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By sherryTracy Latest Reply 2013-11-22 21:58:07 -0600
Started 2013-11-20 16:20:12 -0600

I join yesterday beacuse a discussion about giving up caught my eye. But also the response that some one gave also caught my eye. So maybe I can get the spport and help I need from here. I have had type 2 for over 20 years half of it was not really controlled. I have had some issues with my eyes but I am on the road to recovery.
How does one deal with a spouse or partner not being very supportive? I love my husband, but he doesn't support me. I tried talking with him, but he thinks I want to lose my weight to look better. I WANT to lose the weight for my health!!
As I said earlier some one gave some great advice to some one else and I chose to try it. So today instead of going to the cafeteria for a very high carb, I brought some sugar free jello and and apple. It was a great feeling that I dodn't go get the danish of candy. So instead of "I can't pack a snack today, I DID pack it. So tomorrow will be another hard day. I am thinking of cutting out the soda all together!! I drink mostly 2-3 20 oz sodas a day (which good compared to the 8-10 cans I drank in a day. Any advice woiuld be greatly needed!! Than you!

11 replies

Nick1962 2013-11-21 08:14:24 -0600 Report

Well, that’s pretty much how it works, good job. Going cold turkey on anything takes a lot of willpower, and usually means failure and all the bad feelings that go with it. But one less soda this week, or one less cookie or piece of bread you can get used to. Next week or next month, try getting rid of another. Next thing you know you’re saying “hey, I haven’t eaten a potato chip in 2 years”, your numbers are close to normal, you're skinnier, you’re off the meds and finding this wasn’t so painful after all.

As far as support – sorry, but hubby probably just wants to fix it for you but knows he can’t. It’s going to be frustrating for him, partially because he has less understanding about it than you do. If he reminds you to test, or watch what you put in your mouth, it may be nagging that day. If he says or does nothing, it’s being non-supportive. Understand he’s walking a fine line here.

sherryTracy 2013-11-21 10:54:52 -0600 Report

Thanks Nick! My husband does knwo about the diabetes. He was diagnoosed early this spring. I have helped him (being the veteran I am) but really son't get the same back. I will say he does help remind me about the medications and checking of the blood.

Nick1962 2013-11-21 11:32:19 -0600 Report

Well then it sounds like you both have a common journey - sorry to hear - but it can be fun if you make it a hobby you can both do together. Best of luck!

haoleboy 2013-11-20 20:22:20 -0600 Report

apples,pears, walnuts and/or almonds for snacks and getting through a weak moment. certainly works for me. and I would encourage you to adopt a 'drink no calorie' mantra.

GabbyPA 2013-11-20 18:40:21 -0600 Report

Good for you to by pass the candy dish. I hate those things. They are so easy to dip into without even thinking. So good job!

Drinking carbs is one of the hardest things to catch. I would stop the soda all together and switch over to water. If you want something sweet, find a sweetener such as stevia that will take that edge off. I drink water with lime or lemon in it. I also drink herbal teas hot or cold. Soda is just a very rare treat and it is always sugarfree.

An apple and sugar free jello is a great start. Now, if you pair your apple with some nuts or peanut butter, it will work even better for you. Make it celery and peanut butter and you have a winner. Maybe wrap some dill pickle spears with some of your favorite lunch meat and sprouts. Adding some protein or fat to your carb snacks keeps you full longer and also slows down the spikes.

sherryTracy 2013-11-21 10:58:14 -0600 Report

I find that about 4-430 is my tough time at work. I am hugry and usually head tothe cafeteria. I again brought my healthy snacks to eat. I did buy some green pepers to cut up and snck on too..

As for the soda it is the diet I am drinking. I use it as my coffee in the morning to get me going. I am trying to switch to tea. I have bought the SF power to put in my drinks for the flavor that sometimes help.

Thanks for your advice. It has been very helpful

Glucerna 2013-11-21 13:16:39 -0600 Report

You're making great changes by bringing a healthy snack to work and identifying times of day that are difficult for you. Sometimes a short walk, outside if possible, gives us a boost in the late afternoon. ~Lynn @Glucerna

jayabee52 2013-11-20 17:19:45 -0600 Report

Howdy Sherry Terry

WELCOME to Diabetic connect!
Regarding your husband: does he know you have diabetes? I suspect he does. However does he know about the complications you could get from uncontrolled Type2 diabetes? He probably does not. One of the things that may help him understand would be to encourage him to either join you when you logon here, or encourage him to join himself and view what goes on here. Of course as the saying goes "you can lead a horse to water . . . . " Perhaps he is threatened with the thought of a slimmer you. He might think that a slimmer you might attract other males' attention. (We males can be incredibly fragile with our self esteem)

May I suggest a bit more radical change in your eating habits? 3 yrs ago I embarked on an experiment to manage my T2 without the use of diabetes medication. It worked, and I lowered my A1c to 5.5. Additionally I lost 65 lbs over a 5 mo period. I have written down my meal plan and would be willing to share it with you should you ask.

Praying God's best for you and yours

James Baker

sherryTracy 2013-11-21 11:02:17 -0600 Report

My husbans was also diagnosed with Diabetes in teh spring. HE was able to loose his 20 lbs and cut down on his meds. He does remind me of my medication and checking my blood. I guess Iwish he would not think that I am trying to starve myself. I have been measuring my food and it is much smaller than what he is use to. I tell hjim that is my portion size.
I have decided to thank him for the help he gives me and contrate on me.
It could be all about self esteem, but not sure. I keep reminding him that I love him and not to worry.
Thank you for your advice it was helpful

kimfing 2013-11-20 17:19:17 -0600 Report

Welcome. That's a good start. May want to try switching to diet soda. Try sf flavored water. I all whole grain. If u have a sweet tooth. Try tic tacs they work for me.

Good luck