I have Absolutely "No" Christmas Spirit! How About You?

By Latest Reply 2009-01-01 07:44:18 -0600
Started 2008-12-19 06:23:45 -0600

I have gotten gifts at good prices. I have made some things,now. I have put up a few decorations, but something is missing; where is the joy. What happened to the reason we celebrate Christmas? I do not feel obligated to buy gifts or celebrate in an expensive way, I like to give gifts to people who I love that I could not give, without them feeling guilty,. I am shy, and feel this is the one time of year that I can give, because I do not feel they have to give me anything, they do that all year round. I always liked to make my gifts, but can not do that this year. But, tradition seems to have gone out the window. Family, friends together; holiday music, cooking and baking. I miss it all. As I am sure a lot of you do. Most of all I miss being out shopping (not spending money, necessarily) just seeing the sights of holiday decorations, happy faces, etc. We used to all go to church as a family on Christmas morning, but most of the family is either deceased or far away. And, I feel so obvious in a wheel chair, and do not want the people I meet to feel pity. I don't; someday they will figure this out and I will go on with my life, I just want that Christmas spirit back. What about you? I do enjoy the Holiday Movies, but what else can we do to get the spirit?


44 replies

Godschild - 27083
Godschild - 27083 2008-12-31 22:39:37 -0600 Report

You mentioned the real reason we celebrate Christmas. That in itself is where the joy is. Jesus our Savior was born on this day. He is the joy in our spirits and hearts and I am sure that HE looks down on you and sees His child not someone in a wheel chair or someone who can not do the things she enjoyed so for the holidays, HE sees someone who has faith and belives and we serve a mighty God HE is bigger than all things. Ask him to help you find a way to replace those things you can no longer do with things that you can that pleasse him and give you joy. He listens and Will answer all prayers…God Bless You and YOu are in my Prayers

2009-01-01 07:44:18 -0600 Report

Beautifully said, I have been working on this, and have started with accepting God once again, and asking for his forgiveness and how I could serve him. Love to All who believes; And even those who don't. We all believe in some sort of higher power, It is bigger than us. CC

2008-12-26 16:19:37 -0600 Report

I must admit I had no Christmas spirit this year. Of course, between Thanksgiving and the week before Christmas, there were 3 deaths in my family. This puts a damper on everything. Of course, the true meaning of Christmas is the birth of our Saviour, which we should all be thankful for, but when you have family members die, at any time, but especially around the holidays, it puts a damper on everything.

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2008-12-26 16:41:42 -0600 Report

yes, i know what you mean! to lose someone at a time when your supposed to be happy and full of hope ,is trying to the spirit.

2008-12-26 16:50:19 -0600 Report

It does take the joy out of everything. However, I must say that I did enjoy seeing my nieces kids. The oldest, (3 next month), did help to brighten things somewhat. Thank you for your reply.

2008-12-27 06:36:29 -0600 Report

Yes, I suppose this is not new to anyone; I posted about how losing someone close to you near the holidays affects your life. We have all lost loved ones, and no matter what time of year, they are always thought of this time of year. I lost my mom on a Thanksgiving day, and I held her hand as she let herself go. For me, that was an incident that I could not begin to explain. Kind of Miraculous in how she went. And what she said she saw. Maybe that should lesson the hurt, but it does not. Mary, I do hope you can find some joy in the holidays as I am trying to do. Remember the good things these people brought to your life. luv:->)Claudia

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-28 08:24:32 -0600 Report

I lost my niece, 14 yrs ago today. Yes it was very hard to deal with since over Christmas that year we sat and had to watch her in severe pain. I think it is a blessing she is in a much better place. But today as I am thinking about her, I sit here smiling and hope she is doing things she wasn't able to do. She is now painfree. Oh what a happy day. There are so many things I want to ask her. But most of all I would like to see the smile on her face again. Now I sit here and laugh about all the fun things we use to do…Debe

2008-12-30 06:00:20 -0600 Report

What a beautiful way to handle this; it is very enlightening. I have to admit, I talk to my mom all the time; somehow I think she hears me because I feel her near me, and hear how she would answer. I miss her dearly; Always, Claudia, Thanks again Debe, for such an uplifting reply.

