Just diagnosed and Irritable!

Ky Lake Dave
By Ky Lake Dave Latest Reply 2013-09-15 11:27:50 -0500
Started 2013-08-26 21:48:05 -0500

I am usually a positive person. I have tried to understand that this can be regulated. This is not the end of the world. I have willpower and I am strong minded. I got this.
But checking my blood four times a day is a reminder four times a day that my life has changed. The oral meds and injections make me feel nauseous and give me diarrhea. I walk through the grocery store thinking of all the foods I can no longer enjoy. My wife reminded me that tonight that I could not have cocktail sauce on my shrimp and I snapped at her. This is not her fault.I apologized and I made my own sauce that was healthy and pretty good using Franks Hot Sauce, horse radish, wishteshire , V8, a squeeze of lemon and coconut oil. She put the cocktail sauce back in the fridge and ate my concoction instead. (I have a GREAT WIFE)
I am worried that if I am this down after only three weeks, what will I be like after grinding this out day after day for years?

18 replies

Ky Lake Dave
Ky Lake Dave 2013-09-15 11:27:50 -0500 Report

Thank you all for your support. Today is the first time since I wrote that post that I have been back to this site. I will give an update.I feel great! I have not felt this good in YEARS! I have energy levels that I thought were long gone. I saw my Dr and my blood work came in. My A1c was 13.3. My Dr circled it and wrote YIKES! So I guess I impressed her. I have logged my blood sugar and the last Dr visit, she almost cried. She said she could not believe how well I was doing and that I will live to watch my daughter grow up (we have a little girl coming in December). She said just keep on doing what I am doing and experiment with what drives my sugars up. She advised moderation and small portions of the bad stuff. (Pizza BAD dammit!) and keep on slamming down those veggies and proteins. My Dr said she wants to see me in three months to test my A1C again then. My wife has commented on my attitude. She said the small things that used to send me off the deep end hardly effect me now. (I heard that high blood sugars could cause rages or irritability so I guess it is true for me). I am a salesman and my sales have climbed back to levels I have not seen in 4 or 5 years. My energy and enthusiasm levels are better that I have felt in YEARS! I still feel nauseous and I have learned to never trust a fart. But I am doing better. I feel like I got this.

Carla48 2013-09-03 07:53:48 -0500 Report

I have been living with Type II since 2008-officially. My mother was diagnosed when I was 10 years old, and I always that diabetes could happen to me, but my family was not great at teaching healthy habits, and my mother never really 'picked up the sword' to try to manage her condition. I remember exactly how you feel now, and when I am low (which is often), I still walk through the grocery store wondering what on earth I can eat that won't potentially kill me? I have trouble with consistency in my blood sugar levels and I get irritable too-especially when my BS drops too low unexpectedly! :D

The best thing I've done is get active in this community-there is excellent support here, and some excellent suggestions on what on earth to eat!

Good luck, and thank your wife for being so supportive! Don't be afraid to open up and let her know how you are feeling-having a support person in your life that 'gets it' is key!

ceeygee227 2013-09-03 04:54:08 -0500 Report

The diarrhea will stop eventually as your body adjusts to the oral medication.Checking glucose will become second nature.

Its normal to be upset. Give yourself some credit. Making your own shrimp sauce was a great idea. You will have days when you are happy you're in control. Then there will be bad days when checking glucose is the last thing you want to do. When you get the okay to walk and/or exercise, you will be motivated by the slow, steady weight loss. Try Glucerna products- Pharmacy area at Wal-Mart. They help and taste OK. Good luck you will be just fine.

pinman 2013-09-02 21:22:12 -0500 Report

Welcome to the club. I just found out in Jan that I was type 2. I was lost and confused for months.The more I read the more confused I got, Then I found TCOYD (taking control of YOUR diabetes) They have a web site but the greatest thing in when they have a conference close enough to attend.They are a BIG help. It's a hard road but the right information make it a lot easier to navigate.I'm sure we can both find lots of help from people here too.Good luck and try to think of is as a small bump in the road of life.

kc_froglady 2013-08-30 08:03:33 -0500 Report

Oh I can relate to your feelings and I am struggling to. You are not alone. I am reading and taking in as much information as I can so I can learn best how to manage this new change in my life. I cringe every AM when testing my bg like my Dr. has asked not due to the pain but the reminder first thing every AM that my life will never be the same. You are so lucky to have a supportive spouse, for me that is another struggle. I hope that soon you settle back into a routine and things come easily I know the irritability hurts, I am experiencing that also.

