I too wanna fall in love...

By Monuuu Latest Reply 2014-03-22 16:40:12 -0500
Started 2014-03-21 12:36:11 -0500

By God's grace i hav a wonderful and caring family , friends n no financial problem .. Life is going at its best ..And the other day, i saw this girl , my childhood neighbour, in my college premises. We exchange smiles for a month.. we started talking on FB recently .. The thing is , i am ignorning her now , thou i like her alot , bcoz i am type1 diabetic diagnosed last year.. I feel lonely at times but tell myself some stupid reasons and move on .. The harsh truth is that it hurts inside. I too wanna fall in love and feel special…

Sorry, for being emotional :p have a wonderful day ..keep smiling :)

Tags: off topic

4 replies

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-03-22 16:40:12 -0500 Report

There is one thing I was told, that still holds true today. " If you don't reach out for someone to love, you may miss the the one who could be your soul mate. Sometimes they may feel the same way you do but are afraid to step up".

You never know she may be diabetic too. Every step takes putting one foot in front of the other. Talk to her, if she is right for you great and if not there is someone out there who is.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-03-22 11:54:48 -0500 Report

Hey Monuuu,

I am glad you reached out.

It is always very sad to me when people who are living with a chronic condition feel that they are "damaged" in some way, that they would not be seen as an acceptable person to date, or that they would be rejected. You miss out when you don't reach out and give someone else a chance to get to know you better, and to see where the relationship might go. In a way, it is like reading someone else's mind and then avoiding them because of the way you think they might be thinking. All based on assumptions, but not giving them a chance to show you who they are.

You not a "diabetes." You are a real person, with lots of great qualities, many reaons why someone would want to get to know you better. Diabetes is one small part of who you are. Keep focused on the big picture.

Get to know people. Make friends. We all need friends. A relationship may turn into more, or it may not. Romantic chemistry can't be predicted or forced. Be open to all the possiblities. And who knows, there may or may not be romantic chemistry on your part, either. But if you don't reach out and say "hey," you are guaranteed not to know.

Take good care of yourself. Enjoy your life. Give other people the chance to get to know you.

And stay in touch with us, my friend.


jayabee52 2014-03-21 16:03:12 -0500 Report

Howdy Mon!
Liife is too short to keep putting off love. And being T1D is one of the worst excuses for that IMHO.

And truth be told, you are ALREADY in love with the girl! (at least the way I read your original post) You may need to approach her carefully, (no declarations of love out of the blue — which may freak her out) but approach her like in a friendly way and get her laughing with your wit. Young ladies like someone who can make them laugh. Then ask her out on a date. If she does go accept you may want to tell her about your T1D (if she doesn't know already) so she knows that you're not hiding something from her.

I met a girl in a Christian coffeehouse, and was in love with her as soon as I laid eyes on her (this was back in '70 or '71) I thought that she might have a BF (she did) so I befriended her. We got to know one another as friends and she told me about a Christian college she wanted to attend, so I applied for that college and was accepted. We met again on the college campus and became close friends. Eventually we became lovers and in '77 we married. We had 3 sons together and were married for 25 years. She divorced me after taking up with another man. My not taking care of my T2D at the time had a part in the divorce.

Then 7 yrs later I met a lady on Dating4Disabled. She contacted me, attracted by my profile there (I call her "Jem"). We hit it off, but she was about 500 mi away from me. But Jem was such a fantastic lady personality wise we were in love and I eventually moved up there to marry her. We were married for 2.5 yrs before she passed. She was only 4' 10" but she left some big shoes to fill for anyone coming after. (and there have been some who have tried)

If your intended rejects you because of your T1D, at least you are not spending a lot of time when you could be looking for someone else who will accept you as a T1D. If you have trouble there you could always try Dating4Disabled. The ladies there are more comfortable with those who have medical challenges since they have medical challenges themselves.

I pray you best of success in love.

James Baker

Young1s 2014-03-21 13:14:18 -0500 Report

Hi Monuuu! We all, all of us, deserve love! Nothing about that has changed in our lives. The only change is our situation. Any woman that chooses to be with you will see this.

I just only found out that I'm diabetic two years ago. Did that make me a monster in the eyes of my family? Certainly not. It kinda made me more precious. And while I occasionally revel in the delicacy of it all, I also know that it is merely the concern for my well being.

It's the LOVE that holds true. Give her/it a chance. You'll be surprised at what it can do.