Self-Esteem

Debe Pendice
By Debe Pendice Latest Reply 2010-01-03 17:41:25 -0600
Started 2009-01-02 21:27:03 -0600

What do you do when your self-esteem is a Big "0". I don't think mine could get any lower…


28 replies

AddassaMari
AddassaMari 2010-01-03 17:41:25 -0600 Report

The beauty of a new day is that we cannot change what happened yesterday, but what we do today can affect all our tomorrows.
The only reason to look back on yesterday is to make today a better day by learning from our mistakes not dwell on our shortcomings.
Take yesterdays' success and make it the foundation for tomorrows' successes.
Build on that each day and if you stumble or even fall, you have not failed unless you did not get up.

Debe, you are important to everyone, even those who do not know you. For you complete our world and make it a better place simply by being.

Mimi7499
Mimi7499 2009-01-15 15:39:58 -0600 Report

Hi Debe :-) Along the way and throughout the years, I became more confident. The things that helped me are acknowledging my condition and accepting it. The other thing that empowered me was educating myself the things that affect my system of management. For me, that was with insulin and which foods affect my levels. I learned and asked my doctors many questions. I also stay updated with magazines like Diabetes Forecast. Just find what interests you the most and learn what you can. The more you do it the more you feel like you are empowered. People will be impressed with how well you know your condition. But you will be the one impressed with yourself. You will find many other things along the way.
Just remember that with diabetes you have choices to make daily. I personally made a conscious decision to accept and manage diabetes.

It's not easy at all but you always have a choice regarding how you choose to interpret living with diabetes. We did not ask for it but we live with it and will continue to. I think that already makes us worthy of applause :-)
I hope you find the strength to find a smoother path towards a more confident and worthy you. You are great as you are right now. Just start believing that.

Ani
Ani 2009-01-14 12:17:34 -0600 Report

Think that you are here for a reason. A reson that you have to find out. Then you will know what you were ment to do with your life and you will see that your self esteem will shine.
God has plans for you all you have to do is beilev in him and youself.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-05 12:38:43 -0600 Report

I can't believe the out pour of messages I received from everyone here on this site when I mention I was in depression. My self esteem went from the Big "0" to about a five now. I think that everyone gave me the boost I needed. I seen my MD this AM and told him I think I was in depression. He said Oh I am so happy you decided you can't hold the world up on your own shoulders alone. This is a problem you can't keep to yourself. And is you tell someone and they understand because most people go throught depression at some time in there life, could reach out and help you. I just want youns to know You friends have gave me a great start to making myself better. Thats my goal this year. Not to beat myself up and learn how to like myself. My brother always said to me, You have to like yourself before you can like anyone else…Thanks Debe

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2009-01-05 12:40:53 -0600 Report

love you,debe

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-05 12:52:49 -0600 Report

Ditto. If there is just one person helped through the support and encouragement we provide, then the site is a huge success. Happily, however, I think we're all benefiting from it in some form or another. There have been many times in my life - and probably in yours - when I doubt I'd have made it if not for loving, caring friends who were there to encourage and lend support. If the entire world could capture that spirit of caring and wanting to help each other, wouldn't it be a much better place?!

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2009-01-05 13:09:02 -0600 Report

Our Sweet Debe,

I know we have a special discussion for quotes, but this quote seems to apply so well with your depression. ((((HUGS))))
-Ken

Just remember, you can do anything you set your mind to, but it takes action, perseverance, and facing your fears.
— Gillian Anderson

Anonymous
Anonymous 2009-01-05 13:52:47 -0600 Report

I think what we do for people is great and I have a theory. While we have our families and close friends to talk with in real life, sometimes it is easier to talk online with people because you do not have to worry so much about being judge. We can provide advice and uplifting comments. While we all feel like family on here it is still kind of in private and we can be freer with our posts and comments than we do in real life, I have told you all things that I have not told my family. Does any of this make sense? I want to encourage all of us to remember that just saying hello to the community on a daily basis is connecting with people and I enjoy it. I may talk too much but I hope I have helped some with advice or comments or helpful hints. I enjoy reading everyones post and get inspiration, advice and helpful hints from everyone.

2009-01-05 14:02:52 -0600 Report

Debe, I am always concerned about you and I hope you are feeling better. I guess I am a little down now myself, slowly, but I am more worried about you and all my friends here. TGFTS ThankGodForThisSite!

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-05 14:13:01 -0600 Report

There certainly is benefit in being able to talk with someone that you do not necessarily know. One of things we derive from this site is theknowledge that we are not alone in our dpression or frustration. We often feel that way, I think. Our circumstances and the level of depression, etc., might vary greatly, but pain is pain. None of us want to see others hurting, but it does provide us some encouragement knowing that we're not the only ones hurting. We derive even more encouragement when we hear stories of success - making it through a tough time. So let's remember to relate that too.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-04 05:38:52 -0600 Report

I want to thank everyone that has been so helpful to me. I have received so many personal messages from so many on here. To know I have friends that have offer me lots of wisdom and set away time just to converse with me one on one is such a great feeling. I not saying I am a 100% yet but just the attitute and concern from others here have me on my way. Thanks so much everyone for all the messages and you know I will be there for youns too…Debe

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2009-01-03 13:49:38 -0600 Report

Debe,

You are one of the main reasons most of us spend time on this site. You encourage us and correct us when we start heading in the direction you are headed toward. Maybe the rest of us can combine our forces and come close to matching the friend that you are to all of us, but I doubt it. You are an incredible woman and a dear friend and confidant to us all.
-Ken

2009-01-03 11:49:28 -0600 Report

I, too, suffer from depression and low self-esteem, so I know what you're going thru. If you ever need someone to talk over the blues with, just give me a yell. I'm on here all the time. Bless you.