Fefe12 2013-08-29 01:37:45 -0500 Report

Well I must say you are on the right track. You joined this group! Your wife sounds like a keeper, she will be your support, help her understand what you are going thru, talk to her, take her to your doc appts. The more she knows the more she can help. I was told two years ago. Its not been so bad. You have to look at this another way. The more you read and learn about the foods we eat you will become more comfortable with your food decisions. I totally believe EVERYONE should be eating like us They are the unhealthy ones. I have no desire to eat like I used to. I feel and look better than ever. Don't be so hard on yourself. Your life is changing. But know its for the better. Knowledge is power, use it. Think of this time as finally taking care of yourself, you will be glad you did. Please take care and keep posting.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-08-28 14:01:16 -0500 Report

Feeling the way you do when first diagnosed is normal. In time once things become your new normal, it will get better as long as you have a positive outlook.
You can still do things you did before you simply have to adjust. The worse for me was the holidays the first year I was diagnosed. I didn't think I could go to dinner and enjoy it. I simply used a teaspoon and tablespoon to fill my plate and loaded up on veggies and meat. Then added the sides using my teaspoon and tablespoon. I made Strawberry Mousse and took some with me. I had more than enough to eat and dessert.

The hardest thing to take out of your diet is prepared foods such as sauces, dressings, frozen foods, canned foods and pastas. It was depressing my first time at the grocery store. It is so much easier for me now. I just read the labels and if I want a special treat, I make sure it is something I can freeze so I can enjoy it in moderation. I learned what foods will cause spikes and which ones won't. I have found that other than sweets, I can eat pretty much anything as long as I do it in extreme moderation. I also got rid of the food police. They were driving me crazy telling what I shouldn't eat or asking if I could eat something.

Life is always going to change. We can either accept the changes and run with them or we can let the change put us in a hole we may never climb out of. As long as you keep an open mind and a positive outlook, you will never find yourself in a hole and if you do, you can easily climb out of it. I have diabetes, it does not have me. More importantly, I control my diabetes, it does not control me. Keep your head up, enjoy life and don't let this keep you down.

forsakes alive
forsakes alive 2013-08-28 10:14:05 -0500 Report

Feeling the way you have since diagnosed is common for most of us that have the diabetes,regardless if it is type 1 or 2 . You said you have strong mind,thats great to have,so whats the problem with dealing with the diabetes,just by changing your mind and acceptance of the diabetes is the key to staying in control. Ive the diabetes for 43 years now,my Docs when I was very young stated I wouldn't live til my late teens,well I have almost 30 years on them. Stay focused ,keep an open mind.

kimfing 2013-08-27 23:25:51 -0500 Report

Welcome. I too was recently diagnosed. I fortunately have been married to a diabetic for 21 years. I take pills and insulin and have to be on very low carbs. I can't say it's been easy and not frustrating. I just keep thinking back to how i was feeling before diagnosis and i don't want to feel like that again.

Kudos to your wife. So important to have good support and understanding.

Will have to try your recipe:-) keep your head up and we are all here for you too. Try some of the recipes in this site. Most of them are awesome

Prprincess0923 2013-08-27 22:07:05 -0500 Report

I use too feel the same way you did. What I did was just take it one day at a time. I also went to some class my doctor sent me that help me a lot and learn different things about diabetes. It was a diabetes class. I go every time there is a class cause you learn different things in the class and they have discussion as well. I can forget I have a supportive husband as well.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-08-27 21:55:22 -0500 Report

Hey Dave,

I am glad to see you here. One of the most important aspects of your self-care is support, and you came to the right place for that!

