handling the negative

allen405
By allen405 Latest Reply 2014-02-17 09:27:09 -0600
Started 2014-02-05 14:46:19 -0600

I know I'm not the only one who gets upset or really angry at the diabetes and the fact you're stuck with it.

How do you handle it? Or what do you do to get rid off the attitude?


30 replies

allen405
allen405 2014-02-16 22:45:48 -0600 Report

So I was reading and thinking about all the great replies and I came up with a solution. I'm coming to terms with it and just work with it. I've noticed that I've had better numbers this week. I'm also going to see an endocrinologist on the 5th of March.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-02-10 18:15:20 -0600 Report

Hey allen,

Living with a chronic condition brings up a lot of emotions. Including anger. Some days you just don't feel like dealing with it all.

Here is a link to an article I wrote awhile back:

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/diabetes-discussions/general/11765-living-with-the-unwanted-houseguest

Don't fight your feelings. When you feel mad, you feel mad. When you need to vent, you need to vent.

Support is power. When you feel that way, it's time to reach out to other people who are traveling this road along beside you and get how you feel, and can offer support based on their own experiences. So glad you are here!

One step at a time, one day at a time. Taking the best possible care of yourself.

Gary

IronOre
IronOre 2014-02-09 09:49:18 -0600 Report

what others have eluded to below . . .
just look at the other people around you who have it much worse than you, and then you realize how good you actually have it.
I think a bad thing about diabetes (compared to those who have it worse than you) is that it is possible to have a perfectly normal life, so when the hassles of diabetes can get in the way of that it just makes very frustrating.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2014-02-08 18:23:21 -0600 Report

I do my best to keep busy giving less time to dwell on being a PWD 2. Very sensitive to drugs..my medical provider is very understanding. Doesn't do changes without my agreement. Suggested to me last ov to up my minutes on treadmill and do aerobics and muscle strengthening exercises. I'm 71 yrs. and am doing for Srs. exercises. I already notice I am more limber and am hoping to drop my A1C. Yes sometimes down but most r ok, I know I'm doing something to help myself. Sleep real well at night too.

allen405
allen405 2014-02-07 05:56:47 -0600 Report

Wow, a definite wealth of info folks, thanks. Will work on attitude.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-07 10:03:49 -0600 Report

In 1944, Johnny Mercer wrote the lyrics to a song. In 1945 that song spent 13 weeks on the Billboard Charts. The name of the song is "Accentuate the Positive". A lyric goes "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negatives and don't mess with Mr. Inbetween". If you have never heard the full song it is on You Tube.

You are the only one in your life who can change your attitude and the sooner you do this the happier you will be. Diabetes can be controlled and no matter how much you hate it, it is not going anywhere.

One Step at a Time
One Step at a Time 2014-02-07 05:43:22 -0600 Report

If I get upset my Bg goes up. So then diabetes wins again. Being type 1 I can't get away from all my testing and taking my meds, so if I don't take control and tell diabetes who's boss, then I've become a victim. I am not a victim-

What frustrates me is more people not knowing the whole story, or trying to judge what foods I put in my plate. I had a coworker ask me: Well, you look great. I'm so glad you're getting over this diabetes thing and it isn't too severe. My uncle had very severe diabetes… Well, yes. It's a disease that has altered my lifestyle and changed my health outlook. I live with this 24/7 and can't even begin to tell you the emotional stress I'm under. But diabetes is diabetes. There isn't a less severe kind or more severe kind. The severity of complications from diabetes is related to your management and how fat you're willing to go.

Sorry for the vent. But it makes me crazy!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-06 18:56:18 -0600 Report

I don't have time to get mad at diabetes because I don't have far too many other things to do. I also don't view it as being stuck with it. I actually believe that people choose to be mad at diabetes and choose to feel they are stuck with it because it is easier than accepting it. You can't change that so you have to choose to live with it.

It is your life so you can either dwell on the negatives and get to the point you are miserable or you can choose to do something more positive with your life.

I have diabetes, it does not have me and it does not control my life. I control my diabetes. I don't focus on being diabetic. I focus on learning new things, trying out different things and more importantly being thankful I have all my limbs. Life is short so you can choose to spend it being mad and stuck or you can choose to live your life to the fullest, it is up to you.

jigsaw
jigsaw 2014-02-07 18:39:05 -0600 Report

Beautiful words Joyce! I definitely support and share your potently positive attitude. I feel like I've had diabetes for so long, I sometimes forget I have it. Last year, my primary care physician told me I'm in better shape then the average American! Wow, I know, I'm bragging again, but I couldn't resist. I admit, I'm getting a bit lazier then I used to be, but the years are creeping up on me, my health is still good, and I'm very much alive and enjoying my one shot at life! Just like you I would imagine!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-07 22:06:14 -0600 Report

Jigsaw when I get old and feeble I am going to sit back relax and chase the old guys in the nursing home just for fun.

As long as I am alive and kicking I am going to enjoy life. Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone so just for today, I am going to dance like there is no tomorrow.

jigsaw
jigsaw 2014-02-08 07:48:12 -0600 Report

Well Joyce, when I get old and feeble, and in a nursing home, I'll make sure I have my sneakers on! Just in case I look over my shoulder and see you charging at me. Of course I might fool you, turn around face you, and chase you! That"s when the real problem begins. Should I catch you, or you catch me, we would probably be at a loss! What next! Who knows!

