Doctor got an attitude? A little too much tough love? What do you do?

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2013-10-03 22:13:43 -0500
Started 2013-09-05 22:10:38 -0500

I recently had an experience with a doctor who was incredibly rude and confrontational. This was only my first consultation with him. I was so surprised that I wasn’t sure how to react. Where is this coming from?, I asked myself. Needless to say, I decided not to risk having to go through this again, so I didn’t return. But that was a first experience, and it wasn’t that hard to find somebody else minus all the attitude.

But I had to wonder how I might have reacted if he was the only person who could treat my condition, or if my healthcare plan limited my options, or he had been my regular provider.

Have you had one of those days when you feel like you got the “bum’s rush from your doctor? Maybe a quick once-over and sent on your way?

Or, you got a lecture that bordered on a good scolding?

Maybe a lot of those days? To be honest, I am often hearing stories from people living with diabetes about doctors who go heavy on the tough love when some compassion might be in order, and a lot more effective.

Sure, your doctor may be doing a good job of managing your condition. But wow, the attitude that goes along with it!

Have you ever felt like your doctor was unnecessarily unkind, scolding, or just plain rude?

On those days when your doctor isn’t exactly a shining example of bedside manner and compassion, what do you do? Putting up with it? Hoping the next time goes better?

I recently wrote an article on dealing with rude or scolding doctors. Here’s a link:

I’m interested in knowing if you have had this experience. And how you have handled it. If you said something, or if you let it go.

Communicating with your doctor is not only about what is said but how it is said.

54 replies

tracyMCS 2013-10-02 00:45:29 -0500 Report

i have to say i love my pcp ..ive managed to have her for years while i was on the different insurances through my jobs she is easy going but doesnt sugar coat it for me she also is willing to tell me what is worth it to me or if my insurance would pay and if something i was interested in would have to fall to me to pay for..she is a great doctor and encourages me

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-03 22:13:43 -0500 Report

Hey tracy,

Easy going but straightforward is a very good combination, and encouraging as well. A blessing!


MrsCDogg 2013-09-20 12:40:04 -0500 Report

Yes, I've had a similar experience. I was seeing a PA for a couple years. The PA part is not a problem. I've seen a physician's assistant for years. This one was somewhat harsh and pushy. He almost goaded me into weight loss surgery! Since we have moved both my husband and I have switched to an office closer to us and we are both happy with our PA's.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-10-03 22:12:01 -0500 Report

Hey MrsCDogg,

Glad you have a PA you are are happy with. I have seen a PA for years and years, the same one. He is a great guy and just the best.

Nice to see you again!


Sam Stokes
Sam Stokes 2013-09-16 21:20:58 -0500 Report

yes , i had a very similar experience , that was the last visit , I got a different doctor now , he's a lot better about working with us , and very people friendly.

Nick1962 2013-09-16 16:41:50 -0500 Report

Like others I had just the opposite problem, and as a result, my weight problems continued. Can’t blame the Dr., he did passively mention my weight at each visit and like most, no amount of cajoling was going to change me.
At my worst I saw a new chiropractor who was simply honest with me, and explained that many of the problems I was having were due to my weight and diet, and that any fix would likely be temporary. He said during the second visit “you can change things and see less of me, or continue on this path and make my boat payments”. Honest and effective.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-17 22:14:03 -0500 Report

Hey Nick,

Nice to hear from you. There is something to be said for straight talk, as you heard from your chiropractor. He did you a favor.


Sam Stokes
Sam Stokes 2013-09-16 15:48:13 -0500 Report

finding doctors that will work with you , and believe in supplements is sometimes tough , but always worth the effort .

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-17 22:09:57 -0500 Report

Sam, this is a good point. Sometimes it takes some searching to get to the right doctor. But it worth the effort! Gary

