What’s weighing on your mind? Let me help!

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2014-02-16 17:27:15 -0600
Started 2013-10-29 11:23:37 -0500


You might already have read some of my articles and posts. Or exchanged messages with me. And if we haven’t met yet, then it’s time to get acquainted.

Got a question I can help you with?

I would like to invite you to send me a question that you would like answered. I’m a therapist, so while I can’t answer medical questions, I can help you with topics like: coping with your emotions, communicating with your doctor, family relationships, stress management, work-related issues, keeping your self-care on track, and about anything else related to emotions and communications.

I will write short articles to answer as many questions as possible. And I’ll make sure I also send you a link to your answer, just in case you don’t see it.

So talk to me! I’m all ears (eyes)!


20 replies

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-02-16 17:27:15 -0600 Report

Dr. Gary, I am in control of my diabetes, my question is what do you do when everything that can possibly happen happens and none of it is good? Right now I feel like I have a target on my back. I handle one thing and days later something else happens. I am so tired of saying next, I could scream because the things that happen come out of the blue. For example we finally got the heat fixed and Thursday night, the power went out. We have been dealing with that. We now have temp power until Tuesday. I can't stop thinking what is going to happen next. The Police Department is changing rapidly. Each of the 9 of us have a Major, Sgt, and Lt. Col and the Police Commissioner coming at us trying to make changes and needing our input. I just got put on an interview panel, we have a new community project in each district that is exciting that is going to take at least 20 more days to complete. I finally had my Major and Sgt. I need a break. I could not take anymore. I was so frustrated I got really depressed to the point, the Sgt. sent an officer to my house lights and siren to do a safety check. I need help getting things back in order and control. Would love advice on how to do this.

Poodle gal
Poodle gal 2013-11-02 20:45:13 -0500 Report

Dr. Gary, I have had a year of surgeries, healing, and finally going back to work. I have put on 15 lbs. of weight from not being able to walk well (due to two hip replacements and femoral fractures). I had excellent diabetic control (as a type II) but now am out of control. I need help getting myself back on track—do you have any suggestions? P.S. I am also a 5th grade teacher and am exhausted at the end of my day. HELP!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-11-02 13:20:17 -0500 Report

Wow! Thanks for all the great questions. I will be following up on Ask an Expert! Much appreciated!!!

M3M111 2013-11-02 12:00:09 -0500 Report

Hey Dr. Gray,
Lately I have been feeling so alone dealing with my diabetes. I really have no one in my life that has ever had diabetes. I'm trying to take it more seriously but everyone is telling me that I'm fine! I feel like yelling at them and saying if I don't take good care of my disease it will affect my life later on. I want to live a long healthy life. How do I get everyone to understand?

Set apart
Set apart 2013-11-01 07:11:15 -0500 Report

Hi Dr. Gary thank you for being there. I haven't been on too much lately. I've been a bit frustrated and I guess emotionally drained from all my efforts to control my Diabetes. I turned 50 in May and it seems as if I've hit menopause which is causing havoc on my Diabetes because of the hormones. I am a T1 and a control freak, but I've never experiences so many highs and lows since my diagnosis!!! Ive come to a point where I guess I can say I hate this!!!!!! Needed to vent!

sugarbaby07 2013-10-30 21:30:51 -0500 Report

I have been an emotional wreck since diagnosed 3 months ago :( I am still learning what foods i could eat , it is so very hard though when a lot of my foods were ethnic ( I'm Hispanic) a lot of the food I used to eat is just something me andouille family grew up on. So now everytime I even eat the small serving of carbs I feel like I'm doing damage to by precious body and I get really depressed :( I'm so sad al the time especially when family is visiting having their famous BBQ , I don't even want to be around or socialize . I feel like their is no light at the end of the tunnel . Are these emotions normal? I'm 36 years old, type 2 trying to control with diet. I am always thinking of the bad complications that can happen and can't stop thinking about it :(

Connie2418 2013-10-30 16:18:15 -0500 Report

Hi Dr. Gary,

I was diagnosed Type 2 in 2000 and I'm just now getting my blood sugars under control with a regime of Amaryl, Lantus & Apidra and supervision of a clinical pharmacist and nutritionist. I'm an emotional eater, with sweets and volume eating being my go to behaviors, but I'm learning to find alternate ways to deal with emotions. In 2011, I was diagnosed with the beginnings of neuropathy in my feet. Although I am doing better with supervision, when I am on my own, I get a thrill (?) from getting away with being rebellious even as I have to deal with the symptoms of neuropathy that are also now in my hands. My question is this: Why do I continue to do what I know is killing me even as it causes me pain as I do it?


MG2013 2013-10-30 12:42:31 -0500 Report

Dr. Gary, I'm doing some research on diabetics emotional relationship with sugar. Not blood sugar, but the white powdery kind. How do people with diabetes feel about sugar? How do they associate with it? How do they rewire their brains to accept its presence but avoid it? Do they crave it? How do they manage that? Any input would be gratefully accepted.

Adee5 2013-10-29 12:56:56 -0500 Report

Interesting you should post this, I've been going through some rough times. I'll keep my story brief and then get to my issue.
I caught an infection in my left foot back in May. I was bombarded with antibiotics and doctors performed surgery (incision and drainage). A lot of tissue was removed (with bone and tendon exposure). Upon release I was placed on a wound vac, and am now awaiting the top layers of skin to grow over, which is pretty much done. For 5 months I've been non weight bearing, so I haven't walked since May. I've lost a lot of flexibility on my ankle and am stretching daily, with slow but obvious progress.
I am a police sergeant. I could've retired last March but, being young and still loving what I do, I decided to stay longer. I'm concerned that I may not be able to perform my functions (I did a lot if running and had to "scuffle" occasionally) as I did prior to my surgery. Needless to say, I've been depressed about it. I want to get back to work. I want to perform the same duties as well. If I can't perform close to where I was, or if I feel I may be a danger to my team, I feel I should retire. I don't want to. A desk job is out of the question..

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