't deal with as a kid. After he got out of the Trauma Unit and went through learning to talk again, he joined the Violent Intervention Program sponsored by Shock Trauma. The one thing he said he always told the young men injured from shootings was that anyone can turn their lives around. Never do it for anyone but yourself. The end rewards will be that you will find your family, loves you and they have been there for you all along. Prove to yourself that you and only you can make you a better person. Young I think your husband is going to be proud of himself. Make sure you let him know you are proud of him and that you love him.

Sly Kitty
Sly Kitty 2014-04-05 22:32:42 -0500 Report

That is one large step in the right direction and he sure does need to take the next large step to better health. Congrats to you and hubby & keep up the good work.

wasted.wonder 2014-04-05 14:16:55 -0500 Report

hello there. profile page acting stupidly, hmmm DC's sugars must be high.
anyway congrats for talking him out of smoking. keep up the good work : )

Young1s 2014-04-06 03:04:08 -0500 Report

okay…you two need to stop. not that serious. love you james but give her a break a little. Yes, ppl are some kind of way at times, but I don't think she was making that point.

jayabee52 2014-04-06 08:24:53 -0500 Report

That was my point. he wasn't being that way. Sometimes printed words lack the nuances of the spoken so is easily misunderstood.

wasted.wonder 2014-04-06 07:56:14 -0500 Report

Give her a break? Young1s are you referring to me ? If yes, then haha, I am a man with a capital M.

Hey jayabee52, I am sorry if I sounded rude, that was not the intention. Personally speaking, I am not here to seek attention. I don't mind at all. Plz don't take it otherwise. I am a carefree person and in a tough life with D, I absolutely don't bother others or myself. I am here to have a good time by learning from others and sharing my experiences with a laugh here and there. Nowhere did I refer to you in my post. I was referring to profile page problem. And I had sent such message s to all who are on my contacts list. So nowhere I had mentioned you. Peace and regards.

Public Notice: I am a MAN :D

jayabee52 2014-04-05 18:02:50 -0500 Report

Howdy Wasted!
My profile page has been doing what Young1s' has been doing and I noted on my yahoo account that you sent me a message on my profile wall.

Because of that I cannot get it or respond to it. Please if you would, ask me to be your friend and i will accept it. Then you can tell me in the Private mail what you told me on the wall.

I would appreciate that. At the very least I wanted you to know that I wasn't ignoring your wall posting, just couldn't get to it or respond to it.

God's best


wasted.wonder 2014-04-05 20:35:53 -0500 Report

Hey James,Relax. I just sent you a gift (coffee) with a greeting. Thats all. And according to my profile, we are already friends.

jayabee52 2014-04-05 20:39:30 -0500 Report

well some ppl get pissy when you don't notice their wall postings. Didn't know you well enough to know if you are one of THOSE or not. Now I know

Young1s 2014-04-05 17:28:31 -0500 Report

Haha! Yeah, somethings up right!?! Nice to know it's not just me though. Thank you for the kudos.

robertoj 2014-04-05 14:09:25 -0500 Report

I quit drinking over 13 years ago. I quit smoking over 37 years ago when my daughter was born.Quitting smoking was the hardest thing I ever did. I quit drinking through AA which made it easier. I wish him good luck.

Young1s 2014-04-05 17:25:57 -0500 Report

Yup roberto. I may be doing this backwards but I'll take what I can get.

robertoj 2014-04-05 17:50:48 -0500 Report

I don't think it's backward. Doing one thing is important. It's up to him. My wife had to deal with failed promises and halfhearted attempts for years. It isn't that I wasn't sincere but because the sudden cravings are so difficult to overcome.

Young1s 2014-04-06 02:52:36 -0500 Report

This is so true. It's the quitting part that is the frigging problem. I hated quitting. Loved that I was able to do it, but hated it for sure. But we are gonna do it together. Loving that!

jayabee52 2014-04-05 11:26:22 -0500 Report

Howdy Young1
I am still having problems with my profile and everyone else's as well, but I have found ways to do most of what i need to do.

It is great that hubby agreed to quit smoking. I will pray for his success with this day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, struggle.

God's best to you and yours


Young1s 2014-04-05 11:54:57 -0500 Report

Thank you James and yes,,,day by day,,,hour by hour,,,minute by minute,,,and so on…the prayers are much needed.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-04-05 11:02:26 -0500 Report

Dear Young1;
As an x-smoker for 24 years I can honestly tell you the most important thing is for him to quit drinking first. He'll probably need the crutch of smoking to quit drinking. Later he can fully concentrate on quitting the smoking. May I suggest you help him by getting him to go to AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and Allanon for you. Or go to meeting with him. Whichever you choose will be great for the both of you. I'm divorced now, but my husband was an alcoholic. AA was great for him. Soon after he quit AA he went back to drinking. You can be supportive but you alone can't make him quit drinking, I'll be praying for you both. Hugs, VL

Young1s 2014-04-05 12:07:02 -0500 Report

Hiya Val! I guess I've been away too long and you don't remember me. At any rate, I remember you. I want my man to quit. And have talked with him about AA and blah, blah. But I gotta let him do this in his own way. He'll get there.