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2008-12-22 20:31:25 -0600 Report

My husband and I live on a very small income. But that doesn't stop us from having the Christmas spirit. I can no longer bake and decorate. So James does it all for me. He wants me to feel the spirit and because he does all that for me. I want him to feel the spirit. Every year for 40 years our faimly has picked a very needy family and gathered every thing they would need to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. Back when our children were just little things a dear Friend and I started this tradition. We called every person we each knew and ask them to donate food or gifts to help a family that we had heard of. I donated our Christmas turkey and food was donatged enough for four families. We sent our children around the neighborhood with their little red wagon and a note asking for gifts for the children. Our own kids took one of their gifts from under the tree. This was when it was safe to let your children go out alone. When they came back the wagon was so full they had to push and pull. We ended up finding out about another family in need. And we had enough gifts and food to go to both families. Christmas Eve we loaded up our cars and silently set the boxes on the porchs. We had parked a little ways from the first house. One of the men knocked and ran for the dark. We were all grinning from ear to ear. We heard the door open and screams of joy. We heard one child say out load I knew Santa wouldn't forget us. I tell you that was one of the best gifts I ever received. From then to this Christmas we have continued to provide christmas for those in need. Our children have grown up and now their failies are carrying on the tradition. Their children love to buy gifts and get food from the pantry. Anyway If you want to have the Christmas spirit do something for someone else. I'm sick most every day and when someone comes to visit me,calls me,sends a card it lifts my spirit so much. So anyone can do something to lift the spirit of someone else. Merry Christmas

Mikeymike - 15933
Mikeymike - 15933 2008-12-22 17:35:21 -0600 Report

I see what you mean my Christmas spirit is kind of a wash this year I guess it the fact that my mom died in June and I know that I can't call and wish her a happy holiday any more.

2008-12-22 18:10:03 -0600 Report

I know how you all feel; esp with the loss of a loved one around holidays. I wish you all a better hliday and a better year

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-22 05:13:19 -0600 Report

One thing our priest said yesterday has stuck in my head all day. He said, You know every child can tell you the story of Santa Claus, but how many can tell you the story about Christmas and what it is all about? While you you think about this, it is scarey to know How many actually do know the reason behing Christmas?…Debe

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2008-12-22 15:50:12 -0600 Report

Christmas this year is not very chearfull. But we will put up a tree today for our daughter. But I wish all of you on this site have a very Merry Christmas and a very happy new year.

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2008-12-22 16:43:23 -0600 Report

take heart daniel, your child cannot come back to you, but you can go to be with him ,at the appointed time. may the LORDS peace surround you and yours.

Erunner
Erunner 2008-12-21 20:56:28 -0600 Report

For so many Christmas is one of the toughest times of the year. Those who have recently lost loved ones or perhaps has a family member serving our nation in the Middle East, putting their life on the line daily.

Others suffer with very real Depression and they sink deeper no matter what the circumstances are. The same with other mental illnesses. Sadly, so many suffer in silence and their pain deepens. For some of these people they may need to seek professional help as "snapping out of it" isn't an option.

Today at church there is a man who lives in his vehicle. My wife handed me a hundred dollar bill and asked me to give it to him. Her father had just given it to her. There is joy in giving when you are able. And it doesn't have to be money or something fancy. Ask someone how they are and really listen to them as they tell you. You might be surprised what a gift listening is.

Someone mentioned inviting somebody "extra" to share in your Christmas meal. With all of the leftovers many of us have, we could invite a baseball team!

Christmas is all about the most awesome gift of all time. God sent His only begotten Son into the world so that He might pay our debt from our sin.

The Bible says this gift is free and we can't earn it. If we could earn it, then Jesus didn't need to die on the cross. We are all familiar with this verse from the Bible.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever would believe in Him would not perish but have everlasting life.

We live in a world that is topsy turvy. Jesus was born into this world to deal with the sin issue by allowing Himself to be crucified.

We can be happy despite difficult circumstances as we realize what an awesome gift is being extended even today to those who would simply believe.

One day our pain and tears will be no more as we enter into eternity. The Bible gives us a glimpse.

Revelation 21:3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God.
Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away."
Revelation 21:5 And he who was seated on the throne said, "Behold, I am making all things new." Also he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true."

Christmas is a celebration of the birth of Christ. There's a lot to celebrate. My prayer is that each of you would come to know Him. He's still alive. That's the reason for Easter!

My prayer is that each of you would have a beautiful Christmas. Gos bless! Allan

2008-12-22 03:45:39 -0600 Report

I have always been all about giving; giving to strangers, new friends, dinner is always enough for extras who stop in here, and Christmas eve is the new friends and old (and anyone they want to bring) to get together and to celebrate.
Always acknowledging the reason for the celebration. And enjoying good food and company together. Our children have just all moved out. One a couple of years ago, and one left a couple of days ago, and I have a bad problem with empty nest syndrom; if I could, I would keep them around, and take care of them forever. I love being a mom. I love taking care of my kids. And I love giving to people who neither expect me too, and I want nothing from just to make them happy. Kids; any kids in need. And lately I have taken to donate to whatever cause I can afford. I am not rich, believe me, but I do not happen to think that I should hold on to every penny and not help out others; because helping others gives so much more joy. I love people and see so few, so whenever I get a chance to bring us all together; I do, and whoever else wants to come by.
God Bless you all, and let us all remember what the true meaning for Christmas is, and try to enjoy and spread the joy whenever you can. luv; Claudia

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2008-12-20 08:50:24 -0600 Report

Even though we all get caught up in the commercial Christmas (no matter how hard we try), I can always get back my Christmas Spirit by stopping and remembering what and who we are celebrating and not how we are celebrating. When I get wrapped up in lights, and trees, and garland, and cards, and gifts, and etc..I have good Christmases and bad Christmases. When I take the time and read the Christmas Story in the Bible and think about what a gift we received way back then, that was so magnificent and magnanimous that we still celebrate it today, all of the other things become just distractions. The true meaning of Christmas is there for you. The true Spirit is always there.

