By katiejoanne Latest Reply 2013-12-18 12:46:36 -0600
Started 2013-12-14 13:38:09 -0600

I have been diabetic for 14 years, as a kid my parents always micro managed me testing and giving injections. After 18, they let me do it on my own. I was told most teen diabetics go through their rebellious stage of denying it and not taking care of themselves. Being 22, now I still have to times where it's easier to ignore, but I can see the toll it's taking. Is there anything you guys do or think to yourselves to get yourself through these kinda of times? To get you past the denial stage and to get yourself to realize this needs to be dealt with and it's not that difficult? Thanks for the support!

17 replies

sandyfrazzini 2013-12-18 12:14:53 -0600 Report

Hi Katiejoanne,
I have been a type 1 diabetic for over 31 years, I have been struggling alot with my control lately too. I do really well for a long time and then it's almost like I don't care anymore and my bloodsugars are all over the place. I am in the process of trying to get control of my diabetes again and for me right now that means lowing my stress levels. The important thing to remember is just to keep trying, it's not easy but it's worth it and there are alot of people out there going through the same thing. Good luck to you and try to stay possitive.

katiejoanne 2013-12-18 12:46:36 -0600 Report

Thank you, I'm doing a lot better than i was, and for a little bit I wasn't getting results I wanted, but I realized it takes time and work to get those numbers that are so achievable! I wish you the best of luck! Keep going, stay strong! And remember to just breathe.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-12-17 22:44:33 -0600 Report

Hey katiejoanne,

I am glad you are here! I think it's normal to go through times when you are just don't want to have to deal with the day-to-day responsibilities of diabetes, and wish you could take a break. That doesn't mean you should or that you will. But it's just human. And I often talk with diabetes who say they have felt kind of burned out at times.

Here's a link to an article I posted awhile back that you might find helpful:

As others have said, focus on the benefits that staying compliant brings to your life. Feeling better, being able to do the things you enjoy, and knowing that you are taking the best care of yourself.

And get lots of support from people who are traveling that road along beside you. You came to the right place. So stay in touch with us, my friend.


ko4 2013-12-16 14:05:14 -0600 Report

Hi katiejoanne,
I went through the exact same stage of not wanting to take responsibility for my diabetes. I was so angry I think I just blamed myself and thought I didn't deserve any help. I stopped taking my insulin and became so so ill. Infact when I first joined this forum I posted a message similar to yours, titled 'struggling' too!! My hba1c results have always been high (over 11%) but last week at clinic I'm back down to 7% (which is brill for me!) the thing that made me suddenly realise that I needed to take care of myself was how lousy I was feeling. I was sick and tired of always being sick and tired. I felt drained all the time and struggled with pain etc. the main thing to remember is diabetes IS manageable, and you have to control it and not let it control you. I wish i would of had someone I could talk to when I was younger, I regret so much not looking after myself better but better late than never! I hope you manage to control your sugars, just keep in mind your target! I also found writing everything down, even what kind of mood I was in, helped me so much. I tested my sugars 2hrs after everything I ate and drank and know so much more now of what to avoid - orange juice sends my sugars soaring!!! At the end of the day, it's your body. It took me till I was 21, diagnosed for 12yrs before I realised this. Good luck :) x

katiejoanne 2013-12-16 14:18:45 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for sharing with me! I will definitely try writing, I love to write! So that will be a great outlet. I think posting this was a great thing for me! Seeing the support from other diabetics has been amazing! So thank you for responding and giving me a little more hope and seeing I'm not alone in this!

