You Don't Look Like A Diabetic

Just Joyce
By Just Joyce Latest Reply 2014-03-20 22:13:00 -0500
Started 2014-03-02 17:39:48 -0600

There are really times when I wish I could move to my own island and approve people who could live on it with me.

Twice this week, I have heard, "You Don't Look Like a Diabetic"

The first was last Wednesday. While sitting in the Police Commissioners Boardroom, he announced that police officers would be getting more advance first aid training and that it would include the ability to recognize diabetic problems. I along with another lady who is also diabetic applauded him for that. After the meeting, a woman walked up to me and another lady and said "wow you guys don't look like diabetics" . We both asked what does a diabetic look like.

Her response was, you have problems with your blood so you are not like us, you can't think like us, you can't eat like us and you move slower than us. My Brain to Mouth Disorder kicked in and I said I always thought you had idiotic tendencies, and now you have proven that you are totally an idiot. We both tried to explain diabetes to her. It went in one ear and out the other.

Today in Wal-Mart, I was in an aisle and I noticed a woman getting listless. I was talking to her at the time. She said she felt really dizzy. Her daughter walked up and asked mom whats wrong. I asked the lady if she was diabetic she nodded yes. I asked T1 or T2 she held up two fingers. I told her daughter to go get some juice. We were in the aisle with folding chairs so I got her in a chair. When her daughter got back I asked if she had a meter. She found it in her moms purse and I asked if I could check her blood sugar. It was 40. She started sipping the juice and someone got an employee and someone else called an ambulance. The employee said she doesn't look like a diabetic. I asked what are we suppose to look like and she said fat. I said go wait for the paramedics before I run you over with this cart. I asked her how long has she been diabetic and she said one year. Her daughter was shocked. They lived together and her daughter never knew. Mom never told her and kept it well hidden for a year. I said please talk to your daughter about it and told the daughter to go home go on line and self educate. To talk to the ER doctor. While waiting I showed her how to test her moms blood if she got like that again. When the paramedics arrived, I told them what was going on and what her blood sugar was. I told them I tested her blood sugar with her meter and she is sipping orange juice and she is a T2 Diabetic. Her daughter took my phone number and just called to say her mom was home from the ER and doing better. The doctor explained the signs and symptoms to her for hypo and hyperglycemia and that if she got that low again to get her to the ER and call her doctor.

I told her to tell her mom to take a diabetes education class and to go with her. She is now learning all she can is planning to also be tested. This is another reason why hiding diabetes is not good. Had she been home with her daughter when this happened her daughter would not have been able to help her.

Two people obviously think diabetics should look differently. One person didn't want to listen and I did not have the time to explain to the second person. I know everyone says education is the key to spreading the word to the public about diabetes. Unfortunately not everyone is willing to be educated.

I see all kinds of ads in the media about Breast Cancer, Colon Cancer, Lung Cancer and other medical problems. The only ads I see that even mention diabetes is when the ad is about medication or medical supplies. I think every diabetic on this site should contact the American Diabetes Association and ask why they are doing nothing to get Diabetic Ads on television.

63 replies

Fefe12 2014-03-09 03:22:00 -0500 Report

With all these comments I must be living on another planet. I have had no one say anything negative to me. Talked about my weight, health, activities. If they ask why I'm not having a certain food I usually reply I'm a diabetic and they say oh I understand. The most comments I get are they didnt know what foods are a starch. LOL, maybe I scare them!

Kaydoo 2014-03-08 10:09:34 -0600 Report

I just got diagnosed with type 2 and am a very fit, athletic woman. There are so many misconceptions about Type 2! I guess I got mine from my grandfather, I am glad I got tested after my symptoms got bothersome, my Ac1 (?) is 13.2.
I am hearing the you are not fat, how can you have Type 2 thing a lot

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-19 11:22:16 -0500 Report

I don't concern myself with how I got it. I have it now and there is nothing I can do about it but take care of it. Diabetes, like heart disease, kidney disease and any other disease does not care if you are fit or a couch potato. Anyone can get it. It is because of the media that people think you have to be fat to be diabetic and as usual for some people, if it was in the news it has to be true.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-08 15:23:37 -0600 Report

