why don't doctors explain them sefl at times?

islandgirl - 27414
By islandgirl - 27414 Latest Reply 2009-01-15 20:53:04 -0600
Started 2008-12-28 18:16:23 -0600

I went to visit my doctor on the 15th of this month and got my blood work back on to be told that i am a high Risk for heartatack and was left at that. on the 19th of this month i eneded up in the hospital with chest pains and pains alson side the left side of my arm. i don't understand about some dococtors . can some one help me on this and what to do?


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islandgirl - 27414
islandgirl - 27414 2009-01-15 20:53:04 -0600 Report

well here was the deal with my doctor. I am putting you on antidepressant medications, also it's good for anxiety attacks. and I will see you on the 23rd on this month. But I tell you what I am going in there and getting answers from her and want a second opinion. I thank you all so very much for you feed back and helping me to be strong.

islandgirl - 27414
islandgirl - 27414 2009-01-15 20:51:37 -0600 Report

well here was the deal with my doctor. I am putting you on antidepressant medications, also it's good for anxiety attacks. and I will see you on the 23rd on this month. But I tell you what I am going in there and getting answers from her and want a second opinion. I thank you all so very much for you feed back and helping me to be strong.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-01-02 07:23:34 -0600 Report

OK, Let me start by saying, my MD knows when I am in one of his rooms he better be prepared to answer my list of questions. Yes I said list of questions. He knows I will not leave his office until he has an answer. I maybe educating him as well. Just think he has no choice to find out what I ask, because when the next pt has that question he'll know the answer. The only problem is no one beside me has and questions for him. What? How could anyone go to the MD and not have a single question? When I worked in the ER for 23 years, you wouldn't believe the people that would come in and empty a bag of medicine for me to write down. As I ask them what each and everyone was for , there answer would be because my MD ordered them. I say do you have diabetes, because I notice a diabetic pill. This person is a diabetic and doesn't know. They is a problem. So my suggestion is to take a list of questions and if they can't answer them go find another MD…Debe

Macilla
Macilla 2009-01-01 16:14:54 -0600 Report

island girl i'm sure you were scared as well as angry and you had every right to be. from now on though speak up and let someone know you don't understand what your doctor is talking about.take a friend or family member with you to dr appointments and if you're still left in the dark i would change drs and find one that takes the time to make sure i understand.good luck and i hope you are feeling better. keeping you in my prayers, Macilla

Gabby
GabbyPA 2009-01-01 14:31:12 -0600 Report

Unfortunately, there are a lot of doctors out there like that. They think you know what they are talking about unlsess you ask questions. I know sometimes you don't know what to ask, but if something doesn't "feel" right, let them know.

I ran into this at my first visit a few weeks ago. I was so pissed at the attitude of the NP that saw me I just cried. I knew I could find the answeres I needed with some research, but I was looking forward to talking with someone that could offer me advice that I didn't have to triple check....I was so upset.
I have to see her one more time before I get to see the doctor, so now that I know how she is, I am going in armed. The gloves are off! LOL
I had all my books, logs, meter and things with me the first time...she just upset me so bad because every thing I brought up she pretty much ingnored. We will see if she redeems herself on my next visit.
I would definitely get a list of "what am I supposed to do?" questions for your next visit, and I would not wait until a scheduled appointment, I would go as soon as you can. You obviously cannot wait to find out what you are supposed to be doing for your heart health. If your doctor doesn't help...then just find another if you can.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-31 15:09:11 -0600 Report

You should always remember that your doctor works for you! You are HIS employer! You're paying him to do a job. If you pay someone to cut your hair and they don't do it like you asked, do you still pay them? Same with a doctor. I know, they have this medical degree and all this knowledge, and are "professionals". But they are also "businesspeople" running their own practice. If they aren't living up to their end of the bargain, find someone who will. Let your doctor know in no uncertain terms that you WILL go somewhere else if you feel you must to get the care you want.

