Not getting Discouraged

By Anonymous Latest Reply 2013-11-11 22:56:15 -0600
Started 2013-10-26 12:32:13 -0500

It is so hard not getting discouraged when you find yourself sitting in a Doctors office being lectured on dieting when you are doing everything you can to manage your diabetes anyone else feel this way? how do you deal with it??

12 replies

jaydoubleyou23 2013-11-11 22:56:15 -0600 Report

All I can really say is UGHGHGHGHGHGGHHH!!! I hate it too. I get annoyed and emotional super easy when I'm already doing everything they're saying to do. Like, I know that I give them some of the reason to say it, granted. But it's super hard to deal with and I know how you feel.

Young1s 2013-11-03 11:08:30 -0600 Report

I guess you just deal with it and try to do better. My doc is on my case constantly about my weight. I hear what she's saying and understand the arguement for doing so, but it comes down to two things. The mind has the will, but the body won't cooprate. So ask yourself, as I have on many ocassions, are you really doing all you can? I know I'm not, but that's my cross to bear.

GabbyPA 2013-10-29 18:12:29 -0500 Report

I think if the lecture comes with some acknowledgement of what we are doing right it helps. I have a doctor that is that way, but he doesn't offer any help. So I come here to get that. I have always known it's up to me to do it. Sometimes I don't like that set up...but it's the way it is. Getting support to get you though is great and a pep talk isn't all roses, but it helps if it at least smells nice. LOL

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-27 20:21:53 -0500 Report


I don't know your doctor, of course, but it might help to let him/her know that you are feeling lectured, that you are doing the best you can. But on the other hand, as others have suggested, these lectures might come from a place of care and concern. Not everybody has a doctor who is willing to take the time or energy to lecture. You might also ask for suggestions on how to follow your diet better, or let him/her know what gets in the way of following your diet better, and ask for help. Keep the conversation two-way.

Stay in touch!


tryingtohelpmychild 2013-11-10 01:52:32 -0600 Report

Thank You Dr. Gary. I have watched and listened to my daughter go through this to the point she wants to leave this world. I have been with her all her life. I will believe that my child did all she could and still she has problems. She does her best to follow the advice from her medical team members, different doctors advise different things. Those that most assume the most do not really know her.

Nick1962 2013-10-27 19:05:51 -0500 Report

I'll say +1 to what Jim said below. Although I'll also say, be glad you have a doctor who lectures you - mine said nothing even as I hit 286 pounds. They just handed me a meter and said check yourself. It wasn't until my chiropractor referred to me as her "boat payment" (meaning my weight and lifestyle were basically funding her toys) did I start to take the hint that change must be afoot and soon. I did learn the hard way that even though you think you're doing everything in your power, it can always be stepped up a notch.

jigsaw 2013-11-03 06:34:28 -0600 Report

Nick1962, the words in the last sentence of your paragragh, express the very same thought that have helped me immensely, many times "it can always be stepped up a notch" (ALWAYS)!!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-27 13:53:46 -0500 Report

Do you talk to your doctor and tell the doctor what you are doing or is he assuming you are not doing the best you can do? I had an open line of communication with my former doctor and he never lectured me. The one I have now, I cannot stand the woman. I don't have medical insurance so I pay to see her every 6 months.

If I find what I am doing isn't working, I make changes to my diet and do some extra walking. It works for me and keeps me in control. I don't have time to be discouraged because I control my diabetes, it does not control me.

Glucerna 2013-10-29 15:48:22 -0500 Report

I love your positive, I can do this attitude. I was reading a list of self-care strategies for PWD, and one was to become a problem-solver. That's exactly what you're doing: knowing what you want to achieve and when you're not getting it, looking at the situation and trying something different. I think that's a strategy we all can benefit from. Keep talking with your physician and health care team and discuss your thoughts with them. ~ Lynn @Glucerna

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2013-10-26 17:32:28 -0500 Report

First thing I would do is change doctors. I know I am 60 pounds overweight. I also know my eating habits are not too bad and I am working on improving them. I also know I have multiple lower back issues that do not permit me to exercise everyday. Some days I am glad to be able to get up out of bed and walk. So do what you can and work on it a day at a time. I found it easiest to begin by eliminating some foods. Stopped the sweet tea (sob, sob, sob-I am no longer allowed to travel south of the Mason-Dixon line! LOL!) I stopped all sodas, as well as cakes and donut stuff and sadly, ice cream. Do I never eat these? Nope, sometimes I do, especially if my sugar drops. Sweet tea to the rescue or 4oz of Coke. Do I have a ways to go food wise? yes, but I work on it each day and back slide every so often. Next, that $#%^&*@! exercise. Do what you can, when you can. I have 2 dogs that run free near my mountain log house, but if I say "Who wants to go for a walk?" They are both ready. So, if you can, change doctors. To me those lectures are a form of abuse.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-27 13:57:44 -0500 Report

Jim, I am below the Mason Dixon line and love sweet tea. Today was my free day so I had some and it was delicious. I had it while vending at the Farmers Market and because I was busy walking up and down the street visiting other vendors I didn't get too much of a spike. I make my own fresh with equal and lemon and I am one very happy camper. That is the one thing I missed when I traveld north of the Mason Dixon line, the lack of sweet tea prior to being diagnosed.

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