There are always going to be misconceptions about nearly everything in life. Some people can be educated while others will never be. My parents were not diabetic nor is my sister. I don't concern myself with who I got it from or how I got it. I have it so my concern is always going to be what am I doing to live healthier. What people don't get is that ANYONE can be a diabetic and thin or fat has nothing to do with it. The problem is the medical field. they constantly say obesity causes heart problems and diabetes yet they never say that thin people have the same problems.

tabby9146 2014-03-08 10:23:32 -0600 Report

there are many misconceptions for sure. I too am fit and type 2, at an ideal weight, though I was about 35 lbs, heavier when I was diagnosed. I too, have heard, you don't look diabetic!

tabby9146 2014-03-09 11:25:18 -0500 Report

I need to lose 3 lbs now. I gained over the winter, we had a colder winter than usual, and what did I do? got for more comfort food and it all goes to my lower tummy!! alwys has. when the subject comes up and people talk about my weight to me, I say well I actually need to lose a little, they are like no you don't, but clothes HIDE a lot too, and if I do not work on losing this small amount, I know from past experience, many yrs ago, it WILL creep up even more. btter to lose a little than a lot.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-19 11:25:34 -0500 Report

People ask me how did I lose so much weight. I tell them I put down my fork and let them process it. People spend way too much time trying to be as thin as possible and spend a fortune to do it. I wonder what would happen if they started featuring heavier people in ads. I would sit back and watch the maddness.

tabby9146 2014-03-20 19:30:51 -0500 Report

funny!! that is true. My daughter is larger boned, I am so small boned, and she is going to be heavier and she hates it, but I say to her, it does not matter, what matters is you being healthy!! she does have weight to lose for sure, she truly is chubby, mostly in the tummy, so I do worry about her being diagnosed with diabetes, and I tell her often, maybe too much, giving her pointers, keeping healthy snacks she likes in the house, etc…but I can't control what she eats at a friend's house, and some other places, and my husband, brings all the bad bad stuff home often and it is SO hard to keep her away from it. I have begged him many times and he just does not get it. he honestly thinks she will never have diabetes. She does exercise a little now at least. I have gotten her to do it with me. She is also interested in taekwondo, so getting ready to enroll her. praise the Lord!! it is about time, cause she hates to exercise

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-20 22:13:00 -0500 Report

I think the worse thing a parent can do is tell a child that they are fat or ugly. Kids hold on to those words and become self conscious and can have very low self esteem. Getting her involved in a sport was smart. She will lose the weight. Thankfully you told her it doesn't matter, Some parents tend to forget that. My cousin use to tell his son he was dumb. The poor kid believed it. I told him prove your father wrong. Be smarter than he is. I told my cousin you are not the sharpest tool in the tool shed and to stop telling his son he is dumb.

You cannot stop your daughter from being diabetic you can only help her make healthy food choices. You husband is doing what he does out of love so stop nagging him. Some people think giving food is a sign of showing love. When she gets involved in Tae Kwon Do, she may not want the treats that he brings home. It is okay to have a sweet treat now and then. They are not bad for you as long as you eat them in moderation. I hope she does good in her classes.

Kaydoo 2014-03-08 10:31:33 -0600 Report

It's funny how people comments that are so ignorant. But honestly, before I was diagnosed all I heard about Type 2 was in connection to bad food decisions. It would be nice to raise awareness

LauraS 2014-03-07 10:54:20 -0600 Report

I live with "stupid". My boyfriend just said to me if I lose weight I won't be diabetic anymore. I tried to explain to him that it has little to do with weight and that thin people also have diabetes. Even if weighed 95 lbs and ate a lot of sugar or carbs my sugar levels would still go higher and stay higher longer than a person without diabetes. He just won't listen so I don't talk to him about it anymore. Now 3 of my 4 sisters has diabetes too. Guess it runs in the family.

