I need to make a point... or maybe points.

By Erunner Latest Reply 2008-12-14 16:06:07 -0600
Started 2008-12-12 20:31:13 -0600

I'm beginning to notice there seems to be a thing about accumulating points here. I was hoping everyone was asking me to be a friend because they liked me.

Now I'm wondering if people see me as potential points. Maybe I'm not the make a splash kind of man I fancied myself to be!!!

Either way, I'm so happy I found this place and all of the things folks have done to help educate me.

So I'll close by soliciting as many people to ask me to be their friend as possible. Excuse me while I go have a Stuart Smalley moment!

36 replies

jaclyncrystal 2008-12-14 16:02:26 -0600 Report

ok enough already, I am fortunatly to have belonged to another group dedicated to my lupus, started to talking to others on the board and now almost 7yrs. later still have an excellent friend in california, we email all the time, having a site like this to discuss just our united disease if fine, but you need to take care of ourselves and that includes, receipes, handiwork and chatting about anything else, this is a relief, we all know what we have and the support here is great but as a new member, i like to read all the discussions, perhaps like others have said we need a place for medical knowledge about diabetes only. I invite people to be my friends when I have read some of their posts and think they are someone I could talk to regularly, and you know what I have. Makes my days and outlook a whole lot brighter. I hope this topic ends today, I feel I am back in school,(not funny)

Bluebutterfly 2008-12-14 11:14:57 -0600 Report

I had much rather have friends than points. I do not know what the points are good for except bragging rights.I haven't posted in awhile because of this tiff with the points. I only reply if I feel I need too. I ask for friends to be friendly. I will answer all mail and have I hope to the new comers. I will help any way I can. Just my two cents worth. I hope this has helped you to see all of us are not about the points.

Anonymous 2008-12-14 11:35:35 -0600 Report

I agree with you bluebutterfly. But why even brag about your points. If you are a veteran you know who has been here with you for awhile and when I was a newcomer I just read and read the discussions to figure out who could help me the most and offered the best advice to the forum. Over time you learn who is giving good advice, who is being informative and helpful, and who is posting just to post. I do not even know what my points are because I rarely go into my profile and if I do it is to check on something else not points.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-14 15:33:56 -0600 Report

My suggestion is to have the discussion's divided into to groups:
* Educational
* Recreational

It would be hard, but to bad we can't get rid of the point system and just be put on by the numbers we joined in on. This would show the new members how long the older members been on this site…Debe

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2008-12-13 23:18:31 -0600 Report

I'm 3 months new and can not figure out how to invite people to be my friend. I've looked my profile page over and can't seem to find the instructions. I feel like a box of rocks. Help!

Your Friend

Anonymous 2008-12-14 11:25:14 -0600 Report

Two painful,
If you see a post from someone you want to invite there is a place under the post that says invite to friends. That is one way. When you invite them, they will either accept it or ignore it. That is the only way I have ever done it. If there is another way maybe someone will post to tell you. Hope that helps.

highlandcitygirl 2008-12-13 12:57:32 -0600 Report

i enjoy a good sense of humour, always have. my own is somewhat weird, or as some people have told me, you ain't right! i love to invite people to friends and i enjoy being asked to friends, gives me a good feeling in side,(takes little to make my sixty year old heart happy), as for points it took me a while to realize where they were coming from! then it become a source of old age fun! remined me of my piano lessions as a kid. when you finished a lession and done good you got a gold star. i like gold stars and i love my friends!

DJ 2008-12-13 10:56:44 -0600 Report

well, I must be "Stuck on Stupid" over here, cause I honestly didn't know anything about "Points"!!! What the heck are they for?? If I sent a friend request to anyone here, it is and was because I honestly wanted to be friends..I haven't had an over abundance of requests, but I treasure each and every one. Oh, and I thought the opening comments were in-deed very funny..and we all need a good laugh Right???
Biggest Hugz to all..*DJ

2008-12-13 10:51:44 -0600 Report

To Anonymous: Yes you do have a valid point, however, I felt that some of your comments were rather rude and unnecessary. Your point could have been made in a better way. I guess what bothers me the most is that you made this rude comments and then hid behind the anonymous signature, which is your privilege. I know different people do things differently, but any comments or posts that I make here, I am happy to use my name.

