Very New to This & So Overwhelmed!

By katz56 Latest Reply 2013-06-19 19:16:47 -0500
Started 2013-06-13 16:09:17 -0500

Hi everyone, I was just diagnosed as being Type 2 Diabetic on May 31st. My sugar was 328, A1C 12.2, cholesterol 252, triglycerides are 411 plus other things being out of whack. Guess those numbers weren't good. Yes I'm overweight too as you probably know. Feel really bad and now my eyes are all blurry and I can't focus well, what's that all about?? Dr. put me on 500 mg Metformin 2x day..made me sick, sick, sick,…but I've stuck it out and now it's doing pretty good, I don't get sick as much. Guess my body is adjusting. My blood sugar is just now going down to high 100's like 188 or so. Thought I would feel better as it goes down, but I don't. I guess like everyone I went into shock and still am, I don't know what to do, what to eat. I've read everything online I can find and I just get more confused. I think I'm overthinking things and making it harder. I go see a dietitian on June 22nd, so hope that will help. I'm under lots of stress because my dad has Alzheimers which is fastly progressing and I'm the only one to take care of him, I work FT so I'm constantly running home to check on him & back to work, when I am home it's so much stress to see him like this. Not complaining because I'd do anything to help him. I know stress isn't good for us either. You know ask me about a diet to lose weight & I've done them all and still gained 50 lbs., but this I don't understand. I'm trying to eat healthy since I found out, I just don't know what to put together and there's the carbs,, sugar, low fat, don't eat low fat things, read the labels..what am I suppose to look for - fat, carbs, sugar IDK…I'm lost! Anyone else got advice or having same problems. I'm so low all I want to do is cry. I just need some help.

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01misspearl 2013-06-19 19:16:47 -0500 Report

Wow I really love the advice you people give. It has helped me along with everyone else

Right now the only advice I have is TEST NEVER GUESS.
It's the only thing that has really helped me almost two years and I still get mad cry and sometimes don't care it only last for awhile cuz I'm the only one who can take care of me

Good luck. Come here a lot I do. It helps

jigsaw 2013-06-14 19:28:40 -0500 Report

Of course your medical professionals should be your first choice for info. There are some teriffic replies here that I'm sure you'll find helpful. I would like to attempt to add to these and maybe simplify some of the confusion and choices that you are experiencing.
I have been successfully managing my diabetes for 20 years. Maybe by sharing some very basic and possibly generic info, I can help you get started on a good path. Your doctors and dieticians etc. can fine tune any info you receive.
Poultry, meat,fish, and many vegetables are low carb, and healthy. There are fruits that are relatively low on the glycemic index and also healthy. Some fruits are somewhat high in carbs, so be cautious in your choices and QUANTITY! In general, most processed foods are high in carbs and should either be avoided, or kept to a minimum. Processed foods include breads, cakes, flour, pizza, and most foods that don't come from the ground or an animal. Many foods that are sugar free or no sugar added (cakes, candy, etc) are still high in carbs and will raise your blood glucose levels. Eating a nutritionally balanced diet that includes the proper portions for an individuals height and correct weight will frequently help shed unwanted pounds. Portion control is a major positive factor in controlling weight and diabetes. The typical portion in the American diet is very large and unhealthy. Since learning about portion control, I have incorporated an important factor in both weight control, and blood glucose control. My portions are much smaller then in my past, but my body has adjusted, and I no longer feel hungry all the time.
Here is a fairly detailed link to help you with carb awareness.

Set apart
Set apart 2013-06-14 06:56:32 -0500 Report

First of all welcome to DC, being diagnosed with Diabetes can be such a stressor, trying to understand what is going on with our bodies and what we need to do to make it all better. Your numbers are going down, great job, the reason you may not be feeling too good with this is because your body is adjusting to lower BG readings since it was high for a while. Your diabetic educator will teach you what to eat, I don't eat anything white, (potatoes, sugar, pasta, etc). I eat very little fruits, small portions maybe apples and berries. include lean protein in your meals, veggies. I snack on almonds, and walnuts. Drink lots of water, and try walking, it will help control your numbers. I tracked what I ate for the first six months of living with D, I would write my meals, count the carbs, and then would check my BG reading 2 hours after I ate. This gives you a picture of what is safe for you to eat, if your numbers are too high, then you'll know it's probably something to stay away from. I like my numbers below 140 2 hours after I eat, your dr will provide you with more info. I read, love music, to destress! Take care and I hope all goes well with your father. Is there anyway that he would qualify for a home health care provider, just a thought to help you when you're at work. Good luck!

snuggles11 2013-06-14 02:24:37 -0500 Report

You can do it!
I took care of my father for three years with dementia !
My father also had diabetes! Type 2
I'm a type two diabetic !
I was diagnosed about six months ago!
God is not going to give you too much that you cannot handle!

cakeybakes 2013-06-13 22:14:13 -0500 Report

Just hang in there! It's scary and overwhelming at times. But it gets better. Even after 15 years, I still want to cry once in a while. Take a deep breath, take one thing at a time. It will be okay. It's a pain in the tush, but it will be okay.

