I give up

By ptegmeyer Latest Reply 2013-09-21 18:31:10 -0500
Started 2013-09-02 21:10:55 -0500

I'm done with this. I love the group. But I'm done. No matter how much I change my diet or work out or take my stupid pills like I'm suppose to my sugar is out of control and I'm gaining weight. I just don't know what to do anymore :-(

38 replies

MsSonyaKS 2013-09-15 09:44:38 -0500 Report

You not the only one, but you have to pray to God to give you strength, I know I do. Listen, Pray and brush your feet off and keep it moving, We got your back!

Xtrucker 2013-09-12 16:03:58 -0500 Report

First of all, take a deep breath,then look in the mirror and honestly ask yourself if you are truly watching what you eat; I doubt it,no offense meant, just a little tough love. I suggest you ask your health provider to connect you to a dietician. Good luck!!

lemkedoris@yahoo.com 2013-09-10 16:06:05 -0500 Report

do not give up yet I was told by my old doctor to loss the weight and I would loss the diabetes well I loss over 120lbs and still have diabetes and my levels a high all the time they rise when you are mad ,sick, hot, or any other reasons just talk to your doctor maybe there are other things he can give you to help good luck remember your not alone we all go through this.

Kf6krc 2013-09-09 17:03:31 -0500 Report

Hi ptegmeyer, the problem you are having is you are letting it control you. Trust me you are going to have high readings all of the time. Don't let it control you like that. When I was first diagnosed with this my readings were above 500. Now they range between 70 and 125. I still get readings that can go as high as 250 but that is because I spoiled myself with a really good dinner or snack. I can't go into the weight control because of my condition in which I went from 250 to 135 . This is due to chronic pancreatitis. So when I gain a few pounds I just don't take my pills and there goes the weight!
Hang in there and don't let it run your life!!!

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2013-09-09 11:53:13 -0500 Report

Okay, come meet me at my work, a children's camp in gore, VA. We will walk under the zip line together! Going down the first hill is not so bad, but going up the second hill is a killer. Then, of course, going down the hill you just came up is almost as bad as when you climbed up it,,,,,it is that steep. Then you got the first hill you came down. It would be the easiest hill if you didn't already have 3 under your belt. Speaking of belt, did you notice after the 2nd hill you had to tighten it up? Boy, I sure hope you don't live around here and take me up on this! Jim

Kats49 2013-09-09 04:14:50 -0500 Report

Please don't give up on yourself or us so quickly…yes this takes time to adjust to your own bodies rhythms, signals and changes. I have been a type 2 since 2005, my dear husband who passed on 1/2004 was a type 1 and we as a family learned how to help him… But in the end you are the person whom you need to trust…hopefully you are working with a endocrinologist…I had to switch from my well meaning Family Doc to n expert… I had very little control over my numbers then…

Ralph 2013-09-08 21:35:25 -0500 Report

As long as you have breath keep trying. It does get hard and I get depressed at what if. The truth is that it is what it is and do the best with what ever you can. Remember God is always with you and he is always good.

bradley13 2013-09-08 14:38:02 -0500 Report

Hey bro own it, don't give up. I turned it into something useful Diabetes helps me remember to watch my weight so if I'm hungry I think twice about the food, same with anything else. Never think of diabetes as the enemy, only a construct to build off of for the better.

bdonna426 2013-09-08 10:58:23 -0500 Report

Hope you are still here ! I am pretty new to all this but I count carbs and sugar. Maybe cutting those more will help you lose. Cheer up and stay in this group and maybe an expert can help you more :)

Kelsey Michele ?
Kelsey Michele ? 2013-09-07 17:40:59 -0500 Report

Don't give up! Being diabetic means that you'll always have crazy blood sugars. But its just a part of life. Don't give up or stop taking care of yourself because it isn't worth losing your arms, legs, evesight ot even your life over later on.

AG1980 2013-09-06 07:22:17 -0500 Report

If i gave up i would die and not see my two little girls grow up and that scares me the most. Please don't give up.

ptegmeyer 2013-09-05 19:57:43 -0500 Report

I don't only have diabetes on the same day I was told I have celiac disease which means I can't have gluten just to give you all some more info. I really do thank you all for the advice!

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2013-09-09 11:57:00 -0500 Report

You can even use the celiac as a plus (I know, I am pushing it). With that you have to eliminate bread (I think) so your carbs get cut. I don't have CD but I have eliminated 90% of my bread intake. Anybody want to buy 3 breadmakers?