Anonymous 2008-12-13 11:26:01 -0600 Report

I am sorry. I told you at the beginning that I was going to make people mad. I did not mean to be rude or unpleasant i was just telling everyone about my personal feelings on the friend invites and if you had sent me one, I may not have accepted. So everyone accept my apology. I was not meaning to be rude or unneccesary. And like you said it is my choice to be anonymous or not. And also to tell everyone. There are alot of us using this for privacy. It is not just me. So alot of these posts that are anonymous are not coming from me. But the one above I did write and will own up to it. Again forgive my post for upsetting Mary or anyone. But I stand by what I said about the points system. I do not know why it is a feature.

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-12-13 19:45:34 -0600 Report

This is to anonymous, If you look at your profile It explains,the Points. It has nothing to do with winning anything, but it is basically a small reward[like a gold star] for being active on this site, active in a positive way, by starting a good discussion, sending a good reply[unlike yours] inviting a friend, when I found this site I had no clue,about Diabetes, butI soon found friends that helped me with my diabetes,and when I was having difficulties, friends gave me the support I neededthrough their knowledge and sometimes emotionally as well. Please take a look at your Profile, and read what the site is all about, It may help answer your questions. I send you my Best Robert

2008-12-13 21:20:11 -0600 Report

Thank you for your post. You said it alot better than I did. MaryS

Anonymous 2008-12-14 09:55:27 -0600 Report

I know all about the point system and what it means. The post was about invites some people would get more points and I was saying that I do not know why there is a competition. Because you are not winniong anything. If I had zero(since you think my post do not desreve any) I would still come on this site. I am not here to get points. I am here to get information that is helpful to my diabetic care. While having friends is important it is not worth a point system. Whether you have 20 friends or thousands that is your business. I am very choosy who I accept from and who I invite. That was all I was saying. I did not want a big bad debate. I am so over those Do not wish to fight with anyone. Sorry again if anything I have posted on this subject has upset anyone or offended anyone. I quess I should also apologize for all my posts since Robert said I do not deserve to post or get points for them. Sorry again Robert and to everyone.

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-12-14 13:50:51 -0600 Report

My Dear Anonymous,I never said you don't deserve to post,or get points for posting or replying, but there seems to be a contradiction,You don't want points for friends,which you choose to have or not have, but you want points for other things.When you get a friend request It is real simple you either accept, or you ignore and the request goes away. I just don't understand what the problem is, You don't win anything for getting the most points,But supposedly You get the respect of other members of the site,To me that is saying Posting quality Items Concernig Diabetes, that will help members, especially new members' I just don't understand You harping on such a menial part of the program, let it go, be happy with your decision, and let the members that enjoy making new friends continue to do so, some have responded that makeing new friends, is a real important part of there program,as in there lives they have very few friends and it is there way of reaching out,My Best Robert

2008-12-14 13:55:01 -0600 Report

Thank you for your posting. I agree with you completely and couldn't have said it better.

Anonymous 2008-12-14 14:05:59 -0600 Report

I could care less about points, if I never had any I would be fine with that. I am not here to get points. that is not why I came to this site. And in reality if you want to get down to the truth. I did not come to this site to make friends, I came for information and advice for my type 2 disease. Not to get points, prizes, or anything,just information. I have made some very good friends that I choose to talk to in private not in this public forum. So if my posting in public upsets you than I am sorry. We are all here for different things and mine is really information and I find that in all kinds of places on here. Information is a personal thing, some may find that talking about tea helps them, other may find talking about pumps helps them, but all of these posting helps someone in all kinds of ways. So again I will apologize to you for posting and I will not make another comment on this subject. I do not want to fight with you or anyone else. So we can agree to disagree. Points for anything is not important to me.

Anonymous 2008-12-13 10:14:49 -0600 Report

I will probably make people mad but I will make a point too. When you first join this site you are bombarded with all kinds of friend invites. And I accepted every single one of them but like he said i figured out it must be the points thing. Then they just got over whelming. So I stopped. Now I will ony invite or accept an invite if I have talked with you or if a discussion post made me want to get to know you better. So if I have ignored your invite that is why. If this offends anyone I am sorry. It does not mean that I do not want to talk with you. If it is that important to you then send me an inbox message and we will discuss it. And on a final point. Why do we have this point system. It is not like we are going to win a big screen TV or cash and prizes. So what is it for except to say we participate in this forum and we have thousands of friends. Can anyone explain that to all of us.

vgarrison 2008-12-13 20:18:44 -0600 Report

It is my understand that the point system was created to help newbies tell who were the "old timers" and whatnot…that way you can decided better on the advice you get.


Erunner 2008-12-13 21:51:40 -0600 Report

Anonymous, I used to post on a blog where a "points" system was introduced. These were based on the number of times you left a post.

