Was just told i have diabetes

By AG1980 Latest Reply 2015-03-12 00:58:14 -0500
Started 2013-07-23 11:27:44 -0500

Hello, I'm 33 years old and have 2 little girls and a loving/caring wife. I was just told yesterday by my doctor that i have type2 diabetes. I was in shock when i first heard it and was lost for words. Confusion, scared and worried were my feelings. When i got home and saw my wife and kids i just broke down crying. My wife was awesome and told me she would help me get through this. I told her i don't want to die, i need to be here with my kids, they need their father. Last night was tough but today i started doing the research on learning about the disease and how to manage my diabetes. I found this app and wanted to read how others are dealing with this and to get advice. Well, thanks to everyone who read this and good luck to you all on your battle with diabetes. Take care

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D's got Diabetes
D's got Diabetes 2015-03-12 00:58:14 -0500 Report

One of the main things is willpower, determination and don't be fearful of the disease as stress won't help, look at it with a smile and a challenge.. Good luck.

skinnyolecat 2015-03-11 16:42:46 -0500 Report

I thought my diagnosis of Type 1 Diabetes was a death sentence after I almost croaked in the emergency room. I have survived since June 2014. I was okay with dying. After nine mos. of changing my diet, attitude, and being able to manage diabetes better, than I get the real death sentence "serous papillary Adenocarcinoma". (uterine cancer). I have always been healthy until 2 years ago when I was becoming diabetic and didn't know it. I have practiced yoga (taught yoga) and massage therapy for over 30 years. I thought I was going to die the very next day. I allowed myself to feel the sadness, the grief, the sorrow and the fear of dying. I am choosing to heal the natural way without surgery and chemo, etc. conventional methods. It saved my life in June, however, I am sure the glucose has fed the cancer. I am only doing live foods, pure water, herbs, etc. My blood sugar is almost normal and I have lowered my insulin. I feel wonderful and working on the emotions. This is a wake up call for you to change. Look up Louise Hay on You can Heal your life, diabetes is a longing for what might have been. A great need to control. Deep sorrow, and no sweetness left. I had this attitude and did not see it. too busy being a slave to the system. I now choose to experience the sweetness of this moment. It is not a battle, it is a journey into loving who, what and where you are now. "Don't be dead serious about your life! It's just a play!!

rhett t
rhett t 2014-12-27 11:03:31 -0600 Report

We are here for you. I was diagnosed 10 years ago and since I've been with diabetic connect I'm really doing better It gives e a lift knowing that theirs someone like me to talk too. I kept it too myself until now. Diabetes is a part of us but it doesn't change who we are just how we eat. Keep a track of what you ate and that will help to let you what shots you're sugar up or down. That helped me. Hang in there

Type1Lou 2014-11-23 13:20:44 -0600 Report

As chronic diseases go, diabetes is one of the most manageable with the right knowledge and decisions. You're right to learn as much as you can about what you can do to manage your condition. Much of it will involve undoing bad dietary and exercising habits and developing good ones. My advice would be to become aware of all of the carbohydrates that you ingest. For me, reducing and controlling the carbohydrates I eat has been the key to better blood glucose control. I was diagnosed in 1976 at age 27 and turned 65 this year. I plan on being around for years yet. I never felt that diabetes defined who I am nor what I could achieve. The world is my oyster (and oysters are low-carb!)

Stuart1966 2014-11-23 11:55:59 -0600 Report

Diabetes is NOT a death sentence.

It is a single word, one of many which describes each and every one of us. You are a husband, a father, an employee, a son, and many, many other things too.

Do not permit Diabetic to begin every sentence, every breath. It does not unless you allow that.

You can be funny, smart, thoughtful, helpful, dopey, stupid, any/every label on the planet. Do not allow it to lead you.

We all die, but diabetes is not the executioner. Let your wife have that "privilege" -ggg- let your daughters "dating choices" age you a tad first.

Stuart1966 2014-11-23 11:55:33 -0600 Report

Diabetes is NOT a death sentence.

It is a single word, one of many which describes each and every one of us. You are a husband, a father, an employee, a son, and many, many other things too.

Do not permit Diabetic to begin every sentence, every breath. It does not unless you allow that.

You can be funny, smart, thoughtful, helpful, dopey, stupid, any/every label on the planet. Do not allow it to lead you.