Survivor7311 2013-09-08 14:48:13 -0500 Report

Hey! what doesnt kill you makes you stronger i have diabetes type 5 called mody, a heart murmur, polycystic kidney disease and hell had a transplant two years ago. But that doesnt stop me from giving myself my shots and testing it only makes me fight harder to stay here. Never give up keep fighting. it'll make you stronger set yourself some goals and reach for them!!! you'll be okay! i promise

One Step at a Time
One Step at a Time 2013-09-05 16:04:01 -0500 Report

Get with a dietician for your meals. A friend of mine set me up with a diabetic dietician and I'm maintaining my weight with 3 30 carb meals and 1 15 carb snack. The rest of the day I munch on non starchy veggies, nuts, and flavored water. I walk around the book every night- that's it! Once I started to learn what my plates looked like meals have become easier. We cook huge pots of green beans flavored with bacon, grilled or baked lean meats, and a small batch of carbs. I'm full after a meal and the flavored water gives me "sweet" all day. It's working for me, with two toddlers- it'll work for you.
Besides, you can't quit…because then you'd be giving up on life itself.

cowboyslbug 2013-09-05 15:48:13 -0500 Report

It's a challenge when you are first diagnosed. Before you can control the disease you have to first accept that you have one. Part of the acceptance is working through the un fairness and anger. If I had a chance I would go back and do it over, I took far to long to accept the disease and learn to take charge with knowledge and acceptance. Take the time to learn your symptoms once your ready to take charge. The longer you wait the harder it will be to face.

locarb 2013-09-05 16:10:26 -0500 Report

Very well said. I completely understand the rage, disbelief and depression when first diagnosed. I recall going through a period where I was afraid to eat. It's now been almost three years later. I don't take medication for diabetes and have "normal" BG. I watch what I eat extremely carefully and make sure to exercise (yoga, the gym, walking). I have learned what works for me and what doesn't. The best advice that I have is
to test frequently; accept your feelings but don't
believe everything that you think. You can do more for yourself than you currently think that you can.

Lots of people here are very supportive. Be sure to only take medical advice from a medical professional, no matter how well intentioned your virtual peers may be.

Everything is new and scary at first. In time it is neither. I wish you, and everyone here, health and prosperity. Let us know how you're doing.

Anonymous 2013-09-05 12:31:02 -0500 Report

DON"T GIVE UP…I know how u feel i have been having a hard time trying to get mine down. i have been on two different kinds of pills since 2006. and just this week my doctor took me off one and put me on insulin. at first i was scared because i thought that going on the insulin was because i was failing but i was wrong. so may be you need to talk to your doctor about putting u on a different pill or doing pill and insulin…i know this is hard but keep ur head up it will get better

One Step at a Time
One Step at a Time 2013-09-21 18:31:10 -0500 Report

Find a dr who is good with diabetes. My endocrinologist doesn't even schedule me anymore because I have a great dr who is actually amazing with diabetes. He's got my insulin right and my last checkup was awesome. The willpower thing sucks- today we went to a fair…no funnel cake or corn dog for me …and I have young children. It was HARD!! But I took my own snacks and an Atkins bar so I had a sweet treat.

Pengomama 2013-09-05 12:04:11 -0500 Report

have you tried shots??? When I was in the hosp. they gave me shots instead of the pills. It worked great for me!!! You should really talk to your doctor before you stop the pills. My friends have the pump, so they don't have to give themselves shots daily. Something to think about. Good luck to you!!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-09-04 17:53:27 -0500 Report

Hi ptegmeyer,

I am sorry to hear you are so frustrated. I know diabetes self-care can feel like a pretty tough road to be traveling. I just want to offer you some encouragement.

It's been my experience that getting the right regimen in place can take some time, some trial and error, as others here have suggested. But I hope you will keep working closely with your doctor, keep at it. The results are worth the hard work. And I hope you will stay connected with us. Support is power! You are not alone.

Take good care of yourself, my friend.


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-09-04 12:13:51 -0500 Report

Never ever give up. Gaining control can take months of hard work for some and berealtively easy for others. It all depends on your attitude. If you really don't want to take care of your health, it can be very hard. If you do, it can become fun and easy. No matter what you have to be positive. You have to find your niche. Sometimes tossing out the bad and starting over again is the best thing to do for some people.

Countrygirl gave you a great starting over point. I basically do what she says only I can have at least 60 carbs per meal but that is because I am active a lot of the time. It took several months to get total control and made what I do a routine.

The very first thing you have to do is change your eating habits and add exercise. You can diet all you want but if you don't add some form of exercise, odds are you will continue to gain weight. I don't eat something I know is going to spike my blood sugar.

