Friendships/ Or Not!!!!

By Edie Latest Reply 2009-01-09 22:28:48 -0600
Started 2009-01-03 20:33:19 -0600

Debe and Edie were talking tonite on Yahoo IM and Debe said we needed to Start a Disucssion on Friendships/or not
I would really like to know how many are still on the site and if anyone knows if anyone has passed on this last year that was on the site.

17 replies

GabbyPA 2009-01-06 09:56:47 -0600 Report

These sites are like clubs, you get members that are always here and do all kinds of activities, and others that just have the "pin". It will grow and change like the waves of the ocean, but it doesn't mean that people aren't there, they are just on the fringe, taking a break or have had something happen that has them focused on different things for a while.
When places like this become our only source of friends, we can get skewed and wonder what is going on when we don't see each other for a while. Internet friends will never replace a good hug and a face to face with a friend.

I do like the idea of an "In Memory" discussion. I know that there have been deaths in two families at least, though not members, their families are part of thier life and thus ours. Remembering them or giving loved ones a place to post a "memory" would be very nice.

Edie 2009-01-06 14:13:19 -0600 Report

I agree with you Gabby maybe you could start a In Memory of our Loved ones where we can all post the loved ones that have past on in the last year or so. I lost my mother in law best friend Aunt and a cussion all with in 3 months of each other in 2007 and 2008 There were other deaths for me also but I only named the ones that passed away this past year. I had a total of 12 deaths in my family with only 2 friends in that same time period.

GabbyPA 2009-01-07 11:28:40 -0600 Report

Wow, that is horrible. I have had several go close to each other, but never so many. It must be just incomprehensible to grieve that much.

Edie 2009-01-07 19:45:45 -0600 Report

I don't grieve for them I thank God they are no longer suffering here on earth. I have lost close to 35 family members in a total of the last 5 years. I was only close to 10 of them.

Edie 2009-01-09 22:28:48 -0600 Report

I wasn't going to go as I always get kicked out but my brother Jim called our sister's Sandy and Christine and told me I had better show up that year cause he knew I was in the State so I went and didn't get thrown out the family member that always told me to leave wasn't there then. My brother Jim told me he was sorry he had not gotten in touch with me since Dad died in 97. He was told by my 2nd oldest the I had been having Heart problems and he decided to get the appoligies over with incase something happened to either one of us. His wife Linda told me he had, had some medical problems too that got him to thinking. I told him I would not call him he wanted to talk he could call me. Every time someone in our Family called him they wanted Money and I told him I would do with out before I asked anyone for anything. LOL I am happier with nothing and being able to talk to family with out them saying what do you want now.

Edie 2009-01-05 18:42:36 -0600 Report

John Crowley
about 9 hours ago
One thing we're finding is that different people use the site differently. Some people come back every day while others visit once a month. So it's hard to say if someone has truly left the site unless they write to me and ask to be removed. If they do that, then I delete their membership and they will also be removed from your friends list.

Take care,

I got this message from John alittle while ago and thought everyone would like to see how this is handled on the site so keep the faith and keep on visiting with each other.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-05 22:02:48 -0600 Report

Thanks, Edie. I've wondered how one was removed. I've just been on here since November and I note that a number of folks who were posting back then are no longer actively posting. Don't know if they're gone altogether or not. As John said, some may just be away temporarily. Good question. Thanks for getting an answer for us.

Edie 2009-01-04 06:42:21 -0600 Report

Thankyou for posting your input on here and thankyou for letting us know you are still here for us to talk too. I am just getting going on the New Year and want to stay intouch with my friends on here better than I did last year. I wish I could send notes to 25 people at a time instead of 10 then I can let more know at a time what I am up to.
5'4" 253 pounds LOL
My numbers are jumping all around agian so I know I need to change some things this year to get a better handle on this so that I feel better longer at a time. I know when I eat pickled bologna and crackers for bedtime snack numbers are low in the morning. Things like that will help us to have more choices for snacks and such. Thanks for letting me vent on the site.
Your Friend Always;

Avera 2009-01-03 22:57:49 -0600 Report

I was wondering if this site might be able to set up a "chat room" for us right here on Diabetic Connect.. Then we could go there and during our conversations find out info such as what Edie mentioned. It would also be a place where just chatting would be fun.

Lanore 2009-01-06 08:29:08 -0600 Report

I made a suggestion like that to John a while ago now, but nothing has happened yet. I think it is a great idea. Lanore ;-)

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-03 20:37:52 -0600 Report

Edie was telling me how she wanted to clean her inbox for last year. I have no idea if any friends have passed away here. So if anyone has any info We would like to know, or if anyone quits the site is there any way of us knowing?
…Thanks, Debe

seawolf1944 2009-01-03 21:25:49 -0600 Report

This is merely a suggestion to Friendships/or Not. I think it would be an excelent ideal if,a section was added entitled: In Memory of, listing name and date deceased.John

G Thomas
G Thomas 2009-01-03 22:36:09 -0600 Report

I think you all have a good idea. There are so many of us that we can harly keep up. Not just for those that may have left us and the family has not let us know but also fot those like cherish that may have to leave for other reason. Times are getting real hard and I would be lost if not for this computor. Its my way of shutting out everyday things that drive us crazy. Knowing that I can get here and there is always someone up to talk to. John will handle it.