Time For A Change

By Young1s Latest Reply 2014-10-11 23:08:00 -0500
Started 2013-10-05 04:29:56 -0500

Okay people. Granted I haven't been here in a while but something isn't right. This used to be my fav place to be but lately, I don't know. Where's the love? Where's the friendly banter with comraderie. This used to be a place where we could come and have intelligent discussions about all things diabetes.What happened? Let's not loose focus here, No matter how soon or how long we have been dealing folks, the fact of the matter is, no one knows us like we do. We all need every perspective to get through. Please, please, please. I need you. Our new mwmbers need us as well. This is the best place to be for all things diabetes. Let's not forget that. Let's not let ourselves down for petty difs. So hash it out and get over it already. For all our sakes..Chime ine on this or not but darnit let's do something. KK?

68 replies

luvmyabu 2013-11-05 07:46:36 -0600 Report

Hey All - I agree with some of you about the newer site design.
Why did we like the old one better? Perhaps we can figure that out and suggest it to the company?

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-16 21:06:15 -0500 Report

The one person I can think of who is missing from all of this is James Baker. I miss his humor and insight.

Young1s 2013-10-16 21:13:30 -0500 Report

James is truly missed and I hope he will check in here at some point. There are others that are missing as well too. I'm just glad so many of you have found this discussion. It's almost like a family reunion of sorts. I am very thankful and happy to see you all.

Jan8 2013-10-16 11:10:11 -0500 Report

Young1s, sorry to say I also have fallen away but you have started a great discussion. Very interesting. Makes me want to stay . Thanks !

Young1s 2013-10-16 21:28:16 -0500 Report

And by the way, I don't think any of us really left. We were/are all just on individulal vacations. Hard to stay away from here. :)

jigsaw 2013-10-15 19:09:40 -0500 Report

Now this is quite an excellent discussion!

Young1s 2013-10-16 00:10:43 -0500 Report

Yeah Jigs. For whatever reason, we all seem to have our reasons for not frequenting. But at the same time want to be here. So, like Gabby said, we are picking up new shells and recovering old ones. So long as the site remains is the most important thing. DC is home for me and I'm sure you all feel the same way. We just have to make it work for our particular situations that are going on at this time in our lives.

TsalagiLenape 2013-10-15 10:56:19 -0500 Report

I havent been able to get on. No more internet from the house. Yet I agree with you. This is the most exclusive place I have found to date to get information, help and support from. We need to be as a Family. Meaning we dont have to see eye to eye which is as a family would. Lets just get over the stuff and keep it positive and moving forward in an upbeat kind of way. Have a great day!:)

Young1s 2013-10-16 00:04:37 -0500 Report

Nice to see you again Temi (sorry if I spelled that wrong).

Yeah, that's actually what happended to me. I lost home internet for a while but things were already changing so much here that I really wasn't in a hurry to come back. So sad.

This site and family is a rock in a hard place, and we have all had to admit to the fact that we had them (meaning hard times) and talked extensively about them openly and honestly. But this is what I'm getting at. We could lean on each other in any crisis, D related or not. I really miss that. But we'll get it back. And hey, with some new friends to chime in and have other perspectives. I'm kinda feeling excited about that now.

So glad to see you again. Come back when you can cause we do miss you.

dietcherry 2013-10-14 09:19:41 -0500 Report

Im guilty of checking out———-mostly because of the problem I was having that I shared on our group thread! Beyond that, I just got a bit tired of only talking to most of my friends only on the site and it not extending beyond here. Im a talker, not a typer lol

Also the site never rectified the problem of my not receiving any DC notifications to my email——-NOT okay! I lost faith in DC and subsequently lost interest in spending time here.

