How do your spouses/significant others deal with or help you deal with your diabetes?

Sparrow - 16557
By Sparrow - 16557 Latest Reply 2008-12-25 08:37:05 -0600
Started 2008-12-17 20:03:31 -0600

My wife is VERY supportive of my life as a diabetic. She helps with fixing meals that fit my diet and shopping for the groceries that fit my diet (so when I fix stuff myself, I have the right things available). Sometimes she goes to the doctor with me so she can get the "latest" info (keeps me honest, too). She also knows how to handle the "rough" times (like hypoglycemic reactions & glucagon shots). I think she knows as much about diabetes as I do!

Good support is so important. This site is proof of that, too.

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Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2008-12-25 04:40:40 -0600 Report

Hi Sparrow,

My wife does many, if not all of the things your wife does. One thing that I think is important that my wife does is she exercises with me. We go on long walks together. We even go biking when we get the chance. She reminds me to do things that have become part of my daily routine because of her reminders, such as foot inspection and foot care. My wife and I are truly partners in dealing with my diabetes.

jaclyncrystal 2008-12-24 20:38:13 -0600 Report

Unfortunately my husband has been through so much with me with my lupus & bleeding problems & too many midnight rushes to the ER.
He does not seem to realize that diet and exercise alone no longer work, they did for over 10yrs borderline diabetes. Now I am basically on my own, sure he tries to support me in his own way, but just not there when I have those bad days and just need someone to listen to me. When I do try to talk to him about my day or how I am doing all I get back is that "I know you have diabeties you don't have to keep reminding me" That is why I am so very grateful for everyone on this site, you are always here giving me support and good tips on how to manage my diabetes. I wish each and every one of you a very Merry Christmas. God bless you all. jackie

Richard157 2008-12-24 20:06:12 -0600 Report

This is a good thread Sparrow. I posted a thread like this one on another site and explained how supportive mu wife is with my Type 1. I added, however, that she has a terrible fear of my having hypos. She carries that to the extreme. She has always brought me out of my hypos at night. I had a lot of them in the past. We have been married 44 years and I have been diabetic 63 years. Now I am pumping and have great control. I no longer have hypos at night but my wife still insists I wake and test at 1, 4 and 7 AM. I will always have to do that so she can sleep soundly. Everytime I yawn or am restless she awakens and askes me if I am OK. I guess old habits are hard for her to break. All this frustates me but I would rather have her this way than not caring. We love each other very much!


Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-25 08:37:05 -0600 Report

I'm right there with you! My wife is the same about hypos… and has done for me what your wife does for you.

It's good that you note how concerned she is about your hypos. I know my wife is, too. Sometimes it's easy for us to forget how someone close to us may feel (the anxiety or concern). It's a good motivator for me to monitor my BG even closer, so that my wife has "less" to worry about. Thanks for that "reminder".

Pauline B
Pauline B 2008-12-20 01:21:18 -0600 Report

My husband of 2 years can tell when I am hungry before I know it. I am seldom bothered by extreme lows (fortunately), but he does pay attention to my behavior when he knows I haven't eaten recently, and ensures I get something appropriate to eat. He cares.

The rest of my family has always been very supportive of me, especially during my 25 years of being single, and accompanied me to doctor appointments when I needed someone.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2008-12-24 18:26:31 -0600 Report

In my home we support each other as we are a diabetic family. I go to all of my wifes doctor appointments and she goes to
mine. My daughter and my wife have the sasme doctor so I'm there for her to.

GabbyPA 2008-12-18 21:38:20 -0600 Report

My husband is learning as I learn. He is my shoulder to cry on when I need it and I have given him permission to be the food police with certain things. LOL

Having diabetes made me realize how little I knew about how to help my family who has had it all before me. I am ashamed to say that I really didn't do much. They never shared much with me, but I should have asked more.

Now I am the champion for my family and am greatful for all I learn here, so that I can be the support for my mom and a dear friend of mine now, as we battle together. It is important to have our backs covered.

2008-12-18 09:56:52 -0600 Report

Unfortunately, I am divorced and do not have kids. However, the family that I do have that live close by understands quite well. Diabeties runs in my family, so my entire family (not just those who live close to me, but also those who live in other states) is very aware of what this condition can do. My great-grandmother lost a leg due to being diabetic. My brother-in-law is also diabetic and has had his ups and downs with it. My mother was also diabetic.

Lanore 2008-12-18 09:19:38 -0600 Report

Hi Sparrow, it is nice to have someone who understand by your side. My hubby is the same way…most of the time he keep me on the straight and narrow. And like your wife he knows what to do when I need it and can't do it my self. Low blood sugar which happens to me mostly at night, he is more awear of it them I am any more, Good thing because I hab=ve gone down pretty low and can't always help my self. Take care. Lanore ;-)

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