Family and friends

By kejo Latest Reply 2013-11-11 14:35:48 -0600
Started 2013-11-04 04:29:52 -0600

How can I get my family and friends to stop worrying about me. I'm extremely touched… But I can take care of myself.

5 replies

casspetrick 2013-11-11 14:35:48 -0600 Report

I feel as though since I moved away from my parents they have definitely settled down with the worrying. My mother still calls and texts asking how I am and to make sure that I am staying in touch with my doctor but otherwise has calmed down quite a bit. I think the point where she realized that I can be independent and self-sufficient was when I started to book all of my own appointments and separated her from that part of my diabetes. She's there for support but now knows that I have the reigns and am able to do this on my own. The fact that I still keep her updated has also calmed the worrying down. I also try not to tell her about any lows that I may suffer because then she would just stress out for no reason. It's a game of give and take really.

tryingtohelpmychild 2013-11-10 00:39:31 -0600 Report

My daughter is going through what you have just asked, she wants me to stop worrying about her, simply put I can not. I love her and nothing about that changes. I have been here worrying for 13 years, because I know a simple illness can make her diabetes so much worse. I worry that her plans got hi-jacked and that she gets depressed from her daily fight to control her diabetes. I worry that she missed out on doing the things she wanted to do because she was diagnosed diabetic. I worry because although she did what she was told, take her medicines, exercise, eat right she developed complications, and we have lost many relatives to complications. To make a very long story short and to put it simply I worry because I love her.

I asked her to talk honestly with me and tell me how she feels, she feels guilty that I worry, she felt as if she was a burden. Knowing how she feels has helped me to stop hovering and nagging, I there if or when she needs me. I can worry with out being overt, and she does not have to feel like a burden, because I know she can take care of herself. If you can talk honestly with your family tell them how you feel maybe you can all come to some common ground.

Stuart1966 2013-11-04 20:08:19 -0600 Report

If you can, PLEASE write an article how you achieve "it" (sic. the impossible) -GGG-.

In part, (IMHV) they have earned a "seat" at our proverbial table because they have both suffered beside us, and unfortunately sometimes witnessed our dark moments, times.

On occasion, they have saved our butts. If so… if and when they do… whether I want to share with them or not, they have earned my tolerence and often my choked silence at times.

Who is the most afraid? Which buttons are they pressing the most?

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-11-04 12:38:07 -0600 Report

Your family and friends love you and are always going to be concerned about you. If it gets to the point of being annoying, you can find a way to tell them how much you appreciate them loving and caring about you and your health. Let them know you are fine and will be with all of their love and support but not to worry because you plan on being there laughing, crying and loving them for a very long time.

Kejo, no matter how loving and caring your family and friends are, there isn't much anyone can do to stop people from worrying. You can show them there is no need to worry but that isn't going to always stop them.

No matter what, always be grateful that there is someone in this world who loves you, cares about you, and worries about you. There are so many people out there in this world who don't have that. I know if my parents were alive today they would be worried even though I am over 50 years old. Think about you, don't you worry about them when you know they are ill or unhappy or dealing with something? That is what being a family and a friend is all about. You have to be there for them the same as they are for you. Loving them, laughing with them and crying with them is what makes a happy family and wonderful friendships.

Next Discussion: Type 2 »