What it did was create some "pointaholics" as they were posting 24/7 when their time was probably better spent elsewhere. The blog was a debate type place and you could learn a lot there.

This place is different because people do care about one another and this place can literally change or save lives. That's big stuff.

Everything in my opening was my dry humor and nothing more. I understand now how I very well could have hurt people as this place is a lifeline to them.

Something I have learned is that we are guests here and we should show as much respect for the people and whatever things the owners of this blog choose to offer us.

I wish you nothing but the best. God bless.

2008-12-12 22:35:59 -0600 Report

Seeing a man as potential points… hmmm now that's a new one for me. But it's starting to work for me :)

I hope that your 'dry' sense of humor comes out as often as you like it to as we all need to laugh and get on with our lives "In a healthy way that is…"..

Besides if you are being a snot then maybe they won't notice me being a snot so much!!! LOL

Welcome to the troops!!

jaclyncrystal 2008-12-12 23:35:03 -0600 Report

please excuse all my typing errors can not seem to do anything the way i used to. I agree with the thoughts that I invite people to be friends that have posted interesting items on here. I intend to continue trying to be a great friend to all. hugs jackie

2008-12-13 08:11:58 -0600 Report

Hi erunner,
I like you and your post's. That is why
I asked you to be my friend, also your sense of Humor is great Also. I love to laugh. It is good for the SOUL. Thanks

GabbyPA 2008-12-12 22:11:17 -0600 Report

LOL...of course we like you Erunner. We just have to get to know you, then maybe we will change our minds. (how was that for dry?)

I know when I frist joined, there were a few people who invited me and it made me feel really welcome. I appreciated the outreach.

I do the same. Sometimes I do it from the home page and sometimes I do it from a discussion post that really strikes me.
There are some that are more aquaintances just as in any kind of friendship situation, and there are others that I will have for many many years.

Goddess 2008-12-12 21:31:57 -0600 Report

Heck I'm 48 years old and this is the first time in my life I have ever had any friends that is why I do it.

Erunner 2008-12-12 21:25:40 -0600 Report

I have a dry sense of humor that causes my wife to tell me I'm the only one who laughs at my jokes. I respond by telling her my humor is too sophisticated for most people!

Hopefully I didn't come across as being negative.

God bless! Allan

caragypsy 2008-12-12 21:24:20 -0600 Report

You have made me so upset I am crying. I have been having so much fun getting lots a lots of friends here so I am a up of points. In my real live I can count my friends on one hand and have fingers left over I am a very lonely and sad person maybe. I should not by on this site. Cara

Erunner 2008-12-12 21:27:30 -0600 Report

caragypsy, I am so sorry. That wasn't my intent at all. I was trying to be humorous and nothing more. Please accept my apologies.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-12 21:33:11 -0600 Report

Cara, There nothing wrong with you inviting friends. I too do it. You are doing very well getting into discussions and sharing. He was not wanting to make anyone feel bad. Many of us keep up with the friends invite. We are all pretty active in all the discussions. So go ahead and make your invites. Glad that this site has brought you closer and more friends. Please don't cry we all love you here…Debe

BeckyJ 2008-12-13 07:47:15 -0600 Report

Cara, I was very flattered when you invited me to be your friend. It makes me feel that there is someone is out there. If you haven't read some of my past posts you probably aren't aware that outside of this website I have only family and 1 old friend to talk with. I'm sure that anyone who invited you to be a friend was doing so because of your personality…not for points. I still haven't figured out how to do a lot on this website beyond ADD YOUR REPLY, I will have to figure out how to invite a friend and add Erunner to that list LOL. My friend list is now up to 20 and I am so glad to see their posts everyday…yes, even yours. :)

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-12-12 20:52:14 -0600 Report

I do consider you a good friend. I like that you were able to get on this site and start discussions right away. Thats a sign to me you are really willing to learn and also share ideas. Thats what I feel this site is all about. Learning and sharing to our own knowledge. It is a pleasure having you here…Debe

2008-12-12 20:48:53 -0600 Report

I, for one, add friends, not to make points, but to make friends. I can't answer for anyone else. I can use all the friends I can get!!! LOL

jaclyncrystal 2008-12-12 20:36:57 -0600 Report

Thank you the weather was getting me down but our note, put a smile on my face. I think I would take all your invites to be friends as a great complenent on the posts you make and contributions to this site, thats my opinion. jackie

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-12-12 20:57:22 -0600 Report

I understand what you are saying, but I base my Friends list .on Discussion topics, and replys that people make, We have a lot of inteligent , caring people on this site, and I honestly hope they use the same type of judgement Robert

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