Hide diabetes

By sportslover Latest Reply 2013-11-09 23:19:46 -0600
Started 2013-10-05 16:27:14 -0500

Hi. So I was diagnosed not too log ago but when I was I told my friend and ya. Alot of people at my school know now because they have heard from people. The thing is I don't want people to know. How can I make it so people forget? I hide my diabetes anyway but they still know!

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jaydoubleyou23 2013-11-09 23:19:46 -0600 Report

I was diagnosed my junior year of school and I didn't want people to know either. I was still put down and judged because of it but you know what, after a while, I decided that it wasn't something to be ashamed of. I learned to embrace it after a while because it's who I am now. It doesn't make me any less of a person and I can do as much as the next guy, and so can you! You have to learn to love this life, and embrace it as much as possible. Keep doing things you love, and remember, you ARE normal, you just have to do a little bit more on a regular basis. I was in your shoes once, but after I got on my omnipod, I loved showing it off. Even if people look at you weird, it's just something that makes you stronger in the end. I promise, it will get better. :)

Stuart1966 2013-10-25 21:50:04 -0500 Report

Believing a thing does NOT make it so automatically. Sure, some people do know… but they also think you have a tattoo on your left thigh… some "disease" because of your -nudge nudge- SECRET boyfriend… there is an entire FABLE told about all of us, on all kinds of idiotic levels…

Maybe a single grain of sand of truth somewhere in the mix… maybe. But unless YOU told them, does not mean they know squat. What they "know" could be dead wrong from top to bottom, but they'll stll believe it anyway. You cannot teach stupid…

And though many will violently disagree, i say its NOBODY's business, except yours that you are a diabetic anymore than they are entitled to know about your menstral cycle, a toothache, or a UTI… because it is entirely yours, you can keep it solely to yourself, and nobody is entitled to know anything you do not want to share with them.

I say its private information, and only you are entitled to give out the "passcode" for it. Anybody else can shinny up a tree… none of their *@(#&@ business.

You wish to share, great, until you do… they are not allowed through that door. its yours to open or close as you wish! Chances are pretty good, they are much more interested in their own vortex of problems, their own issues, than more than a second about you, if that much. besides there is that cute guy over there with the cute butt, and gorgeous eyes…

If yoyu are uncomfortable, IF, if you want to know… ask whomever them is, and learn what they believe about you. If you want to set them straight, borrow one of our "sledge hammers" your diabetic elders own (and will gladly share if you need one), from doing exactly that over the years…
Wanna borrow mine? You'll set someone straight pretty quick in time. You wont suffer idiots, or evil people about your diabetes. Its only one of your hats, you own MANY, many others. Diabetes does not start every breathe we take… we can be entirely normal, dopey, silly, giddy, goofy, and still be diabetic too. Quiet does not mean its diabetes, it means you're listening, thinking… nothing more!

Silly people!

sportslover 2013-10-14 11:07:04 -0500 Report

Thank you everyone. Lots of people know so I'm not worried about having a low and people not knowing what to do. Thanks for the help. I know I shouldn't be ashamed of my diabetes I guess I'm just hitting that wall of "why me". Like recently I have been thinking why do I need insulin and testing, why me, why was I diagnosed with this? But I also have the careing people here and my best friend to talk too… She is the only one who actually cares about my diabetes everyone else just thinks I'm low or high when ever I'm quiet, since I talk alot! Idk I don't like that so many people know especially since I am going through the phase of why won't it go away! Everyday someone reminds me, oh ya ur diabetic right? Idk I'm glad that none of the girls of my soccer team know because its the one place I can go and diabetes isnt talked about! Thanks again

GabbyPA 2013-10-14 10:09:29 -0500 Report

School is no place anyone is able to keep a secret. I know kids are watching everything, we do that mostly to learn. But it can be hurtful. But then, when the next new thing to gossip about comes along, your diabetes will be forgotten.

I didn't have it in school, so I don't know how it can be. But I bet if you don't make a big deal out of it, others won't either. You will find some friends who will be there for you. I know I was a good friend of a blind boy in my school. Lots of kids were afraid to talk to him really...don't know why. But he and I did a lot of things together at school.

Once people get to know you, if they are good friends, they won't make you feel bad about being diabetic. If they are going to bother you or make fun of you...then they aren't friends in the first place.

JSJB 2013-10-14 04:31:20 -0500 Report

Why deny it????? It is not one of those things you get from doing things against society. Try explaining to you friends and co-workers what it is and hold your head high. You will run into ignorant people but who cares what they think or say. You will be surprised what you find out when you discuss this issue. Good Luck and enjoy life.

rayray215 2013-10-10 01:45:51 -0500 Report

deny it to the fullest ppl in my area say ray u diabetic and I say no that's a lie ppl out there treat u diff so yeah I would def be ashamed of it aswell hell I am theres ppl out there who look at me as a freaK of nature my advice to u is deny it to the fullest

Young1s 2013-10-11 01:34:51 -0500 Report

But you have to know that you are not a freak!

rayray215, the point is, you have to rise above the negetivity. I lived way to long of my youth living the way I THOUGHT others would/should think of me. No way, was I gonna allow my children to live that way…and they don't.

Diabetic or not, our life's quirks, eccentricities, and ailments are who we are. That doesn't ever, ever mean we are any different in our abilities than anyone else.

