Current update of my Life

By TsalagiLenape Latest Reply 2014-03-05 08:54:52 -0600
Started 2013-10-15 11:08:50 -0500

Well first off my health has been in decline. Due majorly from getting the shingles in the upper right forehead. Where the rash has gone down to my upper eye lid and back into the hair line half way past my ear. Other than finding out I have Diabetic Depressive Disorder along with 3 to 4 degree curvature of the spine, L3 L4 and L5 bulging disc and disc degenerative disease which affects my left leg as of now. While hospitalized Sept 6 to the 9, Senior Services became apart of my life with lies and hassles. Thus the husband turned himself into the police instead of taking care of his own father. Which again now I do. Along with my youngest son on drugs and alcohol while on Probation, trying to kill me as of last Thursday. So he is on the run. Otherwise, trying to do my best to keep an upbeat attitude during all of this. Any help or comments would be appreciated. Have a great day!:)

22 replies

Gwen Morten
Gwen Morten 2013-10-18 15:27:05 -0500 Report

Wow! Keep your head up and try to stay positive! Diabetes kicks are butts enough all by itself so to have so much more going on is crazy even just to think about! Im keeping you and your family in my prayers!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2013-10-18 09:30:13 -0500 Report

Glad to hear from you, again Temi.
Sorry your life continues to have so much stress.
Of the people I know and know of who have used the shots for their backs, success varies. One had no improvement, the others usually get good to some relief. My Mom has been getting them 3 times a year for several years with pretty good success overall. She says most have not hurt. They use an "x ray" to locate where the shot should go. Not sure if it is really an x ray or some other imagining device. A few times she has said the shot did hurt, however most of the time she says it doesn't. She almost always feels much better right away. However, it seems she isn't getting relief for as long all the time. Sometimes her last month before the next shot she is in a lot of pain. This might be because she has stenosis that is increasing. I do not know what the reason is the others I know are getting the shot for.

One Step at a Time
One Step at a Time 2013-10-18 04:52:27 -0500 Report

My mom gets shots in her lower back. She says they hurt like hell the first time but it works! She stays pain free for about 6 months and goes back. The DRs say it would last longer if she's stop digging gardens and moving large furniture on her own.
I'm with gabby, I'd start fresh.

Young1s 2013-10-16 20:23:32 -0500 Report

Hello Temi

This is so disheartening to hear that you are going through all of this. Not just the continuation of old troubles but also these new ones as well. You deserve so much better. Please do what you can to handle your immediate needs first. I know you mean well but with all you have going on lately, your main concern should be your own health and well being. My prayers for your continued strength and resilience is always with you.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-16 18:48:52 -0500 Report


It has been so long since we have connected. It is good to see you. But I am really saddened to hear about all the challenges you are facing right now, between your health and your family problems. I just want to let you know I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you are doing everything you can to take care of yourself. You are not alone. Stay connected with us. Let us know how you are doing, my friend.


Nick1962 2013-10-16 14:46:01 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear about all the problems. As I read all your responses it sounds like you’ve got your head up and are taking them on in a positive way. I can feel at least some of your pain – had the same problems with my back and they final ended up fusing my L3-L5 and removing the disks. Hope you can get some relief.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-16 12:44:17 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear about your problems. I think you are stronger than you think you are. I agree with Gabby, you need a fresh start somewhere. I am the queen of cutting people out of my life who cause a great deal of stress and drama. I don't need it and I don't want to be a part of the stress, drama and negativity that surrounds them. I agree that you should put your father in law in a safe place where he can be cared for. I commend you for caring for him when his son or family won't but I would not continue the responsibility. It is time for you to take care of you and let everyone else fend for themselves. Good luck to you and it was good hearing from you.

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2013-10-16 12:33:41 -0500 Report

Oh my goodness. So sorry to hear of all the difficulty that you're facing. What a heavy load. I hope that you feel of our caring and support here. But also, I hope that you can get some real help in managing the physical burdens you're dealing with.

Hang in there, friend.

Jan8 2013-10-16 10:52:33 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear of all the painful problems in your life right now. The only good thing is that it doesn't stay that way. I too had problems for it felt like forever now it's just a memory. Time heals. Just remember to think about yourself first.

haoleboy 2013-10-15 22:42:00 -0500 Report

“Keep climbing. If you can’t fly, run.
If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl.
But by all means, keep moving!”
~ Martin Luther King Jr.

GabbyPA 2013-10-15 21:01:40 -0500 Report

If that was me, I think I would pack up, move away and and start fresh somewhere where I could be me without the extra stress. You have enough stress to deal with...girl. It's good to see you back. I hope you can make it work out for you.

TsalagiLenape 2013-10-16 11:00:02 -0500 Report

Ok Gabby you are definitely in my mind. That is what I am working on as we speak. First off I need to make sure that my Father in Law is taken care of in a safe good place for his continued well being. Hugs

jigsaw 2013-10-15 19:00:07 -0500 Report

You obviously have much more strength than you realize! When you describe your circumstances, it becomes quite obvious. I sincerely hope that you find your way through what must be an amazingly difficult and painful maze of circumstances.

Caroltoo 2013-10-15 11:41:13 -0500 Report

Hi, Temi. Glad to see you back on today. Sounds like you have had some tough experiences since we last talked. Having broken L5 myself in an auto accident about 20 years ago, I can surely empathize with that! Carol

TsalagiLenape 2013-10-16 11:01:50 -0500 Report

Well once cleared of the shingles infection the Pain Management wants to do shots in the back. I dont know about that honestly! I just want to get back to being better. Hugs Miss you tons! :)

Caroltoo 2013-10-16 14:09:48 -0500 Report

Never had the shots or surgery on my back, though my doctor told me I was a good candidate for surgery. Funny thing: when he said that, I declined. He questioned why and I said I'd never known anyone with an L5 injury who felt surgery had done anything other than change the pain — not heal the back and get rid of the pain. He smiled and said," I thought I needed to tell you the options, but you are right; good choice."

It's been a process of healing over several years, but PT, chiropractic, massage, and walking have done it for me.

Many shots are cortisone and my understanding is that cortisone makes our BGs go way up. If it was cortisone, I'd be cautious, but you may need to do what you can to reduce the pain, so you can get the rest of the program working for you, so you can keep reducing the pain. Hard to know where to break into the cycle and I'm sure it's probably different for each of us. Good topic for further conversation with your doctor.

Stay in touch!

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