karla pierce singer
karla pierce singer 2013-09-14 02:41:26 -0500 Report

Actually, I would prefer someone to be a bit forceful with me, because I'm kinda stubborn, that's why i've ignored Dr's advise to take it easy with my back so now, I have more messed up vertebrates than good ones. My last experience was with a Doc that was too complacent with me, never told me anything until she fired me. After 9 years I finally missed the amount of days I had to miss to have her office ask me to find a different Doctor, but, I had just gotten outta the hospital where I had been admitted on an emergency basis with a collapsed lung died, was revived and in a coma for 4 days, her office was supposed to be notified on admission which they were and I was in ICU for 2 weeks and she still didn't know!!! But, she made me an apt when I got outta the hospital, and when I showed up early the day after the apt(keep in mind I was still confused from the coma) she fired me!!! good thing, I learned she had failed to teach me a thing about how to use regular insulin with 70/30. I was under the impression that the mix replaced the regular, but, after being in the hospital for two months, I got a real education.. I'm glad she fired me, I have a much better doctor now, she may not have as much time for me as my former doctor set aside for me, but, then again, my current doctor isn't spending all her time charming me she tells me how the cow ate the cabbage either i like it or i don't

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-15 20:37:30 -0500 Report

Hi Karla,

Thanks for jumping in with your own perspective on this issue.

Wow, you have really been through a lot! And I understand what you are saying here. Regardless of how good, or not so good, doctors are at interacting with patients, they still need to be competent and straightforward.

You did get an education! Sounds like you have things on track now.


karla pierce singer
karla pierce singer 2013-09-16 17:23:56 -0500 Report

Sure do, my A1C is down to 6.07, that's an average of 122 BS that's pretty great!!!!! My Prior doc knew how traumatized I was with my Father's death and how it happened, what seemed to be for no reason. In many people's opinion, if my father would have been sent to an indo from the start, his chances would have been that much greater. I'm not sure why my earlier Doc did not even try to educate me on how to use R insulin once a 70/30 mix is added, I had no idea. My doc also knew that I would also choose complications from high blood sugar, rather than low like my dad, who's brain turned to black matter.. Education is the key to any and all diagnosis in my book, because ignorance only breeds fear!!!!!

Xtrucker 2013-09-12 16:21:54 -0500 Report

Have you considered the flip side of that coin? Maybe the doc is just tired of giving advice that no one follows. Last year I got read the riot act by my new doc at the VA in Las Vegas and I'm convinced he is saving my life. My A1C has improved by 3 points and continues to do so on a daily basis. I am happier, feel better, and my eyesight is improving, plus, a problem I had below the belt has corrected itself. Try putting yourself in his shoes; it may be that he cares

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-12 21:24:50 -0500 Report

Hi Xtrucker,

Thanks for the alternative viewpoint. You have a good point here. I suspect some doctors get weary of giving advice that is not taken, and just lose their patience.

I am glad your doctor gave you some tough love at the right time and that you benefitted from it. So glad you are better.

Thanks for sharing this.


Type1Lou 2013-09-12 09:07:28 -0500 Report

Having had diabetes for 37 years, I know that it is important to have your eyes checked by an ophthalmologist yearly. I had seen one several years running after moving to New Hampshire. On a subsequent yearly exam in the mid 1990's, he scolded me for not keeping my eye open while attempting a procedure-a fluorosine angiogram (sp?) (it's a natural reflex to close your eye, even though I was trying my best to keep it open.) I did not speak up. After this visit, he advised that there were no problems and that I did not need to see him anymore and should make my next appointment with an optometrist. Obviously, his message was that I was not worth his time. Needless to say, I found another ophthalmologist to follow me and until recently, have had no eye problems that are so common with diabetes. Tomorrow, I have an appointment to check a recent (last 2 weeks) change in vision, finding it hard to read and make out fine print. Hoping they find nothing but fearful that they will…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-12 15:24:31 -0500 Report

Hey Lou,

Thanks for checking in. A good lesson for us. If you are not comfortable with a physician, and feel that he/she is not committed to helping you, then it's a good idea to move on to someone you feel like you can have a relationship with, especially if you are concerned that you may not be getting the best care. That's taking good care of your health.

I hope your next appointment goes well, and that you will keep us posted on how you do. We're standing by!


Type1Lou 2013-09-13 12:43:32 -0500 Report

Just returned from my ophthalmology visit and I'm relieved to learns that my vision problems are not due to diabetic retinopathy nor to macular degeneration which runs in my family. I had lens implants several years ago after cataract surgery and there appears to be some scar tissue formation around the lenses in both eyes. It's not bad enough for laser treatment yet but I'm on a 6 month follow up. Thanks for your concern.

sincitylady 2013-09-09 22:50:57 -0500 Report

I deal with a nurse practitioner who always seems overwhelmed. I found it rude at my last visit that drove told me she could only handle one problem. Amazing my second problem was heart related. I can't believe how bad our care system is. I felt like I was just being rushed in an out .

