help!!!!! i can't cook (unable not unwilling - disability issues)

By moonbeam95 Latest Reply 2014-02-06 03:21:38 -0600
Started 2014-01-28 11:03:57 -0600

well, here goes. i am physically unable to cook anymore. what i need to know is how i can manage my type 2 diabetes with fresh and frozen foods that aren't part of a recipe, but things i can just eat as they are. am i making any sense to anyone? i hope so. i eat raw veggies, fruit, nuts, greek yogurt. can i eat bread with peanut butter, instant oatmeal, what? my A1C levels were under 6 for years and now i'm at 6.4, down from 6.6 3 months ago. i'm struggling to lose weight with some success, but not enough. my metformin dose was raised by 1/3 when i hit 6.6. i know many people are dealing with higher numbers, but i feel like i'm losing control of my diabetes and am so disappointed with myself and have no idea how to make it better. any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

41 replies

shorty1965 2014-02-02 10:33:24 -0600 Report

I have been the same with high numbers that it seems my a1c has gone from 10.3 to11.9,they just put me on insulin and I'm trying to work out more,just walking,I'm going to get more water in my system, and read all the food label that has helped with my sugar intake and now I have started writing things down in my book so I can see what I have done day to day and that has helped me,my number's has always been 389or more so bad my eyes would hurt,in the past 2 weeks of change they have been 180or less and that makes me feel better if it goes up I drink lots of water to bring it back down.I hope this helps anybody.get the book so you get to see your progress it helps.

moonbeam95 2014-02-03 15:19:00 -0600 Report

hi and thanks. do you have a specific book you use?

shorty1965 2014-02-04 05:08:19 -0600 Report

No just a small book that can fit in my bag so I can carry it every we're everyday no matter we're I go,that's a big help for me and I hope it help others also,keep me posted please.

Glucerna 2014-02-02 21:42:57 -0600 Report

You're making excellent changes and seeing really good results. Keeping written track of what you eat and drink, blood sugar numbers and exercise can help you see where to make changes, and also notice what strategies work the best for you. ~Lynn @Glucerna

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-02-01 23:11:23 -0600 Report

Hey moonbeam,

Nice to see you. I am not a physician or a CDE so I am sorry to say I don't have anything helpful to offer on improving your numbers.

But I wanted to encourage you not to be hard on yourself. It has been my experience in working with my clients that diabetic self-care is an ongoing process. Sometimes you reach a rough spot, and it's time to take a step back and look at what's going on, maybe to make some adjustments here, a few tweaks there.

You came to the right place! I am glad you reached out. Be patient with yourself. Updating your information is a step in the right direction. If you haven't already, you might also want to consider sitting down with a CDE and going over your self-care regimen.

Stay in touch with us! You are not alone.


meadowrose 2014-02-01 14:52:06 -0600 Report

It sounds like you're eating some healthy foods, moonbeam95. I would stay away from instant oatmeal, though. As far as bread goes, many people with diabetes can't handle it. I've been doing some experimenting, myself, and have found that (at least so far, anyway), FiberOne bread seems to work for me. Two slices equal 100 calories and a total of about 14-15 net carbs. It's expensive, but I've discovered that higher prices are what I'll have to live with if I want to eat bread; most breads seem to average about 13-16 carbs per slice. Peanut butter is a good choice to use that is relatively low-carb. Canned nuts are also a good low-carb choice if you can afford it. With regards to being disappointed in yourself, be careful about knocking yourself. Diabetes is progressive and, from what you've posted, it's a physical inability rather than an unwillingness to cook. And you're trying to choose foods as healthfully as you can (and doing a great job by the sounds of it, by the way). And, if able, find ways to get active and exercise to tolerance. That will also help with your blood sugar control.

moonbeam95 2014-02-03 15:24:10 -0600 Report

Thank you! it helped, and i appreciate the advice. i'll check out FiberOne bread. i usually eat 1 slice a day…

Danny1966 2014-01-30 12:28:36 -0600 Report

I certainly wish you the very best as I can't imagine the difficulties you are going through. My only piece of advice is please take every opportunity to exercise in some way even if it is something small. I have a friend who is wheelchair bound and uses a machine that is nothing more than bicycle pedals you sit on a table top and operate by hand. It is something he can do and it make a huge difference. Find some way to get some exercise. You can do it!!!

haoleboy 2014-01-28 17:19:27 -0600 Report

your diet pretty much sounds like mine for the past year. after my stroke (which made cooking an extreme sport) I have chosen to eat raw, single ingredient foods as much as possible. I believe that to be the healthiest diet and I credit it for what success I have had.
(beware of packaged /processed foods as they may contain high amounts of sodium and saturated fats)

