Setting expectations

Jeanette Terry
By Jeanette Terry Latest Reply 2013-08-17 19:36:51 -0500
Started 2013-08-15 13:52:18 -0500

I don't know about any of you, but I often get stressed out when comparing myself to what I think others would expect or what my doctor tells me my goals should be. I feel like sometimes there can be some expectations in the world of diabetes that aren't realistic for all of us. Everyone is different and I feel that we should set our own goals instead of going off of some chart that there was a study done about once.

I feel strongly about this and recently wrote an article discussing some ways that we can set our own expectations and goals while still working successfully with our doctor. Here is the link to that article if you want to read into it more:

4 replies

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-08-17 19:36:51 -0500 Report

Jeanette, this is a great article. Self-care for a chronic condition that is delivered from a one-size-fits-all approach can be a set-up for failure. Each person is an individual, with their own lifestyle and preferences, and it seems to me that the self-care plan needs to be tailored accordingly. As you said so well, patients need to advocate for themselves here.

silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-08-16 08:06:08 -0500 Report

I try not to compare myself to others. We are all so unique, we all struggle in different areas and we all excel in different ways. I am fortunate to have found the health care providers that I currently see. They are all so supportive and encouraging. It's a very positive environment. No pressure, no expectations beyond what they feel you are ready for. I know what a blessing it is to have found such an awesome team! I wish it was more common place instead of so rare.

GabbyPA 2013-08-16 07:55:00 -0500 Report

Now, if we could just get our doctors to understand this. I know I am a "diabetic" to him and that means x,y,z to him. There are no outside the box or individual goals. I am not saying that the things he wants me to do are bad or wrong, but I just feel like the person he sees next or before got exactly the same prescriptions. I mean, when your doctor tells you to take a medicine "Because all diabetics take it" for a reason....something is messed up.

Harlen 2013-08-15 19:05:34 -0500 Report

I know how you feel
When first DX doc told me I had to cut out all the carbs and fats
Hummmmm isn't that every thing ???
Is there any food that doesn't have one or the other ?????
So yes your right some have very unrealistic ideas for us .
Do the best you can and keep trying to do your best .
That's all I can do .
Best wishes