PARTENERS IN DENIAL.

TopazDee
By TopazDee Latest Reply 2014-04-03 19:57:37 -0500
Started 2014-03-29 10:39:25 -0500

How do I get my husband round to realising it is important to be able to take my BGL should I be ill, every time I bring up the subject he says "you'll be able to manage".
As for as what my readings are he asks every time I have to take them and always makes sure I eat at the right time and knows what I should and shouldn't eat and always checks carb levels on anything new we want to try.
I understand that he is needle phobic and I had to give him heprin injections all over xmas & new yr. as they suspected he had a blood clot ( great he didn't have) he just couldn't do them himself and as much as I hated sticking him with a huge needle every day I did it as he didn't want to be hospitalised over that time.
With the pen and lancets you don't even see a needle, has anyone got advice that might help please.xxx


8 replies

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2014-04-03 19:57:37 -0500 Report

When any diabetic has a partner be they a short term playmate or a lifelong partner? At some point they must learn and understand OUR condition because we might not be able or capable to care for ourselves. It is first aid 101. You train until you can help someone when you must.

At some point we may simply need emotional relief for a while. You do the test? You do the shot because in an act of love, because you care you take the burden from me, here I'll do that for you…

He can desensitized to the phobias, time is required for that. Never met anyone who loves tests or shots. They are not rainbows and kittens. However they are necessary. As such, give the man an extra tester and get him to do the proceedure of testing without anything sharp or pointy loaded in it. In time get him to load it?

It wont hurt him in the least. It cannot unless he uses them, which given his awkward fear is important if he needs to help you. For the record there wont he any event where he will need to give you a shot. Not given his severe phobia currently. There are icing tubes, glucose gels which will do the trick if it comes to it. It will never happen you will fall into a coma and he'll give you short acting to bring you back. Never gonna happen.

Likely and possible, you get the flu, injured somehow, have dentistry and take meds to help you sleep. In those scenarios you will want him to make sure you are safe. As such he needs the skills to help if necessary.

My opinion worth what you paid for it

TopazDee
TopazDee 2014-03-30 13:45:45 -0500 Report

Big Thanks to everyone for advise, support and best wishes, will show this to hubby when he's in right frame of mind.
Stay safe LOVE AND LLIGHT XXX

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-03-30 00:12:54 -0500 Report

Howdy Dee
Oh he believes "you'll be able to manage".
Have you ever had a hypoglycemic attack? If not, could it be possible?

Here is a video of a hypo attack from youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O0Bylfevpwk (i think it was filmed in the UK) and here is another ~ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySwr-seCyos Both of these of course were reinactments.

Please show your hubby one or both of these videos so perhaps he can get an idea of what could possible happen to you.

One of the things which can happen when one goes hypoglycemic is the sufferer becomes confused, irrational, unpredictable. Then if the Blood Glucose is not raised, the sufferer can lapse into unconsciousness, perhaps a coma, and eventually death

When unconsciousness is reached it is beyone the power of the sufferer to take in anything to raise the glucose level. If there is a glucagon pen available that is good, but usually the best thing is to call an ambulance and the paramedics can administer the glucagon shot on the way to the hospital.

Not in every case can you yourself be able to manage. If he values your life it would be well for him to learn how to use and read a meter.

If you ever get to the point where you become confused, he may need to learn how to operate a glucometer and lancet pen. And the only way he can do that is by practicing on you.

He also needs to learn the rule of 15/15 for raising a hypo. You can find it here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/diabetes-discu...

When the hypo is caught in time it could save a lot of trouble, but knowing how to use the tools (glucometer and lancet pen) is essential to better outcomes.

I pray this will motivate him to get even more closely involved in your diabetes care.

James

msann
msann 2014-03-29 18:41:12 -0500 Report

HEY HOPE YOU ARE WELL MAYBE YOU CAN GET HIM TO TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR OR EDUCATOR NEVER KNOW WHEN HE WILL HAVE TO ACT MY HUSBAND THE SAME I TAKE SHOTS HE DONT BUT HE DIABETIC THIS MEN ARE SOMETHING ELSE TAKE CARE

MrsKarlaD
MrsKarlaD 2014-03-29 17:26:30 -0500 Report

My husband gets a little uncomfortable with seeing me inject insulin, but he is a diabetic himself, (though not on insulin), so he understands what to do and why and is slowly getting more comfortable with it. It helps to have that support, and I think with a little time, patience, and understanding, your husband will get there too. Hang in there and don't give up on him. God bless!

Glucerna
Glucerna 2014-03-29 15:41:13 -0500 Report

Perhaps your husband could practice using a glucometer on an orange or a nerf ball? It would be great if he could get to the point where he can then test your blood sugar periodically, even though you can do it himself, so he becomes more comfortable. ~Lynn @Glucerna

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-03-29 11:38:31 -0500 Report

My husband loves poking me with needles. LOL. Maybe we should trade.

Seriously, I have had to learn how to do thing for my husband that a nurse would do and he is not squeamish, so his knowing things to do is not as hard as getting him to understand when he needs to do them.

I am like your husband and the idea of hurting my hubby makes me nervous, but in a pinch, I have to do things. So practice makes it easier. Is there a way you can get him to practice while you don't need him to do it, so when you do, he won't be so afraid to do it?

The only other thing I can suggest is some good acting to show him what could happen.

TopazDee
TopazDee 2014-03-30 14:02:10 -0500 Report

Love the last line Gabby I did go to stage school so will watch the vids jaybee has told me about and put on a good rendition, think all partners should see what happens when blood g's go crazy so they can act as needed. xxxx
stay safe