Its my DC friends that draw me back here now—-not the site itself.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-16 20:51:19 -0500 Report

Hey diet. great seeing you. I had that problem also. I tried the site on my phone and it doesn't work so I uninstalled it. I still can't see my photo. I gave up on tech support. At any rate, I am glad you are back. Missed you.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2013-10-14 15:35:45 -0500 Report

HI DC!!! Been missing you when I've popped in.
Kinda agree with the notification thingy. Got a message today 10/14 that someone responded to a post from me. Yeah, oops they responded on 10/8 and I had actually stumbled upon it already. I have received some much more timely messages from the site about activity. But there have been some that have slipped through the cracks, just as you have been not getting. And even a few times a notification has been wrong, I have clicked the link expecting a reply to a post and nothing has happened (very rare but it has happened).

Young1s 2013-10-14 10:34:21 -0500 Report

Well, we sure are glad you decided to check in with us today. I've decided to start from scratch with this place. I can't get the old days back but I can start anew from this day on. Hope I can bump into you more often while doing so.

dietcherry 2013-10-14 11:43:10 -0500 Report

I really like this discussion—-and it drew out a bunch of the all-time best DC contributors—-and by that I mean those members that made this site exactly what we all are missing about it now :)

GabbyPA 2013-10-14 09:58:43 -0500 Report

I know I have missed you terribly. You are a ray of sunshine here.

dietcherry 2013-10-14 11:33:10 -0500 Report

Gabby you are the very heart and soul of this site :) May God Bless You for all we put you through!

GabbyPA 2013-10-14 13:13:07 -0500 Report

That's why folks like you are so important. I do understand the comings and goings of people, but some you just miss more. =0)

dietcherry 2013-10-21 00:30:22 -0500 Report

Gabby I mean it when I say…I cant eat a radish now without thinking of you——-and I eat ALOT of radishes! lol Thanks for always making me feel welcome…and missed!…at DC :)

Poodle gal
Poodle gal 2013-10-12 07:47:05 -0500 Report

Maybe the overarching theme here is that we really do NEED each other! Life pulls us in different directions, but having a group of friends that understand the additional stresses of having diabetes is priceless…and making friends from all over the country and beyond is a blessing for all of us. Every venue of support is going to have its ups and downs, but any relationship worth having takes work…This website, and the relationships within, are definitely worth the time and effort to maintain and sustain.

Young1s 2013-10-12 21:29:43 -0500 Report

Exactly. I can talk to my family and friends about my D but my mom is the only one who really gets where I'm coming from. So to have all of you here to also talk to and lean on is of great comfort. And yes, definitely worth it.

diabetesfree 2013-10-11 08:51:47 -0500 Report

Personally, I haven't been on here much since the last major site redesign. Honestly, I liked the "old look" better than the current one. The main thing that keeps me from coming back very often though is that it's now impossible to automatically login anymore with my browser. I use Lastpass (a plugin that works with most browsers) for storing my logins/passwords. Instead of the login fields being directly on the site's main page, I have to click through to get to a pop-up box to log in. Because the box uses Javascript, Flash or some other kind of programming, Lastpass can't even automatically fill-in the login fields. I basically have to copy and paste them manually every time I log in now. It may not sound like a big deal, but going from logging in with a single click to requiring 3 clicks AND a cut-and-paste to log in is a completely unnecessary hassle.

Young1s 2013-10-11 12:18:46 -0500 Report

It's one thing or another but we all have our gripes about why we aren't frequenting this site anymore. The sad thing is that every day that we don't come here, it makes it that much easier to not come here. Know what I mean? And no, I'm not saying it is a mandatory thing, but it used to be a time when we all would talk all day or so, and then couldn't wait til the next day to come along so we could start it all over again. At any rate, glad you went through the hassle to be with us today, diabetesfree.

diabetesfree 2013-10-20 10:16:24 -0500 Report

I have to agree with locarb. The old site was better. I remember back in the 80's when they introduced "New Coke" and changed the formula for Coca-Cola. It wasn't like anyone was complaining about the "Old Coke", so why tinker with what (back then) was was the secret formula of the world's leading brand? Same thing applies here. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2013-10-08 17:41:33 -0500 Report