2008-12-20 19:12:32 -0600 Report

I too, have said that people are forgetting the true reason why we celebrate Christmas and why tradition, family and people in need are so welcome. Tomorrow I am bringing the little girl next door over and I am going to help her and shhow her how to make decorations for her tree, because they do not have any. I am sure that will brighten one little girls day. Claudia

2008-12-19 20:24:33 -0600 Report

Yes; I acknowledged "What Happened to the Real Reason we celebrat Christmas? I only believe that I can have the opportunity to give gifts at this time without others' feeling guilty, just because I want to to thank all those people have helped me throughout the year without taking anything in return.

2008-12-19 20:33:28 -0600 Report

I love family at Christmas; just hanging out playing kid and grown up games. Everyone brings a dish of food to pass, or snacks, and we just laugh and laugh,and this year I think we all need to laugh. To enjoy the season the best we can, and try to bring a little tradition in it. I have, My family is coming Christmas Eve after all; they asked me if I still wanted to do the traditional get together, and I was down because I thought they all had better things to do; they do, right here. I am thrilled. Love Claudia

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-19 18:07:22 -0600 Report

This is just sad...on all counts.

How ever you choose to spend your time in worship or in fun, the point is what is your attitude.

If you are focused on what you can't have, can't give, can't afford...then of course you are going to be missing the point. My step daughter said she didn't want to put up a tree since we were not going to have anything under it. She is missing the point. We set our home with cheer anyway.
When you focus on the love of a family member, the touch of a friend and the hug of a child...then you will find great joy in the day, and all days.

I know it sounds pie-in the sky. But when you learn to give without expecting, you will find that inner peace that makes a joy come from deep within.
We are not celebrating in our traditional sense, but we are still spending time with our friends and family. We may not have the spread that we used to, but we still have the love.

So focus on the joy of the feeling of sharing. Look for that silver lining no matter how slim it may be.

caragypsy
caragypsy 2008-12-19 20:11:55 -0600 Report

Gabby you are so right. May you have a Christmas full of Love. Cara

2catty
2catty 2008-12-19 20:26:19 -0600 Report

There are some out there that does not have the love either. Thank goodness I at least have my kids and husband and we try to do it up big for the little one, but that's it. My other family does their own thing.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-20 07:29:31 -0600 Report

It is true that some don't have family. I would hope that they have friends. If they have no friends, then perhaps some introspection is in order.

I always offer my open home to those around me that do not have a place or family to spend the holidays with. Or any other times as they arise. The joy of setting an extra plate or two at the table is always exciting. I tell you, if you want to feel love, let it come from you giving.

I recall several times when I was single and not able to go home for the holidays, I invited other singles and families to spend it with me. One time I had 22 people in a two bedroom apartment. It was FANTASTIC and I recall it now as if it were yesterday. At that gathering, there was a young man who was from a place unknown, a rather mysterious fellow. He shared with me as he left that day, that there are those of us who have entertained angles and did not know it. I often wondered if he was one.

Early this year while I was loading my husband's wheelchair into the car, a homeless man came to offer me help. He didn't ask for money or anything. I had nothing on me to share with him, so I went out the next day with a duffle bag of food, blankets, candy and toiletries and searched for him. Almost better than giving it to him, was the reaction of the girl in the check out where I bought the items. I told her what they were for and why...she was touched. I don't know, but I hope she was touched enough to do something similar herself.

The last company I worked for had a holiday tradition to choose a family in town that was struggling with a place to live, food and clothing. Basic needs of life were not being met. Since we were a builder, we repaired the home, made sure power and water were on for the entire year and all the employees chose from the list of needs and we brought in more than the list required. It was so gratifying to do that. Not quite Extreme Makeover, Home Edition, but our little version of it.

So if lonliness and depression are the feelings you get for the holidays. Go out and give of yourself. Find a homless shelter with kids and read Christmas stories to them. Find a soup kitchen and voulenteer to help those that are in need. You will find some greatfulness there that you will be hard pressed to find from the person who has everything. It is not always roses and sometimes it doesn't go as planned, but inside yourself you can come away with a feeling of great accomplishment.