21Rose'syearsT1 2013-12-16 09:53:09 -0600 Report

I was diagnosed as a child about two weeks old and my dad took care of me for 14 years until I moved to the USA at 14 my whole world turn upside down when I had to into the foster care system I cannot say they weren't helpful but once I turned 18 I was in complete denial. I told my self I didn't have diabetes anymore because my doctor told me I was fine. For almost two years I stop taking my insulin until I realized how sick I was getting. I'm 21 now I'm taking of myself. I know it's hard, you want to do everything with your friends but you have to remember that you have a different lifestyle (meter) LOL

jaydoubleyou23 2013-12-15 16:35:21 -0600 Report

The only advice I can really give you is just to think about your future and where you want to be in it. You have to look forwards, whether your goal is to get married and have kids, or it's to take part in your dream career; and how healthy you need to be to complete these goals. You have to think about caring for your diabetes as a lifestyles now, and not just a redundant process. It's definitely complicated, but you just have to keep pushing yourself. :)
I went through the same thing when I was working at my last job at a deli, I was always on the move and never tested and never gave insulin when I wanted to eat something. What made it even worse was that my bosses never gave me any time to care for myself either, even when I explained my condition to them. Soon after, my a1c's went way up and my boyfriend finally convinced me to quit and find a new job because my health was more important.

katiejoanne 2013-12-15 20:16:13 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for the response. I'm starting to be a lot more positive, and it's becoming easier to deal with day to day! I'm a very optimistic person, which is why it's so weird that I'm having a hard time sometimes, but pushing myself day to day and taking it one day at a time is definitely helping! Thanks again! You have definitely helped and brightened my day a little bit more :)

GabbyPA 2013-12-15 12:44:19 -0600 Report

The kind of things that motivate me vary from time to time. Often it is just that I hate feeling crummy and when I have high sugar, I feel grumpy, tired and unmotivated. Getting strict with myself for a few days usually can jump start me. I just tell myself it's for today. Just get through today, and after I have done that for a few days, it seems to click.

Other times when I have not been able to climb out of my self made hole, it takes a swift kick in my butt to get me to start again. One summer it was a reading of a little over 400 on my meter. I got scared and that helped motivate me.

I was stuck in a rut a few months back, and I asked for some coaching from a member here that really helped me get back on track. There is nothing wrong with asking for help at any age. Just make sure you really want to do something with that help and move forward.

Sometimes I even set little stupid goals like if I keep a week of good numbers, I can get a pair of walking shoes or something like that. I try not to reward myself with food. I used to do that, and it makes problems for me. But use something out there that you want really bad, unrelated to diabetes and make your self care be your means to the goal.

katiejoanne 2013-12-15 13:00:32 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for your response. It's so great to hear other diabetics ways to keep motivation. I really like the goals and rewarding yourself that's a great way! I was thinking of getting a note book and keeping track of everything, writing numbers, what I did to correct that days flaws, what works and what doesn't, and how I felt that day. I love to write and it has always helped me express myself. I have been in a whole for a while now, and I really want to climb out, and even reading and connecting with people on here has been awesome! I have been doing a lot better these past few days, with checking and even eating healthier! Thank you so much for your response it's greatly appreciated!

GabbyPA 2013-12-15 22:25:22 -0600 Report

It is funny how being here helps so much. I totally understand what you mean. When I am away from here or some kind of accountability, I struggle much more. Being here helps me a lot too. I'm glad to hear it is working for you as well.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-12-14 18:49:39 -0600 Report

At 18 you are an adult. Your parents gave you the means and helped you take care of yourself. The rest is up to you. At 18 you have to be responsible for yourself. If you choose to manage your diabetes and live healthier. As dagger said you know right from wrong. Your parents took care of you and now you are asking others to replace them. Either put on your big girl pants and take care of yourself as you know you should or suffer for it in the end.

dagger1234 2013-12-14 14:02:46 -0600 Report

I get that when you're younger and you're like 2.3,5-12 years old, and still need help etc, it's fine. But I say now if you're over 18 and know right from wrong, it's all up to you to decide if you want to manage your diabetes and be healthier and have it under control, or don't give a f—-, and do what you want. Do whatever you want but it will come back and bite you in the a—. I say take care of yourself now.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-12-14 18:50:20 -0600 Report

I absolutely love your reponse. At some point you have to grow up and be responsible for your own health.

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