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-10 14:18:44 -0500 Report

Hi sincitylady,

I understand what you're saying. Sometimes the behavior we run into is beyond logic. I hope you got the attention to the "second problem" that you needed.


Ralph 2013-09-08 21:30:27 -0500 Report

At my last job I went in to the plant DR. to see if he could help me with a painful hip/back. He told me it was probably just an inflamed hip joint that I did not need an x-ray. Two years later I woke up and could not get out of bed. Every time I tried to move it felt like electricity was going up and down my body. Three hours later I stood up with great pain. I later found out from a back Dr. that I had a very bad disc which had dried out and started to calcify. The operation was major and took over three hours. I ended up with L4-L5 fused and a damaged sciatic nerve. I wonder if I had gotten a better look at that "inflamed hip" if I could have saved myself a lot of trouble which I have to live with daily now. I never went back to that plant DR.(QUACK).

karla pierce singer
karla pierce singer 2013-09-14 03:09:48 -0500 Report

Ralph, as a back sufferer myself, I really don't think anything would have prevented, accept you staying flat on your back, your back from progressing. they may have given you something for an inflamed hip, or muscle, but, would you do exactly what the doctors tell you to do? which is be careful how you do this, be careful how you do that, face my friend, it happened, no one to blame, we have to deal with it… I have a bi-level fusion at L2-3/L4-5, no disc at T12, L1, the disc at L1-2 is bulging the disc at L 5 S 1 is bulging I have complete stenosis in my cervical region and C2-5 are compromised, I also have reverse lordosis what i'm getting at, is it's no one's fault, our bones just wear that way, I take nothing for pain in the opiate family, pain is our friend, I learned about guided imagery in LaMaze for my first child, it worked for that cuz i had over 100 stitches cuz my child went into shoulder dystocia and had to be borne with forceps I don't remember feelin the pain, that guided imagery is something else!!!! I'm going to do a CD for my children because I use to do the guided imagery for them when they were children and they had headaches or other pain, i thought that might be something nice to have for my kids.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-10 14:16:44 -0500 Report

HI Ralph,

Wow, so sorry to hear this. An example of a doctor giving a patient the brush off, not taking the time to thoroughly examine them and consider what might be going on, or to refer to them a specialist who could help them. A shame.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us, my friend.


Kats49 2013-09-08 00:49:24 -0500 Report

I had it one time..I was out of State in Minnesota…this was the ONLY clinic in the northern area…so iIas stuck..finally after she got done giving me the riot act…I looked at her and said I feel you just had to vent…so if you're done can we please focus on the issues I came in for?? AND I also said " i have had crappy days where I felt like yelling at someone…however as a teacher…i don't let that happen in real life." She looked at me…in shock and walked out of the room…the door had been left open and all the PAs, nurses were looking at me and slapped their hands…I wasn't expecting that at all…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-08 12:23:17 -0500 Report

Hey Kats! Wow, what a great story. You really stood up for yourself. There is no reason for this kind of behavior. I hope the doctor took your comments to heart and changed her behavior. Thanks for sharing this! Gary

PRINCESS KIMBERLY 2013-09-08 00:58:49 -0500 Report

I can not stand it when they do things like that. I really like how you handled that Kate49. I ask them if they are done to please exit the room. Close the door take a deep breath and come back in with a smile on your face. I am not the reason your day is bad. If they still are rude I talk to their bose. If that don't work I keep going on up to the next person in charge. I pay my insurance and I will not be spoken to like that.

