Fill in the Blank Friday: The dumbest thing anyone has said to me about my diabetes was ...

John Crowley
By John CrowleyCA Latest Reply 2014-04-07 09:49:51 -0500
Started 2014-03-07 11:36:36 -0600

Hello friends and happy Friday to you all. It's time for another Fill in the Blank Friday discussion. Last week was amazing. Thank you all for sharing your insights about exercise and physical activity. Those of us not living in the "Polar Vortex Zone" definitely feel for those of you who have suffered through such a long, difficult winter.

If you missed last week's discussion, you can check it out here:

As for this week, let's share that universal experience of people with diabetes: dumb things people say about diabetes. Right? It's happened to all of us. Some of the things are insensitive, some are ignorant, some are insulting, and some are just plain … inexplicable. For example, a total stranger who had just learned that my son has diabetes said, "You are one good-looking diabetic." What the heck does that mean?!? I mean seriously.

So please share with us your experiences. Please fill in the blank to this statement:

The dumbest thing anyone has said to me about my diabetes was …

53 replies

rwilson08 2014-03-10 18:34:35 -0500 Report

One thing that was said to me by a non diabetic was, "I know how you feel. " Clearly you don't unless you have the disease. That is one thing that urks me the most.

peggy1255 2014-03-09 20:53:12 -0500 Report

One thing that was said to me is I guess it's hard to remember your diabetic because I can't see the disease, a second thing that was said to me by a lady I play games with on the internet is , oh do you need to loose weight? Both bothered me so I looked up several article on diabetes and posted to my facebook in hopes that some of my friends would be enlightened, I do try to be patient and inform others who don't understand

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-03-09 20:45:50 -0500 Report

The dumbest thing ever said to me about my diabetes was by my Dr.'s PA. She actually said to me with a A1C of 5.6 you aren't diabetic. You just are seeking attention. My Dr. really let her have it when I mentioned it to him. All I could do is try and remind her of the hard work that goes into a low A1C and laugh like crazy. AND SHE'S A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER, GO FIGURE!!!!

lindainJapan 2014-03-09 20:45:05 -0500 Report

One person saw me bolus in a restaurant and asked what I was taking. I said insulin. She said How often? I said my pump worked all the time but I took a little extra whenever I ate food. She said Every day? I replied Sure, three or four times. She said, so you're an addict. I laughed thinking she meant to make a joke. She said, Well I feel sorry for your parents.

sugarbaby07 2014-03-08 15:21:25 -0600 Report

When I was first diagnosed back in July, I told some cousins at a family gathering about my type 2 and one of my cousins said " oh I think that will be good for you" she was speaking of my type 2 diagnosis, I guess she was meaning that I will now absolutely have to eat healthy, I still don't understand her logic though…

Chopstix 2014-03-08 13:41:55 -0600 Report

I think the first and perhaps the only time was when someone said, "You don't eat like you're diabetic. I just thought you like to eat healthy." That was from a fellow driver who I thought was a little more than half way intelligent. Oh, well! It is said in the trucking industry, "everyday you learn something new."

Type1Lou 2014-03-08 09:10:13 -0600 Report

The dumbest thing anyone has said to me about my diabetes: "Pumping makes it easier for you to disregard dietary guidelines for diabetes." Following a diabetic-friendly diet is never easy. But controlling what I eat is unaffected by the insulin regimen I use whether it is MDI or pumping. Pumping has enabled me to gain greater control of my BG's.

Pynetree 2014-03-07 21:40:01 -0600 Report

A few co-workers… all Teachers, we were discussing making a fancy cut up fruit basket and dipping some of the pineapple in a chocolate coating. I was giving my simple recipe for chocolate coating …when one said…"Terry, aren't you Diabetic..why would you even know about chocolate ..and fruit ~ you can't have them!"
LOL! I just said "Wow, been a well controlled diabetic over 10 years..I eat fruit every day, and chocolate at least one or twice a month..and no one ever told me that!" She said shook her head and said "you're gonna end up on the needle!"

robertoj 2014-03-07 22:10:03 -0600 Report

I don't spike from fruit. I tested it several times. One thing I know for sure. Every body is different. Also I'm lucky that I love very dark chocolate.

theladyiscrazy 2014-03-07 18:28:21 -0600 Report

When I was first dx, my mom said "Well you must be eating a lot of desserts and sweets, just cut them out". Really? I am the one that didn't normally do desserts. Bread, rice, pasta, etc YES but not desserts.

