He told me to get over it already

By ptegmeyer Latest Reply 2013-08-22 19:40:44 -0500
Started 2013-08-08 19:29:55 -0500

I've been doing really good staying positive. Except the last two days. My glucose it going down and I'm happy this diet and medication is working. But I've been depressed for two days and feeling worthless. I can't find anyone family or friends to talk to around me no one understands. The day I was told I had diabetes is the same day I was told I has celiac disease ( no more gluten) I refuse to cheat on this new diet. And all my husband can tell me is to get over it as he drinks a soda and eats whatever he wants!

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silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-08-22 19:40:44 -0500 Report

OMG!! If my husband ever said that to me Grrrrr!!! So sorry to hear that you're experiencing that level of insensitivity:(
But I'm happy to hear that you are determined to stay on track in spite of all that. (((Hugs))

splitpea922 2013-08-21 05:47:38 -0500 Report

My boyfriend is the same way! He says I use it as an excuse for everything. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me!

tantaopa 2013-08-14 01:58:43 -0500 Report

22 years ago the doctor told me I was a diabetic.Wow what a life style change for me. I found my self depressed, angry." Why did this happen to me?" was always my big question.I Was always doing things, walking,hiking,horseback riding.So why did I become diabetic, my father was a diabetic,my mother,my uncle,my aunt. So I became diabetic. I could still do all the things I did before, but now I didn't feel like it.After about 3 months of watching what I ate , and watching what my husband ate,I was getting a little fed up with it. One day we went on a road trip and my husband got into the car with a hot cinnamon bun. The smell made my mouth water. I kind of broke down, and my husband told me to get over it. Amazing we are still together. We had a long talk about how I needed help dealing with this. That talk was one of the best things we ever did. He is very supported and has changed what he eats,(at least around me). That same year I was told I had a under active thyroid, That is whole other story their. We all got your back.

Acousins 2013-08-12 20:52:56 -0500 Report

Please know you are normal. Up and down blood sugars does give us mood swings. So we have to watch what we eat and the time we eat. Take your time but stay too long feeling depressed. You can do better. You can do it

Amna2104 2013-08-10 14:51:25 -0500 Report

I think that u should get urself out of depression .. Because , it really ruins all the good moments and achievements that u have reached :) and u should know that the one who eats everything like sodas and unhealthy food.. Are really in grave danger on the long run,, cheer up :) .. U r moving in the right healthy track .

GabbyPA 2013-08-10 10:10:02 -0500 Report

That is often why we are here. Support can be hard to find and the ones you love whom you think have your back are often the worst offenders. Kudos to you for sticking to your guns and doing great. Keep that goal in mind.

One thing that helped me get people to understand more was to slow down my "obsession" with food and food choices or what my glucose numbers were and how frustrated I felt. At first is was all I could talk about and I know that made for everyone else to be on overload. After all, they didn't "have" to change, I did. Would it be good for them to change? You bet, but we all need a different kind of wake up call.

So I mellowed out, talked out my struggles and triumphs here with the members and that helped me a lot. I know I can be honest here and no one is going to yell at me or tell me to shut up. They are going through it too, and once I have things off my chest, it does help me move on.

Jesse's derby
Jesse's derby 2013-08-12 21:07:14 -0500 Report

Oh, yes! Ditto, ditto, ditto…I am relatively new. Not to the diagnosis, but to insulin. I was depressed (tho' that is something I have dealt with all my life) and obsessed with food. Read cookbooks and books on diabetes exclusively. Obsessed over grocery lists. Spent lots of time in the store…read every label, compared every product, etc. It was all I could talk about. As time went on and I became more knowledgeable, all of that lessened. I now only talk about it with other diabetics. I had an anorexic friend, years ago, and all he (yes, he) would talk about was food. It did get boring, but I knew how ill he was and he was my friend…so I listened. Perhaps there is a support group in your area. You might want to ask your doctor or hospital. Having a solid human helps a lot. However, what Gabby says is true, come to this board to find support. I have. We are not alone. There will always be someone here who can empathize.

Harlen 2013-08-09 22:20:32 -0500 Report

We can chat any time .
Life is hard and no one likes change , but you seem to know what your needing to do.
Keep up the great work

linda28904 2013-08-09 18:43:52 -0500 Report

There is a depression factor when you face any stress and Lord know diabetes is a stress and there are those that don"t understand it. Bless your husband's little heart.. He probably doesn't mean to be insensitive but for diabetics it is emotional, its non-curable and we will live with it everyday for the rest of our lives.
There are so many new gluten free foods coming out and new flours to work with, its really an exciting time. Celebrate each day with a new discovery. learn something new everyday..Thats all we have one day at a time. Bless you sister!

jigsaw 2013-08-08 20:30:59 -0500 Report

I had similar experiences with my family. My daughter, son-in-law, and their children thought I was being ridiculous when I talked about healthy foods. They all had the worst eating habits. In addition to unhealthy diets in general, they all ate junkfoods. Just recently, my son-in-law was diagnosed as pre-diabetic. Suddenly, my daughter, and her husband no longer think I'm ridiculous. Now, they even ask me questions about diet and healthy eating in general. Sometimes, some people have to have a taste of what you are experiencing, to understand. It's a sad fact, but true. Most importantly, you have taken responsibility for your own health, and consequently, become more aware. You are working at doing what's best for your health! Yes it's frustrating when family members don't understand, but at least they will have you to understand when they have a health problem!
I have had diabetes for twenty years. I have maintained good control of my blood glucose during this time period. I am not suffering from any diabetic complications. This is because I took the time to become informed and aware of how to manage my diabetes. Now I'm here to share my experience with another family member who is in need. Oh boy, how they really listen now, and appreciate my concern about eating a healthy diet!
Keep doing what you are doing! You are taking a correct, positive and constructive action. There is no doubt, you will reap the rewards in the long run. By the way, congratulations on doing so well!!

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