We all die, but diabetes is not the executioner. Let your wife have that "privilege" -ggg- let your daughters "dating choices" age you a tad first.

heather212 2014-10-27 21:33:30 -0500 Report

Hello! My name is Heather! I am a senior and we are working on our senior projects right now. When I grow up I would love to be a diabetes educator. I have to do a project that relates to that so I have chosen to have a diabetes awareness day on November 5th. I am going to do a lot of stuff to raise awareness around my high school. I will be putting posters on the walls of the high school with the profiles of people who have diabetes. If you would you be willing to answer a few questions pertaining to your diabetes for a poster please let me know :) It would be so awesome if I could get a lot of people from all over to show my fellow students how common diabetes is.

Donnadoll 2014-08-19 13:29:48 -0500 Report

The best advice I can give to you is to eat a diabetic diet..that means to count your carbs, exercise 30 minutes every day and most of all don't beat yourself up if you don't. Make better choices tomorrow.

ReaderReader12 2014-07-30 16:23:47 -0500 Report

Good luck to you too…your wife sounds awesome and totally willing to help. That support is great. I have a lot of learning to do as well, but I am very positive and making both big and small changes in my life. We are trying some amazing recipes many or almost all from right here on this site. Hope things are much better in this past year.

Emma2412 2014-03-19 11:30:51 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC, AG1980.
Yes, I can sympathize with you on how you felt when you got the news. I myself didn't want to believe and lived in denial for quite awhile. I don't do that anymore and try every day to maintain good blood sugar levels.
Read everything you can find on diabetes and how to control it. If you don't exercise now, get it every day if you can. It helps, believe me. It doesn't have to be in a gym or anything fancy like that. Just simple walks will do it — no strolls, though.
Also, I've noticed over the years that it's not so much what I eat, but when during the day I eat it. In other words, if I eat cereal in the morning, it'll have one effect on my blood sugar reading but have another quite different effect on it if I eat it at night as a snack. So, that's another thing you'll have to study for yourself. You can make notes of it as you go along and bring them to your doctor visits.
If you don't have a blood glucose meter, then definitely get one. Without that tool, you can't know where you are. Diabetes is really a self-care project. By the way, you might be able to get the meter free of charge. Investigate it online.
Above all, please don't think of the diagnosis as a death sentence. It's not. I'm 72 now and am still active and fairly healthy. I've been a diabetic for about 25 years now. So, life is there for you if you'll take care of yourself. And if you do, you'll see your daughters grow and grow old yourself. Be kind to yourself. It's not your fault that you have this disease. God bless you.

Lakeland 2014-03-15 21:18:34 -0500 Report

One thing nice about diabetes, is that we have monitors to check where are sugars are at whenever you want to check. So you can control this thing. If your sugar is little high take a walk & test to see how many points a walk can drop your numbers if you are low, eat something it don't have to be much & get your numbers where they should be.

what helped me, is I kept a note book with my number, what I ate & then my numbers 2 hours after, just to see what types of foods do what to my numbers. it has made a world of difference because since I know, I have better control.

I was told to choose the carb first, if I want bread pick one where the fiber number on the nutrition label is higher than 4. higher fiber makes the body work harder to turn that carb into blood sugar so it will not spike your sugars & you'll feel more full longer. funny just by watching my food for t he diabetes I lost 40 pounds without trying it is a healthy way to eat. any way my point was if you want toast with breakfast than that is your carb so avoid the juice, have coffee, water, have protein. if you want your carb to be dessert, than skip the breads. choose the carb first then add proteins & vegetable. you'll be fine.

I was really messing up when I had cerial (carb), adding milk (carb), toast (carb), then juice (carb) so no wonder my blood sugar after breakfast was up to 300. now I do sandwich thins toasted (higher fiber), 2 eggs, & light sausage links & coffee, water with lemmon & my numbers are fine.

at least diabetes is something you can test & know where your at any time of day, so don't let it beat you, you can handle this.

best wishes

tiny22021 2014-03-09 15:05:38 -0500 Report

I was in Prison when I found out I was diabetic. I found myself trying to stay alive on two fronts, prison and in general, both were a life sentence.
I wasn't even looking for Diabetes when I found out I had it.
I found staying alive in Prison easy compared too staying alive with diabetes, fortunately I found a doctor that was willing to go with the hands on approach. She helped me understand that diabetes was an end of life melody and that with the right approach I could manage this. You'll manage Your diabetes because You have somebodies besides yourself to manage it for. Everytime you start to feel sorry for yourself…Don't!. The only way this will kill You is if you help it, you'll find that when you wake up in the morning and start doing your business, that everything associated with your diabetes will be done second nature. Just don't start doubting yourself and don't give up, You can do this.

