I've been so naughty

By vgarrison Latest Reply 2009-01-01 11:20:09 -0600
Started 2008-12-27 13:49:17 -0600

I have now been at my parents house for 2 weeks, and I am finding it extremely difficult. My parents are policing everything I put in my mouth…I mean geesh I am 28 years old people, but my mom is a nurse and this is first time she has been there since I was diagnosed.

It has gotten so bad that there are times when I sneak stuff into the bathroom and moaw it down, just to defy them…(I have never gotten over the rebelious teen years apparently).

I have tried to talk to them, but of course they are the parents and they know whats best right…NOT..

My numbers are all over the place lately because of this "bienge" eating, but I can't seem to stop it. And of course because of my numbers being so high, I am a CRANKY monster…and of course that is making it soooo much better…LOL…

Thanks for letting me vent…it will get so much better, when we can move out and just come back over here to visit…

Blessed Be

18 replies

GabbyPA 2008-12-28 13:22:48 -0600 Report

I had an easy Thanksgiving, but Christmas time was really hard for me. When I didn't start out my day right, it just slipped all the way down the tubes too. I can empethize with you. It is frustrating when others want to rule your life.
My husband does that in another area, and what it ended up doing was making me lazy minded. I hated that. I know he means well, but it is a bother.
Once you have dealt with it for a while, I am sure that they will calm down. They are still worried, as many people who don't "get it" still see it as a death sentance like cancer. You know they have had visions dancing in their heads of what "might" happen. They may not say it, but I bet they are scared too.
Don't beat yourself up. Just get back in control and back on board. I know I have to do that, and I am looking forward to a clean start this week. You will show them what you can do in 2009. You'll see.

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2008-12-28 16:34:18 -0600 Report

Gabby, that is probably the best reply on the whole page.

GabbyPA 2008-12-29 08:37:08 -0600 Report

I don't understand? What do you mean by "reply on the whole page'?

2008-12-28 12:23:55 -0600 Report

I sympathize with you, but on the other hand, I would give anything to have my parents with me and hear them tell me just one more time what to do!!! (And I'm 56 yrs old)!

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2008-12-29 09:16:52 -0600 Report

I feel the same way you do Mary, my mom has been gone 13 years and my dad 3 and I'm only 41. What I'd give to have them tell me what to do and what to or not to eat. I know I have to have a better 2009 and get back on track. This was the first holiday season for me and I didn't do so well. Need to get back to excersing and eating better. Best of luck to all in 2009. Let's all have a better year. Hugs and prayers Lisa Ann

2008-12-28 06:40:33 -0600 Report

I know how you feel! After I was released from the hospital, my parents insisted that I stay with them for a few days. They treated me the same way about food and all I wanted to do was go home! At 28 or 43 like me, parents are parents, and we are lucky to have them. Tell you what though, I made my 4 hour drive home in a 3 hours that day, I've never been so glad to see my house and cocker spaniels! :)

vgarrison 2008-12-28 01:43:41 -0600 Report

thank you everyone…I think it was exactly what I needed…just to get it off my chest, and know there are others there to support me!!! I hate the f/ct that I dont have the access to the internet like I used to…I think of everyone on here as family, and I miss you all like crazy.

I have also figured out that I am having small forms of anxiety and I am working on that as well…

Blessed Be

sexyswamprat 2008-12-27 19:13:33 -0600 Report

I have never been a big fan of people monitoring what I eat and hearing "your diabetic, you shouldn't, or can't eat that". I am 37 years old and I do believe I can make my own decisions as to what I put in to my body. I am so sorry to hear you are having this problem with your parents. Instead of bienge eating, because you are only hurting yourself, as you can see in your readings, be strong and just tell your parents you are adult and therfore can make your own choices has to your eating habits. that would be my advice. I know I have told my mother on many occasions "hey, I'm a big girl and I don't need to be monitored on what I eat." Sometimes in a not so nice way because I'm fed up. I know you are a strong woman and can take control of the situation. I have so much faith in you sweetheart. Remember you are not hurting your parents by beinge eating, you are hurting yourself and you are so much better than that. Take back control of your diabetes.

Love and Support Always,

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-31 15:00:03 -0600 Report

Unhappily, when I was first diagnosed, I was about 21 years old. Every time the family would get together to eat (I had already moved out on my own by this time), my mom would fix the food for everyone as if I were the only one eating. After the first couple of times, and seeing how disappointed everyone else was at the small, tasteless portions they were getting, I had to have a "talk" with my mom. I know ahe was just doing this so that I wuldn't feel "different", but it really didn't help the situation. I finally told her that she was going to have to trust my judgement… I'M the one who's going to have to deal with it all the rest of my life, even when she's not around. It was hard for her, but it worked.

2008-12-27 16:44:37 -0600 Report

Hi Vicki,
You now know what's going on and why you are doing the binge eating. Take control of that and as was already said, prove them wrong!! By continuing the behavior, you are proving to them that you do need to be monitored and can't do it alone. (which we all know you can!!). Hang in there and good luck on your job hunt.


Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-27 15:27:12 -0600 Report

Now, wait a minute… you said you're 28, so you shouldn't have to be told what to eat and what not to eat, right? But it sounds like you're rebelling like a teenager.

Show 'em you're "big enough" to handle this on your own. Prove 'em wrong by how you live, not just by what you say.

(Sorry, I know that sounded rough… I just know you can do it!)

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2008-12-27 15:08:46 -0600 Report

Good luck with all that. When I retired from the army and moved back home I went through the same thing. That was 16 years ago and it still gives me the shivers. I stayed there for 3 months. Just remember that they love you. I spent much of my time reminding myself of that, over, and over, and over, etc…

Anonymous 2008-12-27 14:00:34 -0600 Report

Well at least that should give you more incentive to find jobs and move out. I could not do it, my mother would have been the same way. good Luck to you in your job and new home search.