It seems real life (not that DC isn't real life), but my other real life keeps me away for too long at times.
Since I've learned so much about diabetes here over the past 3+ years I find I am able to concentrate a tad bit more on the other parts of my life and a teeny tad less on the D part.
As others posted the waterry aspects…waves or currents…people slip in and out of our lives. Sometimes we stay in the same still spot or ride the same wave far longer with some people than the times we spend slipping slowly down the stream with others.
I wish so many who have shared some moments here were still sharing. I hope their absence means life has resumed a new better normal…some have left while their world was in chaos. For those who shared their better moments, I hope life has continued to improve and that is why they no longer are here.
Since Ray has been mentioned…he is still crazy and I wish he still was sharing a little of it here and not just on FB.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-16 21:00:10 -0500 Report

Graylin, I totally understand where you are coming from. I DO NOT focus on being diabetic. I stopped doing that after I got my numbers under control. There are so many wonderful things to do in life than to stay in the same spot. You have to continuosly move forward.

I think if you stay in the same spot and focus entirely on being diabetic and it gets to the point that it is all you talk about or mention it everyday, those around get tired of hearing it and move away from you.

You have to let go and focus on improving your life. Things do have a brighter side and if you find those things, you can build upon them and life will become as you say a better normal. You have to dance like there is no tomorrow. It is great hearing from you.

Young1s 2013-10-11 02:10:22 -0500 Report

Okay Graylin. I can appreciate that and well said.

We certainly have seen some ups and downs here. Some goods and some awfully bads. But that is what makes us, I think, a solid family (if you can forgive the word). We have seen each other, whether publicly or personally, through some hell of times and some celebreted times. That's what it all kinda comes down to.

The free flowing, heartfelt discussions that, if you didn't want to divelge then don't, but if you did, the raw truth here was freely stated.

Now I feel vulnerable about speaking my mind. I don't know…just saying.

MAYS 2013-10-08 08:17:50 -0500 Report

Good Morning Everyone!
My suggestion to everyone is this, don't give up on this site or the purpose of this site which is to offer "Support for Diabetes" and to a lesser extent, "Education".

We all have our reasons for stopping by, just as we have our reasons for not doing so, regardless of such this site has brought together many people with the need to know more about diabetes and to help one another, and I believe that this has been accomplished and will continue to do so.

Life gets harder until we make it easier, we want things to stay the same, although we know that things must change, and so it is and has been with this site, it's called progress, something that we don't adapt to well at times, but it is often necessary.
Many more new members will come in the future, this site will continue to evolve, new advances will be made in diabetes research and the sun will continue to shine.

There is one major way to bring warmth back to this site, "Discussions!"
In the past we have had discussions that brought fun, laughter, smiles and insight to the lives of one another, the discussions ranged from "Diabetes" to "Sports" to "Convertibles", to "Cougars" and "Pool boys"!…And then there were those that focused solely on diabetes. My point is, many members joined in, those discussions breathed life into this site whenever it seemed to get boring yet those of you whom started those discussions, or those that commented on them never lost sight of this wonderful sites purpose, so don't do it now, keep it going!

(Where is member RAYT721, his sense of humor was priceless to many discussions, he always seemed to know when we all needed to laugh!)

We all take diabetes very seriously and we all have to live our lives outside of this site, but we all have an obligation to diabetes care, research and support.
So be a "Good Neighbor" and drop by every once in a while, say "Hello", chime in on a discussion or two, start a few and give a "Hug" to someone that you haven't given one to in a while, see if someone is still around, rekindle a friendship.

Slowly, but surely, you will see the warmth return, and that's a good thing!



Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-16 21:04:21 -0500 Report

Mays, I stated I was accepting applications for a pool boy in June on my facebook page. We had a lot of fun on here with that one…LOL. Thanks for bringing back that memory.

Young1s 2013-10-11 01:55:17 -0500 Report

I saw this post on my phone and was mad that I couldn't respond. Not that I was mad, but that my internet connection went out for a few days. Talk about irony.