Mrs. Alilce
Mrs. Alilce 2014-02-25 08:17:19 -0600 Report

Hey I hear you! I was so insulted to be told I was a diabetic. I was Miss Eat Right and Excercise, despite being overweight. Do go to the nutrition training class. Most hospitals have a nutrition counselor available. After 2 years I started seeing an Endorinologist. His nutritionist and PA email with me anytime I feel I have an issue. My sugars were not "high" but they were not "normal". I was feeling so tired all the time. First I worked on food choices. Then each day I did a little something physical. Again I start to look forward to my days. Eating healthy (and I find gluten free as much as possible) is a good lifestyle. More fruits and vegetables and whole grains, I did not buy for "myself", I buy for us all. Quinoa is a good protein grain to learn to eat instead of rice which is a carb. Start your self by stir-fry. Hot pepper and hot sauce believe or not keeps foods interesting. You can eat anything you want, but you learn to WANT to what is best for you. You will learn. You will survive and thrive. Try every day to have your best day : )

JadeyJ 2013-08-02 06:57:02 -0500 Report

Hi AG how are you doing now, has the shocked passed and you are managing things? I have had the best readings so far today. Ive just thrown out the high carb food and going for the complex kinds now, weight is falling off and my BGs are going down. I hope everything is going good for you :)

GabbyPA 2013-07-28 08:36:03 -0500 Report

It is a shock for most. Even if we are half way expecting it. (It runs in my family) So what you started your post with will be your biggest motivation. Love those little girls and your wife. Be there for them by taking care of your diabetes. It really is not a "death sentence" as many people think. Think of it as more of a "wake up call" and keep doing what you have started in your research.

There are tons of great ideas here that people are eager to share. I hope it proves to be a great tool for you and that you find the support you need.

AG1980 2013-07-29 22:16:28 -0500 Report

I love that idea Gabby to think of it as a "wake up call". I've been negligent when it comes to my body. Time to change, have to change. My girls need their daddy and i need them too. Thanks Gabby for the great advice, take care.

Emma2412 2014-03-19 11:41:18 -0500 Report

That's the idea! God bless you and your family. Enjoy your life and take care of yourself. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Like I said elsewhere here, it's not a death sentence.

Acousins 2013-07-28 08:03:10 -0500 Report

Don't be upset. Now you know. Now is the time for you to taking care of yourself which most of us mothers don' do. Just move more and look at what you are eating. Just a few changes will go along way. It will be ok.

swinaz 2013-07-27 14:38:47 -0500 Report

I am in the same boat. I am a 38 year old mother. My husband and I have a 10 and 16 year old. I was diagnosed in July 22, 2013. To be honest, I have had symptoms for awhile and have talked to my doctor. My night time urination is completely interfering with my sleep at this point. Being a nurse, I knew that this was not good. So instead of the random blood sugars that had been tested in the past and all were normal; I insisted on having an A1C. Needless to say; it was 6.5. Which is the limit for a diagnosis of diabetes. The first two days I was fine. I was very mater of fact about it. I figured that I knew what I needed to do; so I would just do it. (Easier said than done.) I drastically changed my diet. I had already begun to make small changes. I even joined a gym a few months ago. The third day was pretty hard on me. The caffeine withdrawals really got to me. (I am a huge fan of a particular soda.)I was physically sick and then I broke down emotionally that evening as well. My husband didn't understand why I was upset. He also doesn't understand how hard it is to try to change everything while grocery shopping and cooking for a family of 4. As others have said, it is important to understand the disease and what raises and lowers your individual blood sugar levels.
Try to take good care of yourself but don't beat yourself up either. People can and do live very long and productive lives with diabetes. I have witnessed it. I have also witnessed people take such good care of themselves that they were able to come off of insulin and eventually all medication.
Be good to yourself, remember that you are human. We will have a day every so often that we eat what we shouldn't or skip that walk or session at the gym. Most of all, remember that you are not alone.

