Who has been the most influential person with your diabetes?

Jeanette Terry
By Jeanette TerryPA Latest Reply 2014-03-02 19:18:59 -0600
Started 2014-02-27 15:48:54 -0600

Diabetes can be a heavy burden to carry alone. I would like to think that all of us here have a strong support system of friends, family and doctors. But that isn't always the case. However, there is almost always someone else's influence that makes a difference in the way you take care of your health, whether it is for good or bad. I would love to hear who those people are in your life. They may be a bad influence that has made you want to change so you don't end up that way, or they may be a good influence that inspires you to be better. Either way, lets hear about those that influence your diabetes care.


13 replies

jigsaw
jigsaw 2014-03-02 18:08:52 -0600 Report

I haven't personally met face to face, with too many people, that have diabetes. Fortunately, I have had good insurance coverage that has allowed me to meet and talk with quite a few doctors, dieticians, nutritionists, and diabetic educators. My parents and only sister are long gone. I guess you could say I'm an orphan of sorts. So along with myself, I have been influenced by, and experienced a great deal of support from the many medical professionals that I have been fortunate to come into contact with. Of course there is my wonderful wife who has always been supportive, and the wonderful folks at DC, certainly have been a positive influence.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-03-01 15:34:19 -0600 Report

I have both in my life and depending on the day I may lean more toward one or the other. Generally, I have the support of my mom and a good friend of mine to do good. Often, I have erratic support from my immediate family and it can become a problem if I let my discipline go.

lanykins
lanykins 2014-03-01 09:19:23 -0600 Report

I don't really have anyone in my life to help me. This may sound weird, but I remember a friend of my mom's who had to eat so little to stay alive day-to-day. She is a reminder to me of how serious my diet is. Other than that, there is one person where I live who I can go to with questions but we aren't really friends, I can't sit down and talk to her. I am 65 yrs. old but everyone else I live with are in their 80s or 90s. Lots of diabetics but no one who can be a friend or just talk to.

BB42
BB42 2014-03-01 08:13:46 -0600 Report

My wife has been my rock. She has gone to classes with me, talked with counselors, and has planned our menu so that I would be able to keep my blood glucose low. Without her encouragement and support, I would never been able to deal as well as I have with my Type 2 diabetes

shoulders
shoulders 2014-02-28 22:00:14 -0600 Report

I am the strong one of what's left of our family. But, I've been talking with a good friend lately. She is my therapist, my go to friend. She helps me to see that I'm capable of taking care of myself, and that I'm worthy also. My "plate" seems to be overloaded. She helps me to keep my feet on the ground and look straight ahead.

haoleboy
haoleboy 2014-02-28 14:54:39 -0600 Report

Nothing like a lecture to stifle conversation … be that as it may …

My 'significant other', Christine, has been my biggest supporter and inspiration. It was her threat to leave me that got me to the doctors office where I was diagnosed as T2 (she knew something was wrong with me). She has stood by me through all my medical issues (stroke, loss of vision in one eye and diabetes) and is my biggest cheerleader, celebrating the victories and offering encouragement when things get rough.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-28 09:37:05 -0600 Report

Jeanette, for the life of me, I do not understand why people label just about everything. If you view diabetes as a heavy burden to carry, it will become one. If you view diabetes as a heavy burden then you are your own victim of the disease. I choose not to be a victim so I don't label things. The label can have a negative undertone so you surround yourself with negative energy which would cause me to never be around you unless I have to be. I understand what you are saying but if you look at diabetes as a heavy burden then I think you have to find out why. You are always going to be diabetic so I think you have to put it in a more positive prospective and you will no longer view it as a heavy burden.

I am the most influential person when it comes to my diabetes. This is my disease, not my sisters, my relatives or my friends. I do not ask for help from them. When you take your "burden" and put it on their shoulders, you are putting them in a position that could create a burden for them. This may make them feel obligated to be your main support system. I don't think that doing this is fair to friends, spouses or other relatives. What are you going to do if that person no longer wants to help you carry your burden, moves away, dies, or simply tell you to learn to stand on your own? I refuse to put that task on anyone's shoulders. This is why I self educated, keep an open line of communication with my doctor and if I need help I might call a diabetic friend when I have no other choice. As I said I do not focus on diabetes. Life is way to short to spend all of my time focusing on a disease that can be controlled if you work at it and make what you do a part of your daily routine. I am living life, not letting life live me.

kimfing
kimfing 2014-02-27 19:01:07 -0600 Report

My husband has been my most influential person in my care. Dx almost a year ago, he's been 33 yrs with this disease himself, so i look up to him for support and to answer all my questions. He cooks for me and he is my rock :-):-):-)

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2014-02-27 17:18:32 -0600 Report

Back in the early 2000's, my friend, Maggie, loaned me her copy of Dr Richard Bernstein's book, "Diabetes Solution". Although I was not inclined to read it, I did because Maggie encouraged me to do so. (She is a forceful character and not easily denied!)Reading it opened my eyes to the role carbs play in controlling blood sugar and changed my whole approach to managing my diabetes. Although I'm a Type 1 and Maggie is a Type 2, we've both helped each other. Thank you Maggie! I love you!