Fefe12 2013-06-13 21:10:36 -0500 Report

WOW! Its times like these that really test you and you find out what your made of. First, sit down and take a deep breath. You have been given a diagnosis and you really need to think about what just happened. Collect your thoughts and dig deep. What do you want, how do you feel, what are your goals, dont forget your old goals but now you have to think about new ones. Your health and well being should be the first on the list, then your dad. Remember if you are the only one taking care of him, you will have to make sure you take care of yourself. NEVER, forget to take care of yourself. You have two ways to think about diabetes, it can be your friend or your enemy, which will you choose? I chose friendship, it makes life and decisions about my life so much easier if im not fighting with myself on what i should and shouldnt eat and if i should excersise even if its raining. I think bottom line we know what we should be eating. Mcdonalds is not our friend. Sodas, lots of breads and candy and donuts are foods no one should be eating on a regular basis. Not just us but no one should eat this stuff. Sugar is no ones friend either, so learn to live without it. Dont replace sugar with chemicals. Read, read labels of everything you put into your mouth. I have grandchildren so reading labels has been a given. With a sick father you may have not gotten into label reading because why, let the elderly eat what they want. I have a mother who puts 5 spoons of sugar in her tea, what am i going to say? Shes 85, I let her do what she wants. Dont worry about your weight right now, that will come later. You have more important things to think about like getting your numbers under control. Seeing a dietician will help, make sure you see them on a regular basis and take all your questions and dont leave till you get them answered and you understand. If for some reason that doesnt happen with your satisfaction change dieticians. You need to work with people that are on your side. Above all love yourself, there are so many of us that hate this and live a life of misery. I remember I'm alive and healthy and didnt get a diagnosis of cancer or any terminal illness. I have a second chance at life and I took it. Please take care of yourself I look forward to hearing from you again. Always stop and smell the roses. Good luck.

CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:40:20 -0500 Report

Stress does not help. Overwhelming at first for sure. carbs turn to sugar. Protein does not, like meat. Try to not eat or small portions of rice potatoes bread, pasta. Walk more, park farther away etc. The meds are going to help and cutting back on carbs are good. I often go with a good tv dinner that has low carbs etc. portions. No bread etc. in the house. Try small steps.

ems4life 2013-06-13 20:15:20 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear all the bad things hitting you at one time, i was diagnosed 1 week ago and take 1500 mg a day of metformin. It is very confusing but there are alot of good books out there dont give up. Its an emotional roller coaster from what i have felt but i know that with struggle comes accomplishment and healthier bodies. So be strong and put up a good fight you will over come this.

flipmom 2013-06-13 19:29:15 -0500 Report

a dietitian will be an absolute help. i was put on calorie counting and carb counting and was totally confused .i am now on a plating diet.its easy and i dont get so overwhelmed…you still have to check your blood sugar often till you find what diet is good for you.. i wish you the best!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2013-06-13 18:11:42 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC.

Sorry your Dad has Alzheimer's. It is so hard to be The Caregiver. My mother-in-law had it, but my father-in-law was the main carer, we just helped until the moved away to be in an asssisted living place nearer other kids.
That stress on top of being diagnosed with diabetes is tough. Glad the met is helping and it's side effects are easing.
As your BG goes lower your body is readjusting from its old normal. The blurry vision happens due to BG changes and should improve. Have you been to an eye doctor for a diabetes eye exam? It should be an annual exam si you can keep ahead of any possible damage due to diabetes.
Great progress on your bg #.
Learning what to eat is overwhelming at first. Tears in the grocery store used to go together for me at first. Now it goes better.

hairbear68 2013-06-13 18:06:11 -0500 Report

i'm kinda in the same boat as you are dad s lose members and my mom drys on a dime so I keep most of my feeling hidden but so fr they have good food ideas on this sight just wished it was better priced meats they use .try what my doc said spead what you eat out and less size too not hurgy but not over full ether get log book or note book write down what you eat takeing readings on your meter before you eat next day after then see you the foods you eat makes your readings go I know most ppl don't get diettishions or steak its just too much money and on budgee wham its hard hitting so have a good day just takes time

Sherelle112 2013-06-13 17:56:20 -0500 Report

Hey there!!! I'm no expert, but I also have T2. I really watch what I eat so that my numbers stay under control & with that and a little exercise came weight loss. Yes, watch for sugars & carbs, but if you're also trying to lose weight you should count calories and monitor fat intake. For me it was best to go cold turkey in most things. I eat lots of veggies, fruits, nuts, lean meats (baked or grilled) & occasionally I'll have chocolate. Test often bc you'll find out what triggers you BG to rise. I've lost 20lbs in two months so I'm hoping & praying when I got bk that my A1c is lower! It's hard… But it's ok to cry!! I cried a lot… I still cry sometimes, but the key is to just do it!!! When ppl without diabetes say that it's annoying, but trust me I understand how you're feeling and your feelings are valid, BUT if you want to live a long healthy life then it's just what you have to do. Look into taking diabetes classes!! They are so helpful! I wish you well on this journey and just know that you're not alone, IT WILL GET BETTER, and jut take it one day at a time!! :)

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