sammysue 2013-07-26 08:57:58 -0500 Report

AG1980, I do not have diabetes (I have MS), but I take care of my husband who does have it. He was diagnosed almost 7 years ago and we have maintained his diabetes well with diet, exercise and natural medicines. I am not promoting or advocating anything here, just sharing our experience. He was 235 at a random glucose test so was pretty high. His A1C is now 6.0 and he does splurge from time to time. You just have to do that. The way we have gotten his under control is with a low-carb diet. I got the book by Dr. Bernstein and highly recommend. I have actually researched (probably too much) and read and studied this disease. Actually, I understand it better than my MS! My mother and 10 aunts and grandmother all had diabetes. You learn to take one meal, one day at a time. You can live a long and even healthier life living with diabetes. You learn to pay closer attention to what you're putting in your mouth (which we all should do), being more active (which again we all should do) and appreciating each moment and each day! Learn to be creative with your food! You can take a recipe and switch it up to fit your low carb. Lots of recipes on line but be careful…I see them saying they are diabetic friendly, when in fact they will make my husband's blood sugar rise. Each person is unique, so you need to check yourself often at first and find what works and doesn't work for you. Soon it will become a way of life. It is normal to be angry, sad in the beginning and you will even continue to have those days from time to time. But what I do is look around me and see that things could be much worse!! And then I become determined to take on this diabetes and MS head-on!! We have this disease; it does not have us. Good luck to you and God Bless.

AG1980 2013-07-27 07:39:14 -0500 Report

Thank you Sammysue for sharing you and your husbands experience. You are absolutely right about what u said about paying closer attention to what you put in your mouth. Its only been a week for me but I'm so cautious now about what i eat. I say to myself, if i continue to eat the way i used to then i won't be here to watch my little girls grow. Its challenging but its a no brainer for me. Good luck to you and your husband, take care

Emma2412 2014-03-19 11:51:17 -0500 Report

Another thing, AG1980. Look on this site for good recipes for diabetics. Also, on EverydayHealth (I think that's the name of the site.) Then, you don't have to even think about what you're eating. You'll know it's good for diabetics. I personally am testing out vegetarian recipes (which I love) to see if those will help me. I had an all-veggie day yesterday and even had an alcoholic drink at a party last night and my BG reading was still only 114 today. Not bad, I'd say. One thing I want to say about different diets and different people. Each person is different and one diet will act on one person differently than on you or me. So, test them all out and then select the one that's best for you. I find that the only thing that fits everybody, though, is the need for daily exercise — nothing spectacular or expensive, just ordinary brisk walking will do the trick.

sammysue 2013-07-29 12:10:51 -0500 Report

I just wanted to add one thing (such a busy body..lol) but make sure you add that exercise in. It is crucial and believe me when I say it helps!! But be sure you check before and after exercise. Don't want to go too low. Ok…enough…:)

sammysue 2013-07-29 12:08:55 -0500 Report

God Bless and good luck. I feel you will do well. You can live and long and healthy life with controlled diabetes. You will watch those little girls grow because you care so much and you know what you have to do!

JadeyJ 2013-07-25 17:33:51 -0500 Report

I was exactly the same, confused, angry, upset, denial, shocked, it was not a good place to be. Now i have applied myself 1000% to beat this, because i have noone to help me. My husband means well but does not know how i feel when he eats things that i cant have in front of me. I have to play around with food and completely change my eating habits. My body is going through a complete overhaul, hormones, weightloss, and possibly menopause lol. Its not nice and neither am I some days. When i first changed my eating habits my bloods were between 280and 350 and now only after a few weeks they have dropped to 180 - 200, which is still high, but a better result. I was expecting overnight results, but have come to realise it will take a few months to get them down to normal.

I take Metformin, 1 x morning and night, it often upsets my stomach.
Ive lost a total of 23 kilo (50 pounds) just by cutting out the white starchy foods like potato, rice, pasta, sugar and white flour. Making my potions smaller etc
I need support here because none of my family has this and they dont understand any of it. So Just know you are not alone and we can get through this :)

Emma2412 2014-03-19 11:57:35 -0500 Report

Yes, JadyJ. I know what you're going through with family. I only have my sister left and her 2 boys. When I was first diagnosed, they all insisted that it must be because I was "eating the wrong things." Well, as we all know here at DC, placing blame on someone for having diabetes is something that makes no sense because it's not our fault. But we can learn about what the disease is and how to control it. Perhaps your husband will respond better if he reads about what diabetes is? I wish you God's blessings.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-07-24 13:44:57 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC. I am proud of you, you are awesome. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself you jumped in with both feet. Diabetes is not a death sentence. You will be around to dance at your daughters weddings.