Chopstix 2014-03-06 15:09:13 -0600 Report

Before the government made me retire from the trucking industry I was trying to educate as many people as possible. My weight now is around 190 pounds and I am not taking any meds. And to think at one point I weighed in at 250. When my weight was at 210 I had a heart attack and bypass surgery(April 2013). An EKG done is August says that I have old heart damage that I did not know about. Maybe they missed it on the EKG I had in 2012. Go figure. One of my favorite things to drink has become a mug of warm water with a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar, a pinch of cinnamon and a pinch of ginger. Do your research as to the health benefits of each…

Set apart
Set apart 2014-03-06 07:29:42 -0600 Report

hi Joyce this is great, I get this all the time, but the sad part about it is that people are expecting me to be in a wheelchair, with bad eye sight, etc… I wear a CGM and one person told me one day, Oh I thought it was a phone, and that you were pretty important Checking messages, wow I said tha I am pretty important and that's why I take care of myself. Sometimes you almost don't even want to exert energy on explaining yourself to others! Kudos to you for taking care of others, I was at Walmart one day 4 hours from home at a training by myself. I knew I was dropping, went to the pharmacy made them aware of my condition, checked myself I was already at 35 drank juice, this wonderful pharmacist stayed with me, the whole time until I felt better. I did get scared, being away from home and what if something happened. I now have my CGM which has been a life saver!!

lorene1212 2014-03-05 23:26:31 -0600 Report

People become ignorant when it comes to things that they are not living with… Not stupid! They have no clue what or how… So when someone says something and you have an opportunity of helping them or educating them this is essential, for some the day may come along and they could be faced with diabetes like we were… They will remember you… and the things you said…

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-18 08:56:12 -0500 Report

Not everyone wants to be educated about a disease they don't have any more then they are going to remember what you said about it. They don't wake up the next morning and say, I could become diabetic so I have to try to remember what that lady/man said about it. People learn about and remember things they are interested in. Not everyone is interested in or care about something they don't have. As I said two of us tried to explain to the woman who said you don't look like a diabetic what diabetes was. She wasn't interested so she won't remember a thing we said even if she is diagnosed one day. You can't say that people will remember what you said to them if they have no interest in what you are saying to them. I don't remember have the things people say to me if I have no interest in the topic. You cannot educate everyone about diabetes, I don't try and half the time I decide if I want to answer their questions or not. I have no intention of spending a lot of my time educating people about diabetes.

lorene1212 2014-03-19 01:28:03 -0500 Report

AHHH your so right Just Joyce!
Not everyone does. Glad you said that. I did not say that… I remember before I had diabetes I too did not want to hear about it either… Thank you so much for adding that…

lorene1212 2014-03-17 22:14:31 -0500 Report

You will have to remind me of what I said and what he said. My memory no longer holds on to things as well as it did before.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-03-05 04:40:34 -0600 Report

When people find out that I'm diabetic they don't believe it either. They say but your not overweight, and your not old enough to be diabetic.. I usually say not all diabetics are overweight and not all overweight people are diabetic. Of course I then proceed to tell them my age and their jaw drops, then I tell them even children can be diabetic. It's sad to me that people preconceive things like this, but sometimes their reaction to the truth will strike me as a little funny. Don't get me wrong, it's not funny but their reaction sometimes is.

mjhorgan 2014-03-04 17:00:03 -0600 Report

People have told me:

You are a diabetic, but you look healthy?… I am thinking how am I supposed to look.

People have said, but you are so active.

I think a lot of people associate diabetes as an unhealthy lifestyle choice. People don't expect to see just regular people with diabetes.

MrsCDogg 2014-03-04 14:32:30 -0600 Report

You can't fix stupid. The only remedy is duct tape applied liberally to the mouth area!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-04 19:46:03 -0600 Report

LOL If you see anyone with either red or hot pink duct tape covering thier mouth, I did it. I rolls of both colors.

lorene1212 2014-03-03 19:43:37 -0600 Report

Personally speaking, I think there is so much depression out there would they even find the channel! LOL Seriously, your so right, my son Dr. Gary (Leander) has no clue what to look for or do, when I do his mind is blank and not getting so I let go. Education I would love to go to, there not around here that much. I am going to looking into this…Lately Bs levs. very high —cause :prednazone. Then going back on it again a couple weeks later..but I have been cutting things out and really trying… I would love being in a group with us here in it or whatever to just learn more about this… I call the people that do not know *ignorant" not stupid but >>unlearned<<<. I believe learning helps us how to do things as we go each day… Trying to help sugars my friend by coming here…

jayabee52 2014-03-05 04:39:08 -0600 Report

Howdy Lorene
I don't need prednizone or corticosteroid shots but my late wife "Jem" did. She had Lupis (SLE) and RA and those were the only meds which would work for her to lower her inflammation from a flare. She also had diabetes (I suspect she was T1 - though we never discussed it) so she would spike to 300+ when either pred or steroid shots were necessary. We had to use a sliding scale injections set up by her Endo to bring her BG numbers down closer to normal. (I say "we" cause she was totally blind and she needed me to read her sliding scale sheets and draw up her insulin doses)

Seemed like she would have a flare about once a month.

