I Am fFeling very Useless To This Site

By Latest Reply 2010-11-30 23:17:23 -0600
Started 2008-12-15 07:29:05 -0600

The past couple of weeks I have tried everything I can to contribute good discussions and bring the best of the best forward for newcomers to read, only to be reposted by another within hours of my original discussion post.so I have deleted a great part of my own posts and have not wanted to come back to see the same useless discussions first to view for pages and pages; once again Makes it so hard for me to be useful, or even want to be, to take all that time. I do not, I feel hurt and tired of trying to put the newcomers information first so they can see what the site is really about, and inviting

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bmwl8dy99 2010-11-30 23:16:11 -0600 Report

Well I just got here and I am looking for all the help I can get. I don't want to see anyone go who has real information that will help me to grasp hold and learn to takle this beast diabetes. Any help from anyone…I THANK YOU…and I WILL READ IT ALL.

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2008-12-22 23:39:14 -0600 Report

I enjoy the the things that you post. I new to this world of diabetes since 10/08. I need your information, recipes and help. Please do not stop posting we need you.
Your Friend

2008-12-23 04:43:42 -0600 Report

Thanks for your support, Joanna, that is very incouraging. Go Bless You; Claudia

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-23 07:20:53 -0600 Report

Your post seem to be at full speed now a days. Just keep up the good work. A lot of friends here enjoy participating in these discussions. I think recently the outpour of the new friends have been tremendous and that is what this site is all about. Things turned around for the better and I think we owe alot of that to John and Amy…Debe

Pauline B
Pauline B 2008-12-20 12:57:37 -0600 Report

I sometimes get to feeling the same way. I seldom initiate a discussion, but I read quite a few every day. I am intrigued by the subjects, information, and sometimes misinformation, but mostly and the inherent need for all of us to find help in dealing with the diseases that are inflicted upon us for whatever reason. None of us asked for it. We are all doing the best we can at any point in time though others might try to tell us where we have gone wrong. We "hear" the teachings of others at our own pace when we are ready, which accounts for the duplicity in postings. I go back 20 or 30 pages of postings and find items that were posted only a few days before that are intriguing to me.

The site reminds me of a church circle or other large group composed of people where there are no membership requirements other than the desire to learn and deal about diabetes. Many of us have other medical issues; many have emotional issues. Some may have found solutions that enable to live them relatively easy live but most are struggling. Diabetes is a selfish disease that requires one to put him/herself first, think of consequences of decisions, but by planning ahead one can enjoy some little treats of the season.

So, I understand your feelings, but don't drop out or give up. Every voice in the choir is important!

Merry Christmas.

2008-12-19 06:12:52 -0600 Report

Well, I guess I am ranting and raving today, because it is so close to Christmas and it seems so unholiday like, even with the pending snow, I do not feel in the Christmas spirit and i guess it is showing, Sorry

gunther123 2008-12-20 12:28:53 -0600 Report

ditto, depresed, no money, everything is going to the dogs, and in my case, the horses too. I just got done raggling with about a foot of snow. I think I need some warm rum, straight up, couple doubles to ease the cold, the pain and go to sleep! I'm just getting too old for this stuff.Oh to be back in my 20's. This isn't a whole lot of motivation, but they are emotions

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-17 19:53:46 -0600 Report

No pressure! Even if you NEVER add anything, the site is for reading as much as writing. The thing is, though, you add a LOT. You have asked some VERY good questions and have submitted some great responses. And just the occassional encouragement means a LOT.

Don't shy away.

2008-12-18 14:54:19 -0600 Report

THANKS, so much; I needed that and appreciate it. I read a lot of your posts, too. Claudia

BeckyJ 2008-12-16 09:50:08 -0600 Report

PLEASE don't stop posting. Your posts are some of the most positive I've come across but like others I sometimes don't respond because I'm not sure what to say or feel that you've said everything pertinent. You give a great perspective and I hope that other newcomers are able to learn from you like I have.

2008-12-17 07:07:30 -0600 Report

Thankyou so much for that review; I feel better and this morning I am bringing up past discussions that I think may be important again now. luv:->)Claudia

GabbyPA 2008-12-16 08:11:39 -0600 Report


Don't worry about people not finding your posts, they will. If people are only looking at the first page of topics, then they are not interested in really finding the meat of things. We are a huge site full of great info and inspiration. People will find it.

Never let those negative posts get you down. People have opinions and that is all they are. Good or bad, don't let them rule your feelings. Everyone here gets different things from different posts. Not all of them are going to fill everyone's needs. You can't do that, none of us can. So we post what is important to us, and if it is important to others, they can contribute. If it is not important to others, hopefully they will just skip it instead of being negative. Some people just feel they have to respond to every post whether or not it is of interest to them, thus some of the goffy comments we get.

I look at negative posts in two ways. Sometimes there is a valid point, a lesson to learn. I try to learn it.
Sometimes it is just someone being ugly and not helpful. Just ignore that stuff and move on. It does not warrent a response or a defense.

If this site gives you any encouragement to fight your daily battle, then it is worth it. You never know what little thing you said can turn someone's life around, brighten their day or give them the determination to try again. You never know and if you can keep yourself from falling into negative thinking, then you will help us out here.

2008-12-16 06:11:45 -0600 Report

Thankyou friends; I have tried so hard looking up and posting recipes, news articles, discussions and yes, even crafts. I may try to contribute a lot, but only what I know does help me. But lately it feels so useless to even try because of all the negative posts. Thanks for some of the positive ones, my friends.

gunther123 2008-12-15 19:57:54 -0600 Report

I'm a newcomer and caregiver. Show me around. I just joined the site a few days ago for me, and hopefully learn more about TypeI, which my wife has had for about 6 years or so. I invited you to my friends list.

caragypsy 2008-12-15 19:43:46 -0600 Report

Please don't feel that way. I like reading your posts. Most of the time I don't know what to say so I don't say anything. I read a lot of peoples posts and say nothing. Cara

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-15 18:26:49 -0600 Report

I to felt useless to the site at one time. I thought I also had a lot to share with everyone here. But although I been through alot, some of the friends here might never have to experience it. My myself I hope none of them do. But if for some reason they do I mu=ight be able to help or guide them thru those situations. I can't answer so discussions because I have had diabetes all my life(46years) and almost lived my life as a diabetic. Some of the friends need to change ther lifestyle around after 30 years of doing something a different way. I can even imagine what is would be like to stopped doing something I done for thirty years and the next day they tell me no. So I myself think you have helped me emotionally. You have a positive comment to anything I ever wrote. Keep adding your posts and if you get no replies go on. I have started several post about, dialysis, transplants,MRSA, and got a 1 reponse on each. But that maybe far down the road for friends here and maybe one day they may have questions for me to answer. But right now if I could help just 1 person I did my job here. I no for a fact you did that. You helped me several times. So please post, don't stop…Debe

gma 2008-12-15 18:37:20 -0600 Report

Please keep posting Iam one of the new ones and am still trying to read everything I have read a few of yours and they have helped I dont reply all the time cause I think sometimes what I got to sya sounds stupid but I need to read what people post even if I dont answer so please keep posting

Lanore 2008-12-15 08:39:30 -0600 Report

Lil. Stop trying to do that and just post what you feel you want too, like so many others. You are not useless to the site. You have many good posts and the newcomers will find their way around the posts that are here. It just takes time the learn how to use the site. We have all done it and so can they. I am not sure why you feel so useless, your not. Lanore ;-)

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