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2009-01-03 11:44:55 -0600 Report

i am so sorry you are having a rough time! i think the world of you! i like to read your posts! you are a very helpful person ! and you have a lot of information, compassion, and ideas to share! thank you!

2009-01-03 09:59:30 -0600 Report

I had a horrible day yesterday. Mt testing numbers stayed between 30 and a high of 68. I looked in the mirror and I look so tired. It's hard to stay positive about yourself when u do everything "right" and diabetes still drags you down. Angie

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-03 11:38:31 -0600 Report

That is just scary to me. I would not be able to stand up, since I get shakey, etc., when in the 70's. Does your doctor know you're experiencing those type lows?? Definitely not safe. I noted in another post (and questioned) that you took insulin one morning after a fasting BS in the 60's. Not sure why you would continue insulin when your readings are so low.

2009-01-03 12:03:08 -0600 Report

That's what I thought too Lady. I finally have an appointment with an endo doc on Monday. I'm positive they have got my medicine wrong. Thanks so much for the advise! I will let you know what he says. Mt readings so far today have been 72 and 73 and I'm better for now. Your friend, Angie

DJ
DJ 2009-01-04 07:32:27 -0600 Report

Whoa!!..Angie, way to low Sweety!!How can you possibly cope with levels that low?? It could be doing damage to your heart..You need to speak with your Doctor ASAP. I never let my levels go below 90 and my Doctor told me last time I was there that if you are over 50 the AMA now suggests that you do not go below 100, as it can put a big strain on your heart..his words not mine. I feel best at about 125 and I try to stay there for a resting BG(Morning)..sometimes go a bit higher but never the kind of lows you are talking about. Please talk to your Dr.
Concerned,*DJ

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-02 22:10:36 -0600 Report

I am so happy with all the motivation everyone seems to be offering me or anyone going through this also. I was afraid to mention this in fear that the friend here would think I may be crazy. Truthfully I am, but this hits me a little harder. I could deal with being crazy, but I having a hard time liking and dealing with myself…Debe

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-02 22:01:04 -0600 Report

We all could probably share times in our lives when we felt like our lives were in shambles and appeared to never get better. Times when we felt frightened and hopeless…times when we felt alone or that no one really cared…times when we had family issues and/or financial problems, sickness, etc. Many of us can attest to the fact that we made it through those times, as tough as it was to do so, so we can empathize with others who experience anxiety and depression, for whatever reasons. But most of us can also relate wonderful times in our lives, and memories of better days. Sometimes the difficulties in our lives overshadow the things we should be thankful for. We have to step back and try to see and remember those things. For anyone experiencing depression right now, you are very loved by God and so very important to Him. Never lose sight of that. We all have strength and abilities that we never know we have until we're tested.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2009-01-03 10:22:31 -0600 Report

I am reminded from reading this post that "God will not give us anything that He thinks we cannot handle." And looking back on some of the bad I have had. That is true. I handled it and I am now a better person for it. Whether it was finances, health issues, family problems, I always knew I would come through it on the other side.

2catty
2catty 2009-01-02 21:56:14 -0600 Report

I feel like I need to work on my self esteem. I feel horrible about myself most of the time. I looked in the mirror yesterday and said to myself how do I change something big for me in a good way for the new year? Well I got my waist length hair cut to shoulder length and it looks good. I am very happy about my hair. Now 1,000 more to go. Ehh! And on top of it I feel like I am useless. I can't do much of anything right. I need to change a lot on the outside and inside.

Avera
Avera 2009-01-02 21:55:14 -0600 Report

Hi Debe,

First of all, what you are experiencing is normal. At many times in our lives, we all have low self esteem for many different reasons.

WE ALL HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT OURSELVES! However, it can be very difficult to feel good about yourself when you are under the stress of having symptoms that are hard to manage, when you are dealing with a disability or disease such as diabetes, when you are having a difficult time, or when others are treating you badly. At these times, it is easy to be drawn into a downward spiral of lower and lower self-esteem. For instance, you may begin feeling bad about yourself when someone insults you, you are under a lot of pressure at work, or you are having a difficult time getting along with someone in your family.

As you begin to try and improve your self esteem you may notice that you have some feelings of resistance to positive feelings about yourself. This is normal. Don't let these feelings stop you from feeling good about yourself. They will diminish as you feel better and better about yourself. To help relieve these feelings, let your friends know what you are going through. Have a good cry if you can. Do things to relax, such as meditating or taking a nice warm bath.

Recently, I saw several articles online that have helped me with my self esteem. I am going to list the links and I hope that you will read them because they are good ones.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self-esteem/...

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_h...

Personally, I think you are one very fine lady! You sure go out of your way to help me and even remember when I am looking for answers to questions and help me find them. BUT, I also realize all of us get down on ourselves. Just hope what I wrote will help!

Avera

caragypsy
caragypsy 2009-01-02 21:46:13 -0600 Report

I think this week mine is "-1". I've messed up bad on to many things and I keep going down. I hope we git better soon. Cara

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-02 21:49:15 -0600 Report

Cara,
Maybe we both could listen to what our other friends have to offer and instill in us and go from there. I am here and will to take anyones comments. I hope to hear from alot of friends that have been through this and found away to survive it. Were in this together…
Debe

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-01-02 21:33:06 -0600 Report

Oh, Debe. I hate to hear that. (Just sent you an email moments ago, by the way.) I don't know much about you or your life, but one thing I do know. You are very loved by and important to God, and that's the most important thing to remember. We all love you here, you know, and we're all great judges of character! You're still in this world for a reason…because there's something or some things that God has planned for you. It's so easy to be overwhelmed by the negative things and to find it hard to see the good in our lives. Try to find those things and focus on those. Hang in there. It will get better, I'm sure.

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