Living with Jem taught me much about diabetes and other diseases.

God's best


Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-03-05 04:20:37 -0600 Report

Prednazone affects me that way too so my MD. doesn't prescribe it for me anymore. He said that steroids are bad about causing blood sugar spikes, but it is what they prescribe for certain problems. He said people should call their MD immediately if they have a problem when taking it so they can try something different.

MarkS 2014-03-03 12:43:34 -0600 Report

Kudos to you Just Joyce; I applaud both what you said to the "idiots" as well as helping the woman with the low blood sugar. And here I always thought that diabetics were so damn good looking as compared to the normal population and that's what made us so different! It's nice to hear that I am not the only person who has "Brain to Mouth Disorder" when dealing with ignorant self-absorbed idiots!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 16:49:44 -0600 Report

Mark you simply cannot fix idiots.and Brain to Mouth Disorder is the best way to deal with them. Half the time they don't get what you say. Sometimes you just have to look at them and walk away.

tabby9146 2014-03-03 10:38:53 -0600 Report

wow! some people. Glad you set them straight. glad that lady is o.k. and now her daughter knows. It was a good thing you were in the right place at the right time Joyce. I too don't "look" diabetic, what most non-diabetics think one should look like!! if someone had said that to me, I too would have educated them right then and there. Kudos to you for what you did!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 11:32:59 -0600 Report

Tabby the woman at Police Headquarters had no interest in learning facts about diabetes. She is not going to change her opinion until someone close to her is diagnosed and even then she may not change. Sadly there are people who are not willing to learn and there is nothing we can do to change that.

GabbyPA 2014-03-03 09:41:44 -0600 Report

Everyone has preconceived ideas of what an illness does to people or in our case, what causes it usually. Until you have an instance where it's exposed to you directly, you just don't know.

Why would anyone research something they have no personal interest in? I don't blame people for not knowing. I didn't know about diabetes until I was thrust into it. In the same token, I don't research every disease so I know how to respond to someone who tells me the have it. I would hope I would be more sensitive than the people you ran into, but maybe I wouldn't because ignorance doesn't make me stupid or an idiot. It just makes me ignorant.

It's true we cannot educate people who don't want to learn, but as an advocate for the disease I do have, it's my responsibility to offer some insight to them. What they do with it is up to them.

Your heroics in the store should be remembered as life saving. That mother and daughter surely will, and they should. But I fear it may be more memorable that you threatened to run the employee over with a cart because she didn't know better.

I totally get it when people say things that just sound so irritating. And maybe a look or two is deserved. But we are the advocates for diabetes. What we show people is what they will remember.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 11:29:22 -0600 Report

Gabby one of the most important lessons I learned as an EMT is to give the person in the way something to do. It gets them out of your way and makes them feel important because they have been selected to handle a task. I have had people cut tape at shooting scenes because they were there trying to help the victim. The task gave them the sense of helping and they stayed out of the way. The employee was in my way and I needed to get rid of her..I do not care if the employees feelings were hurt or if she felt threatened. She was of no importance to me. The woman in distress was my point of focus.

Gabby in today's world of technology, there really isn't a reason for people to not know something. Although I do agree that people do not learn about anything they are not interested in.

Ignorance leads a person to do and say stupid things. Continuing to remain ignorant and stupid leads to doing and saying idiotic things. I believe that you have common sense which is a learned behavior and along with your sensitivity, I don't think you would ever tell someone they don't look like their disease or say anything about their disease.

