Ive decided to find a new doc

By vrswesley Latest Reply 2014-02-07 23:05:34 -0600
Started 2014-02-03 13:06:40 -0600

many of you have said you though t I should do this.. Ive decided on my own that I no longer feel safee and trust her…

I have decided I need a new pcp. that I dont trust her anymore. my husband always wanted me to do this.. I think I need to. now to find a new good doc that takes my insurance, that fits me ..not easy.

29 replies

vrswesley 2014-02-07 20:38:23 -0600 Report

well yesterday I found a doc, today I found a better one!.. so Ill probabvly cancel the one I made yesterday..todays is female(yesterdays wasnt) and her office is closer to my preseent house.. very good thing…and she has a good reputation. : )

red flower lady
red flower lady 2014-02-07 23:05:34 -0600 Report

You need to have a good working relationship with your doctor and now that you are a team. You have to make sure to take an active part in your care. know why you are going, and make a list of concerns and questions and follow the plan you and the doctor come up with. Speak up if something isn't working. I just went to doctor today and love her.

Chopstix 2014-02-07 00:09:37 -0600 Report

Don't forget to write down your questions, and take them with you, before you go. If the doc does not pay attention to what you are asking, etc., he/she may not be the right one. The best of luck to you…

vrswesley 2014-02-07 00:36:40 -0600 Report

oh I will : ) thankyou though ..learned to do that a long tome ago… going to make one last attemp with my pressent doc .. not to keep her, just to move the process along faster..I dsee her next week and im not telling her.. for a couple months yet.. hoping shell send me to a kidney doc soon. going to requet ut.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-02-06 17:40:06 -0600 Report

Hi vrswesley,

Changing doctors is a very big decision, as well as a lot of work. As you said, finding the right fit in terms of the qualities you are looking for, as well as who participates in your health plan, can be a real challenge. It takes a lot of time and patience.

And as others have said, your doctor is your healthcare partner, not your friend but also not your boss. You have to be able to communicate, to ask questions and to give opinions, to make decisions together, to be a team. And you have to have a doctor that you respect, who has a solid track record in treating diabetes.

Here's a link to a recent article I wrote that might help you when you are ready to say goodbye to your current doctor:


Take your time with this decision. Make the next move with confidence. And keep us posted on your progress.


vrswesley 2014-02-06 09:20:03 -0600 Report

well the good news is after a million phone calls finally founfd a doc that hopfully fills most of my critira.. wont know for sure til I get there.. but I have and appt in late mar.. so we will see.if you pray … dont know if this is worth it or not was hoping to move that next week out of state.. this whole thing might be pointless.. waiting on God to help me with he money..I know he wants me to go… but that will only happen if he raises the money for me..to move. need to… we will see.. Iknow Im gpoing.. just dont know when. that why I decided not to wait to change docs even withthe plainned move.


vrswesley 2014-02-06 05:19:50 -0600 Report

I found a place this morning, interesting..kind of outside the box for me.. they are medical but also look at the whole person… I admit that makes me a bit nervous: ) but also curious…the website says they take medicaid.. we will see.. websites are notoriously wrong about that..ill call at 8 am…we shall see

If they dont work I have a list of others to call.

Ive been asked before if I had to choose between a good doc and a personable one(good bedside manner) I always say …for me I cant choose..I consider for me both indsespensible.

Ofcourse i want you to be a good doc.. knowledgable etc, but for me if you arent friendly, personable..I cant work with you..I just cant ..its a part of my makeup. I learned that yearsd ago.. some people think that is silly -I have a good friend who feels this way. she doesnt understand this about me..

Im not just making it difficult, Im hunting for what I NEED in a doc.. if they arent friendly-I cant work with them…

Im basically a very shy person..its very difficult for me to say this or that is a problem, help me fix it, even medically.. or Im worried about this, please check it out and tell me whats up.

