How do you keep your diabetes under control when you are grieving ?

By Saphire Latest Reply 2009-07-05 23:21:48 -0500
Started 2009-01-07 18:55:13 -0600

My little sister died september 26, 2007. I still haven't gotten over how I will never see her again. She was diagnosed with diabetes when she was three years old. She never gave in to the disease. She died from head truama and she never came back to us. Thanks to cell phones I was able to tell her how much I loved her and how proud of her I was. She was both a massage therapist and a cosmotologist. She loved to go horse back riding and sshe was great at it.
I am having trouble keeping up on my diabetes because all I want to do is sleep and stay in I don't like going out and pretending everything is fine. My blood sugars have been all over the place and I can't seem to be able to staighten them out.
I was diagnosed with diabetes when I was 11 years old and I have always had a hard time keeping it under control. But it has been worse since she passed away. Any help would be wonderful.

32 replies

ali eletre
ali eletre 2009-05-30 10:19:10 -0500 Report

Hi amanda
You have to be strong and make this accident effect you positively.. try to remember her good thing to keep you go forward in your live and hold hope and faith in GOD that he will help you every time & try to communicate with people to forget your pain.

lipsie 2009-05-27 08:38:28 -0500 Report

First of I want to say how sorry I am to hear about your sister! I know how hard loosing ones we love is. The more recent one I had was my mother and she was my stepping stone. After loosing her I gave up, I lost my children due to my mental health and behaviors at that. Anyhow, its a couple year later I am feeling better I miss her of course but I have to be strong and move on and take of me, and what I can … I signed away rights to 3 of my kids…the other I still have well sorta contact…the grandma hates me and tries to give a hard time and my daughter is going thru so much so I am about to fight…get her back ONLY because she is not happy there and I CAN do this! I may loose but I will try…sorry all about me here…anyhow, seek counseling definately…its VERY helpful if you can find the right ones to connect with, don't give up, you can ask for a different one…sometimes you may feel right with one. Also like others said, support groups…it'll get you out which you need so badly I feel…feel alive again…she is out of pain, she did some amazing things for others, she sounds like a wonderful person!!! You can pull through, she would want that I am sure! *Hugs* Please if you ever want to talk, I am here. Love yassss Sheila

Saphire 2009-05-25 00:30:08 -0500 Report

right now my dad is fighting for his life and I am worried about him. He was in the hospital for a bleeding ulcer and he was lucky to make it there in time. Now he is home and he has a blood clot going from his elbow to his shoulder and he also has a heart murmur. He got the blood clot from bad IV lines and he got the heart murmur from the low blood count when he was bleeding out of the ulcer. I am so worried about him and I pray everyday that he is able to make it because I don't know what I would do with loosing him and my sister both. They both meant/mean the world to me. I just hope that he is able to get better and stick around for a few more years. There is so much more that he could help me learn and understand.

Judimar 2009-05-25 00:34:51 -0500 Report

I'll be praying for your dad and your family!



Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-05-25 07:20:33 -0500 Report

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just remember to keep your BS in good control through all of this and try and stay healthy because you are going to need all your strengh to help him when he gets home. If you let yourself go because of worry it may cause you to get ill too and that won't help anyone. If you need to vent or talk to someone I will be here. Just know you have friends here on DC that are all here for you…Debe

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-05-25 07:34:09 -0500 Report

Know that I'm thinking of you and your family and praying for your dad to get better soon. It is so difficult to lose those we love. I miss my parents and my nephew so very much, and it has been a number of years since they passed away. Hold good thoughts and keep the faith. Trust in the doctors and the wonderful medical technology we have today. Be sure to update us as things develop.

Saphire 2009-05-27 00:32:36 -0500 Report

My dad is doing better his heart murmur is gone and the blood clot has gone down a little. As he is able to rest he is getting better. He sees the doctor this wednesday and I should now more tomarrow. Talking does help and thanks for listening.

Judimar 2009-05-27 02:12:03 -0500 Report

I'll continue to hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Hope things continue to improve. We are here when you need us (and when you don't).



Saphire 2009-05-29 22:12:19 -0500 Report

My dad is doing fine and the blood clott is movingdown his arm and away from his heart and head. He still has away to go yet but he is doing better and he goes back to work on monday. Thanks everyone for your support.

Saphire 2009-07-05 21:40:58 -0500 Report

My dad is doing fine and he has a doctors appointment at the end of this month so he should find out if his stomache is better and he can start eating real food agin he is having a hard time with the diet he is on. I am just glad that he is alive and doing better.

Judimar 2009-07-05 23:21:48 -0500 Report

Excellent news. I will continue to pray for him. Sorry to hear he is having a hard time with his diet but hopefully that will change soon!