I am a research geek and have always been that way. When I was 17, my favorite aunt had open heart surgery to replace a valve in her heart. I went to the library and read all kinds of information I could find. I was in her hospital room with her everyday and I questioned her doctor. He was surprised at what I had learned. When she was discharged. I went to stay with her because both her daughters were working. The one who lived with her was with us when the doctor gave us her care instructions. My family has heart problems and diabetes. I learned a lot about diabetes once I was diagnosed. I have one cousin with Chrones Disease. I have learned a lot about that.

No we are not all advocates for diabetes. There are people who are ashamed they have it and like the lady who hid it, so by no means are they advocating anything. I don't advocate unless I feel the need. The need right now is to have the ADA put diabetes in the media as much as cancer and maybe more diabetics and non diabetics would learn something.

GabbyPA 2014-03-03 12:31:18 -0600 Report

We are advocates not always by choice. If someone knows I'm a diabetic, even if I never share another ounce of information with them, I am the diabetic they know, What I do makes a impression for the good or bad. Just like the lady who hid it. She is the diabetic that someone knows....and she hides it. So that is her example of what diabetes is.

I recall once in Jamaica while I boarded the town bus system. I was staying with a friend in Kingston....anyway. On the bus were also the school children. Two little girls sat in front of me and whispered. One turned to me and said they had never seen a white lady on their bus before. So I chatted a bit with them and told them that I'm glad they met me. I didn't set out to be an example that day, but I was. Life just works that way.

We have an awareness day, parades and walk-a-thons. We already have magazines dedicated to our disease. We have fund raising events, jewelry, cookbooks, blogs, facebook pages and more. We even have TV shows on main stream TV. But, if I'm not a diabetic, I'm not going to stop to watch that. What more do we need but individuals to help take the broader message to the people?

By nature, we only pay attention to things that affect us directly. I have learned a lot about spinal spacticity, lymphoma, dementia, chrones disease and more...but I really don't want to have it bombarded onto me.

Where do we draw the line on demanding that every single illness has a world stage? I don't want an endless stream of illness to parade by me everyday Just sayin'.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 17:25:17 -0600 Report

So being the advocate that you are and the one who wants to leave an impression of people as a diabetic, you don't want to have information bombarded on you.

I am absolutely done. You were the one who said "we are advocates, yet now you are saying you don't want to be bombarded with information. Aren't the advocates suppose to be educating people? To advocate, you need as much information as possible out there for people to see if they choose to do so.

Not everyone including diabetics are aware of what is out there. for them, I just happened to see a diabetic magazine. I don't read magazines anymore than I watch a lot of mainstream tv. Information is knowledge so this means that yes every illness should have a world stage. Which means even advocates have to be open minded about what they are doing because people who want the information is going to come to those who have it. Since not all diabetics, heart patients, cancer patients, etc… are not informed they need the advocates to help them.

While on a California Coastal tour with 13 other people, there was a girl from Sweden. She didn't communicate with us at all. When we stopped at a restaurant, the tour guide sat her with my sister, our girlfriend and I because we were in the same age bracket as her. She was very uncomfortable. and asked to be moved from our table. She said friends in Washington, DC told her to avoid all black people because they would hurt or kill her because they were evil, vile people. The restaurant owner and tour guide refused to move her and told her what she was told by her friends was racist and a stereotype. She stayed and she asked us a lot of questions. She ended up spending the rest of the trip hanging out with us. We were the first black people she had ever spoken to in her life. We all kept in contact for about 5 years.

I think everyone leaves some kind of impression both good and bad.

Type1Lou 2014-03-03 09:08:12 -0600 Report

When I read your post, the retort that came instantly to mind was "And you don't look like an idiot!" Even educated people can be idiots when it comes to their preconceptions. I was having lunch last week with a colleague whose 19 year old granddaughter has had diabetes since age 7. She was bemoaning the fact that her daughter-in-law had pushed to get the girl an insulin pump. According to my colleague, the pump was making it easier for her to eat the stuff she should avoid. There was no convincing her that the pump is currently the closest thing to a functioning pancreas and even with shots, the granddaughter would probably have eaten the same stuff but had worse control. (I sensed a lot of friction in that familial relationship!) I did my best to educate but be non-confrontational…it fell on deaf ears.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 12:03:15 -0600 Report

Hence the term "Educated Idiots". You simply cannot educate anyone not willing to learn.