I want to know everything..I want and will ask tons of questions..if in the right atmosphere..if its the wrong place..and I dont feel safe -I wont and I wont get good medical care…because they wont know everythiing they need to know..

just wanted to explain some of what somepeople here my find strange about me..its ok..we are all different. this is just how i work.. its taken years for me to learn this about me and to also learn that it ok that im like this.

vrswesley 2014-02-06 07:29:46 -0600 Report

right now
I have called..I dont know3-5 doc offices-just today/..in a half hournobody is either taking new patirnts or with take medicare medicaide..docs hate medicaid..I know that , but they usually will take you beause of the medicare.. I just hung up the phone and thought I might as well not have insurance.. !

vrswesley 2014-02-06 07:31:15 -0600 Report

need to go back to sleep be awak 2-3 hrs..long enough rught now…have a head ache and my stomaches not happy.

debimzadi 2014-02-05 04:13:55 -0600 Report

You need to do what is right for you. It is your health and your responsibility. As others have responded you are your doctors employer.

GabbyPA 2014-02-04 15:43:34 -0600 Report

Standing up for yourself is the first rule in health care. After all, the doctor is there to help you...you pay them....not the other way around. You have the right to feel safe and know that your doctor has your care in mind. It is harder to find them like that anymore, so when you do, hold on tight.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-04 08:30:43 -0600 Report

In one of your previous postings you stated your doctor was leaving and that you didn't want to go to another health clinic because you didn't want to leave them You implied that you and your doctor were friends. A doctor is not a friend the doctor is your employee. You pay the doctor through insurance/copay and out of pocket.

Trust is a two way street. The doctor trust you to follow instructions and you trust the doctor to take care of you health. How safe do you want to be. Doctors are humans who make mistakes and patients are humans who can create other medical problems by not following instructions or discuss medical issues with their doctors.

Both of you have to communicate. Doctors work better with patients who educate themselves enough to ask questions about their health problems. If you don't do that, then the doctor will think you have no problems and will continue treating you not knowing that you do have questions. Far too many people don't talk to their doctors and don't fully understand what their doctors wants to do or what results the doctor hopes to see.

vrswesley 2014-02-04 11:30:15 -0600 Report

first Im moving, just dont know whenyet. sone but dont know how soon…next she and I arent friends, but we are very friendly.that is something I need in a doc..so that i can tell her everything she needs to know..which you arent understanding, I ask question s and tell her tons of info.she gets the info and I ask the questions..she just has a blind spot when it comes to my diabetis..I feel. we dont communicatewell on the diabetis..byut now you may understand why. I reasearch reseach reseach… all the time..but also know that I cant be dignosed buy internrt I need her for that.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-05 10:21:08 -0600 Report

You don't need to be friendly with a doctor to tell them everything he or she needs to know. You need a doctor who listens.

I have seen specialist for the first time which means I don't know how friendly the doctor is. I tell them what they need to know to help me with my medical problems. If you are looking for a doctor that is friendly, you may be overlooking good doctors. Not all of them are friendly which does not mean you can't tell them what you need to know.

If you are moving to another city, community, or state, you can start looking for doctors in the area now. Some now have facebook pages and you can review what patients say about them. You can even review them just by checking out their location. Good luck.

jayabee52 2014-02-04 02:05:47 -0600 Report

I believe you are making a good choice, V. Please look at these tips to find a new Dr here ~ http://www.healthcommunities.com/health-care-... Here is an important tip from the article: "Contact your insurance company for a list of health care providers in your area. Many insurance companies supply their members with doctor listings that include in-plan and out-of-plan providers. " Perhaps that might be your first task in your search.

Prayers for your success!


vrswesley 2014-02-03 23:42:51 -0600 Report

one Ive been with her for 215 yrs..2 its hard ti find a new one that takes my insurance.

jarett88 2014-02-03 20:40:55 -0600 Report

Not easy. Remember they work for you. You pay them you can fire them. I fire a lot in the last 30 years.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-04 08:32:43 -0600 Report

Jarett I do not understand why people don't know this. Doctors are your employee and you can fire them. I have done that numerous times and I will tell them why I fired them.

vrswesley 2014-02-04 12:13:11 -0600 Report

actually Ive fired alot too..I just have been with her longer..just majes it harder for me…just the way I am…I know she works for me..thwey all do.

vrswesley 2014-02-05 20:24:15 -0600 Report

you have your style ..I g=have mine ok? we are different people..this is how I have to do things..you wouldnt thats ok..your not me.

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