Believe me I know how your first night was. I went through the same thing. You are doing the right thing in researching diabetes. Education is the most important part of understanding the disease.

Changing your lifestyle such as eating the right foods and less carbs can be a struggle at first but you will soon learn what to eat and what not to eat. Once you get used to testing you will find it will be a breeze as long as you take good care of yourself.

Good luck to you and have fun with the family.

AG1980 2013-07-24 21:08:20 -0500 Report

Thank you Joyce for those encouraging words, day 3 and i feel a little better and trying to stay positive. I went grocery shopping and bought so many things i always passed up and didnt think twice about. I believe I'm headed in the right direction. Take care

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2013-07-24 21:18:13 -0500 Report

That is great. I was so suprised at what I found out what I could eat that I realized giving things I could have wasn't going to be that bad. I under no cirucstances will give up chocolate. It is my prozac.

farmboytype1 2013-07-24 10:29:56 -0500 Report

Don't worry, your not going to die unless you don't take care of yourself. I hope you get through this process well without forgetting. Bye!

AG1980 2013-07-24 21:30:19 -0500 Report

Thanks farmboy, i haven't been taking care of myself and that's why I'm in this position. After seeing my numbers with my blood sugar levels, what my doctor were telling my and then reading some of the effects diabetes have it just scared the s*** outta me. I have no choice now but to care for myself. Take care buddy

silvie mae
silvie mae 2013-07-24 08:11:47 -0500 Report

Hi AG,
I am 47 and was diagnosed with type 1 2 years ago. I was completely shocked. I was 130 lbs.always ate fairly healthy and was very active. I remember when they started me on the shots, 5 or 6 a day. I was filled with fear and anxiety over every meal and every bolus.

But through it all I am learning so much about myself and how to live a healthier life. It's
a big challenge and can be extremely frustrating, but with dedication and good education you can face the challenges and your fears. I still battle with these things but I am learning how to better cope when I'm feeling distressed.

BroadwayGirl 2013-07-23 23:51:57 -0500 Report

Don't worry about amputation and going blind! That will only happen if you don't manage and take care of your diabetes. The best thing to do is just do as your doctor tells you.

AG1980 2013-07-24 21:10:56 -0500 Report

Yea those were initial/panic thoughts. The lifestyle change is gonna be very challenging but i have no choice now. Thanks for the concern, take care

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-07-23 21:59:18 -0500 Report

Hey AG1980,

Welcome to Diabetic Connect. I am so glad you found your way to us.

I see you have already made some friends and are getting some great support. And that's the advice I always give to individuals who are newly diagnosed. Get support. Don't go through this alone.

As others have said, finding out you are diabetic brings up a lot of feelings. A diagnosis like this comes out of the blue. There you are, being told that your life is going to change. First the shock, then the emotions. It's really important to have a safe place to talk about how you are feeling. Sounds like you have that at home with your wife. I was glad to read that you let her know how you were feeling -- expressed the fear factor -- and that she was so supportive. That's the first step.

And I see you are getting educated. You might ask your wife to team up with you on gathering information, if she isn't already. Flood the fear with facts.

You may find yourself experiencing all kinds of thoughts and feelings during the days ahead as your mind wraps itself around your diagnosis. I hope you will keep talking, and that you will stay in touch with us. Here on Diabetic Connect, you are surrounded by smart and caring people who are travling the road along beside you.

Keep us posted. And take good care of yourself, my friend.


AG1980 2013-07-24 21:15:15 -0500 Report

Thank u so much Dr. Gary for your great reply and advice. I'm up for the challenge and having people like me going through the same conditions and feedings is extremely helpful.

Ranger61 2013-07-23 18:24:50 -0500 Report

It is tough to get the diagnosis but you can make it a plus. You can with diet and life changes be healthier than people without diabetes. It is hard I am having major problems with extreme hunger. Take care you do go through a grief process be good to yourself it will work out.