BB42 2013-09-07 08:21:40 -0500 Report

Fortunately, I've not had that experience. But, when I was first diagnosed I was scared. I followed his diet and exercise plan to a T. occasionally, my numbers would be higher than I wanted. When I would call the office, I was told not to worry because the numbers were still good.I explained that the numbers may still be good but that I was concerned because i was being very strict and to know why there was such variance. I did get an explanation that really helped calm me concern,

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-08 12:20:34 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear this. Newly diagnosed patients need a lot of information and encouragement that they don't always get enough of. Maybe it's a time factor on the part of doctors. But I know it's not easy when you are concerned and on the receiving end of the "not to worry" reaction.

silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-09-07 06:30:09 -0500 Report

Joyce, Having that level of confidence is a wonderful thing. Not everyone is that confident especially when faced with health issues. It is certainly a good goal to strive for.
I know when I was diagnosed 2 years ago. I knew nothing about diabetes except it had something to do with sugar and it could cause damage to the heart, eyes, kidney, etc. I felt extremely vulnerable. Certainly I began educating myself but when I had questions for my doctor and he didn't care to answer them and he talked down to me, I did feel helpless in that moment. I needed answers and guidance right then. I was Struggling with trying to understand a new disease that I was working very hard to manage and needing information from a doctor who was too self important to answer my questions and behaved as though my concerns were invalid.
I did not put up with it for too long before I put him in his place and moved on.
I am not a shrinking violet I have always been pretty forth coming, but when I got diabetes many things changed for me. I was riddled with fear and anxiety. I was afraid to drive I was having meltdowns at the dinner table. I quit going places and doing the things I enjoyed. I felt that my power was gone. I didn't stay in this place, I've learned much since the start and I've come a very long way.
When I walk into a doctors office I am paying for respect. I don't feel I should have to earn It by showing him/her how well read I am. Respect should be a given in health care practice. IMHO
You are right in stating that we should never allow another person to have that kind of power over our feelings. And yes, sometimes it is easier said than done.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and good advice. :-)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-08 12:18:30 -0500 Report

Silvie mae,

This is a great post. Sounds like you learned to become a really empowered patient, taking care of yourself and standing up for your rights. That is so important!

Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom here!


aggiefix 2013-09-06 19:16:52 -0500 Report

I had felt at one point my doctor was like that, he taught me how to manage my diabetic, sent me to a nutritionist to learn, the first year I did great, brought down my A1C to 6.0 was taking off metformin, he was happy..Then I got depressed not realizing that this is a way of living, my A1c went back up, and on medicine again, He actually told me, with this attitude you will die. I was trying again, but not hard enough, he realized it, was very unhappy, so with this, I told him nothing is working with me trying again, he put me on Vicotza , I've been watching lost 6 lbs my A1c is 7.2 and hopefully this month lower…

Kats49 2013-09-09 05:32:42 -0500 Report

That is the beauty of these type so forums, you can get advice from others who have walked the walk,,and can give the talk…without judgement…Depression is part of this disease, it's tough to have to deal with diabetes…Again take baby steps PAT yourself on the back for sticking with one goal at a time..reward yourself in a non food way…i stuck $$ in a jar every time I had a A1C under 7.0…Last check i was at 5.6
My reward? A nite out at the movies, with popcorn..smuggled in my own water and had an apple in my bag..for later when I knew I'd want to munch. Later I learned to not EAT the popcorn at the movies…cooked my own at home salt free with olive oil for the fat…sprinkled with either Parmesan or just tossed lightly with the pink Mediterranean salt…:)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 21:32:53 -0500 Report

Hi aggiefix,

Thanks for checking in here. Nice to meet you1

Sounds like your doctor gave you some tough love, and was speaking out of his concern for you, and that the two of you had an honest conversation. What's important is to be able to communicate, to share concerns with each other. Tough love doesn't have to mean being spoken to in a disrespectful manner. From what you wrote, it sounds like you and your doctor have found the right balance.

Glad to hear you are doing better!


swinaz 2013-09-06 13:25:15 -0500 Report

I agree, I work in healthcare and can't stand rude providers. People are often worried or scared when they go to the doctor. They need information and tools to help manage their health. They don't need to be rushed, talked down to, or made to feel like an errant child. I have spoken up when I didn't Luke the treatment I received. I have no problem telling them that they should know better than to speak to patients the way they do or to treat them in a way that is anything less than respectful.
I can recall a time that I saw a PA when my doctor was gone. He asked me about my weight and instead of telling me that it was good that I joined a gym and had begun to lose weight he made me feel horrible. He told me " you know that you are obese don't you? The 10 pounds that you've lost is nothing. You need to lose 30 more." I was floored. This was the first time that I had met him and Thus was the first thing it if his mouth when he wakes into the room. Keep in mind that I was there for a sinus infection. It wasn't related to my weight. I didn't even have diabetes then.
Please don't think that I'm bashing PAs. There are some amazing ones out there. I just wanted to share that experience. Doctors need to remember that we as patients pay their paycheck.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 21:24:23 -0500 Report

Hey swinaz,

Thanks for the great reply. I totally agree with the "errant child" comment. I have been treated that way myself.