Then, find ways to do it all thru the year. Christmas should not be the only time that even in our tight budgets and worry, that we find it in our hearts to GIVE of ourselves to others. It helps you forget your struggles, even if just for a while.

2catty
2catty 2008-12-20 09:19:28 -0600 Report

I love that you are such a giving person. You are special. The only thing is with me, I live in the mountains around nobody. It is rural and boring. I'm trying to talk my husband in us moving back off the mountain where I was much happier. I just wish I could take my whole house with me when we move.LOL But I figure as long as I have my children and husband that is enough. It will have to be.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-20 09:42:37 -0600 Report

Gabby,
I just wanted to tell you that you give me so much inspiration and your love for your fellow man is wonderful. Your sweet, caring, loving attitude comes right out of these posts and is so wonderful to read your posts everyday. You have faced so much this year and you are winning. You deserve all the happiness in the world. Your spirit is so strong. May God bless you and your family everyday.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-20 12:26:47 -0600 Report

2Catty,

I know what it is like to live in what my husband calls BFE...LOL. It is hard in lots of ways and good in others. I miss it sometimes. Mostly because I am a nature girl, my husband is not. One thing I know is when we lived out there, we tried to be close to anyone who was remotely close to us. I was more afraid of needing help. It can be creepy to take care of a family so remotely. That is when family becomes paramount indeed.

2catty
2catty 2008-12-20 17:49:28 -0600 Report

Exactly the way I feel. I love nature but miss the all the people. The only family I have is the ones living with me. By the way which are all males. That leaves me with no one to talk to.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-12-20 21:08:19 -0600 Report

My husband has the exact opposite problem. Too much estrogen around the house...Good thing you can chat on here. It does help.

caragypsy
caragypsy 2008-12-19 14:41:29 -0600 Report

To me Christmas has always been about Family. And I live in a AFH so I very little Christmas spirit also. But on the 24th I get to go to my daughter Liz's And that is all I am looking forward to. To be with her and my grandchilden is Christmas to me. Cara

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-19 09:41:19 -0600 Report

Sorry if this offends anyone. But Christmas is not about gifts, food or shopping it is about Jesus being born on Christmas Day. That is what is missing. The real reason for the season. Whatever or whoever you worship to should be the reason for Christmas, Hanukah and Kwanza.

2008-12-19 10:35:41 -0600 Report

Anonymous,
Thank you for your reply to this discussion. Christmas is not about gifts
and feeling sorry for ourselves. it is about Love and sharing Love with others. Love & Prayers for a Blessed 2009 to Everyone. I love the Holidays!!!

2catty
2catty 2008-12-19 10:53:08 -0600 Report

I actually understand your reply. Families do not seem to care as much about getting together. Everyone has commercialized Christmas. To me it is seeing the joy in my children's faces. The economy has made everyone a little more gloomy this year because most has become accustomed to spending a lot. Well this year there isn't a lot to spend. Traditions seems to have gone out the window. And I love traditions. But there gone. I also think when you grow up it is not as exciting. But this is my opinion.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2008-12-19 11:10:43 -0600 Report

When my daughter was young she never believed in Santa Claus. We always opened gifts on Christmas Eve. But she got 1 big present. That was it. This year she is grown and she still gets 1 big gift. My husband and I only give 1 gift to each other. My husband is getting a Playstation 3 which came with games. My daughter is getting a new cell phone with keyboard and I do not know yet. My husband is being sneaky. I want a new purse that will carry both my wallet and diabetic stuff. so I do not have to carry spearate bags. My feeling on gifts is that Baby Jesus got frankencence, gold and mryhh(spelling) so we are allowed a gift too. Please understand I am not preaching religion but I hate what Christmas has become, so commercialized and the holiday brings out the worst in people. I was in Wal Mart yesterday and people are so rude and pushy. Sorry if this offended anyone. I know religion is a very touchy subject on a public forum.

jkolm1965
jkolm1965 2008-12-21 00:14:11 -0600 Report

Your messege about not having any christmas spirit hit me hard.; my parents died thirteen years ago around christmas so it doesn't mean much to me anymore. I have very little extra money being on disability; so buying presents for what's left isn't possible. I don't expect any gifts either. I tell them all I want —-need —is time. A visit; a phone call; dinner out…that's what I want for christmas. Is that too much to ask

DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn 2008-12-21 04:41:26 -0600 Report

I have to concur with this. this year I am celebrating the birth of Jesus and it has a different meaning for me.
I am thankful that I am a diabetic with out any complications and that I still have a roof over my head. Both are miracles to me at this time.
The only thing that bothers me this time of year is all the cookies and cake and food that I am not suppose to eat. Talk about drooling !!!!
I think the holidays are tough on diabetics. or anyone else for that matter with a affliction.