Saphire 2009-01-09 16:30:15 -0600 Report

I have been feeling better since talking with all of you. Dawn my partner took me to see Bedtime Stories and it had me laughing all the way through it. I has been along time since I laughed that hard. Thanks everyone for alll of your suggestions and prayers they are helping and I will keep all of you in my prayers.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-09 16:40:08 -0600 Report

I heard that was a great movie! So glad you took the time to go do something enjoyable - especially something that showed you that you still are able to laugh. I'm sure that makes your sister very happy, and probably made her smile as well. Hugs…Diane.

Saphire 2009-01-09 22:15:58 -0600 Report

Thanks di I agree I think she likes it when I am smiling and have some form of happiness even if it's for a short while.

Southern Granny
Southern Granny 2009-01-09 10:26:13 -0600 Report

I have not lost a sister, but I did lose my mother. The first year anniversary is coming up the 15th of this month. I know how you feel. Death is a hard thing to deal with. I can not tell you how to control your numbers. I also have trouble controlling numbers. Thankfully they are now beginning to level out now. I hope you can the help you need. People without diabetes do not understand. Best of luck and my prayers are with you.

Saphire 2009-01-09 16:23:24 -0600 Report

Sorry to hear about her. I hope you are coping well and are getting the support of family and friends during this hard time of year. Take care of your self.

dj7110 2009-01-09 03:01:02 -0600 Report

I first want to say I'm sorry to hear about your sister.. I too had a hard time after I lost my father. You also might want to look to see if there Is an grevance support group near you.. They have one near me and I'm sure they are around in many other communities. stress can play a big effect on keeping sugars under control. they have the group here for those goig threw the same situation and to try to help one another keep in regular routine which is hard to do and especially important when being diabetic. your local dept of aging or therapist might be able to help with this. I will keep you in my thooughts and prayers.. Take Care, David

Saphire 2009-01-09 16:26:03 -0600 Report

thanks I will look into that. That might be good for both me and my partner to go to together. Thanks again.

Saphire 2009-01-08 05:19:57 -0600 Report

thank you all it is good to know there are people out ther that want to talk and help me through this hard time.

Every time I think of my sister I start to cry and I want to think of her and laugh instead. I just hope that i will eventually stop feeling like I got cheated of seeing her again and thinking that she had so much more to give the world. Even though with her death she helped sixty people with the donation of her organs and those people are better off than they would have been. She also donated her kidneys to science for more research into diabetes. I am proud of that but I still feel cheated because I hadn't seen her in three years and I was looking forward to seeing her again.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-01-08 13:38:17 -0600 Report

I know how you feel, we lost our son this past Thanksgiving. We are having a hard time dealig with the loss and have
been talking to our pastor abouut our feelings. I know he may be gone but I know he is in our hearts and we will never forget him. We try thinking of all the good times we had with him and how much we love him. The one thing is hat we know he is not suffering anymore and he is in a better place now.
I will be praying for you that the Good Lord gives you the strengh and peace of mind to help you get thru this time of sorrow.

Saphire 2009-01-09 00:47:02 -0600 Report

Thanks and I am sorry to hear about your son. I know that isn't enough but there is no real way of communicating the true compassion of others when hearing about the loss of a loved one. Nothing seems strong enough And I hope that you will find the peace and caring that you so deserve as well. I will include you as well in my prayers.

dyanne 2009-01-08 04:48:13 -0600 Report

Iam so sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. I know how difficult it is to loose people we love so much. I know that stress will make your sugars high and feeling depressed we tend to let our selves go. Time will help and talking to someone is a great idea. Remember that your sister would want you to take care of yourself and be happy and healthy.
Good luck to you. You will be ok.

Saphire 2009-01-08 05:13:31 -0600 Report

Thank you and I know that stress can make your bloodsugars go but I am trying to keep that from happening. I have been testing three or more time when ever I am active but it is difficult.

2009-01-07 19:45:16 -0600 Report

I have never lost anybody that close to me, so I can only imagine how you feel. I am a new diabetic and thankful I've had no trauma since I was diagnosed. I do know prayer works, like Diane said. I might not have the answer you're looking for, but it helps to talk. Please contact me if you ever just want to talk. I'm here every day! I'm Angie, Rudee is one of my cocker spaniels! I'll be thinking of you!

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-07 19:38:49 -0600 Report

You have done the right thing by seeking some professional help. People deal with grief so differently that it's hard to know what to expect of yourself, or how long it will take to come to terms with it. So seeking help is the first step.

You've also chosen to come here (and perhaps other places) to talk to others who have similar issues and that you should be able to share with and know they understand and care. That helps too.

Lots of praying going on here too! And prayer is powerful! You hang on to those wonderful memories, and know that your sister would want you to be happy and to move forward with your life. That will honor her as much as anything you could do. I'm adding you to my prayer list. Hope that's okay. Diane

sparkysmom 2009-01-07 19:08:29 -0600 Report

I know when I lost my Mom I went into a funk. At the time I was already an alcoholic and I drank myself silly for about 6 years. I finally had to find somebody to talk to. Hopefully you can find a friend,priest(pastor) or even an Internet friend to talk to. You need to work through the grief before you can help you. My friends say I'm a good listener. Email me if you want. small