AG1980 2013-07-24 21:19:57 -0500 Report

Yes Ranger I'm also having the problem with hunger. I just ate what i wanted with no regret, fast food was my best friend. Laziness for me not cooking. Well that's in the past now, got no choice. Good luck buddy, take care

Scarlet03 2013-07-30 02:38:41 -0500 Report

I'm with almost everyone here. When it comes to being newly diabetic. At first with me I was on metformin. I also had a love for fast food. 13 yrs later I go to Mickey ds for breakfast. If you figure out a regiment that works best for you it will be ok. Any support or understanding of diabetes will help by leaps and bounds

Scarlet03 2013-07-30 02:48:13 -0500 Report

Sorry it's hard to reply on a phone …I stopped with oral diabetic medication . After 11 years . I've switched to insulin. This doesn't always happen, I ended up allergic to the pills.
I want to make a correction with my last comment . I go to Mickey. Ds once a month as a treat. I've learned the hard way with too much fast food.
I wish you the best of luck in your fight with disease. A common bond in the same fight always makes it easier to deal with .

Shershe699 2013-07-23 16:15:30 -0500 Report

I'm just like you in that I was just diagnosed three weeks ago. I was completely devastated & felt that this was all my fault. I could have, should have, lost weight, exercised, etc. I brought this on myself! I still haven't told my husband or children.
The Merformin made me severely nauseous for ten days. The plus side was that I was so sick I couldn't eat & lost weight. LOL
The most helpful things for me was having my doctor refer me to a diabetic counselor & a nutritionist. I also attended a series of workshops at our local hospital. I'm also learning what foods, even though allowed, increase my blood sugar too much.
Best of luck on this new journey. Here's to a healthier, happier you!!

AG1980 2013-07-24 21:23:08 -0500 Report

Thank you shershe699 for sharing your experiences. Yea, i had those same thoughts of could have/should have but that's in the past. I have to look at the future now, no choice. Good luck to u as well, take care

eberrios343 2013-07-23 14:42:31 -0500 Report

Wish I was diagnosed I went online and did a lot of research on how to control this the disease. Is very controllable what medication if you need it exercise and which are what you eat of course. The first thing you gotta tell yourself I'm not gonna let this beat me imma beat it. The only way you can die from the disease if you don't take care of yourself.

abdulhaq 2013-07-23 13:37:02 -0500 Report

AG, believe me diabetes is no more a killer!! Yes it was 40 years ago. But since then its as much a killer as flu is…

AG1980 2013-07-23 13:42:15 -0500 Report

Thanks Abdul, I'm trying to understand it right now. There are some things I'm reading that are just terrifying, like going blind and amputations. Yea, its just gonna take time…

AG1980 2013-07-23 13:25:39 -0500 Report

Thanks Nick for those kind words. You are spot on and this is exactly why i joined this forum. Question, i just started the oral medication (metformin) today and only after 1 pill, I got diarrhea. Is this normal? I called out of work today but my job won't allow me many restroom breaks without noticing. Should i tell them about my condition? Thanks buddy.

Nick1962 2013-07-23 14:33:21 -0500 Report

A lot of people report stomach issues at first on Met, but they go away. Luckily I was only on it for a month, and you'll have a good chance of getting off it too the sooner you get your diet figured out.
The work issue is iffy - we've heard of some negative issues, but also some very supportive workplaces as well. Play it by ear, you may be able to reverse this to the point where it's a non-issue. Maybe just mention you're trying to adapt to a new medication that will temporarily require you to use the facilities more often.

AG1980 2013-07-23 15:37:52 -0500 Report

Thanks for the tip about work, I'll see how it goes day to

Nick1962 2013-07-23 15:52:09 -0500 Report

No prob. My company didn't find out until I was "outed" by a type 1 almost 4 years later.
Keep a positive attitude! If you do the right things the condition is less work than putting in contacts in the morning.

Nick1962 2013-07-23 11:58:13 -0500 Report

Go through the normal processes you’re feeling right now – anger, maybe denial, and possibly even guilt for somehow thinking you did it to yourself. Then step back, take a breath and look at it like a project.
Like anything else, to see a project through means planning and the ability to be flexible and quick thinking when something just doesn’t go the way it was planned.
Once you’re over the initial hump, and have the needed education, it will become second nature to deal with it successfully. There’s a good chance that it will even make your life better as it did for me. Hang around here a while and we’ll get you fixed up.
Oh, and welcome to the group!