Bekah Nikole
Bekah Nikole 2014-01-30 07:02:26 -0600 Report

If you can't use your stove, can you use a slow cooker? I love using mine and there are a lot of books/magazines out there with recipes. I make one or two meals a paycheck with it. The leftovers are always easy to pop in the microwave. Ziploc makes steamer bags that I use all the time for veggies (frozen or raw) and the instructions are easy. It took me a little while, but I found just plain peanut butter (no salt or sugar added) the brand was Crazy Richard's. Now though when I can find it I buy the freshly ground stuff. Watch out when you have sandwiches you might want to try wraps or only eating half (so you're only eating one slice of bread). Try hummas with your carrots for a change. I used instant oatmeal too when I first got started (mainly cause it was fast and I would be shaky first thing in the morning) try Better Oats. I love having frozen fruit with my oatmeal in the morning. It's better then the flavored stuff and it helps to cool the oatmeal down whichever way you make it.

buffy360 2014-01-30 18:40:56 -0600 Report

I LOVE Ziplock Steamer Bags!!! BPA FREE
Just bought new package 3.65 for 12? Mostly use for red potatoes, Schwann"s Asparagus. I wash 5-6 potatoes with Fit Wash, stick a few holes through skin with a fork, put two in bag and store in vegetable drawer to pop in microwave when ready for dinner 6-8 minutes. Use pepper, light-salt 50% (Morton's), LF cottage cheese adds protein, calcium, and moisture; add vegetable and voila! I also LOVE Bird's Eye Fresh Selects frozen vegetables you can microwave in the bag. Go to their website to see the many selections. My store has only a few to choose. I'm getting hungry ;-)

meadowrose 2014-02-01 14:42:14 -0600 Report

I cannot discipline myself with ice cream. According to the package, a serving size is only half a cup. I tend to stop at a large bowlful. Consequently, I can't keep it in the house. If I do want an ice cream, I'll go to someplace like Bright's or Baskin Robbins and get one scoop. Then that craving is taken care of. Usually they have a sugar-free variety that I choose.

moonbeam95 2014-02-03 15:28:51 -0600 Report

i've found that a Skinny Cow 'truffle' ice cream bar on occasion does not make me spike and is reasonable in calorie and carb count…

haoleboy 2014-02-01 16:41:05 -0600 Report

Ben and Jerry's was my downfall (Cherry Garcia) and there was no stopping until it was all gone.
Quit cold turkey a year ago.

moonbeam95 2014-01-29 09:43:10 -0600 Report

thanks so much for sharing this. i agree with the raw single ingredient approach, but was afraid i was just justifying in my head. you're right about the frozen processed stuff — that's when i feel guilty, but sometimes it seems hard to avoid. thanks for support. i avoid the saturated fat like the lague, but the carb levels are hard to keep under good control.

buffy360 2014-02-06 03:21:38 -0600 Report

Yes they can be a bugger! This is a hard thing to face. I've been able to literally block my eyesight with my hands and say out loud, "no…no.. no… What else is on my list?". So far it's worki g but for me it's staying out of the bakery!

GabbyPA 2014-01-28 16:10:37 -0600 Report

It sounds actually like the foods you are eating are actually good for you. Cooking things takes away nutrients, though it does add flavor wise. Can you use a microwave? You can steam foods in there.

moonbeam95 2014-01-29 09:45:49 -0600 Report

thank you and thanks for your friend request. i'm so new at this i don't know how to accept, LOL! i'll figure it out. what's the best way, if there is one, to crush a sweet tooth?

GabbyPA 2014-01-29 13:57:52 -0600 Report

You figured it out just fine. You can always email me if you have questions or need help with the site.

Ahhhh, the sweet tooth. Why do we have those? For me, it has to be cold turkey. I cannot discipline myself enough to do the moderation thing. I'm just not good at that. So I take it all out of the house and then something like a fruit or a drink with Truvia is my option...I have to take it. Eventually, the cravings will get better. But it just takes one stupid jelly bean or something like that to push me off target. That's why I just try to keep it out of the house. My worst nemesis is ice cream, and we have been free of it for several months now, and I don't crave it anymore. Whew.