I am a visual person so I have to see what I am doing. This is what I did. I created an Excel Spreadsheet with the following columns. Date-Breakfast-Test Results-Snack-Lunch-Test Result-Snack-Dinner-Test Result-Snack. I listed what I ate for each meal with the total carbs and calories. I printed it out and took it with me to my doctor. I went and bought a food scale and for the first few months I weighed and measured everything I ate. I also started walking as much as possible and the weight started coming off.

You are the only one who can decide how you want to do things. You can either give up and risk other medical problems or you can grab the ring and go for it. I eat anything I want to eat but I do it in moderation. Once you get yourself back on track it won't be as hard as you think it is. Good luck.

Countrygirl71 2013-09-03 22:12:29 -0500 Report

okay, you are pulling my heart strings. Let me see if I can offer some advice. I have been recently diagnosed as well and am struggling and getting fatter by the day. wanted to give up too. but I found some cut dry info that may help. and I mean help us both. we can do this! let me give it a shot and you see if you are able to follow this plan. I hope it helps! (us both!) here it goes.
ok I have learned TODAY ACTUALLY more than what my dr's were telling me.
Drink a 8oz glass of water before and after every meal.
45 grams of carbs per meal. (based on 3 meals a day)
15 grams of carbs for snacks ( based on 2 a day)
give 3 hours between each time you eat

ex: breakfast @ 8am=45 gram carbs
snack @11am=15gram carbs
Lunch @2pm=45gram carbs
Dinner @5pm45gram carbs
Snack @8 PM15gram carbs
Do Not Eat after your 8pm snack and try to keep your snacks at about 100-150 calories and 15 or so carbs.
try to exercise after every meal for about 5-10 minutes. that includes after snacks too.
we can do this girl! lets take control of this monster!.:)

aggiefix 2013-09-04 17:43:46 -0500 Report

she is on the money with this post, total 15grams =1carb so total 45 grams = 3 carbs for breakfast… You can have an eggmcmuffin which is 2 carbs, thats for the muffin, egg is protein and cheese… and so on, read your labels, once you learn you can see its not so bad, and walk if you can, that is a good exercise.. I lost weight watching, and my A1C dropped to 6.0, and was taking off metformin, then I didn't care, guess what back on med's, so its not a diet, it's a way of living…

GabbyPA 2013-09-03 19:18:05 -0500 Report

This is called a battle for a reason. There is a time with everyone where we feel like giving up, and sometimes it comes back. But when you look at what you have been able to do that might help. If you are eating healthier, that will have benefits overall. If you are working out more, that will also help overall. Taking your pills might need some treatment changes if you are not seeing results. It does take time and making a journal for what you are doing sometimes exposes the "holes" in your routine where you can do things differently that might work.

Weird things I found that helped me were things like I do better if I exercise after dinner, morning exercise would raise my levels. I found that that eating things with hidden corn ingredients in it would make my levels go up, even when I thought I was doing the right thing.

So as you keep working at it, and taking some notes, you may find some ways to tweak what you do to get the results you are looking for.

ptegmeyer 2013-09-03 11:26:43 -0500 Report

My dr didn't even do the right test to diagnose me I'm going to find a good dr and maybe find out what's really going on

Stevana 2013-09-08 09:24:58 -0500 Report

Never give up! It is worth the fight. I have a friend who has had both feet amputated as complications of diabetes and a grandpa who had a toe amputated (he was resistive to tx). I have good days and not so good days, but my aic has been ok with my Dr. Praying for you. <3

jigsaw 2013-09-04 12:43:23 -0500 Report

Now your talking my language! It's good to see you heading down a healthy path. I had to go through a few doctors, before I finally found one that was helpful. The majority of us have the ability to manage our health successfully. A good doctor can simply make it a bit easier.

jigsaw 2013-09-03 07:25:23 -0500 Report

Personally, I never met a person that didn't have the potential to successfully manage their diabetes! I've been doing it for 20 years. There is no doubt that you can do it too. The price of giving up could literally be an arm or a leg! Very, very expensive for sure. Best to get the information that you are missing, and get your blood glucose under control. Sometimes getting the correct info needed is confusing and frustrating, but with time, effort, and patience, the answers are definitely here to be discovered. Take a deep breath, flex those emotional muscles, and stand up to your diabetes with your God given intelligence!!!

snuggles11 2013-09-03 02:07:15 -0500 Report

Never give up!
There is help out there you need to take the initiative and ask for it !
No one is Going to know you need it without you asking for help!
I don't know much history but talk to me?