Living with a non diabetic

Poopsieann
By Poopsieann Latest Reply 2013-08-23 00:19:21 -0500
Started 2013-08-15 22:21:38 -0500

My boyfriend is a bit of a chunky monkey ( 1 inch shorter than me and about 75 lbs heavier). I'm frustrated with him not being about to understand my issues. He had his own issues as few as they are but I feel like he pities me instead of supports me. It has been a struggle for me this week with keep up with meds and diet… Tonight he makes a Buffett of poor food choices… French fries…nachos… Cheese scramble eggs… Pork chops… He ate all of his during one sitting… I ate my small well thought out place of food and had to go to bed… But oh the smell of the fries!!! I'm living in torture!!!

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7 replies

Sam Stokes
Sam Stokes 2013-08-23 00:19:21 -0500 Report

yes, my wife is similar , a non diabetic , she loves me , without a doubt , but continues to keep a somewhat closed mind to the fact certain foods , trigger both
a hunger craving - sugar spike and the extreme pain in my feet .
i've been insulin dependent since 2007 , for me eating a meal after 7:00 pm
is going to raise my blood sugar up ,
it happens 3 to 5 days a week , it's getting better because i'm sticking to my decision to not eat then and save it for lunch the next day .
they do not fully understand that it's not just limited to breads and sugar .

Poopsieann
Poopsieann 2013-08-22 21:59:02 -0500 Report

It's hard doing it alone… Tonight he made dinner… My idea was chicken and good veggies in the cricket pot… When I got home from work it was more like a chicken and garbage… He threw random items with the chicken like rice and chorizo??? He experimented but he totally ruined an ideal dinner for me… He thinks like a non diabetic =(

Gabby
GabbyPA 2013-08-22 19:05:14 -0500 Report

It is all new and he may just not really get it. Many of us don't get it until we are faced with the diagnosis. So you may just need some patience. Two weeks is a short time to get it all in line.

My husband has been around it with me for over 5 years now and he understands the "sugar sweet" part of saying no. But he doesn't understand the carbs in all the other kinds of foods. So he is starting to see things a little and he has said flat out, if he had to eat like a diabetic he would die.

He just sees it as things I can't have, not all the great and healthy foods I can have. So I have to learn to find a way understand that he loves me even when he does things like your boyfriend did. It usually is not intentional, it's just a huge learning curve....for everyone.

Poopsieann
Poopsieann 2013-08-22 02:48:43 -0500 Report

Thanks… I have discussed my feeling and the importance of my lifestyle change… He just seems to say he wants to be thinner but doesn't take the steps… I can't blame him because how many times did I say I want to ear better and then not do it??? Now is just my time… It has only been 13 days since I've started facing my diabetes but I'm committed… Don't think he'll join my journey and I'll have to stay strong alone…

Nick1962
Nick1962 2013-08-19 08:15:41 -0500 Report

Hang in there. Eventually you’ll start feeling (and looking) better and the jealousy factor will kick in. He’ll feel the need to keep up. Stand your ground on your diet, try not to put him and yourself in the situations where he can make those poor choices. Maybe start a regular walking time together so you can both share in the feeling of better fitness.

silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-08-16 07:55:21 -0500 Report

Hmmm! Well not very considerate is he? Are you happy in this relationship otherwise? Have you discussed with him how important it is for you to eat a well balanced, healthy diet and that it would be of great benefit to him as well?
I feel it's extremely important to choose a supportive and caring mate. One who is committed to their own health as well as yours. My husband and daughter both eat what I eat for the most part. If they prepare meals they are sure to prepare foods suitable for everyone.
They do however indulge in snacks and other foods that I choose to avoid but for the most part it's a healthy menu in this house?
I know that as. Diabetic I can not expect everyone to confirm to my diet and I am ok with that, but when preparing meals for the family there should be choices available for everyone at the table. :-)
I would try talking to him about your feelings, and hopefully he will love you and himself enough to make better food choices. Good Luck!