Nice wrap up if I ever saw one. It takes just one, then two, then before you know it, it's all of us. And I don't just mean all of us who knew how it was just a year ago, but all of us.

Young and old, newly diagnosed and dealing for years. We all have a say in this. We all have a perspective. What works for one may not work for all, but may work for the group that it works for. So why not say your peace/piece.

And I agree, making connections to others of from way back will hellp them to remember that they are loved and remembered. As well as, reminding the new to come on in and join the conversation. The point is every opinion counts.

granniesophie 2013-10-07 16:35:45 -0500 Report

Hi Pat, I know what you mean-and I am guilty too! I have been thru so much bad stuff in the past year that I seldom even come on here, and if I dom I don't recognize almost anyone! I will try to come on more often now that things have sorta settled down, and we can chat!

Young1s 2013-10-07 16:46:37 -0500 Report

Oh grannie, this wasn't meant to be a blame kind of thing. Just mostly me feeling nostalgic about the way things used to be. And maybe trying to get back to that. So by all means, never feel the need to apologize for life's sticky wickets. We all have them as you know. But thank you for giving us a holler and I hope things are well on their way to getting better for you.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-10-07 12:16:24 -0500 Report

Hey Young good seeing you. I agree with Nick and Chris. I think people come for advice get it and leave. We use to have fun on this site but that has changed. People seem to be angry about everything these days. I mainly communicate wtih two ladies via the email system and was rarely reading anything in this section. It is good having you back.

Young1s 2013-10-07 12:53:02 -0500 Report

Hiya Joyce. I know right. I used to wake up looking forward to getting on here to chat with everyone about everything, but things seem to have gone by the wayside. Who knows, maybe it's just a matter of getting the newbies to open up more to see how great this place really is. It just seems a shame how quickly things have changed in the matter of a year. But hey, if it takes a discussion like this to get things back then I'm glad we are having it.

Nick1962 2013-10-07 11:10:52 -0500 Report

I have had the same thoughts of late as the others who’ve responded. The landscape has definitely changed. Lots of new members, but very little in the way of interaction and involvement – almost like the site has morphed into Google – ask a question, get an answer and move on. While I’m not one of those conspiracy theorists, for a fleeting moment I though possibly some new posters were “manufactured” to make it look like the site had more traffic (and I know I’m not the first to voice that thought). Unfortunately, the increased traffic tends to bury some very important posts quickly, and unless the right person spends the time reading past the first few pages, the OP may never get a response. Isn’t really the friendly, family-like welcome to a newbie that I remember getting.

Maybe ChrisC65 has a point. Could be that there are a whole lot more un or underemployed diabetics out there now with time on their hands.

Young1s 2013-10-07 11:38:53 -0500 Report

Well Nick, I'm determined to get this place back to the way it was. Gonna have to think about how to go about doing that…or maybe not. Just jump right in there, like the good ole days. However it happens, it needs to happen.

ChrisC65 2013-10-07 10:37:08 -0500 Report

I think that sometimes we are so busy, the affects of the economy, our diabetic conditions, and use of the other boards, I think we just forgot where we are sometimes on the WWW.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-06 14:39:30 -0500 Report

Hey Young1s,

So glad to see you again. We have welcomeed lots of new people, but lots lots of the people you have been connected to over the years are also still here. This is still the most supportive community for diabetics on the planet.

So I hope you will keep the connection going, my friend!


Young1s 2013-10-06 14:46:22 -0500 Report

Thanks for chiming in Dr. Gary.

You are absolutely correct. This is the only place I would even consider coming to for advice, support, conversation, you name it. I'm not going anywhere, anytime soon. But even if I do, I will always be back. No getting rid of me…lol.

GabbyPA 2013-10-06 09:43:23 -0500 Report

I went through feeling some of that after the change, but I am slowly seeing more of my old friends now. The site is often like the ocean, in waves of coming and going. We hold on to the few precious shells that roll up on the shore, move down the beach to find more.

