Diabetes sucka

21Rose'syearsT1
By 21Rose'syearsT1 Latest Reply 2013-11-11 14:17:47 -0600
Started 2013-10-21 02:01:04 -0500

I have no friends I feel like every time I meet someone and they see me poking my fingers or taking insulin they avoid me like the plague. I wish I could find other people like me


16 replies

casspetrick
casspetrick 2013-11-11 14:17:47 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry you feel that way! True friends won't care that you have diabetes and they definitely will come along!!

jaydoubleyou23
jaydoubleyou23 2013-11-09 23:05:34 -0600 Report

Hey don't worry about those looks! Everyone on here you can consider your friend, and if you ever want to talk someone you can message me or add me on Facebook or something :) I always get weird looks, too. Especially when I wear my omnipod on my leg and it's out in the open. I was at orientation for college, and we were having lunch, and I pulled out my syringe and started filling them (I had to be on injections at the time) and the group that I sat with at the table started laughing and called me a drug addict and told me to leave the table..that was one of the worst feelings for me. It's different when people aren't accepting and don't understand. And tons of people are so rude and judgemental about it, too. Once I got diagnosed, all of my friends that I did have completely ditched me. I will never understand the ignorance in some people. But like I said, feel free to talk to me anytime! I love meeting new diabetic friends

Annity
Annity 2013-10-25 15:18:55 -0500 Report

Well, don't be so hard on yourself! Please? Look at the people around you. "Body art" and piercings. If people really are my friends, they take me as I am. (Believe me, even w/o T1, no "extras", I wasn't easy to be around!) =) Accept yourself, and others really will! I'm here for you! It's true that not all people are very accepting, and can't mind their business (in public). True, there's nothing wrong with excusing yourself, but we know that unless we turn into a hermit (I did for a long time), we just can't avoid having to take care of ourselves in public. And seeing how discourteous some people are, I figure trying to be discrete- corner tables, sitting against the wall, I'm not hurting anyone, and if someone comments (hasn't happened so far..) it's a good opportunity for polite education! -The arrival of the EMTs is ever so much more disturbing!

Borders96
Borders96 2013-10-23 07:35:35 -0500 Report

I don't have any friends that are diabetic either, your friends and family are hopefully supportive. I know mines are. However they'll never fully understand what it's like! Just remember everyone does care.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-22 12:05:44 -0500 Report

Rose people befriend you because you share something in common, your personality and your outlook on life. The fact that you are constantly testing can be a turnoff to people. Why not excuse yourself from the group to go test and take your insulin? There could be people who don't want to see you stick your finger, take your inuslin or see your blood. People have fears of blood and needles and you don't know who they are. When you test in front of them, they may be offended and think that you don't have respect for them or yourself and think that you have poor manners.

If you are out with people or in public, find a place to do this privately. In a group setting, excuse yourself and go take care of your needs. Return with a smile and resume what you were doing. I have only one cousin who uses insulin and she is at every family gathering. I have never seen her test her blood or take her insulin in front of anyone. She excuses herself, goes and gets her insulin out of the fridge and goes to a bedroom or bathroom and does what she has to do. She returns and continues in the fun or conversation.

To meet people and makes friends can be easy or hard for some people. If you are smiling and happy and fun to be around, people will want to meet you and talk to you. If during that process, you pull out your kit and test in front of them, that can and will turn off some people. When you meet someone you don't have to tell them immediately that you are diabetic. Just be yourself and over time you will have more friends than you can count and more importantly, just be yourself. Good luck to you.

Vigneswari
Vigneswari 2013-10-22 10:42:35 -0500 Report

I don't have any friends who are diabetic but i am happy. It was difficult at first as my mother was unable to understand it but later my relatives and neighbors who are diabetic helped me in that matter

kimfing
kimfing 2013-10-21 23:10:34 -0500 Report

Im sorry you feel like you have grown a third head or something:-) we are here as your virtual friends. I know that doesnt help with actual friends you can hang out with. Hang in there a true friend will come along.

21Rose'syearsT1
21Rose'syearsT1 2013-10-21 23:00:27 -0500 Report

I was waiting for my meds at a pharmacy I felt like I had to check my sugar so I did and a guy who was seating next to me was like eww blood. I wanted to punch him

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-22 11:48:39 -0500 Report

Rose not everyone likes seeing blood. Some people faint when they see it just like people have a fear of needles. This is nothing against you. His reaction was to seeing the blood and not to you or the fact that you are diabetic.

Jeanette Terry
Jeanette TerryPA 2013-10-21 21:11:39 -0500 Report

Well just know that you are among your own kind here :) We all know how you feel to some extent. We are all here to help and support each other.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-22 11:52:28 -0500 Report

Jeanette what do you mean by you are among your own kind? I think your statement stygmatizes diabetics and also stereotypes of some kind. Yes we are diabetics but we are all different in our own way.

Borders96
Borders96 2013-10-21 07:58:40 -0500 Report

I sometimes feel hesitant with diabetes related things in public.. Now I don't care. You think you are alone but there are loads of diabetics out there. I have a chuckle now when I chat with friends and I mention "I'm high"

Annity
Annity 2013-10-25 15:21:50 -0500 Report

Or the look on people's faces when I say "I have to go shoot up now"! …Wouldn't recommend that at work, though..

21Rose'syearsT1
21Rose'syearsT1 2013-10-21 23:17:56 -0500 Report

If I had friends with diabetes I would've been more comfortable but my church supports me a lot

Annity
Annity 2013-10-25 15:24:49 -0500 Report

But the funny thing is, it seems like such an "epidemic" for lack of a better word. One study I read said that in X no. of years, it will affect an ever increasing % of the population.

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