jaclyncrystal
jaclyncrystal 2008-12-31 01:53:39 -0600 Report

demand answers that you can understand, keep asking until you get a reasonable reply, some dr. do not take the time to explain themselves, they just get you in and rush you out, always make a list of questions before you go, get the answers, take the time to make notes, if your dr. cares he will take the time and realize that you are aware of your health, unfortunately it is up to each one of us to demand answers, for several years i went to all my daughters dr. appts. as the dr. never talked in layman terms, take someone with you, they can remember to ask important questions. Have a healthy and happy new year. hugs jackie

gunther123
gunther123 2008-12-29 16:17:12 -0600 Report

My first thought if I was receiving that news would be to drill the doctor on his statement, what is his basis, how long, what makes him believe that, what's up with the blood work. In short I would want a mini-course pertaining to my condition.
It is very unnerving when a doctor just drops a bomb and walks away. I guess I would also ask him what he means at risk? What level of risk? I certainly would not let him off the hook until he AT LEAST referred me to a specialist and begin whatever treatment that's appropiate.
Sometimes doctors keep looking at their watch like they are counting how many minutes each person has in order for him/her to see the next patient on time. It's like a quantity issue with them, at least so it seems. It certainly is frusterating and does make one angry.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2008-12-29 17:42:39 -0600 Report

iT'S LIKE IT WAS SAID HERE, YOU ARE PYING HIM. iF HE DOESN'T WANT TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWERS YOU WANT tHEN FIRE HIM.
iT'S HARD TO FIND A GOOD DOCTOR DUE TO ALL THE LIMITATIONS THE INSURANCE COMPANYS HAVE. IGHT NOW I AM IN THE PROCESS OF FINDING ME A NEW HEART DR. AS MINE LEFT THE PRACTICE. THE PARTNERS HE HAD ARE THE TYPE WHO DON'T LIKE TO TAKE TIME WITH A PATIENT. SO I AM LOOKING FOR ON THAT TAKES HIS TIME AND EXPLAINS EVERTHING.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2008-12-29 15:35:10 -0600 Report

If you're doctor didn't give you instructions and medications, then I'm not impressed with him at all and would be looking for another. He should do that without your having to ask for explanations, but, as everyone else has stressed, you cannot be intimated or afraid to ask. Sometimes we're so startled by what the doctor has just told us that we really don't absorb it all immediately or think of the questions that need to be asked. But once you have these questions (make a list to take with you), make an appointment and get the answers. I too am curious about the outcome of your trip to the ER, AND about what has transpired between you and your doctor since that event. Please update us.

2008-12-29 15:38:25 -0600 Report

As I stated in my post above, I couldn't agree with you more. I am not impressed by this dr. either. I would be changing quickly!! You just said it better than I did. Thanks!! MaryS

kdroberts
kdroberts 2008-12-29 06:49:30 -0600 Report

It's a two way street. If you don't understand something then you have to ask. If you have questions, you have to ask. If you still don't understand after an explanation, you have to tell them that and get a better explanation that you do understand.

2008-12-28 20:28:08 -0600 Report

ASK, ASK, ASK!!! Ask questions until you get all the answers you need. If you don't get the answers or the dr says they don't have the time, change drs. If they don't have time to answer your questions, you don't have the time for them. Find someone who will take the time to talk with you and answer your questions!!! It's your health and your money that's paying them!!!

2008-12-28 20:09:28 -0600 Report

Personally, I would have asked why he said that at the 15th appointment and if he didn't explain I'd have told him bluntly that he was 'fired'. I don't put up with that kind of treatment from any medical professional. I pay them to be my doctor and if they can't talk to me and explain what they mean to me then they don't last long. I was spoiled, I had the same doctor for 20 years and he was wonderful but he retired. Since then it's been switching networks with insurance and such so establishing a relationship with a doctor is tough. I have a new one again that I've seen once and I see him in February again and if he is as grumpy as he was the first time I saw him he won't be my doctor for very long.

Don't ever be afraid to ask the doctor or nurse what, when, how, why, what ever it takes. It's your health and living with a mystery is not a way to live. Good luck with that. Also how did the ER visit go? Were you having a heart attack or just anxiety from the mystery?

*Judy

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2008-12-28 20:01:28 -0600 Report

if he is like my doctor,you have to be assertive to get the information you want! also the more knowledge that you get before you see him ,again will help you be confident and able to ask the right questions. what did the hospital staff say about your heart problem?

islandgirl - 27414
islandgirl - 27414 2009-01-15 20:51:18 -0600 Report

well here was the deal with my doctor. I am putting you on antidepressant medications, also it's good for anxiety attacks. and I will see you on the 23rd on this month. But I tell you what I am going in there and getting answers from her and want a second opinion. I thank you all so very much for you feed back and helping me to be strong.

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