Glucerna 2014-01-28 15:37:47 -0600 Report

I'm a big fan of Meals on Wheels and was a volunteer driver for many years. Grocery stores now carry a number of ready-to-eat foods like salads, roasted or grilled chicken and soups. ~Lynn @Glucerna

shorty1965 2014-02-02 23:06:09 -0600 Report

Hello,Lynn I would like to know how to get that and is it expensive and when can we get it started and I would like in to on glucerna because I don't really eat I'm just starting to try more my doctor said that may be good for me

Glucerna 2014-02-03 11:39:36 -0600 Report

Shorty, typically your local Council on Aging is the one in charge of Meals on Wheels. Contact them to find out about the program. Meals on Wheels asks for a donation, but they're not allowed to charge a specific amount. Since your doctor recommended looking into Glucerna, you can usually find it in grocery stores, stores like Target or Kmart, and even online. ~Lynn @Glucerna

moonbeam95 2014-01-29 09:53:20 -0600 Report

thanks. i do get meals on wheels, but in my area it's pretty unpalatable a lot of the time. i am so grateful for them though. i know i will always get some veggies at the very least. love the volunteers. one went to college with me! what a strange but fun reunion. do you have any recommendations on the tuna that now comes in a bag, with various flavors added. also, what about glucerna bars to prevent spikes? are they effective? they seem high in calories. the soups from the store are great. salads are harder for me to find, but i'll look harder. i do eaat some chicken, but mostly fish. no red meat for many years. thanks for writing!

Glucerna 2014-01-29 15:23:39 -0600 Report

Tuna in the bags is another really good idea. You can eat it as is, on a sandwich, or mix in with veggies for a salad. The grilled chicken salads from fast food places are options as well. You have a bunch of excellent ideas! ~Lynn @Glucerna

buffy360 2014-02-01 23:27:25 -0600 Report

MOW also has minimum age restriction in our area-65… They also use white bread, no condiments, a slice meat and cheese. Not very healthy.

moonbeam95 2014-02-03 15:33:31 -0600 Report

you can ask for a diabetic and vegetarian menu. they will take someone on disability under 65 (me). but i agree, don't expect the a supremely healthy experience…

Rebelove 2014-01-28 11:48:48 -0600 Report

Good afternoon! :) Sounds like you have a lot of issues, and I'd like to try to help a little, if I can. I have a lot of questions, though, like…do you have a dietician? If not, find out from your doctor how many carbs per meal you should limit yourself to. Eating raw fruits and veggies is good, a slice of bread with peanut butter is good, also low-fat cheeses and cottage cheese, yogurt, etc. There might be some frozen dinners you can microwave, but they tend to be higher in salt than some foods, so be careful…Weight Watchers and Lean Cuisine come to mind. Now, do your disability issues hinder you from cooking, or is it that you have no place to cook? Do you qualify for Meals-on-Wheels? Also, try calling a local diabetes association…they may be able to point you in the right direction. Lastly, it doesn't matter what OTHER people's numbers or issues are…it matters that you are seeking help and advice for YOUR particular problem. Talk to your doctor about your feelings of loss of control of your diabetes, and ask how you can re-gain that control. I wish you all the best, and I am here if you need me. There are lots of others on this site with similar issues…hopefully someone here can help more than I was able to. God be with you! :)

moonbeam95 2014-01-29 10:05:32 -0600 Report

thank you. you helped a great deal. reassurance that at least i'm headed in the right direction, doing most of the things you suggested. dietitian, but haven't seen her since my numbers have gone up. my doctor referred me to an endocrinologist for several issues, my diabetes being one. the appt is in a month or so. my disabilities hinder me from cooking and my oven/stove doesn't work well. do have a microwave. lean cuisine and weight watchers meals and a few healthy choice selections do come in handy now and then, but i feel guilty that i'm not cooking. i need to get over it ! it's just the way it is.everyone who has replied to my entry has been so supportive and quite reassuring. i do gratefully receive meals on wheels. just found laughing cow cheese and i love it with carrots and red bell peppers! YUM. thank you again for your help and good wishes. all the best to you.

buffy360 2014-01-30 18:45:09 -0600 Report

You do WHAT you CAN DO until you can do more or differently. Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do. Keep going!

Harlen 2014-01-28 11:11:10 -0600 Report

There are options you have all the frozen meals just keep the pasta to a min.
There are meal drinks that you can use .
The big thing will be keeping the carbs low .
Best wishes

moonbeam95 2014-01-29 10:09:06 -0600 Report

thanks. do you recommend any meal drinks in particular? i'd like to incorporate those into my diet from time to time. how low do you keep your daily carbs? just wondering…

Harlen 2014-01-29 15:05:44 -0600 Report

I need to keep my carbs very low (insulin resistance ) like 35 grams a day .so I can't have the drinks .
Healthy Choice seams to be the best for me .
On Sunday I will make a big pot of soup and eat on it the hole week. Sad to say it's all out of cans but I do what I can for right now