My 2nd favorite is (which even medical staff and nutritionist have said): at a meal, have your protein, your veggies/fruit, and then your carbs. Really? Veggies/fruits and even some protein sources all have carbs. This is why society doesn't understand that we have to figure ALL of it in. It isn't just about bread (or desserts). LOL 2014-03-07 17:51:53 -0600 Report

My daughter diagnosed @ 2 years of age. Now almost 31 yrs. Recently a ''friend'' was saying '' she must have eaten the wrong food or didn't you feed her properly''.Rather than physically administering pain I turned and walked away! No longer on friends list.I have lived with Type 1 diabetes for 52 years and have had many silly , silly things said and have now got to the stage of thinking that does it really matter what people think I am living my life and thankfully these ''experts'' are not asked for advice!

margokittycat 2014-03-07 16:01:18 -0600 Report

Ok,well the stupidest thing I have ever been asked is "How many drinks hve you had?" "You are plastered" I was having a sever insulin reaction. This was asked to me none the less at 9:00 a.m Imean seriously. I used to drink when I was young and I had my fun. But I haven't drank more than one drink for more than 6 years, and I don't drink very often, once in a blue moon I will have a drink.

dagger1234 2014-03-07 15:07:23 -0600 Report

The dumbest thing I ever heard was from my own family member. My sister…when I came back home and told everyone that I was diagnosed. She pointed at me and said "that was what I was trying to avoid getting". Mind you, she is morbidity obese and was pre diabetic. I am overweight but used to drink a lot and smoked cig and weed a lot. Let's just say I didn't have a healthy life style and also the fact I did not have Medicare and never went to get checked up, up until I was going to the bathroom every 5 mins and excessive thirst 2 months before getting checked up.

My sister still not ever wants to work out and makes excuses, eats whatever she wants. I'm not saying I'm a saint because I still act up and eat what I want from time to time too. But coming from her, she got the upper hand being checked up and knowing she was pre diabetic and got meds to take it. She says she's not diabetic but she sure gets the shakes and all the diabetic symptoms when she's low. Out of all people, she should be reaching out to me and know how it feels like. But no.

robertoj 2014-03-07 15:02:38 -0600 Report

My sister in law said that she didn't allow "shooting up" in her house.

Chris Clement
Chris Clement 2014-03-07 16:57:28 -0600 Report

I was once asked to "please go and do that in the bathroom" when I was about to inject for a meal. I was a guest at someone's home. Last dinner I ever attended there. It's not like I was stripping down to inject. I just stabbed through my shirt into my belly. Easy, discrete...but not discrete enough I guess.

Mzmorninglory 2014-03-08 16:39:28 -0600 Report

Some ppl are very queasy about seeing someone take a shot. My own husband couldn't stand to see me take mine. I really don't believe its out of meaness.

robertoj 2014-03-07 18:03:56 -0600 Report

I feel emboldened because about a month before I went on insulin I was at a party when a gentleman I was talking to suddenly opened his shirt and injected without skipping a beat.

dagger1234 2014-03-07 15:08:01 -0600 Report

Lol wow.
I realize it was a joke but still messed up. She sounds kind of like a ditz so I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

Silicone eyes
Silicone eyes 2014-03-07 14:45:35 -0600 Report

when I was w/out insurance, I would use needles twice sometimes and my gf at the time was convinced that I would give myself HIV.
I've also had an employer attempt to call the police for 'shooting up' my insulin. Fortunately, his boss was far more intelligent..

camerashy 2014-03-07 14:25:08 -0600 Report

"Diabetes is Diabetes - it's the same for everyone" That was my boss. Then when he ended up diabetic, he saw the shame in what he'd said.

dagger1234 2014-03-07 15:10:56 -0600 Report

Lmao!!!! This reminds of my bro has diabetes and he asked me "what kind/type u have". I said "2…" He said (he has type 2 too but doesnt have to use insulin like I did back then), he's like "u have the serious kind".

I was like "are u f'in ****? Both are as severe. And no one wants to choose 1 or 2". It's a bitch and a chore to handle.

jarett88 2014-03-07 14:07:45 -0600 Report

What do you do with your pump when you have sex. My reply is on her back with the beer and ashtray. That is the nice reply.

fozy 2014-03-07 13:43:21 -0600 Report

I was in a party and had this throbbing headache and a friend asked I said I need to eat now I new my eating time had passed and she said but your not overweight what!!

rcmodelr 2014-03-07 13:32:58 -0600 Report

Somebody actually asked me THIS really stupid question…

Can't you cure your Diabetes by just stopping taking the Insulin???