What an amazing story about your treatment from the PA. Just awful. I have heard similar stories. And it seems to me that people who are overweight are treated especially nastily. To me, that is an example of a prejudice.

Quite a few years ago, my father went to a well-know clinic to talk to a doctor about his esophageal cancer. The doctor bragged about what an "aggressive surgeon" he was, and then proceeded to tell my father that he was morbidly obese, as if he deserved to have cancer. My father was newly diagnosed and terrified, as well as demoralized after leaving the office. We found a very competent and compassionate surgeon -- elsewhere.

Thanks for sharing this!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-09-06 11:37:49 -0500 Report

No one can mistreat you without your permission. If the doctor or anyone else who is providing a service to you, does so in an unprofessional manner, it is up to you do say or do something about it. Every employee answers to someone therefore, you find out who the boss is and file a written complaint.

I let nothing go when I am paying for a service. The doctor who told me I had cancer then got up and walked out of his office leaving me in shock, ended up wishing he had handled that better. I got a written letter of apology from him after I closed my office door and chewed him out on the phone. I discovered who his boss was and wrote a letter of complaint. I also got my money back for that visit.

When my mom died the ER doctor asked if we wanted an autopsy. My sister and I said no and her doctor agreed. The doctor not only sent mom for an autopsy and didn't tell us but she also called the police and tried to file a negligent complaint. Thankfully, the officer who responded to the hospital had talked to my mom the day before when she was sitting outside after a radiation treatment and helped me change her oxygen bottle. I was at the ER the next day and met with her boss. Not only was the woman in trouble because she didn't consult with her boss and took things into her own hands that could have gotten her and the hospital sued but the hospital forgave my mom's $4000, 00 ER bill. She also had to publicly apologize to me at the desk where she created the problem. I told her if she didn't I would sue her and the hospital.

Dr. Gary there are people who will not speak up for themselves. These are the same people who drive everyone else crazy complaining about what happened to them yet they did nothing to put a stop to it. I know from working in a hospital that if a patient complains about a doctor, it gets handled. If you are paying for a service either out of pocket or through your insurance, you don't have to take the abuse from the person providing a service to you.

The same is true if you are a consumer. Companies do not like bad publicity or complaints and many will do something to solve the problem. I got a case of Sprite and Coke because I complained that every bottle in the 6 pack was flat. I have gotten free cable for a month and just got a $182.00 credit because the comcast tech screwed up our tv, phone and internet connection and got nasty about it. I have also gotten coupons for free items that I purchased in a supermarket was bad. I go to the store and get the item replaced but I also contact the company. I have also gotten money back on a brake job because the mechanic messed up my brakes and nearly caused me to have a fatal accident.

If you don't speak up, file a written complaint, especially with a doctor because this is your heatlh he has in his hands, not only are you at risk of being mistreated but so will all of his or her other patients.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 21:19:12 -0500 Report

Hey Joyce,

Thanks a lot for jumping in here with the great examples of bad behavior and empowered responses. I totally agree with you. Professionals have to act in a professional manner, based on the ethics and best practices of their profession. If not, patients -- medical consumers -- have the responsibility to advocate for themselves and complain. Otherwise, this kind of behavior can be perpetuated. It seems that patient-focused treatment is being better defined, and includes more attention to respect for the patient, and appropriate behavior, which is a positive development in healthcare.

Always great to read your posts! Thank you!


