trying to get a ride from friends to the food bank

By vrswesley Latest Reply 2014-02-14 16:08:44 -0600
Started 2014-02-10 21:37:03 -0600

not going well.. so for all.. and there are people every where…who think if Id just go to a food bank.. id be ok… cant get there. Im telling the truth.. : ? well maybe tues…I do hate the food bank. people give crappy food to the food bank..I aways tell friends remember people have to eat what you donate , give good stuff.

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Scarlet03 2014-02-14 15:57:41 -0600 Report

I understand and do my best to avoid going to food banks. Not because of the food quality. I've gone there before many years ago when there was no outlet. Maybe it's many feelings you have about not going. I would go to food banks in my city. But they are far and time is limited. So even wanting to schedule and make an effort to go is hard even when you don't drive. When you do find a way to make your food bank journey. Its a great release

vrswesley 2014-02-14 16:08:44 -0600 Report

little energy, very little energy.. hate asking for help, hate asking for a ride.. bad health..etc. Im very happy to have food in the house again.. hard to ask for food from strangwrs…thankyou for understanding.. andI am very grateful for the food..

vrswesley 2014-02-12 00:05:45 -0600 Report

Im sorry I offended every body.. accually.. part of why I seem so rude.. Im going thruogh hell here emotionally, Im angry at the world.. no one ooin particulr… this whole topic has brought me as much pain as Ive probably brought others in what I said. which i truly dont mean the way it sounded. this is the truth.. Im greving and Im very angry..and hurt.. I walk around the house every day.. swearing.. just for the stupidest reasons.. Im deffinatly not like this.. but here I am.. tonight i was thinking about it,.. and though you are so angry.. because of Dan dieing.. it tore my haeryt out.. Im very veryt very sad. haven t been to church since his funeral.. cant go right now I know God understands.. Im doing my best.. but have alot to work though.just takes time.

I now dread coming here, to see who else Ive offended. just were I m at…sorry

dagger1234 2014-02-11 23:01:24 -0600 Report

Some people are not as blessed as others. Being someone who is also struggling with food and money issues, we should be thankful for what food banks can she'll out and give you. Some people don't have that option in other countries so be thankful and count your blessings. Eat what you have to, to survive!

vrswesley 2014-02-11 14:03:41 -0600 Report

well looks like Im not going to sugceed at the food bank, and it has nothing to do with me being rude..cause I wasnt.. but every other time Ive ever gone in only takes calling and getting an a few minutes.. today she said it could take 24 hrs. and I wont have a ride tomorrow.. my friend has other bissiness then… I susspect they are busyer than they used to be.. with food stamp cuts..(thats why Im going.)

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-11 10:00:03 -0600 Report

VR it is not my intention to offend you but I have to say this because what you said about the crappy food was offensive. Last summer, one of the community churches was giving away produce. The Excutive Director of our community assiciation and I went up to get produce for older people in the community with no transportation. We got fresh veggie and brought it back to my house and bagged it. We then distributed. We know who needs food in our community. While waiting to get what we wanted, a woman of about 50 said why yall giving away this junk. The volunteer (a church member) took the bags the woman had from her and told the woman she was too unappreciative to get the food being given. We knew they had gleaned the food that morning (local farmers let churches, community associations, and the food pantries come and pick veggies early in the morning) so it was very fresh. The woman walked away in tears because she needed the produce she had for her family but her ungratefullness caused her to be empty handed.

Our Executive Director asked the volunteer if she could look past that and give the woman the food. I told the woman that had she kept her ignorance to herself she would have gotten food she needed. I told her that the volunteers got up at 3 am to meet here, go to the farm, pick all of that produce and load the truck to get back here in time to organize everything to give away. I asked her, would you have been able to get the produce free without them? She said no. I told her that when you are as ignorant as you are and know better, you end up with nothing. I told her to go back, and publicly apologize and ask if you can have the food but also ask if you could help.

She did and she asked if she could take the food home and come back and help them. They told her they needed someone to help register people. She was given the food she wanted and desperately needed. We took her home and brought her back to help. She now volunteers and helps cook food when they feed the needy and homeless.

What you said about crappy food was inappropriate. People donate what they can afford to donate. The volunteers who box the food at the food bank do so because they want to give to those in need. Some of the very people you see volunteering do so because they too are in need and in giving back brings them peace and joy because they too are helping. When people like you who need help criticize the help they are recieving, you give those of us who give our time the impression you don't appreciate all we do for you.

If it wasn't for the food bank you wouldn't have somewhere to go to get food. Be thankful that it is there for you. If you told friends who you need to take you there, that the food is crappy, they probably won't take you because they think you don't appreciate the food you will get and they could very well be people who do donate to the Food Bank. No one knows when they may need help, those who do should have enough respect for those who are helping them and be thankful that they are there to help.

vrswesley 2014-02-11 11:50:37 -0600 Report

I realize ive offended you all..i get that.. but..I truly dont feel you understand..its not me being ungratefull.because I am..very grateful for any help i can get…I say thankyou a million times and im very sincere.. …guess i cant explain it.. this feeling what I mean../met by what I said…

Ive just noticed that I havent heard from them.. i called this morning and my friend is able to take me.. her plans got changed…so i cakll ed the bank was told theyd call me back.. havent heard anything.. I suspect they have liitle food..with all the gov cutbacks.. lots more peopleneed food but there is less to go around.., and no they arent avoiding me…Ive never said to them what I said to you…wish i could help you ubnderstand what I ment…I am gratefull that people do all this so I can eat…would be nice if the gioov would try half as hard.. to help..ok Ill shut up..

vrswesley 2014-02-11 11:29:41 -0600 Report

you dont understand..I do know people are doing all those thing..I am very graftefuklll and never have said that there..I always say thankyou several times when im there.. and I am grateful for all the help I get I truley am ..I myself have donated food to banks too..I have gotten great food many times..I m sorry i offended you ..its just do get food…you wounldnt buy.. I usially end up giving 1/2 the food I get away..because I can eat it…I am gratefull you dont understand..its just frustrating..

you dont know me in person and barley know me have offended ,me just as I offended you
you dont know me i am grateful.I cant explain

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-11 12:13:21 -0600 Report

I accept you apology and as I said I did not mean to intentionaly offend you. I simply do not like to hear people who get help criticize the help they get. All of us out there who give time out of our lives do what we can to help others and often it is a thankless job.

You should always remember that NO ONE has to help you. I for one didn't have to tell you to go to a food bank or to contact churches near you to see if they have a food pantry that would help you. I could have left you to flounder on your own.

To read that the food is crappy and to read now that you wouldn't buy some of the items, demeans those of us who try to help people.

It was snowing Sunday when my sister and I went to the store. Two blocks from my house are people living under and over pass. A woman and her 12 yr old had made sandwiches and bought juice to give to the homeless people. Do you think she would do it again if one of them had said the sandwich was crappy even if they thanked her? Probably not. She didn't have to do that. She could have stayed home in her warm house and left them there cold and hungry. This is why you simply don't say what you said.

vrswesley 2014-02-11 12:53:37 -0600 Report

I wasnt flownderiing alone as you said,,I know they are there..I know they do very good things…I repect the people that run them and all that.. you arnet ynderstanding me.. but i cant seem to explain myself… thankyou for trying to help.. Ive just been in the system for 30?yrs I know most of this..not all but alot..Ive gone to thje food bank around here manty times…Im not trying to be rude even now.. just saying.. thabnkyou for you effotrrts ..