People come in time of need and often once that need feels met, they move on. It's sad, because yes, new members come every day and they are just starting. Those of us who stick it out, hang around and help those newbies are very appreciated.

Young1s 2013-10-06 13:59:16 -0500 Report

Well Gabby, since you've been here way longer than I have, I'm gonna have to take your word on that. But I'm not sure how much I really believe that though. Oh and great beach metaphor. I hope we find more of those precious shells soon.

GabbyPA 2013-10-06 20:18:13 -0500 Report

There are folks no longer here like Toma, John Morris and Ray...I miss them, but they helped me when I was here at that time. I have new people that I keep closer track of and a lot who are acquaintances, but everyone here is important to someone.

Set apart
Set apart 2013-10-06 06:52:02 -0500 Report

Thank you, I really think you've made a great point. I've been here for a little over 2 years, initially diagnosed this was my safe place where people understood, I wasn't alone. I spent a while gone, just cuz I wasn't feeling what I used to by visiting the site. We all need one another!!!

Young1s 2013-10-06 13:52:40 -0500 Report

This is so true. This place was my initial support system too. Haha…I think my doc was a little jealous of this place at first cause you all were giving me such great advice…she felt left out…lol But she finally realized that when it came to the major things and issues I was encountering, it was her I would come to first. At any rate, I want the fuzzy feeling back. There's something cold and "sterile" about this place now.

Caroltoo 2013-10-05 23:36:51 -0500 Report

I think you nailed it, Pat. I come on almost every day to look, seldom see my old friends, and don't feel the warmth that was once here either. For me it started with the new format which, in many ways, is great, but has always felt more distant to me. I don't know how to get past the perceived distance.

Young1s 2013-10-06 13:45:14 -0500 Report

Yeah, it (meaning the situation) is really, really strange to me. How can something as simple as a little format change, change things for us completly. Remember those discussions that used to go on for days? And the disagreements that would insue then get worked out? What the heck happened to that? Okay, no I don't want people intentionally stirring up stuff but like I used to say to newcomers…we are a family and families fight, so don't get turned off by that. Because in the end, we all respect each others opinions and feelings here. Well, maybe it's as Mays said, it's a changing of the guard, or maybe not. I just know I miss what we had big time.

MAYS 2013-10-05 11:06:25 -0500 Report

Sometimes a person gives all that they can give, and the changing of the guard is necessary for continued productivity.

I stop by every now and then, I do not comment much, nor do I contribute as I once did, and I apologize for that, but many things have come up in my life now that makes this site take a back seat to other much more important priorities.
(Not that trying to help others to manage their diabetes is not important)
I have made some great friends here at DC, and at the other "Connect" family sites, enjoyed the discussions and such, learned from others and hope that I have taught them as well!

So for as long as diabetes remains, and as long as this site continues to exist, there will be other members, other contributions and the need for support.
The love will still be present, hidden in the desire to help one another deal with this disease, whenever a new member joins this family, or whenever an existing member logs in, that's another "nail in the coffin" of this dreadful disease.

There is nothing that we learn in life, that we do not teach someone else at some point in time, even if we do not realize that we are doing so.
Diabetes may one day become a forgotten disease, and we will have all played a part in making that happen!

Hang in there!


Young1s 2013-10-05 12:52:59 -0500 Report

Of course, I know you are right. Life tends to get in the way, as it should. And "changing of the guard", I like that. Maybe that is exactly what this is that I'm feeling. Time for new friends to make this the buzz spot that it can be. :)

MAYS 2013-10-05 13:53:24 -0500 Report

There is no shortage of diabetics in this world, all we have to do is to get the word out about this site and it will draw them here, this is such a wonderful, informative, supportive site with an ever growing family, one can never stay away for long!

zobot 2014-10-11 22:11:38 -0500 Report

Ive been physically ill today ,i dont think my vomiting is related to diabetes. I cant keep food down. Should i take my metformin with no food and a completly empty stomach?

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