Last Saturday, I was invited to participate in a workshop. I was to sit in on the Safety and Crime workshop. The two facilitators were totally clueless about what they were saying regarding community policing. I asked if I could speak. I said my learned facilitators are doing the best with the information they have on hand however, if I could enlighten everyone, I can take the discussion to a level where we can actually accomplish something. I explained community policing and everything that was in place or on line to be put into place. One of the facilitators, got nasty and said I did not know what I was talking about. I told him he did not live in the city and should sit down, be quiet and maybe he would learn something. One of our Neighborhood Services Officers said to him, she knows what she is talking about. She has been to meetings at levels I don't get to attend. She educates us and if you open your ears you will learn also and you will become a better facilitator. At the end the guy thanked me because he actually listened and told me he learned a lot. People have to learn that sometimes if they listen they will learn.

Your colleague has a closed mind and her own opinion and will not learn anything even with you explaining things. You gave it the old college try.

JSJB 2014-03-03 05:02:51 -0600 Report

When people make S T U P I D remarks like "you do not look like a diabetic or diabetics are fat." I just smile and walk away. They do not deserve a response and if you do respond, it goes in one ear and out the other. I do agree that there is not enough information about this problem we have and there should be. It is not a problem that you get today and gone tomorrow. It is with us for the rest of our lives and some have it worse than others. I do not hesitate to tell people that I have diabetes and in doing so I have learned that people I have known for years are diabetic. I am not ashamed of having this condition because I did not do any stupid to get it. So whenever I can I try to educate people about it. Stay healthy everyone.

jarett88 2014-03-02 21:42:11 -0600 Report

Just tell them you don't look like an idiot.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-02 22:11:58 -0600 Report

jarrett, I suffer from Brain to Mouth Disorder. There are times when I think it, it comes out of my mouth before I can stop it. There there are times I just give people the look.

margokittycat 2014-03-02 19:50:45 -0600 Report

They stereo type everything and wht idiots for doing it. All diabetics are not fat all diabetics are not skinny. Diabetics aren't sick and frail and we don't look any different that anyone else walking the face of this earth. That annoys me so much when people say that, "You don't look like a diabetic" What the hell am I suppose to look like as a diabetic?

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-02 21:41:09 -0600 Report

lol read jigsaws post he gave a description. People stereotype everything they do not understand out of ignorance. I have been stereotyped my entire life. I am to the point I ignore it because I don't do stupid or idiocy.

margokittycat 2014-03-02 22:30:30 -0600 Report

Good reply. I ignore a lot anymore, but there are some that run their mouths like the idiots they are and I just have to say something.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 12:01:24 -0600 Report

True. I had a sign in my office that said. "it is better to keep your mouth closed and be thought of as brilliant than to open it and remove all doubt".

Lentyl 2014-03-02 19:43:38 -0600 Report

Excellent, Joyce. I have problems with the term "diabetic" I much prefer to say that I am a woman with diabetes. I don't like labels regardless of the medical condition.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-02 21:44:06 -0600 Report

Labels and stereotyping things and people will never go away because there are always going to be ignorant people. I have diabetes, it does not have me. Sadly there are people ashamed of having it and hiding it is not good. Secrets come out at the worse times and often leaves the person with the secret humiliated. Your term is a powerful term. It should be on a shirt.

jigsaw 2014-03-02 18:58:47 -0600 Report

I look like a diabetic! I have three eyes, 4 nostrils and a point on the top of my head. Gives it away every time.

Seriously, an excellent post with much food for thought. No doubt, your heart is in the right place!

Type1Lou 2014-03-03 08:55:58 -0600 Report

Were you an extra in one of the Star Wars movies???…I think I saw you!

jigsaw 2014-03-03 09:53:16 -0600 Report

Depends, back when Star wars came out, the point on my head was not fully developed. My diabetes has progressed since, and hence the point is much larger now. Only makes sense!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-02 21:32:54 -0600 Report

NOOOO Jigsaw, I look like a diabetic, I have Halogram in the middle of my forehead two pointed ears and a tail that is long silky and is blue and white circles.