It may have been solidly WRONG to do so, but I couldn't help myself…

I answered his question by telling him "Well, look at it one way, and I probably COULD get rid of my Diabetes by quitting taking my Insulin. After all; have you ever heard of a corpse suffering from Diabetes? I'd soon be DEAD, so my Diabetes, in a way, would be cured."

diabeticdummy 2014-03-07 12:51:51 -0600 Report

I had the cops called on me in sept last year it was my wife's birthday I took her out to eat and yes I looked sickly was discharged from hospital day before from my second surgery from diabetes complications I was trying to be discreet and use the restroom to give myself insulin and someone saw me after getting are food was escorted to outside by police they were told I was shooting up in restroom after very long discussion they let me go we don't eat out anymore but in today's society I can see the confusion but then again if I had done it before we went in would have maybe been better choice doing it at table would have freaked out entire place I'm shire of that now

rcmodelr 2014-04-06 21:00:21 -0500 Report

When I was on MDI I never went to the bathroom to check BG OR take my Insulin shot. I just did everything at the table, shot in upper leg or abdomen so table could block shot from view if somebody didn't want to see what I was doing. But I never made any attempt to hide what I was doing. I'd set the Insulin on the table and fill syringe at eye level where I could get straight view of Insulin level drawn.
I always just figured if somebody with stomach problems can pop their pills at the table there's no justifiable reason I should have to go out of sight to take care of myself.
I never had anybody complain about my injecting in the open but did have a few times where my injecting at the table resulted in somebody from as far away as the far side of the restaurant coming up to me commenting similar to how they know someone else who has to do that, or how glad they were to see that they weren't the only one there who had to do that.
A couple times though, I had the restaurant manager approach me and tell me that they would prefer to see everybody on Insulin just inject at the table so they know what's going on because if you do it in the restroom, not only is it one of the least sanitary places to inject, but anybody using illegal drugs won't inject at the table so they'd be more likely to call cops about illegal drug use if somebody reported I was in the bathroom "shooting up" than they would if somebody reported that they saw me "shooting up" at the table.

Type1Lou 2014-03-08 09:17:56 -0600 Report

When I was on MDI, I would discretely take out my insulin pen and inject at the table…most times, nobody even notices. Now that I'm pumping, it's easier to jist bolus anywhere and attracts less attention.

Copperchef 2014-03-07 12:07:44 -0600 Report

I actually had an ex-friend of mine ask me, "Why the State was still letting me drive? Thought that you loose your vision from diabetes?' %^#%^&%$, idiot.
As I have stated before, "You can't fix Stupid".

rcmodelr 2014-04-06 21:04:55 -0500 Report

But with a properly sized strip of duct tape, you can sometimes at least keep some of that stupid from flowing out of their mouth ;)

PRINCESS KIMBERLY 2014-03-07 11:48:39 -0600 Report

I had someone ask me. Do you still have sex hot lady even though you have diadeties. Come on really. Were is this any of their business? I looked at them and said: YES I KNOW I'M HOT. I walked away. CRAZY PEOPLE!

jayabee52 2014-03-07 11:52:31 -0600 Report

sounds like you need the shirt I saw on a beautiful lady quite a while ago, it read: "Yes, I do, but NOT with you!"

jayabee52 2014-03-07 11:43:14 -0600 Report

I really haven't had many comment on my diabetes in "real" life, I have had some strange things said to me here in DC, however. One of those things was that I was putting myself in danger when I maintained an A1c of below 7.0

I think the person who said that to me meant well, but was, I believe, operating with old information

Type1Lou 2014-03-08 09:20:38 -0600 Report

That's about on a par with the person who told me I would suffer brain damage by following my low carb diet! Like Copperchef said "You can't fix stupid"

Pynetree 2014-03-07 21:56:15 -0600 Report

I was just told my my Endo, that I should be trying to raise my A1C to 7.0, due to my age! Been in the 5.2 to 5.9 A1C range for over 10 years. So this is a first for me. James, maybe that study, showing that Seniors A1C should be about 7.0, could that be what the person here on DC meant? Jayabee52 I think they may have been operating on NEW info.
(p.s…It wasn't me that said it to you, James)