Roy531 2013-09-06 07:37:19 -0500 Report

My doctor's office is part of a large network of doctors connected to hospitals, Integris Health, and they send out surveys after every visit so if you get treated badly it can go on that survey. The doctors know this and always mind their p's and q's at the visits. My doctor always takes time to listen to me about concerns or anything else that might be bothering me.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 21:09:02 -0500 Report

Hey Roy,

What a great idea. Nothing like building in some accountability to not only encourage but enforce respectful behavior. It's sad that, for some doctors, this may be what it takes!


silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-09-06 05:48:43 -0500 Report

I'm not going to pay anyone to insult me, make me feel small, dismiss my concerns, or rush me. I went through 5 doctors before I found my current Endocrinologist.
We are sometimes intimidated by doctors, I know many times I have felt powerless in a doctors office. The truth is that they are being paid good money for their services and I expect professional and competent service.
I don't expect doctors to walk on water. I understand they are human and there is only so much they can do. But I do expect to be treated with respect and to be confident that the doctor takes my health seriously and is concerned with my condition.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 21:06:35 -0500 Report

Hey silvie mae,

This is very well said! If you went through five doctors, then you must have had some pretty negative experiences. Sorry to hear that. But it sounds like you have found someone you can work with, and who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. That's great!

Thanks for sharing this.


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-09-06 11:53:15 -0500 Report

Silvie Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission". Even if you feel intimidated never let them see it. They win if you do because they know they can treat you any kind of way they choose and they know you are not going to do a thing about it.

I am never intimidated by doctors or anyone else. I am never going to give anyone that kind of control over my emotions. You feel powerless because you choose to feel that way and more then likely the doctor knows this.

These days doctors respect patients who can discuss their problems in an informed manner. This means you have to do some research before you go into the office. Thankfully, I am a former EMT so I can discuss my medical problems in an informed manner and I get respect automatically because of this.

If you dont' speak up when you feel intimidated, the feelings of intimidation will continue. This is why bullies are successful. They know the person whom they are harrassing isn't going to fight back. Once the person fights back the bully in most cases will stop because they know you are no longer going to allow yourself to be mistreated by them.

I also think that people today seem to automatically expect respect yet they don't realize respect is earned. The next time you go to the doctor, arm yourself with questions. Try to know some of the answers or at least part of the answer. Talk to the doctor like you talk to us or your best friend and watch the change occur. Never let anyone intimidate you. I know easier said then done but you can do it.

PRINCESS KIMBERLY 2013-09-05 23:47:45 -0500 Report

I always tell them. I am sorry yourday is bad but do not take it out on me. You will not like me if you make me mad and my eyes get red. So tone it down. Maybe you sbould leave the room take a deep breath and then come back in with a smile on your face. I am a red head with green eyes and I am not affraid to say anything to anyone. If the truth hurts them well made they need to go back to Medical School and learn patient manner.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 16:04:30 -0500 Report

Hi Kimberly,

Thanks. This is priceless! Adults can be like children sometimes, and they need to be advised to take a time out and start over with the right attitude. And it sounds like you are just the right person to give that advice!


NaoV1 2013-09-05 22:21:45 -0500 Report

Shoot, I said something because they are taking money either from me or my insurance and offering a service and if it is not proper service, you should not get proper payment (this had to do with 2 rushed misdiagnosis visits to specialists). :P

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-06 16:01:52 -0500 Report

A very good point. Sounds like you have had more than your share of adventures with doctors.

NaoV1 2013-09-06 22:25:59 -0500 Report

OMG!!! I pray people out there are not "gullible enough" to just believe one doc's "OPINION" of what is wrong with you. (no offense Dr. Gary LOL). But I had 1,2,3 docs back to back try to tell me that my foot pain was in my head . .but I KNOW my body and said uh no . . and kept on and finally got a diagnosis of a cracked cuboid, low back issues and my foot pain was referred pain from my back. I suffered over a year arguing, stressing, letting it affect my sugar, pain also affects it of course, but then with the steroids, ugh, I blew my awesome A1C from 6.3 to now 9.6. It is horrible here in Texas. If you are in an accident, and do not have medical insurance (as I lost mine due to losing my job due to the wreck), there are no docs that will take your car/med ins unless you go to an attorney and they send you to their "buddies" - be warned peeps . .KNOW YOUR BODY!! *sigh

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-10 14:46:11 -0500 Report

Hey Nao,

Thanks for juming in. I am a therapist, not a medical doctor. Having said that, always feel free to jump in with comments/experiences with my profession, too!

I hear stories like yours so often. Another reminder that patients really have to advocate for themselves, argue back, get second opinions.

I know what you mean about steroids. I had asthma as a kid and in high school a doctor pumped me with steroids to control the asthma, which resulted in weight gain and hypoglycemia. But how does a patient know they are not getting the right treatment, right?

Thanks for sharing this. Take care of yourself!