You cannot fix stupid people. No use trying.

jigsaw 2014-03-03 10:06:19 -0600 Report

Nah, just one of the many variations that afflict some of us! A type 2.75 has a very long tail as you described. Looked it up on the internet.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-03-02 18:42:29 -0600 Report

HI Joyce,

Wow, what a great post. It is an example of the stereotypes that people carry around, out of their own ignorance, and how they hurt other people as a result. Diabetics get much more than their share of stigma, it seems to me. And the result is, for too many people, a sense of shame that causes them to hide their condition and consequently place their health at risk.

You did some good patient education!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-02 22:07:10 -0600 Report

Dr. Gary,

I know someone will be offended by this but here goes. As an African American and a female, I have been stereotyped my entire life. It has been assumed that Black people are uneducated, lack the ability to comprehend most things and are not valued as human beings. All of which are not true.

Ignorant people are the ones who do this. Education can change some views for some of them. Others seem to enjoy their ignorance because it gives them a sense of power. You can change some of the people some of the time. No one can change all of the people all of the time.

I think the lady learned a valuable lesson because had she been home alone her daughter would not have known what to do and might not have called an ambulance right away.

You know they say "Whats done in the dark will come into the light" hiding something always comes out in the worse way at the worse possible time.

When you stereotype people because of race, nationality, illness, you hurt them. Children with play with other children regardless of their nationality, religious beliefs or race with no problems until an adult teaches them hatred

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-03-03 18:49:23 -0600 Report

Hi Joyce,

This is very well said! Yes, those stereotypes are taught, we are not born with them. It's a tragedy. We miss so many opportunities to connect with each other.

I really appreciate this, my friend! And I am sure others do too.


tabby9146 2014-03-03 10:53:14 -0600 Report

I love that! I am so glad I have never had any hatred toward others, or any racism against anyone of different race, nationality, religion, or anything, but then my parents were the same, and sadly, kids get this from parents or some family member. I love this thing I saw the other day on the internet, it says to love our: and then it says our christian neighbor, Jewish neighbor, white, black, and it goes on , including others and neighbor is after each one, and it also says at the end the addicted neighbor. So many people judge, it is just ignorance in many cases, and I am personally going through an addicted family member and it hurts enough,without others judging and making comments. People need to try harder to put themselves in other's positions.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-03-03 11:50:34 -0600 Report

Someone posted that on facebook and I shared it. People are people no matter what. I judge people based on the content of their character. I can't see hating a race of people. That is a heavy burden to carry on your shoulders. My parents didn't teach us hatred, they taught us tolerance.

Tabby, back in the 80's, I worked with a KKK member. He gave our office candy every holiday. We would not eat it. He died in prison. He got arrested for taping flyers to peoples car windows in the city. He had homemade bombs in his car. His son on the other hand was very ashamed of his father.

I worked with a girl who came from a small town about an hour from the city. We worked at a state university. One day we were sitting in the office and she looked out the window and saw a white student kissing a black student and nearly had a fit. She was poorly educated but had good office skills and was hired while my co-worker was ill. The next day the construction supervisor for our new building came in and asked me to join him for lunch. She said I can't believe you would ask her to lunch when I am a white girl you could ask out. He said I hate racist people.

She told us all the stereotypical reasons why black and white people should not mix. That was her last day working with us. My supervisor told her that she was no longer needed. To this day the small town where she lives is diverse with white, black and hispanic people and to this day, they still have KKK rallies on Saturday's. They are outnumbered so people pay no attention to them.

When you label others, it shows just how vast ignorance can be. Until we learn as people to remove the labeling and stereotyping people, everyone will have to put up with it or find ways to stop it.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-03-04 22:12:14 -0600 Report

Joyce, just amazing! Thanks for sharing this with us. We have come so far but still have so far to go.

shortysmalls 2014-03-02 18:23:51 -0600 Report

yes everyone thinks that having diabetes, you look sick or different. I have had diabetes for 8 yrs now and ppl are surprised that I have it. Education is important but sometimes it doesn't get out there but it has to get out there so all can get educated. I lived with a parent who was T1 but never went to classes. I should have taken care of me when younger but when heriderity is a issue, should have gotten tested as well. But now that know have it and did get tested, its getting little easier to live with. Will get a hold of the ADA and ask why

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