Red-Sox-Rich
Red-Sox-Rich 2014-02-06 18:36:18 -0600 Report

I found that the best was to handle a negative attitude is to commit to making a major positive change like attempting to lower your BS. If your numbers are high or erratic try to change diet and exercise to lower your average BS. Prove to yourself that you can do it and feed off the great feeling of being able to succeed!! Good Luck Allen !

jarett88
jarett88 2014-02-05 23:09:59 -0600 Report

Diabetes can be irritating. I just put it in the category with paying taxes. Just have to deal with it. For me its become normal. Good luck.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2014-02-05 18:07:49 -0600 Report

I was never really allowed to adopt an attitude. I have a friend in a wheelchair. In Chicago.
Even with the weather this year he manages to go out and get groceries.
Jerk beats me at paintball too.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-06 18:59:34 -0600 Report

Nick after working in a rehab hospital, I have seen spinal cord patients do all kinds of amazing things. The best was watching a wheelchair basketball team beat the crap out of people on two feet.

Just goes to show you, no matter what disease or disability you have, you can do anything you want to do. Beats sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Hope you get to win at paintball one day.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2014-02-07 08:13:56 -0600 Report

He had a weightlifting accident when we were teens, and since then he’s just made it his life. I can’t really imagine what he’d be like without the wheels, leg braces, or crutches. I keep trying to get him to move south by us and out of the snow, but he loves the city and I can understand that.
He’s pretty inventive too. He’s made special snow tips for his crutches when getting in and out of his van which he figured might just work in sand too, so he might be joining us on vacation in December. Good possibility we’ll get a snorkel on him and get him out in the water too. I think that might just be a pleasant payback for all the paintball kill shots I took from him over the years.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-07 09:58:10 -0600 Report

Are you asking for punishment, get him in a snorkel and he does better than you…LOL.

Nick animals can adjust to their habitat Some humans on the other hand can't or won't do this. It is easy to whine and complain and be negative. They don't want to thrive. These people need to go somehwere together and let the rest of us move on with our lives.

You friend chooses to thrive and be all he can be even from a wheelchair. Us city people love being in a city. Each city has its own heartbeat with many things to do often in our own backyard. I could not live in an area where I can't walk 3 blocks to public transportation if needed. I am 20 mins from a major airport (I have made it in 10 mins breaking the speed limit) I can walk to two stadiums, a symphony hall, two theaters if I want to see a play and to the Inner Harbor. I am 40 mins from Wash. DC and 4 hrs from New York. I can now hop on a transit bus to the train station and catch a commuter train to DC on weekends when I want to go to the Smithsonian Museums.

I am glad your friend is doing something positive with his life. To invent something that makes it easier to get around on his crutches so he can get in and out of his van.

Life is meant to be lived through all its ups and downs. Those of us with a positive attitude are the happiest of all people.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2014-02-07 10:39:47 -0600 Report

You might be right – after nearly 40 years of it he’s got strength in areas I don’t, and some leg use, just not enough to support his own weight.
Yep, like Dr. Gary once said – you gotta live life on life’s terms. Use what you’ve got instead of worrying about what you don’t. I understand Allen is probably in a dark place right now – we’ve all experienced it, but hopefully all these posts will help him understand it’s not anywhere near the end of the world. In fact it may just be a doorway to a new and better one.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-07 11:04:25 -0600 Report

Thats the way I view things. It isn't the end of the world it is the beginning of the next phase of life. and nothing has to be difficult unless you choose to make it difficult. It still comes down to making choices that only you can make.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-02-05 17:16:59 -0600 Report

My response is much like silicone's Exercise is the key IMO. It lowers your blood glucose (BG) levels plus exercise is also said to promote endorphins in the brain.

I used to (before my stamina went away) dance all kinds of vigorous dances.
I knew that the endorphins had kicked in when my diabetic Neuropathy didn't burn with each step. Unfortunately the endorphins wore off later once I was done dancing.

Silicone eyes
Silicone eyes 2014-02-05 16:47:46 -0600 Report

For me anger would just fester if I didn't do something. The best I ever got at it, and am getting back into it now, I would strap on some head phones and some fast, aggressive, angry, music, and run, down the road, on a treadmill, eliptical, ride a bike, anything. Hardcore, all in, until I had no fight or anger left. When you catch your breath, it starts to dawn on you that not only is the anger gone, or going, but you just did something to make it better.
Good luck getting adjusted to this new life, you can do it.

Jeanette Terry
Jeanette TerryPA 2014-02-05 15:28:16 -0600 Report

No matter how mad I get, diabetes isn't going away. I have learned that it doesn't do any good to get mad cause I am the only one that will get hurt by that. I sometimes wish that diabetes was a person that I could get mad and and plan revenge some how. But alas, that is just a fantasy and it is much healthier to live in the real world :)

I have found however, that the better control of my diabetes I have, the less I hate it because it gives me the power. Even though I am stuck with it, at least I can control it, it doesn't have to control me.

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