I know you think you are doing the right thing by saying that she should deny this, but put your situation in all our shoes. What happens if she goes into a diabetic low and all she needs is a soda, orange juice or a pieice of chocolate to help til other help can get there? Do you really expect people to guess that that is all that may postpone the worst conditions that may come?

While I get you may be sympothizing with her, at the same time, you may be a detrimental aspect to the situation. So in the end, express the empathy, but when it comes to the most helpful type of advice for this situation, someone else, even if it's just ONE trusted adult, needs to know.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-09 17:57:38 -0500 Report

Hey sportslover,

Glad you checked in with us. I see your friends gave you some great feedback.

As others have suggested, we can't make other people un-know something they already know. And diabetes is nothing to be ashamed of, anyway. We can't control what other people think or do. But what you can control is taking the best possible care of yourself, living your life to the fullest, and sticking close wtih the people in your life who can be understanding and supportive. Your real friends.

You are not alone! Stay in touch with your friends here on Diabetic Connect.


Young1s 2013-10-07 22:17:35 -0500 Report

Hello there sportslover. I have to agree with all that has been said so far. While I know that this seems like a personal matter, it can also be a detrimental matter if noone knows and doesn't know how to help you when in need. I'm old (just so the name doesn't fool you…haha) but still young enough to remember how school life can be. My children keep me reminded of that. But like Joyce said, your real friends will not look at you any differently because of this.

Never be ashamed that you are a diabetic. It's not your fault, it's just something that happened to you. But this will never stop you from living your life to the fullest, so long as you take care of yourself. And that's all there is to it.

Take this as your opportunity to educate and show everyone that this doesn't define you, you define you. So continue to love sports and get out there. It's so much better for you in the long run. Hope this helps.

One Step at a Time
One Step at a Time 2013-10-07 20:53:30 -0500 Report

I teach middle school and I tell all my classes and send a shirt note to my parents each year. I want people to know in case there is an emergency. My students know if I ever get sick they need to call the office and get the teacher next door. I hope during an emergency, someone will tell first responders that I'm diabetic. Don't be shy about it. And you certainly shouldn't be ashamed.

Survivor7311 2013-10-07 17:06:15 -0500 Report

its not something to be ashamed of sugar!! embrace it ! its gods challenge he threw at you to make you stronger! you want people to know in case of a dangerous low or something goes wrong you can get proper help and people know what to do!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-07 13:35:59 -0500 Report

I don't hide my diabetes because I don't care who knows. The thing is once you tell one or two people you no longer have a secret. You lost all controll of who knows once you told someone. Look at it this way. Look at it this way. If you told the average person that you are diabetic one of two things will happen. They will say they are diabetic or they won't care.

You are never going to get people to forget anything once they have been told so there is nothing you can do about that. You can't control anything once you reveal the information. If you get sick in class, sooner or later someone would find out even if you didn't tell anyone. I think you are ashamed you are diabetic and that is not good. Don't concern yourself with who knows and use this time to educate people about the disease. Odds are you are not the only student or person in your school who is a diabetic. What you could do is join clubs, participate in sports and those who know you have diabetes will see that you are just like them. Those who don't know you have it and find out won't believe that their star teammate is a diabetic.

Hiding diabetes can cause a problem for you. What happens if you have a low in class. If your teacher or classmates don't know, he or she won't be able to help you. They won't know that you may need to eat something, or drink something to help you. In the end you could be doing more harm to yourself than good. I am nor have I ever been guilty for being diabetic and I won't hide it. I have educated everyone who ask about being diabetic and have met some wonderful people who are diabetic.

A lot can happen when kids are involved. Suppose a classmate who is diabetic knows and asks why are you hiding it? What are you going to say? I think you should enjoy school and plan your life. Your friends will like you whether you have diabetes or not. They may also be interested in learning about it and they can become very supportive of you. Be proud of who you are and all that you can be and do in life.

If this is a serious problem for you. Talk to your school nurse. If you have a health class, ask if there could be a discussion about diabetes. You may find classmates who are diabetic and you could also make some new friends.

Silicone eyes
Silicone eyes 2013-10-07 09:55:30 -0500 Report

sorry for what you are dealing with, I was dx'd at 15 and felt the same as you. High school has enough going on without having to sort all this out. You are going to want your core group of friends to know whats going on. Unfortunately, some people do have to know about it, but that does not mean that is who you are, it is just something you have. You don't have to advertise being diabetic, but you shouldn't be ashamed of it either.

Vigneswari 2013-10-06 21:51:37 -0500 Report

Actually its better that your friends or people who know you come to know about Diabetes from you than from others cause you are the who can tell them how it feels and what it is. When I was diagnosed a few months ago I too tried to hide it saying that my unusual weight loss is due to thyroid. But every time I hide the truth I feel bad and guilty as I was losing to my relations. Now When I tell everyone that I have Diabetes I am guilt free and also proud to say it cause at least I am not losing. So don't panic and don't hide cause if u hide it will be a prob for u only as if u got low at any time then no one will understand how to help you. Instead u tell them about or diabetes and how could they help u in emergency when they accompany u. Take care.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-07 13:38:50 -0500 Report

I agree with you 100%. Hiding something can cause guilt feelings and make you feel ashamed for what you have done. You can't go through life hiding from life. You have to live and have fun doing it.

I do agree that if no one knows she is diabetic she won't get immediate help and this can make the situation worse. People have to know so they can help you if you get to the point where you can't help yourself and at least tell the medics what is wrong.