How do you break the news?

Jeanette Terry
By Jeanette TerryPA Latest Reply 2013-11-07 00:23:56 -0600
Started 2013-10-31 21:14:14 -0500

I don't know about any of you, but sometimes it can be awkward for me to share the fact that I have diabetes with new people that I meet. I don't want to just throw it out there so that is the first thing they know about me, but at the same time if I wait until it is absolutely necessary the situation can be even more awkward. I am not in the least bit embarrassed that I have diabetes nor am I shy or try to hide the fact. I just sometimes don't know when the right moment is to discuss it with new friends or acquaintances.

Do any of you have this problem? and what is your strategy for telling people?

9 replies

Samm317 2013-11-04 17:45:44 -0600 Report

I feel the same way! I want people to know because it makes me feel safer but it does feel awkward to bring it up out of the blue. I find that I often don't need to bring it up because other people will ask me what I'm wearing (insulin pump) or what I'm doing when I test my glucose (which I frequently do in public). If for some reason I'm concerned about someone knowing (like new roommates I found on Craigslist) and don't want to wait for it to come up naturally, then I usually say hey, just so you know, I have diabetes so if I'm ever acting strange, that may be why . . . Which usually leads to addressing potential situations and how they should be handled, and answering questions from someone who doesn't know much about diabetes. Great question!

jigsaw 2013-11-04 08:09:08 -0600 Report

I feel no different about telling people I have diabetes, then if I told them I have a cold. Don't get me wrong, I don't go around advertising, but when I feel it's appropriate, I'm comfortable mentioning it. If I am invited to a dinner, or lunch, etc and can't eat the food being offered, I would more then likely mention that I'm diabetic.
Unfortunately, many if not most people, have a pre-conceived notion of what diabetes is. This certainly applies to quite a few who don't have diabetes, and some who do and are learning about it. I accept my diabetes, and I take care of my self accordingly. To those that don't accept that I have diabetes because of there ignorance and arrogance, so be it. If your eyes are blue, and mine are green, that to me means as much as if I have diabetes and you don't.

Stuart1966 2013-11-03 21:27:00 -0600 Report

I do not tell people period.

Not their concern, no need for them to know squat about my disease. Its my problem alone. Not a fan of others bias or otherwise. Strictly need to know…

Deliberate omission in my channel… its earned knowledge which most have no right to any aspect of, not ever. I never share until I know you very, very well, IF THEN.

Samm317 2013-11-04 17:49:28 -0600 Report

Stuart, I understand not wanting to deal with others' biases, but I am just curious: do you ever worry about having an emergency and what will happen if no one knows you have diabetes? I ask because this has become an increasing concern of mine over the last few years (and why I finally started wearing an ID bracelet).

Stuart1966 2013-11-07 00:23:56 -0600 Report

Thats what the necklace and wallet card is for… but no, I am unafraid.

Decades and decades and decades of experience have taught me unpleasant lessons.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-11-01 21:11:39 -0500 Report

Tell them before something happens and they find out from the paramedics. This is your life and health as well as the safety of others. People need to know and if you tell them what to do when you have a low, they are your first responders.

GabbyPA 2013-11-01 19:30:33 -0500 Report

Nope...I have a husband who likes to tell the world that I am diabetic. Now THAT embarrasses me sometimes.

If it's just me, I just let it come up in conversation as needed. I don't hide it either, but I don't go out of my way to tell people unless I need to.

kejo 2013-11-01 13:42:29 -0500 Report

Honestly, I don't think there is a perfect time. Although I've never had this problem, I can see what you mean. But when it comes to safety, people should know you're diabetic … If anything should happen.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-11-01 21:17:10 -0500 Report

Kejo you have the best response so far. These days I seem to be spending more time out and about doing community work. They know I am diabetic and have my permission to go into my purse to get my fast acting glucose should I need it.

People need to think about not only about themselves but others. If they are out at an amusement park with friends, at the beach, or simply at a resturant if something happens and you need to be rescued, you are putting other people lives at risk. Why not just tell the people you are with and tell them what to do if you have a high or low. The people with you regardless if they are friends or family are your first responders. They are there with you, the paramedics have to get to you.