A new diagnosis like diabetes brings up a lot of feelings. It's a big change, one that you didn't ask for. And getting a self-care regimen in place takes time, with some rough spots along the way. Sounds you have hit more than your share.

But it also sounds like you are facing life on life's terms, and making the best of things. That's resilience! It's only human to get a little snappy once in awhile. Sounds like your wife gets what you are going through, and is willing to walk the road ahead right along beside you.

That shrimp sauce sounds pretty good.

Thanks for sharing. And stay in touch!


DulaxTrainer 2013-08-27 16:34:47 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed two years ago as a type two diabetes, as a result from donating part of my pancreas and kidney. Today I find out I now have to start taking a fast acting insulin called Humalog. I feel so frustrated and overwhelmed. I'm wondering has anyone ever felt this way about their diabetes, and what did they do to change the way they feel? I feel as if my life has totally changed, but not for the better. Hopefully you can all understand what I mean. I don't like having to feel I have to monitor everything I put into my body. Perhaps it's just that I need to learn how to adjust, but I'm not sure if it will be that easy.

Nick1962 2013-08-27 08:22:17 -0500 Report

Dave buddy, welcome to the club! I know where you’re coming from. I spent a year trying to “accept” that I was “sick” and had to live with it. One morning though I woke up and decided this was an unfinished project that had been sitting on my work bench for far too long. One that was really getting in the way of starting other, more interesting projects.
I started testing like crazy, learning what each food (and food combinations) did to me, and yes, at my strictest even gave up ketchup. After a while it really paid off though. As my numbers and general health improved, my ability to process foods better seemed to improve also. I’ve been able to relax my strict diet some (and yes, I eat cocktail sauce with my shrimp now), am off medications, and still maintain an A1c around 5. Doctor says I don’t have to test anymore, but I still do even though he is not “treating” me for diabetes. Just kind of my dashboard check of the gas gauge if you will. Right now I have more trouble dealing with putting in my contacts in the morning.

Angie Type 1
Angie Type 1 2013-08-27 06:31:18 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed 23 years ago @ 27 and I felt the same way…I remember having most of the same feelings you are right now but you do adjust and get into a routine. Life is about changes as we are told and you can life a life with diabetes and still enjoy your life! But I realize right now that probably seems impossible to imagine. You will learn what you can and cannot eat and don't always listen to what works with other people with diabetes. Much of it is "trial and error". I don't mean go grab a candy bar and see what happens. It sounds like you have a wonderful support system (your wife) and I'm sure she doesn't mind you "venting" to her". I'm new to this site and found it helpful to speak with others who deal with this disease. You WILL be fine…it's new and scary and yes … aggravating at times…just give it time and you will find "your own way" to manage and adjust to it.

swinaz 2013-08-27 00:22:55 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed a month ago and I can relate to what you are feeling. On the third day, I had a little meltdown. This past weekend we were at a huge family gathering and there not one single healthy dish there. We drove 3 hours to attend this party and I didn't enjoy myself at all. I was too busy thinking about all of the food that was there that I couldn't eat. I find that if I take my lunch to work along with snacks, I do a lot better! It is a little depressing to try to find something last minute that is good for you as well as it tasting good. Just take it day by day and remember that you can get control of this. After awhile, you will get into a routine that works for you and checking your levels won't seem like such a big deal to you. We are here for you!

PRINCESS KIMBERLY 2013-08-26 23:15:28 -0500 Report

You might want to talk to someone it is a normal feeling. I felt that way at first. I look at it this way. I as well have to check my sugar 4 times a day as well as inject Insulin 4 times a day. I want to live. I am in charge of it. It not in charge of me. Yeah your life does change but you don't have to stop everything there is sugar free candy, cookies, cakes, and ect. out there you can eat. Hang in there. About loose stools call your doctor. You might need something else.

silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-08-26 22:19:03 -0500 Report

It will get better! I've been doing this for 2 years now. It has taken a while but I am finally getting an understanding of how to live with the changes. It takes a while to adjust both physically and emotionally. It sounds like you have a very supportive partner and that is going to really help. I know my husband has been awesome and that has really been an important part of keeping me on track. :)

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